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"Sooo people work hard to own their property and to leave something to their family and then they have to sell it to pay for nursing care...what happens if they don't have property to sell??" Gets funded by either council or adult social care. | |||
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"The Bradford to london. Comparison I don’t really get? It’s about all assets, not just houses so where they are makes no difference. No one has a right to an inheritance of people need the money while they are still living, which your friends mum does. House prices , the more money the greater the care thats the difference. I think there’s a lot to be said for pricing/standards/value of care homes in UK but that’s a whole other conversation " | |||
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"How else is her care going to be paid for ? Can the family pay for it ? If not then where else can the money coming me from.I don't really see the issue if the house has to be sold then it has to be sold if she needs the care and the family or her own savings cannot pay for it. The only only choice they would have is take on the task on caring for her themselves and keep the house. Yes I understand it's a hard decision but care homes need to be paid also for the care they provide. " As a discussion point would you feel the same about a younger person who needs residential care? | |||
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"Some interesting points raised here. She wasn't able to move her mother in with her as her mum has dementia and needs more help than she can provide and also her mother can't be left on her own and both her and her husband work full-time. My friend actually works as a carer but still couldn't provide everything her mother needed due to the amount of care and her work situation. I suppose it is fair, because of course the money has to come from somewhere, it is just been very emotional for her cleaning out and giving a lick of paint to the house that she grew up in, to be sold to look after her mother, who doesn't really feel like the person that she knew as her mother. I guess it's an emotional rollercoaster. I lost my mother 9 years ago, but we nursed her at home. My brother lives with my father in my father's home and has always done. If my dad had to go into care, would my brother need to find somewhere else to live, as we would need to sell the house to care for my dad? " I've recently been through all this and it was a real nightmare. The Age UK site has a lot of useful information on this subject. | |||
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"Ah Social Care. It’s a very sad state of affairs all round really. My experience of it (from my job) is that most families keep elderly relatives living at home, alone, when they are highly vulnerable, a risk to themselves (and sometimes others) for as long as possible because they don’t want to lose their inheritance on paying nursing home/care home fees. In fact Social Services have had to step in sometimes and over ride family to ensure the person at risk is just safe. And on the flip side you have other families who move heaven and earth to do what they can for family, regardless of their own needs etc. I’m not sure what the answer is for your friend OP, but I hope she finds a resolution that is best for all involved. " You also get the vulnerable, alone, elderly people who despite their family's best efforts insist on staying at home in less than ideal conditions. | |||
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