FabSwingers.com forum: Feeling a little uncomfortable

By *luebell888 OP Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

On holiday alone and have managed well but sitting tonight in a crowded restaurant eating my dinner all by myself I feel a little lonely. Large groups surrounding me chatting and laughing away have left me feeling awkward. I am enjoying the lady singing but feel it's time for me to move. Mostly I am OK but sometimes I feel my life is quite sad. Need someone to kick me up the arse and tell me to get a grip.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"On holiday alone and have managed well but sitting tonight in a crowded restaurant eating my dinner all by myself I feel a little lonely. Large groups surrounding me chatting and laughing away have left me feeling awkward. I am enjoying the lady singing but feel it's time for me to move. Mostly I am OK but sometimes I feel my life is quite sad. Need someone to kick me up the arse and tell me to get a grip. "

Personally, I think you are very brave to go on holiday on your own. Most people would miss out on so many things because they are not brave enough.

Cal x

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By *tooveMan
over a year ago

belfast

Personally, I think you are very brave to go on holiday on your own. Most people would miss out on so many things because they are not brave enough.

Cal x"

I would agree. Been thinking about it myself but not sure I could.

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

It is a difficult thing, spent many years travelling the world and sitting in airport lounges, busy restaurants on my own, i know how you feeling, there is no easy answer i focused on my work. Try and focus on relaxing enjoying peace and try and become one withnyour thouts look for the positive in every day and dont drink st miguel out of cans

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve gone away a few times on my own. I used to feel really uncomfortable whilst eating but then I realised how brave I was to be doing it alone. Now, I sit, head held high and people watch. I’ve had quite a few lovely couples come and chat with me since then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I could easily holiday alone. I suppose it's being in the presence of couples? Tough duty..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Awww hugs you should never feel like that and no you life is not sad if you injoy it never feel awkward even if your surround by groups

Probably wouldn’t fallow this advice lol

But when I am out club and start to feel like that I just go on the pull company in the club or restaurant or bar in exchange for a wild night off play but my advice is best not fallowed lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a friend that went travelling around Europe in his campervan alone. He said it sometimes felt lonely when he was in a restaurant on his own eating in a country where he didn't speak the language, but he came back with some amazing memories, so fair play to you for doing it.. I hate flying. I don't think I'd make it to the airport on my own

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By *elshkinkyMan
over a year ago

south wales

If you aren’t comfortable … Grab a drink … get on your balcony and enjoy

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I’ve done ‘me dates’ before and they can be fun and nice to indulge in stuff that I want to do but I’ve always been careful to avoid things that could make me feel lonely or highlight being on my own.

I’m sorry that you’re feeling that but it’s ok to feel what you’re feeling, just don’t let it rule you. Enjoy your company and if you want to go elsewhere, do so

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I go away for work a lot and eating alone is the thing I hate the most! You’re absolutely superb for going and holidaying alone, remember that it’s a powerful thing to be comfortable in your own company x

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By *yronMan
over a year ago

grangemouth

I wish that I had your courage to go on holiday on my own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You've had a very tough week for reasons you've explained elsewhere so these feelings are quite natural a long way from home. Enjoy what you can out there and safe trip home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I used to holiday alone often used room service so you are doing well being in the restaurant

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

You know you're amazing .

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By *luebell888 OP Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

On the whole I prefer to go by myself. Tonight I went for dinner later so everywhere is busier. Feeling a bit low as the lady is singing sad songs and my daughter has just sent me a video of my dogs hair in a bottle and a picture of his paw print (he was put to sleep on Tuesday due to taking a stroke on Monday). This holiday has been a roller coaster of emotions but usually I can cope. Think I will head back to my hotel and give a happy family my table.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"On the whole I prefer to go by myself. Tonight I went for dinner later so everywhere is busier. Feeling a bit low as the lady is singing sad songs and my daughter has just sent me a video of my dogs hair in a bottle and a picture of his paw print (he was put to sleep on Tuesday due to taking a stroke on Monday). This holiday has been a roller coaster of emotions but usually I can cope. Think I will head back to my hotel and give a happy family my table."

I remember now that you lost your boy this week. Just be kind to yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If only there was an international way to say “I’m a bit naughty, come say hi” but only to the nice people x

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By *luebell888 OP Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

"I wish that I had your courage to go on holiday on my own."

Really you should My life back home is busy and stressful so escaping is amazing.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

You’re very brave OP. Maybe just the wrong restaurant/bar/resort? a different pace a different vibe ?

Love the idea of going on holiday on my own, never done it, but am going to now.

Somewhere like Seville or maybe downtown Havana away from the tourist hotels

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had this feeling often when working away from home.

Buy a load of chocolate and sweets on the way back to your room and eat them whilst naked on top of the sheets watching family guy.

Probably the worst advice ever but it’s all I’ve got.

