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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

about life IF you don't know why your on a swingers site!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What are you searching for on here?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Cock

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think some are confused. Some are here because their partner wants to be.

Some are searching for answers but they don't know quite what the question is. Some chance upon an answer that they didn't know they were seeking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What are you searching for on here?"

Nothing for now as I've found what I was looking for. Just enjoying the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What are you searching for on here?"

Holy Grail of fantasies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A good cook

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By *asilyled1Man
over a year ago

ogmore valley


"A good cook "

Did you mean to say cook!?

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

A man who lives less than a 5 minute drive who is always available to penetrate the hell out of me whenever I need it.

That’s the dream Huey, that’s the dream!

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By *asilyled1Man
over a year ago

ogmore valley


"A man who lives less than a 5 minute drive who is always available to penetrate the hell out of me whenever I need it.

That’s the dream Huey, that’s the dream! "

Damn I’m about 20 mins away

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

This year is just fab social parties, meeting new people that I've wanted to for ages. Next year I've different priorities

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales


"A man who lives less than a 5 minute drive who is always available to penetrate the hell out of me whenever I need it.

That’s the dream Huey, that’s the dream!

Damn I’m about 20 mins away "

Less than that I reckon if you use my real location and not my fab location

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By *asilyled1Man
over a year ago

ogmore valley


"A man who lives less than a 5 minute drive who is always available to penetrate the hell out of me whenever I need it.

That’s the dream Huey, that’s the dream!

Damn I’m about 20 mins away

Less than that I reckon if you use my real location and not my fab location "

Well you’ll have to let me know!

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire


"What are you searching for on here?"

Cake

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For woman

friendship none sexually

Friendship sexually

One off but would rather not only if they want

Dateing open and closed

For couples

Friendship sexually

Friendship none sexually

And one offs if that’s what they want

For guys

Friendship none sexually

Friendship sexually

And sorry guys for useing this term

A nother notche on the bed post

For other tv/ts

Mostly just friendship

But some could persawde me in to more

Ie sexually friendship

Sorry for the dubble post as swipe back hit the delete button

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

A petite bubbly vivacious funny confident sexually adventurous lady with a crazy sex drive. Is that too much to ask

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chats and having a laugh in the forum's. I'm not confused .....

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Sometimes in life you learn what it is you do want by first finding out what you don't want.

Not everyone has all the answers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What are you searching for on here?"

Not searching, found.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't necessarily say that a person is confused about life as a whole, if they're not sure why they're on a swingers site (not exclusively this one). I wouldn't say confusion is the right word imho. Someone may not have got the finer points about their need for human contact ironed out in their head (if indeed that's what they want), but whether they are confusing what they seek and what they think they want, is another matter entirely.

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By *r.MorningstarMan
over a year ago

Melton Mowbray

Like minded individuals!

Friendships, play mates, connections and fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What are you searching for on here?

Holy Grail of fantasies."

You need Indiana Jones. I’m sure he found that somewhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What are you searching for on here?"

Nice looking Penis

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Nothing anymore. I just like the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What are you searching for on here?

Nice looking Pens "

You're a bic of all right

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I am searching for uncomplicated rendezvous with hot, horny men.x

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By *ouisebottomTV/TS
over a year ago

London


"Cock "
exactly this

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I would also add that there are far more people on these sites that think they know why they're on these sites but don't!

Loads of peeps think they're looking for great sex or whatever when the reality is they don't realise that's no more than a temporary plaster for an underlying wound that they've not addressed and in soke cases don't even know exists.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"I would also add that there are far more people on these sites that think they know why they're on these sites but don't!

Loads of peeps think they're looking for great sex or whatever when the reality is they don't realise that's no more than a temporary plaster for an underlying wound that they've not addressed and in soke cases don't even know exists."

So true Peach

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"I would also add that there are far more people on these sites that think they know why they're on these sites but don't!

Loads of peeps think they're looking for great sex or whatever when the reality is they don't realise that's no more than a temporary plaster for an underlying wound that they've not addressed and in soke cases don't even know exists."

