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By *rincess peach OP   Woman
over a year ago

shits creek

Off the back of another thread, what's your definition of intimacy?

We all know people have differing views on kissing and how some can't understand why kissing to some is more intimate than sex, but that's not the question here.

What does intimacy mean to you?

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

The feeling of sharing something unique and specific to yourselves

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Something shared just between two people who care about each other.

An endearment, a look, a kiss, words.

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By *rincess peach OP   Woman
over a year ago

shits creek

Vulnerability. I believe you have to show your vulnerable side for true intimacy to happen.

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By *utlongjohnMan
over a year ago

close

Naked cuddles with slow passionate kissing.

The smell of your other half.

Touching each other tenderly whilst looking into each others eyes.

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By *rincess peach OP   Woman
over a year ago

shits creek

Knowledge of each other built up over time and bonding. Reading their eyes, the way their lip curls and knowing exactly what they're saying without using words.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

A bond that allows your true self to show to someone else, without fear of judgment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Into me u see

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"Knowledge of each other built up over time and bonding. Reading their eyes, the way their lip curls and knowing exactly what they're saying without using words."

Saved me writing part two

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By *rincess peach OP   Woman
over a year ago

shits creek

Honest, open communication with depth, compassion and coming from a loving place which could be seen on the surface as a selfish one but ultimately it's from a place of "you should know"

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By *rincess peach OP   Woman
over a year ago

shits creek


"Into me u see"

The love guru!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Revelation, showing your true self to another person.

And

Affirmation, mutual understanding and approval.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been naked with someone. Kissing,holding,stroking but nothing sexual.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A bond that allows your true self to show to someone else, without fear of judgment "

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By *rincess peach OP   Woman
over a year ago

shits creek

Is intimacy an action or a feeling?

To me it's a feeling, a closeness. A vulnerable, intensely gentle yet hugely powerful connection that can move mountains or produce tranquil silence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seeing the vulnerability in someone and showing your own vulnerability... eye contact and trust

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Vulnerability. I believe you have to show your vulnerable side for true intimacy to happen."

Yes. I was about to type that.

If you share your weakness with someone.. you trust them they won't hurt you. That's intimate gift. Baring your precious soul into hands of someone.

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

Showing your true self to your partner being unique

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Intimacy to me is about being at your most raw state. Be that showing your vulnerable side or the really cheesy one that loves ABBA. You're not afraid of being you with those you are intimate with.

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By *rincess peach OP   Woman
over a year ago

shits creek


"Intimacy to me is about being at your most raw state. Be that showing your vulnerable side or the really cheesy one that loves ABBA. You're not afraid of being you with those you are intimate with.

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In that case, how can meeting relative strangers for sex be truly intimate? So many of us hold parts of ourselves back on a meet, or meet as an alter ego.

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By *itzi999Woman
over a year ago

Slough


"Off the back of another thread, what's your definition of intimacy?

We all know people have differing views on kissing and how some can't understand why kissing to some is more intimate than sex, but that's not the question here.

What does intimacy mean to you? "

I don’t find sex or kissing intimate - I find them fun

Intimacy, for me, means a proper relationship.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"Intimacy to me is about being at your most raw state. Be that showing your vulnerable side or the really cheesy one that loves ABBA. You're not afraid of being you with those you are intimate with.

In that case, how can meeting relative strangers for sex be truly intimate? So many of us hold parts of ourselves back on a meet, or meet as an alter ego. "

I personally don't think it is intimate peach. I see it more as an experience or an itch to scratch. Intimacy of the mind to me is true intimacy. Seeing my cunt may seem like an intimate thing, but to me it's just a part of my body no different to my elbow.

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By *rincess peach OP   Woman
over a year ago

shits creek


"Intimacy to me is about being at your most raw state. Be that showing your vulnerable side or the really cheesy one that loves ABBA. You're not afraid of being you with those you are intimate with.

In that case, how can meeting relative strangers for sex be truly intimate? So many of us hold parts of ourselves back on a meet, or meet as an alter ego.

I personally don't think it is intimate peach. I see it more as an experience or an itch to scratch. Intimacy of the mind to me is true intimacy. Seeing my cunt may seem like an intimate thing, but to me it's just a part of my body no different to my elbow. "

So those looking for intimacy in the form of a meet are pretty much predetermined to be let down, purely by the nature of real intimacy?. And what may feel intimate to one half of the meet is no more than an itch to the other half.

I do think that's a huge factor in where I was heading on the other thread with people using sex as a temporary plaster for unaddressed wounds or healing.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I think there are different levels and types of intimacy.

Getting close physically is different to telling people intimate details of your life.

Physically, the intimacy can be from kissing and cuddling to exclamations of affections.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"I think there are different levels and types of intimacy.

Getting close physically is different to telling people intimate details of your life.

Physically, the intimacy can be from kissing and cuddling to exclamations of affections."

People can become closer the more times they meet, which can lead to a more intimate relationship.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I can't give you a brief definition. I think Victoria Wood summed it up nicely when one of her characters said

'its having some to say "did you' when you say "damn I left the tomatoes on the back seat of the car""

It's knowing that they know exactly how that impacts your life

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By *thLincsCpleCouple
over a year ago

Barton upon Humber

Knowing exactly what your partner is thinking and being able to communicate without words.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"Intimacy to me is about being at your most raw state. Be that showing your vulnerable side or the really cheesy one that loves ABBA. You're not afraid of being you with those you are intimate with.

