FabSwingers.com forum: Fab friendship or just here for the fun ….

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do others here hope to make friends and lasting friendships with other fab members or is it all just about the fun element ? This might sound a little sad to admit but building new friendships is a huge reason I’m here and part of what I’m searching for.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Why can't it be both. That's what I use fab for both friendships and finding people I have chemistry and great sex with. Doesn't have to be one or the other.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would like friendships but it never seems to work out that way. A lot of guys say they’re looking for a regular thing with a social aspect but in reality they’re just after another notch on their bedpost….. in my experience anyway.

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By *ardinal FangMan
over a year ago

Sandy

Yep, I’m here to find friends to not just to (hopefully) get sex.

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By *herry OnatopWoman
over a year ago

Just over there

When I started out many years ago I didn't expect to meet and form the friendships that I now have! My group of closest friends I met here. I consider them family and love them as much. It's what keeps me here more than the sex... mostly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same here, would love to find a really good lasting friendship that also includes fun. Cake and eat it i suppose

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

I joined Fab looking for casual sex only. I had no desire to connect with anyone beyond that. 3 years on some of my closest friends are people I’ve met through Fab. We have completely vanilla friendships which are nothing to do with the scene.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always want friends first.

Sometimes the fun doesn't happen but friends stay. My girlie friends are the best. Can't wait to see you soon.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It’s really reassuring to see I’m not alone thinking this way, obviously I’d love to find both friendships and fun, personally I’d need some type of friendship before I’d feel like things progressed naturally to the fun stage.

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By *agerMorganMan
over a year ago

Canvey Island

Both.

But to be honest, I’m just vibing in the forums having a blast.

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

I've made one really good friend on here and others are definitely blossoming as well, friendship definitely makes for a better all round experience for me, and I've been lucky to find the ones I have x

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito

I’ve made some friends here, some I’ve had fun with some I haven’t. It’s just however it works out for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I 1st joined the site I never dreamed I'd end up making some of the most amazing friends but I'm glad I have.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Loving reading these comments

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

The friends I've made on here have proven to be the most loyal, beautiful people I know.

They've saved my life.

They've dropped everything to help me.

They've been there in the darkest of times.

They've made me feel safe.

They've shown me I'm worth something.

And they've given me pure joy and so very much fun.

I never expected them and I have so much love for them.

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By *ubenesque.Woman
over a year ago

over by there

I’ve made some good friends on here that I talk to regularly even if we don’t always get a chance to meet. It’s a shame that some men view the ‘friendship’ as waiting for the next opportunity for a shag and drop you when they realise it isn’t forthcoming

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

I've made some fantastic friends on here, some I also have sex with and others I don't.

Our paths would never have crossed if it wasn't for this site, and for that I'm very grateful.

Mrs

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

"The friends I've made on here have proven to be the most loyal, beautiful people I know.

They've saved my life.

They've dropped everything to help me.

They've been there in the darkest of times.

They've made me feel safe.

They've shown me I'm worth something.

And they've given me pure joy and so very much fun.

I never expected them and I have so much love for them."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Genuinely refreshing reading these x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met my best friend on the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

both for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm looking for someone with a van that'll help me take some old furniture to the dump. Nothing offered in return.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm looking for someone with a van that'll help me take some old furniture to the dump. Nothing offered in return."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have met some amazing people during my time on Fab. People I would not have crossed paths with

Some were lovers and now solid friends

Some are and always have been friends.

It is exciting seeing where it all leads too

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By *lourobMan
over a year ago

Gloucester

We have all had 1 night stands in the past, but for me it’s about letting go more, opening up about fantasies and maybe finding someone to enact them with, and to do this there has to be trust, the sort that can only come from a honest friendship.

I’m here to make friends 1st with no expectations, if nothing comes other than friendship then I’ll take that as a bonus to have another friend that won’t judge me for being me.