I'd agree. I think a lot of people are looking for intimacy and think they'll find it in sex.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I'm here for the sex.

But not just any old sex.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"I would also add that there are far more people on these sites that think they know why they're on these sites but don't!

Loads of peeps think they're looking for great sex or whatever when the reality is they don't realise that's no more than a temporary plaster for an underlying wound that they've not addressed and in soke cases don't even know exists.

I'd agree. I think a lot of people are looking for intimacy and think they'll find it in sex. "

Yep, and validation. On the surface you'd never know, they don't even know themselves. Sad but true.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity


"I'm here for the sex.

But not just any old sex."

Sex in M&S

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"I'm here for the sex.

But not just any old sex.

Sex in M&S "

The old ladies would have a heart attack

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would also add that there are far more people on these sites that think they know why they're on these sites but don't!

Loads of peeps think they're looking for great sex or whatever when the reality is they don't realise that's no more than a temporary plaster for an underlying wound that they've not addressed and in soke cases don't even know exists.

I'd agree. I think a lot of people are looking for intimacy and think they'll find it in sex. "

Are swinging and intimacy in any way synonymous?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cock "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would also add that there are far more people on these sites that think they know why they're on these sites but don't!

Loads of peeps think they're looking for great sex or whatever when the reality is they don't realise that's no more than a temporary plaster for an underlying wound that they've not addressed and in soke cases don't even know exists.

I'd agree. I think a lot of people are looking for intimacy and think they'll find it in sex. Are swinging and intimacy in any way synonymous?"

For instance are most swinging couples on here real promoters of intimacy?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would also add that there are far more people on these sites that think they know why they're on these sites but don't!

Loads of peeps think they're looking for great sex or whatever when the reality is they don't realise that's no more than a temporary plaster for an underlying wound that they've not addressed and in soke cases don't even know exists."

Are 'medical professionals' likely to be found on a swinging site?

Is the space some have in their lives likely to be filled here?

What you call a wound I would ultimately call space.

Although to some that is presently as raw as a wound!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What are you searching for on here?

Nice looking Pens

You're a bic of all right "

Always rely on you Blooms to stick your Pritt Sticks worth in..... ha

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"I would also add that there are far more people on these sites that think they know why they're on these sites but don't!

Loads of peeps think they're looking for great sex or whatever when the reality is they don't realise that's no more than a temporary plaster for an underlying wound that they've not addressed and in soke cases don't even know exists.

I'd agree. I think a lot of people are looking for intimacy and think they'll find it in sex. Are swinging and intimacy in any way synonymous?"

Not in my opinion but I thinky definition of intimacy is different to many people's

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sometimes in life you learn what it is you do want by first finding out what you don't want.

Not everyone has all the answers."

But its good to ask the question?

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"I would also add that there are far more people on these sites that think they know why they're on these sites but don't!

Loads of peeps think they're looking for great sex or whatever when the reality is they don't realise that's no more than a temporary plaster for an underlying wound that they've not addressed and in soke cases don't even know exists. Are 'medical professionals' likely to be found on a swinging site?

Is the space some have in their lives likely to be filled here?

What you call a wound I would ultimately call space.

Although to some that is presently as raw as a wound!

"

People from all walks of life can be found on a swinging site.

People from all walks of life experience pain.

People from all walks of life suppress pain.

People from all walks of life can overlap the 2 and misdirect the path of healing the pain without realising they're doing so.

People use all kinds of crutches in life. Some gamble, some shop, some use sex, some use alcohol, some self harm, you get the idea. There are many plasters people use, and this is no different. I'm not saying it's the truth for everyone on here, but there are certainly plenty here that don't realise they have suppressed pain.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"I would also add that there are far more people on these sites that think they know why they're on these sites but don't!

Loads of peeps think they're looking for great sex or whatever when the reality is they don't realise that's no more than a temporary plaster for an underlying wound that they've not addressed and in soke cases don't even know exists.

I'd agree. I think a lot of people are looking for intimacy and think they'll find it in sex. Are swinging and intimacy in any way synonymous? For instance are most swinging couples on here real promoters of intimacy?"