In that case, how can meeting relative strangers for sex be truly intimate? So many of us hold parts of ourselves back on a meet, or meet as an alter ego. "

I say it can’t. You can experience a closeness at the time, but allowing true intimacy (fir me) will only come over time as you get to know each other better and allow those masks / barriers to drop.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"Intimacy to me is about being at your most raw state. Be that showing your vulnerable side or the really cheesy one that loves ABBA. You're not afraid of being you with those you are intimate with.

In that case, how can meeting relative strangers for sex be truly intimate? So many of us hold parts of ourselves back on a meet, or meet as an alter ego.

I personally don't think it is intimate peach. I see it more as an experience or an itch to scratch. Intimacy of the mind to me is true intimacy. Seeing my cunt may seem like an intimate thing, but to me it's just a part of my body no different to my elbow.

So those looking for intimacy in the form of a meet are pretty much predetermined to be let down, purely by the nature of real intimacy?. And what may feel intimate to one half of the meet is no more than an itch to the other half.

I do think that's a huge factor in where I was heading on the other thread with people using sex as a temporary plaster for unaddressed wounds or healing."

I think tempory plasters are fine as long as you acknowledge the fact that they are indeed just tempory. If they are a means to get through the healing process then they have their place.

I think intimacy is thought to be this exclusive thing between couples or involve sex. I don't believe it is to be honest, and once we don't think of it as such we feel happier.

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland


"Intimacy to me is about being at your most raw state. Be that showing your vulnerable side or the really cheesy one that loves ABBA. You're not afraid of being you with those you are intimate with.

In that case, how can meeting relative strangers for sex be truly intimate? So many of us hold parts of ourselves back on a meet, or meet as an alter ego.

I say it can’t. You can experience a closeness at the time, but allowing true intimacy (fir me) will only come over time as you get to know each other better and allow those masks / barriers to drop. "

Yep intimacy for us is completely different from having a meet. Although we do tend to be ourselves more and relax at meets

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Intimacy to me is about being at your most raw state. Be that showing your vulnerable side or the really cheesy one that loves ABBA. You're not afraid of being you with those you are intimate with.

In that case, how can meeting relative strangers for sex be truly intimate? So many of us hold parts of ourselves back on a meet, or meet as an alter ego.

I personally don't think it is intimate peach. I see it more as an experience or an itch to scratch. Intimacy of the mind to me is true intimacy. Seeing my cunt may seem like an intimate thing, but to me it's just a part of my body no different to my elbow.

So those looking for intimacy in the form of a meet are pretty much predetermined to be let down, purely by the nature of real intimacy?. And what may feel intimate to one half of the meet is no more than an itch to the other half.

I do think that's a huge factor in where I was heading on the other thread with people using sex as a temporary plaster for unaddressed wounds or healing.

I think tempory plasters are fine as long as you acknowledge the fact that they are indeed just tempory. If they are a means to get through the healing process then they have their place.

I think intimacy is thought to be this exclusive thing between couples or involve sex. I don't believe it is to be honest, and once we don't think of it as such we feel happier. "

I agree it isn't exclusive to couples. I have friends who I'm intimate with and my kids

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"I think intimacy is thought to be this exclusive thing between couples or involve sex. I don't believe it is to be honest, and once we don't think of it as such we feel happier. "

100% yes. I think intimacy can take many forms, it's as unique as the dynamic/relationship between two people and it doesn't have to involve sex or love.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"Intimacy to me is about being at your most raw state. Be that showing your vulnerable side or the really cheesy one that loves ABBA. You're not afraid of being you with those you are intimate with.

In that case, how can meeting relative strangers for sex be truly intimate? So many of us hold parts of ourselves back on a meet, or meet as an alter ego.

I personally don't think it is intimate peach. I see it more as an experience or an itch to scratch. Intimacy of the mind to me is true intimacy. Seeing my cunt may seem like an intimate thing, but to me it's just a part of my body no different to my elbow.

So those looking for intimacy in the form of a meet are pretty much predetermined to be let down, purely by the nature of real intimacy?. And what may feel intimate to one half of the meet is no more than an itch to the other half.

I do think that's a huge factor in where I was heading on the other thread with people using sex as a temporary plaster for unaddressed wounds or healing.

I think tempory plasters are fine as long as you acknowledge the fact that they are indeed just tempory. If they are a means to get through the healing process then they have their place.

I think intimacy is thought to be this exclusive thing between couples or involve sex. I don't believe it is to be honest, and once we don't think of it as such we feel happier. "

Agree intimacy isn’t about sex, I’m more intimate with a couple of friends than I’ve ever been with a sexual partner (bar one) it is more about trust & honesty to let them in and see / understand who you are & why and vice versa.

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito


"Vulnerability. I believe you have to show your vulnerable side for true intimacy to happen."

This, this is what it means to me. I don’t think I’ve ever really been intimate with someone. I have never fully 100% given in an shown my vulnerable side to another. I’m too afraid of getting hurt.

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By *ear in the chairMan
over a year ago

yeah there

Intimacy is only with the few who get to see all of me. Nothing hidden or protected.

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