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By *ammymac OP   Man
over a year ago

darlington

I’m sure I’m not alone with my dilemma. My wife of 30 years refuses to take part in any any group sex and her desire for any form of sex has slowly reduced to virtually nothing over the last few years. She is only in her 50’s, 10 years younger than myself and 20 years ago enjoyed strip poker with a couple we new and other exhibitionist games and while not swapping (despite my wanting to) would enjoy same room sex.

She visited a swingers sauna once, but didn’t like the attention and while we used to visit naturist beaches and had one naturist holiday she is now not interested.

She knows I love to be naked outdoors and in and have to take the opportunity when I can.

My group sessions are now very clandestine as I know she won’t join in but at the same time she knows my needs.

Do I carry on with my sexual adventures and risk being found out or give up and make to with the very occasional 5 minutes of intercourse and being masturbated once a week.

Advice and thought please.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sit down talk to her cheating isn’t cool

Explain to her you still have sexual desires

Is it ok for you to play alone witH her blessing

If she says no then give it up

If she says yes then all good

We can’t answer this question for you the only person who can is your wife

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

You had the same interests as in naturism, bi-curiousity etc when you first married ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ll just put this target on your back…..

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

The pain and suffering from secrets, lies and betrayal hurt deeper and longer than the pain and suffering from the truth.

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By *ust ClareTV/TS
over a year ago

Settlewick!

Playing strip poker 20 years ago is hardly in the same league as wanting to engage in group sex! You have to remember OP,in the normal world that is not considered normal behaviour and is not something you should expect your wife to endure for your benefit.

If you're that pushy towards her,it's no wonder she's going to turn the taps off,sexwise

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Talk to your wife about your needs and desires. She might accept that you need more and give you freedom to roam. If she doesn't then you have to make a decision say with her and suppress your desires or leave.

If you continue to conceal your activities then you risk losing everything in a very messy and public way.

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By *ammymac OP   Man
over a year ago

darlington


"You had the same interests as in naturism, bi-curiousity etc when you first married ?"

She knows I’m bi curious and when younger she loved the fantasy of me being with a guy in a threesome with her but now it’s as though she buried her head in the sand and thinks everything will be ok. She knows my needs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My wife of 30 years refuses to take part in any any group sex...

What a dilemma. Poor you.

How about you treat her with more respect and dignity than you're currently showing by fucking around behind her back whilst letting strangers online know about it before she does.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I have some sympathy with you O.P. but I have to admit not much.

She doesn't yearn for group sex like you do so she should change ???

You haven't changed for her have you.

My advice is this ....... Realise that no one is standing on your wind pipe. You are not going to die for wanting group sex.

If you feel that you are being stifled.

Sit down with your wife and say this ....

I really need sex with other people. I would never ask you to as I respect your wish not to but I am going to pursue sex with others. Hope you understand that. ( you might add a bit about loving her and still wanting your relationship here - if it's true )

What she does after that is up to her. How you feel if she decides to go is not really of any consequence in this. You already put yourself and sex first.... so do it.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"You had the same interests as in naturism, bi-curiousity etc when you first married ?

She knows I’m bi curious and when younger she loved the fantasy of me being with a guy in a threesome with her but now it’s as though she buried her head in the sand and thinks everything will be ok. She knows my needs. "

When younger.

I'm not the same person I was 20 years ago and I'm sure your wife isn't either.

Needs and desires change over time for an awful lot of people. Many wanting peace and tranquility over wild nights out that take a toll on the body and mind.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I’ll just put this target on your back….."

Bit higher for me please. I'm a short arse.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can hear the pitchforks and fire storming nearer. Run OP Run!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

O.P.

As you are in your 60's I am assuming that your wife is also.

Kids ? Menopause ? No hormones..... ?

You do realise that we all lose the ability in the end ? Women usually before men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry just have to ask as you've spoken a lot about your needs. Does she have any? As in something she was interested in and maybe you weren't?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I can hear the pitchforks and fire storming nearer. Run OP Run! "

You should be carrying a pitchfork.

Why do some men here think that their wife is some sort of accompaniment or addition to HIM.

They are people in their own right.

Yet the men bleat that she won't do this , she won't do that...... I wanna fuck others and she won't join in ..... like she's a trained pet or mother to see to his needs.

If she wanted to fine but she doesn't ...... Nowt to discuss.

She doesn't want to.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"O.P.

As you are in your 60's I am assuming that your wife is also.

Kids ? Menopause ? No hormones..... ?

You do realise that we all lose the ability in the end ? Women usually before men.