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By *andyMinx_tvTV/TS
over a year ago

Leeds

I have been in many solitary situations. You chose to go alone and well done you. Don't look back in a few weeks time with any regret. Be positive, confident and friendly. But be safe. You have to push yourself sometimes to make the most of your current situation. And the vast majority of people on holiday welcome the opportunity to meet new people. I hope you have a great time.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

I, like you, prefer to holiday alone and happy & confident to do so, as are you. OP your emotional week is catching up with you, that desire to be with someone and just talk things through coming to a head and understandably. If it is making you uncomfortable I’d leave xx

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

This was me a few weeks ago

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By *luebell888 OP Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

"I have been in many solitary situations. You chose to go alone and well done you. Don't look back in a few weeks time with any regret. Be positive, confident and friendly. But be safe. You have to push yourself sometimes to make the most of your current situation. And the vast majority of people on holiday welcome the opportunity to meet new people. I hope you have a great time."

Thank you. I love the freedom of doing what I want when I want. My life back home is dictated by my watch. I have never once ever felt uncomfortable on holiday but just now I just feel like a spare part. Tomorrow is another day.x

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Aww ... I'm sure there's a need for fab holiday hookups

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville

Oh my!! I would LOVE to holiday alone!! Jealous.....

Nobody to answer to, do what YOU like, WHEN you like!!

Enjoy the time, or get chatting to some folks maybe x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally, I have travelled a lot by myself and really enjoy it. From Greek islands, around the US (Calling in on various friends that I've met over the years...). Travelled around Thailand as well as a lot of South East Asia. (TBF I did do a guided tour around Myanmar, but Vietnam, Laos, Cambodia was by myself.)

Obviously, being a single guy probably makes a fairly large difference, but I have had the odd eating by myself/restaurant feeling over the years, but hats off to you - Just enjoy the travels.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i was widowed ast year so a few weeks ago took a short seacation cruise and i loved it ...i met some lovely people at dinner and round the pool never really felt lonely enjoyed it so much im going on a longer 7 day down to ilbao in a few weeks ...you have to live life ......

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito

I completely relate to that feeling. I’ve been doing things on my own for years but still that feeling creeps in sometimes. Just think you actually made it out to another country on your own. Everything else is a breeze now so just sip a drink or two and enjoy the atmosphere as if you are the only person in the room

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

You can’t beat a drink on the balcony reading a good book or maybe listening to a radio/tv - people watching from a distance, enjoying a view.

Or maybe go to a quieter bar, any local bars have a quiz or something going on? (I’m a bit out of touch with holidays abroad - it’s been awhile!)

And you always have the fine folk of Fab to distract you if you need it.

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By *yronMan
over a year ago

grangemouth

"I wish that I had your courage to go on holiday on my own.

Really you should My life back home is busy and stressful so escaping is amazing."

I work abroad and travel by myself, which can be daunting, but I really need a holiday to relax and unwind.

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By *iaisonseekerMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

I like to holiday alone but would avoid the situation you're describing because it would make me self-conscious. I applaud you for giving it a whirl

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Don't fall for the being hard on yourself, when you are vulnerable - actually, anytime at all. Being compassionate is the secret.

You can still help yourself to take tough decisions, step out of your comfort zone etc, by being compassionate.

See if you can find out some treats, or how you could spend some time potentially with others, that's nourishing for you.

Or if some rest is better for you, or chatting with people who know you, then take a break and do that.

Sometimes we do take steps that can involve some discomfort but it's a reflection on our willingness to get out there and break some traditions, or find a mew path for ourselves. Walking as a baby was never comfortable but we could still giggle and make some silly noises, even if others could walk.

Fuck it! You're worth more than any justification to not let you have your freedom to be yourself and find what you want in life.

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By *luebell888 OP Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

This holiday for me was to chill and catch up on sleep which is something I struggle to do back home. Eating proper food and spending sunny days on the beach is 2nd to none. Fab to me is a bonus as I was with a fabber when I got that phone call from family and the vet and had to make that horrid decision. I cried all over him but he did not mind. Back at hotel now with my book and my sanity thank God.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im off on my in mid November . First ever holiday on my own so apprehensive about it but got to be done otherwise I'd never do anything. Hadn't thought about eating alone in a busy restaurant. Now im worried it might ruin the experience x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well done you for going on holiday alone, I know what it's like to travel alone. I have been to Kenya on safari. Egypt, Turkey, lanzarote naturist village. Looking to got to Iceland not the shop lol. The serengeti on safari back to Egypt to go to the valley of the Kings. Solo's was the first time I went on my own after the divorce.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plus nudefest this year for the first time. And I have been to a fair few naturist campsites as well

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By *luebell888 OP Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

"Im off on my in mid November . First ever holiday on my own so apprehensive about it but got to be done otherwise I'd never do anything. Hadn't thought about eating alone in a busy restaurant. Now im worried it might ruin the experience x"

Don't be worried as I have ate out all week myself which is fine but Friday night at 8 for me was not a good idea. I go for breakfast alone in the hotel, cocktails alone in the afternoon and usually dinner at 7 although on Tuesday it was 11. Today was the only time I have ever felt awkward

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