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By *handlerMonicaCouple
over a year ago

Leicester

Before we dipped our toes, we couldn't imagine our swinging partners becoming friends, we always thought those 2 world's would stay completely separate. As it turned out, we now play with people who have become genuinely good friends. Funny how it works out!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

fun time filler everyone here just a name from the internet its all an act real mates count in real life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A tool for growth and sometimes growth for th3 tool.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both. I found Fab because of a search for the fun, but forged better friendships along the way. They are as important to me now than the rest of it. In my position, that can be tough and I've lost out/been hurt in the past because of it, but it's my choice, once a friend is a friend, they're always a friend...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm looking for someone with a van that'll help me take some old furniture to the dump. Nothing offered in return."

Next time I'm driving through Glasgow... I've got you covered

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd love to make a true friend on here

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I’m here for both, but mostly the long term friendships (with and without sex). Offline the friendship bit is much harder, especially finding people of the opposite sex who love sex and are really into talking about sex.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I met two lovely ladies last year on here. Days out to the coast, walking in the Dales, comedy gigs and meals out to name but a few of the the things we’ve done.

The surprising thing we’ve never as much as held hands or kissed. Completely friend zoned from the start. More to life than sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've made friends from here...some i hope to keep a long time

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

Finding good friends is more important to me than finding sex.

If I can find both, it's a definite bonus.

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By *rs mischiefWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

I choose both please. But friendship initially which may then lead to those with benefits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've made some amazing friends , and having revaluation how I use FAB I intend to have fun too

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

I don’t understand the real life/real mates comments on these threads, I didn’t realise fab wasn’t real life! must be in the matrix

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t understand the real life/real mates comments on these threads, I didn’t realise fab wasn’t real life! must be in the matrix "

Think you've been reading a different thread!!

I get it. Many swingers don't want to mix fab friends with their real life as we don't like to announce to everyone what we do. In my circle of friends I could never announce friends I've met from here. They would want to know too much and I'm not into shouting my sex life to everyone or making up lies about how I know people. It's much easier to keep it separate. I think many forget that it isn't a hook up / dating site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t understand the real life/real mates comments on these threads, I didn’t realise fab wasn’t real life! must be in the matrix

Think you've been reading a different thread!!

Nail hit on head.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ideally for me it’s striking up a friendship on here that develops into conversations away from here before meeting in the flesh for drinks and a laugh and seeing how things progress naturally. I’m sure I’ll become friends with people who live miles away and might never meet or maybe one day our paths will cross, any friendship is special and you can’t have enough friends, I’ll be straight up and honest I certainly don’t have enough hence me reaching out x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ideally for me it’s striking up a friendship on here that develops into conversations away from here before meeting in the flesh for drinks and a laugh and seeing how things progress naturally. I’m sure I’ll become friends with people who live miles away and might never meet or maybe one day our paths will cross, any friendship is special and you can’t have enough friends, I’ll be straight up and honest I certainly don’t have enough hence me reaching out x"

Are you looking for friendship with men too?

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

"I don’t understand the real life/real mates comments on these threads, I didn’t realise fab wasn’t real life! must be in the matrix

Think you've been reading a different thread!!

My mates would just ask how I met her, and I'd simply say "online", and that would be the end of it. They wouldn't delve deeper.

Maybe that's just guys though?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don’t understand the real life/real mates comments on these threads, I didn’t realise fab wasn’t real life! must be in the matrix

Think you've been reading a different thread!!

My mates would just ask how I met her, and I'd simply say "online", and that would be the end of it. They wouldn't delve deeper.

Maybe that's just guys though?

When you're a married woman telling your work friends / other friends you met someone online would raise eyebrows. That isn't generally what married women do. We don't do out to make friends with sexy hot guys!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Definitely but that friendship would remain online I guess unless at a social event. I’m obviously here for both friendship and fun.

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

"I don’t understand the real life/real mates comments on these threads, I didn’t realise fab wasn’t real life! must be in the matrix

Think you've been reading a different thread!!

My mates would just ask how I met her, and I'd simply say "online", and that would be the end of it. They wouldn't delve deeper.

Maybe that's just guys though?

That's definitely true.

Everyone's situation is different.

I think if I were in a situation like that, I'd still class my fab friends as real friends though, I just wouldn't mix them all up.