"

I was gonna mention it but thought he MUST have taken that into consideration, he MUST have researched and learnt as much as he could about how that can impact. Then I thought you no what? Probably not. It's likely a "woman issue" that doesn't involve him, all women go through it right!

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By *aseMan
over a year ago

Gourock

Take a day aff m8....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I can hear the pitchforks and fire storming nearer. Run OP Run!

You should be carrying a pitchfork.

Why do some men here think that their wife is some sort of accompaniment or addition to HIM.

They are people in their own right.

Yet the men bleat that she won't do this , she won't do that...... I wanna fuck others and she won't join in ..... like she's a trained pet or mother to see to his needs.

If she wanted to fine but she doesn't ...... Nowt to discuss.

She doesn't want to. "

Yep, same as every thread that pops up here on a daily basis. Hence expecting pitchforks

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By *yronMan
over a year ago

grangemouth


"O.P.

As you are in your 60's I am assuming that your wife is also.

Kids ? Menopause ? No hormones..... ?

You do realise that we all lose the ability in the end ? Women usually before men.

I was gonna mention it but thought he MUST have taken that into consideration, he MUST have researched and learnt as much as he could about how that can impact. Then I thought you no what? Probably not. It's likely a "woman issue" that doesn't involve him, all women go through it right! "

There's a lot about what he wants, little about what she wants.

OP, you need to sit down and talk to your wife and have a serious heart to heart about what you both want. Otherwise, I can see this ending badly for you.

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By *entlemanrogueMan
over a year ago

Cumbernauld


"I’m sure I’m not alone with my dilemma. My wife of 30 years refuses to take part in any any group sex and her desire for any form of sex has slowly reduced to virtually nothing over the last few years. She is only in her 50’s, 10 years younger than myself and 20 years ago enjoyed strip poker with a couple we new and other exhibitionist games and while not swapping (despite my wanting to) would enjoy same room sex.

She visited a swingers sauna once, but didn’t like the attention and while we used to visit naturist beaches and had one naturist holiday she is now not interested.

She knows I love to be naked outdoors and in and have to take the opportunity when I can.

My group sessions are now very clandestine as I know she won’t join in but at the same time she knows my needs.

Do I carry on with my sexual adventures and risk being found out or give up and make to with the very occasional 5 minutes of intercourse and being masturbated once a week.

Advice and thought please. "

cant you simply tell her what your doing? wouldn't she be fine with it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cheating never ends well. The pain of the deceit & lies is cruel. Please find a mutual way to move forward

Mrs

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

As others have said, sit and talk to her, explain you have your desires and want to have group sex etc. Ask her for permission to seek this discreetly elsewhere.

If she says no you have 2 options, carry on sneaking around behind her back and hope she doesn't find out.

Or leave, you're free to act on your desires and she can find someone who will respect her and what she needs too.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Obviously you have no respect for wife to be carrying on behind her back!

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Do what makes you happy.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Try to be open with her...

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Also. You say they're your "needs"

Are they really? Or are they just wants that you are placing more value on, to validate those wants as actual "needs"?

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By *eisty LadyWoman
over a year ago

Count Your Blessings Cottage, Gratitude Grove

Of playing away is more important to you than your marriage then go for it.

But if she finds out and boots you out the door don’t cry about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good luck OP "

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Decide on your priorities. Communicate fully and honestly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The pain and suffering from secrets, lies and betrayal hurt deeper and longer than the pain and suffering from the truth.

"

This

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By *ister-mischiefMan
over a year ago

Trafford

If you want to play with fire be prepared to get burnt.

You really need to talk to her OP only your lady can give you the answer you are looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m sure I’m not alone with my dilemma. My wife of 30 years refuses to take part in any any group sex and her desire for any form of sex has slowly reduced to virtually nothing over the last few years. She is only in her 50’s, 10 years younger than myself and 20 years ago enjoyed strip poker with a couple we new and other exhibitionist games and while not swapping (despite my wanting to) would enjoy same room sex.

She visited a swingers sauna once, but didn’t like the attention and while we used to visit naturist beaches and had one naturist holiday she is now not interested.

She knows I love to be naked outdoors and in and have to take the opportunity when I can.

My group sessions are now very clandestine as I know she won’t join in but at the same time she knows my needs.

Do I carry on with my sexual adventures and risk being found out or give up and make to with the very occasional 5 minutes of intercourse and being masturbated once a week.

Advice and thought please. "

Why didn't you dump her 20 years ago when she refused to swap with your mates? Why put up with that shit all this time when you could be fucking around with a woman who obeys your needs?

If she will only fuck for 5 minutes she's no use at all. You deserve so much better.

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