I don't think so. Some people might have a deep intimacy that would encourage others to seek the same but that can happen outside of swinging too. Also some people might consider that if you swing as a couple you're looking for something that's missing from your relationship. If that something is intimacy it's not available here.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"I would also add that there are far more people on these sites that think they know why they're on these sites but don't!

Loads of peeps think they're looking for great sex or whatever when the reality is they don't realise that's no more than a temporary plaster for an underlying wound that they've not addressed and in soke cases don't even know exists.

I'd agree. I think a lot of people are looking for intimacy and think they'll find it in sex. Are swinging and intimacy in any way synonymous?

Not in my opinion but I thinky definition of intimacy is different to many people's"

What in earth did I type!

I think my definition is what that should say

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would also add that there are far more people on these sites that think they know why they're on these sites but don't!

Loads of peeps think they're looking for great sex or whatever when the reality is they don't realise that's no more than a temporary plaster for an underlying wound that they've not addressed and in soke cases don't even know exists.

I'd agree. I think a lot of people are looking for intimacy and think they'll find it in sex. Are swinging and intimacy in any way synonymous?

Not in my opinion but I thinky definition of intimacy is different to many people's"

Thanks, but the dictionary definition of intimacy IS the definition of intimacy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would also add that there are far more people on these sites that think they know why they're on these sites but don't!

Loads of peeps think they're looking for great sex or whatever when the reality is they don't realise that's no more than a temporary plaster for an underlying wound that they've not addressed and in soke cases don't even know exists.

I'd agree. I think a lot of people are looking for intimacy and think they'll find it in sex. Are swinging and intimacy in any way synonymous? For instance are most swinging couples on here real promoters of intimacy?

I don't think so. Some people might have a deep intimacy that would encourage others to seek the same but that can happen outside of swinging too. Also some people might consider that if you swing as a couple you're looking for something that's missing from your relationship. If that something is intimacy it's not available here."

Thanks..that's great honesty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What are you searching for on here?"

Kinky, connected, regular sex

Friendship

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"I would also add that there are far more people on these sites that think they know why they're on these sites but don't!

Loads of peeps think they're looking for great sex or whatever when the reality is they don't realise that's no more than a temporary plaster for an underlying wound that they've not addressed and in soke cases don't even know exists.

I'd agree. I think a lot of people are looking for intimacy and think they'll find it in sex. Are swinging and intimacy in any way synonymous?

Not in my opinion but I thinky definition of intimacy is different to many people's Thanks, but the dictionary definition of intimacy IS the definition of intimacy."

It's more nuanced than that surely

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"I would also add that there are far more people on these sites that think they know why they're on these sites but don't!

Loads of peeps think they're looking for great sex or whatever when the reality is they don't realise that's no more than a temporary plaster for an underlying wound that they've not addressed and in soke cases don't even know exists.

I'd agree. I think a lot of people are looking for intimacy and think they'll find it in sex. Are swinging and intimacy in any way synonymous? For instance are most swinging couples on here real promoters of intimacy?

I don't think so. Some people might have a deep intimacy that would encourage others to seek the same but that can happen outside of swinging too. Also some people might consider that if you swing as a couple you're looking for something that's missing from your relationship. If that something is intimacy it's not available here. Thanks..that's great honesty."

It is true though in my opinion, that to swing successfully as a couple a deep intimacy is needed. I think so many people misunderstand that

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"I would also add that there are far more people on these sites that think they know why they're on these sites but don't!

Loads of peeps think they're looking for great sex or whatever when the reality is they don't realise that's no more than a temporary plaster for an underlying wound that they've not addressed and in soke cases don't even know exists."

I think you don’t even need an underlying would, great sex is great in the moment but doesn’t fulfil much on its own and often even hours of great sex is not worth the drive tbh, great sex with a great person is what I’m looking for , and if I can’t have that , then just a great person or two will do nicely

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would also add that there are far more people on these sites that think they know why they're on these sites but don't!

Loads of peeps think they're looking for great sex or whatever when the reality is they don't realise that's no more than a temporary plaster for an underlying wound that they've not addressed and in soke cases don't even know exists.

