FabSwingers.com forum: Advice

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Looking for advice please.

I am currently married, have been for 8yrs now. Unfortunately my wife has a medical problem which now means we cannot really have sex. She has said I can find it else where as I have a high sex drive, but I don't want to get into a relationship with anyone so thought I'd try somewhere like this site. Although with so many men on here, I don't get a response although I am polite.

Any help in moving forward or just sack if off?

Cheers

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *lenderfoxMan
over a year ago

Leeds

Have you considered going to a club?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

Keep posting on the forums, it will get you noticed, hopefully in the right way.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have you considered going to a club?"

Agree, try a club

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You’ve been here for four weeks. For some it can take a while before they get any traction so stay patient.

‘I’m married but she is letting me play away’ will also put some off as they will be suspicious but that’s the way of the place. Just do you and you’ll be ok

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Have you considered going to a club?"

No mate...not yet

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

If it really is "just sex" then maybe somewhere you pay for it will be the safest, easiest amd most straightforward option for you.

A club is another alternative but obviously attending a club doesn't guarantee getting your dick wet.

On here men do struggle unless they're willing to engage in "bi play" and again, no guarantees.

There will be plenty of women who won't entertain you due to your home circumstances. You see, many have been duped over the years, whether that's been that the fella is supposedly separated, has permission or their spouse has died. Yes, people really do lie about these things to get sex as abhorrent as it is, so not being believed is part of the territory unfortunately.

There will be some who actively seek out the married man as they feel it's a safer option and less likely to get clingy or whatnot. Again, that doesn't always happen and every potential meet is a potential headfuck

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You’ve been here for four weeks. For some it can take a while before they get any traction so stay patient.

‘I’m married but she is letting me play away’ will also put some off as they will be suspicious but that’s the way of the place. Just do you and you’ll be ok"

I've explained the same thing in my bio so hopefully that clears it up for people

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Like your honesty

Keep trying xx

Good luck

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Similar situation, just keep chatting and it will happen.. i hope.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Honestly if it’s just nsa sex you want a club or an escort will be much easier. Most of the women here are very choosy and in types of relationships/dynamics already and go for personality as well as looks. In a club, half decent looking bloke, horny /hungry girls, you’re sorted, don’t need to be star like here

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ickdasterdly51Man
over a year ago

Lingfield

I feel your pain, I've been on here over a year with no luck. Admittedly during a pandemic but it is hard work. Understandably couples and women tend to give married men a wide berth but like you I believe honesty is the best policy and I'd rather have no meets because of it than otherwise. Just look at the number of 'single men' with verifications on the 'wank over my wife' thread who want to share wife photos! Post on here, be nice and respectful, grow a thick skin and enjoy any interaction in any form you have. Happy to chat. Good luck.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Don't want escorts. It's no fun if they are not enjoying it. At least with a hook up you know they want it. Plus how can you make sure they aren't traffic or coerced. Not sure I'm comfortable with that

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Don't want escorts. It's no fun if they are not enjoying it. At least with a hook up you know they want it. Plus how can you make sure they aren't traffic or coerced. Not sure I'm comfortable with that"

And how can people make sure you're not spinning a yarn about having a sick wife and permission to find sex elsewhere? You see?

There are risks and pitfalls whichever way you look at it, so the question is, is it REALLY that important in your life?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You’ve been here for four weeks. For some it can take a while before they get any traction so stay patient.

‘I’m married but she is letting me play away’ will also put some off as they will be suspicious but that’s the way of the place. Just do you and you’ll be ok

I've explained the same thing in my bio so hopefully that clears it up for people "

Well there are a lot of liars online so you will need to have better proof than just writing it on your profile if you want to be trusted 100%. Why not broach with your wife for her to be involved and have a couples profile? She can be involved without having penetration.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

And how can people make sure you're not spinning a yarn about having a sick wife and permission to find sex elsewhere? You see?

There are risks and pitfalls whichever way you look at it, so the question is, is it REALLY that important in your life? "

Had a Private message with similar advice regarding speaking with the Mrs in advance. But I suppose if I wanted to cheat I just wouldn't put that info out there at all. It's seems more of a hindrance more than anything

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

And how can people make sure you're not spinning a yarn about having a sick wife and permission to find sex elsewhere? You see?

There are risks and pitfalls whichever way you look at it, so the question is, is it REALLY that important in your life?

I appreciate your view, but from a meet point of view I'd question your wedding ring, or the mark left behind when you remove your wedding ring. There are tell tale signs someone is married and by having a reason (she's unwell and given permission) it potentially stops those red flags.

As said previously, many of us have had such red flags explained away, only to find those explanations to be utter bullshit.

I'm not in any way insinuating you're one of those liars, I'm explaining a lot of us have already been there, done that and got burnt in the process, hence the brick wall and trepidation.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And how can people make sure you're not spinning a yarn about having a sick wife and permission to find sex elsewhere? You see?

There are risks and pitfalls whichever way you look at it, so the question is, is it REALLY that important in your life?

As said previously, many of us have had such red flags explained away, only to find those explanations to be utter bullshit.

I'm not in any way insinuating you're one of those liars, I'm explaining a lot of us have already been there, done that and got burnt in the process, hence the brick wall and trepidation. "

I get what you're saying but there are many women that are cheating or don't have an issue meeting married men who wouldnt have a problem with meeting someone who is also married so yes it will be a problem for some but for others it won't.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are there still affairs sites? You may have more luck on one of those.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

The truth is, that you can be on here for quite some time before you’ll ever get a meet. A club is an alternative but it’s no guarantee either.

In the end you’re competing for the very few women, with guys who show their faces on their profiles, single and have verifications.

It may seem that I’m being very pessimistic about your chances, but one subject that keeps on getting mentioned on these forums is how difficult single guys find it on the site.

So good luck.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *elshkinkyMan
over a year ago

south wales

Been here 45 years and I’ve touched a woman’s elbow once …

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

"Are there still affairs sites? You may have more luck on one of those. "

There are, but I believe they are very expensive for men to use.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

Post new Message to Thread