I'd agree. I think a lot of people are looking for intimacy and think they'll find it in sex. Are swinging and intimacy in any way synonymous?

Not in my opinion but I thinky definition of intimacy is different to many people's Thanks, but the dictionary definition of intimacy IS the definition of intimacy.

It's more nuanced than that surely"

I'm not sure?

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"I would also add that there are far more people on these sites that think they know why they're on these sites but don't!

Loads of peeps think they're looking for great sex or whatever when the reality is they don't realise that's no more than a temporary plaster for an underlying wound that they've not addressed and in soke cases don't even know exists.

I'd agree. I think a lot of people are looking for intimacy and think they'll find it in sex. Are swinging and intimacy in any way synonymous?

Not in my opinion but I thinky definition of intimacy is different to many people's Thanks, but the dictionary definition of intimacy IS the definition of intimacy.

It's more nuanced than that surely"

Indeed. Something like a glance. To anyone else it's just a glance, to your partner who knows you inside out, they can tell you EXACTLY what that glance means, how you feel and what you're saying without words. Just one example

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"I would also add that there are far more people on these sites that think they know why they're on these sites but don't!

Loads of peeps think they're looking for great sex or whatever when the reality is they don't realise that's no more than a temporary plaster for an underlying wound that they've not addressed and in soke cases don't even know exists.

I'd agree. I think a lot of people are looking for intimacy and think they'll find it in sex. Are swinging and intimacy in any way synonymous?

Not in my opinion but I thinky definition of intimacy is different to many people's Thanks, but the dictionary definition of intimacy IS the definition of intimacy.

It's more nuanced than that surely I'm not sure?"

: Rushes off to look up dictionary definition:

A close familiarity or friendship.

There are many ways of interpreting that surely.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would also add that there are far more people on these sites that think they know why they're on these sites but don't!

Loads of peeps think they're looking for great sex or whatever when the reality is they don't realise that's no more than a temporary plaster for an underlying wound that they've not addressed and in soke cases don't even know exists.

I'd agree. I think a lot of people are looking for intimacy and think they'll find it in sex. Are swinging and intimacy in any way synonymous? For instance are most swinging couples on here real promoters of intimacy?

I don't think so. Some people might have a deep intimacy that would encourage others to seek the same but that can happen outside of swinging too. Also some people might consider that if you swing as a couple you're looking for something that's missing from your relationship. If that something is intimacy it's not available here. Thanks..that's great honesty.

It is true though in my opinion, that to swing successfully as a couple a deep intimacy is needed. I think so many people misunderstand that"

I understand that to swing successfully as a couple a deep intimacy is needed.

That's not misunderstood by me,

it's that your intimacy here can (as you possibly hint) be something others may want to emulate but it also cannot provide some others with the depths of intimacy they may possibly be seeking.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would also add that there are far more people on these sites that think they know why they're on these sites but don't!

Loads of peeps think they're looking for great sex or whatever when the reality is they don't realise that's no more than a temporary plaster for an underlying wound that they've not addressed and in soke cases don't even know exists.

I'd agree. I think a lot of people are looking for intimacy and think they'll find it in sex. Are swinging and intimacy in any way synonymous?

Not in my opinion but I thinky definition of intimacy is different to many people's Thanks, but the dictionary definition of intimacy IS the definition of intimacy.

It's more nuanced than that surely I'm not sure?

: Rushes off to look up dictionary definition:

A close familiarity or friendship.

There are many ways of interpreting that surely."

The definition I saw added a bit more.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"What are you searching for on here?"

Connection, experiences, pleasure, learning

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"I would also add that there are far more people on these sites that think they know why they're on these sites but don't!

Loads of peeps think they're looking for great sex or whatever when the reality is they don't realise that's no more than a temporary plaster for an underlying wound that they've not addressed and in soke cases don't even know exists.

I'd agree. I think a lot of people are looking for intimacy and think they'll find it in sex. Are swinging and intimacy in any way synonymous? For instance are most swinging couples on here real promoters of intimacy?

I don't think so. Some people might have a deep intimacy that would encourage others to seek the same but that can happen outside of swinging too. Also some people might consider that if you swing as a couple you're looking for something that's missing from your relationship. If that something is intimacy it's not available here. Thanks..that's great honesty.

It is true though in my opinion, that to swing successfully as a couple a deep intimacy is needed. I think so many people misunderstand that I understand that to swing successfully as a couple a deep intimacy is needed.

That's not misunderstood by me,

it's that your intimacy here can (as you possibly hint) be something others may want to emulate but it also cannot provide some others with the depths of intimacy they may possibly be seeking."

People seeking intimacy from us will not get it. People seeking intimacy from sex with strangers will not get it *in my opinion*. If they see something in our or anyone else's relationship they'd like for themselves they're only going to get it here if they meet someone and build it.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"I would also add that there are far more people on these sites that think they know why they're on these sites but don't!

Loads of peeps think they're looking for great sex or whatever when the reality is they don't realise that's no more than a temporary plaster for an underlying wound that they've not addressed and in soke cases don't even know exists.

I'd agree. I think a lot of people are looking for intimacy and think they'll find it in sex. Are swinging and intimacy in any way synonymous?

Not in my opinion but I thinky definition of intimacy is different to many people's Thanks, but the dictionary definition of intimacy IS the definition of intimacy.

It's more nuanced than that surely I'm not sure?

: Rushes off to look up dictionary definition:

A close familiarity or friendship.

There are many ways of interpreting that surely. The definition I saw added a bit more."

That's the thing with definition. There will always be one that's slightly different

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What are you searching for on here?

Connection, experiences, pleasure, learning"

It's interesting that you used the word learning.

What are you on here to learn about?

Was that a set out intention or part of the fallout from being here?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would also add that there are far more people on these sites that think they know why they're on these sites but don't!

Loads of peeps think they're looking for great sex or whatever when the reality is they don't realise that's no more than a temporary plaster for an underlying wound that they've not addressed and in soke cases don't even know exists.

I'd agree. I think a lot of people are looking for intimacy and think they'll find it in sex. Are swinging and intimacy in any way synonymous?

Not in my opinion but I thinky definition of intimacy is different to many people's Thanks, but the dictionary definition of intimacy IS the definition of intimacy.

It's more nuanced than that surely I'm not sure?

: Rushes off to look up dictionary definition:

A close familiarity or friendship.

There are many ways of interpreting that surely. The definition I saw added a bit more.

That's the thing with definition. There will always be one that's slightly different "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would also add that there are far more people on these sites that think they know why they're on these sites but don't!

Loads of peeps think they're looking for great sex or whatever when the reality is they don't realise that's no more than a temporary plaster for an underlying wound that they've not addressed and in soke cases don't even know exists.

I'd agree. I think a lot of people are looking for intimacy and think they'll find it in sex. Are swinging and intimacy in any way synonymous? For instance are most swinging couples on here real promoters of intimacy?

I don't think so. Some people might have a deep intimacy that would encourage others to seek the same but that can happen outside of swinging too. Also some people might consider that if you swing as a couple you're looking for something that's missing from your relationship. If that something is intimacy it's not available here. Thanks..that's great honesty.

It is true though in my opinion, that to swing successfully as a couple a deep intimacy is needed. I think so many people misunderstand that I understand that to swing successfully as a couple a deep intimacy is needed.

That's not misunderstood by me,

it's that your intimacy here can (as you possibly hint) be something others may want to emulate but it also cannot provide some others with the depths of intimacy they may possibly be seeking.

People seeking intimacy from us will not get it. People seeking intimacy from sex with strangers will not get it *in my opinion*. If they see something in our or anyone else's relationship they'd like for themselves they're only going to get it here if they meet someone and build it. "

You've hit on something here.

Is the meet and build something a very viable option?

What would you suggest that it takes?

Can it be manufactured?

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I'm not searching for anything on here. I don't think I ever have been. But that doesn't mean I haven't found something, and I've found way more than I ever expected to find, in ways I wouldnt have ever thought to look.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm not searching for anything on here. I don't think I ever have been. But that doesn't mean I haven't found something, and I've found way more than I ever expected to find, in ways I wouldnt have ever thought to look."
That's an interesting way of putting it.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"I would also add that there are far more people on these sites that think they know why they're on these sites but don't!

Loads of peeps think they're looking for great sex or whatever when the reality is they don't realise that's no more than a temporary plaster for an underlying wound that they've not addressed and in soke cases don't even know exists.

I'd agree. I think a lot of people are looking for intimacy and think they'll find it in sex. Are swinging and intimacy in any way synonymous? For instance are most swinging couples on here real promoters of intimacy?

I don't think so. Some people might have a deep intimacy that would encourage others to seek the same but that can happen outside of swinging too. Also some people might consider that if you swing as a couple you're looking for something that's missing from your relationship. If that something is intimacy it's not available here. Thanks..that's great honesty.

It is true though in my opinion, that to swing successfully as a couple a deep intimacy is needed. I think so many people misunderstand that I understand that to swing successfully as a couple a deep intimacy is needed.

That's not misunderstood by me,

it's that your intimacy here can (as you possibly hint) be something others may want to emulate but it also cannot provide some others with the depths of intimacy they may possibly be seeking.

People seeking intimacy from us will not get it. People seeking intimacy from sex with strangers will not get it *in my opinion*. If they see something in our or anyone else's relationship they'd like for themselves they're only going to get it here if they meet someone and build it. You've hit on something here.

Is the meet and build something a very viable option?

What would you suggest that it takes?

Can it be manufactured?"

I think the only way a relationship is established is meeting someone and building on the initial attraction be that physical or mental. What it takes is for both people to be open to it, a shedload of compromise and a huge amount of communication.

Can it be manufactured? I don't know what that question means really but no solid relationship is forged without some effort

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would also add that there are far more people on these sites that think they know why they're on these sites but don't!

Loads of peeps think they're looking for great sex or whatever when the reality is they don't realise that's no more than a temporary plaster for an underlying wound that they've not addressed and in soke cases don't even know exists.

I'd agree. I think a lot of people are looking for intimacy and think they'll find it in sex. Are swinging and intimacy in any way synonymous? For instance are most swinging couples on here real promoters of intimacy?

I don't think so. Some people might have a deep intimacy that would encourage others to seek the same but that can happen outside of swinging too. Also some people might consider that if you swing as a couple you're looking for something that's missing from your relationship. If that something is intimacy it's not available here. Thanks..that's great honesty.

It is true though in my opinion, that to swing successfully as a couple a deep intimacy is needed. I think so many people misunderstand that I understand that to swing successfully as a couple a deep intimacy is needed.

That's not misunderstood by me,

it's that your intimacy here can (as you possibly hint) be something others may want to emulate but it also cannot provide some others with the depths of intimacy they may possibly be seeking.

People seeking intimacy from us will not get it. People seeking intimacy from sex with strangers will not get it *in my opinion*. If they see something in our or anyone else's relationship they'd like for themselves they're only going to get it here if they meet someone and build it. You've hit on something here.

Is the meet and build something a very viable option?

What would you suggest that it takes?

Can it be manufactured?

I think the only way a relationship is established is meeting someone and building on the initial attraction be that physical or mental. What it takes is for both people to be open to it, a shedload of compromise and a huge amount of communication.

Can it be manufactured? I don't know what that question means really but no solid relationship is forged without some effort"

That's a real good resource of info for anyone who would want to make such a journey.

The question about it being manufactured has more to do with those who may not know what actually goes into it..you have covered that well.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town


"What are you searching for on here?

Connection, experiences, pleasure, learning It's interesting that you used the word learning.

What are you on here to learn about?

Was that a set out intention or part of the fallout from being here? "

Learning... About people, sexual experiences, myself... And no I had no real intentions other than meeting people but things change don't they? Every day is different.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What are you searching for on here?

Connection, experiences, pleasure, learning It's interesting that you used the word learning.

What are you on here to learn about?

Was that a set out intention or part of the fallout from being here?

Learning... About people, sexual experiences, myself... And no I had no real intentions other than meeting people but things change don't they? Every day is different. "

Respect.

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