Like my quiet geeky friends 'usually' don't mingle with my rock gig going friends.

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By *rs mischiefWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

this x

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

"I don’t understand the real life/real mates comments on these threads, I didn’t realise fab wasn’t real life! must be in the matrix

Think you've been reading a different thread!!

I was referring to the comment above of ‘it’s all an act, real mates count’ - as though to suggest friendships on here are fake.

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

I agree with _ockosaurus. If anyone asked me how I met someone I’d say online and that would be it, it’s no one else business.

Plus it can be a dating site if people want it to be, plenty of relationships have come from fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree with _ockosaurus. If anyone asked me how I met someone I’d say online and that would be it, it’s no one else business.

Plus it can be a dating site if people want it to be, plenty of relationships have come from fab "

Yes but the whole dating site thing doesn't work when you are a couple that only works for singles.

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By *tephanjMan
over a year ago

Kettering

I'm mainly here to make friends. I'm not the best person at keeping in touch so this maybe the reason I'm Billy no mates. Over time I have lost the art of conversation as I spend so much time on my own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m up for both! You can never have too many friends and you can never knock back a night of fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both.

And made good friends already.

And had some great meets too.

Long may it continue.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm here for the gangbang.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Jim

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By *TK421-Man
over a year ago

Cheltenham

Been messaging constantly FaF...

But no response... I mean who doesn't fancy a friendship....

Here to make friends in the first instance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both I’ve made some amazing friends and I’ve had incredible meets

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By *entlemenpipMan
over a year ago

not far

If my goal here was just sex then I failed over a decade ago I've connected and reconnected with more people her than I've had sex with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Made some friends lady’s and gents some have helped me a lot throughout issues long may it last

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Never expected to make so many lovely friends on here. That’s why I stay.

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

It definitely can be both

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By *cunnylassCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

We're not on here to make friends.We just want to meet people we can have sex with!

M and M

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I look for friendship as well as sex normally. I need one to have the other, at the moment I'm just looking for friendship.

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By *LiamMan
over a year ago

Midlands

I've made lifetime friends through fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would like friendships but it never seems to work out that way. A lot of guys say they’re looking for a regular thing with a social aspect but in reality they’re just after another notch on their bedpost….. in my experience anyway.

Yes it’s the way things are going on Fab recently.

That’s why I tend to chat for quite a few weeks with men before a first meet which is always social only.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I’m mostly here for the dick if I’m honest. Although I do have some wonderful messengers, but alas they’re not here curing my fluctuating libido. Just adding to it. The gits.

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

We're definitely here for both. And there's always room for more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've made some fantastic friends on here, some I also have sex with and others I don't.

Our paths would never have crossed if it wasn't for this site, and for that I'm very grateful.

Mrs"

Absolutely this…

Some have gone on to have exclusive relationships with others and we’re now ‘just’ friends. Some I still have sex with.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I don't think there's anything sad about it in the slightest OP, everyone does things differently and as long as it's not causing harm to others, it's not a bad thing.

I'm definitely one who prefers, scratch that, wants friendship. The other "stuff" can follow after but I don't find myself wanting sex/sexual interactions with someone without it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It’s genuinely been a great few days getting to know some of you even though we haven’t spoke 1 on 1 x

I can definitely see me spending most of my fab time around the forums with you lovely lot x

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

"It’s genuinely been a great few days getting to know some of you even though we haven’t spoke 1 on 1 x

I can definitely see me spending most of my fab time around the forums with you lovely lot x "

It's a little bit addictive isn't it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely after both really. Looking for some good friends and if anything else happens then happy days

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It’s extremely addictive

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

"It’s extremely addictive

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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago

Derbyshire village

Made some mates here (well, we say hello when we're in the chats and kind of know what is going on in each others' lives) and its nice to perve too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Both for me, if I increase my social circle with like minded peeps all great and if I can have some fun along the way that’s a bloody bonus

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By *ooBoo2300Woman
over a year ago

Manchester

I wanna make friends with people who are like minded and want to go to clubs and group nights etc. Separate from my real world friends. If there is an attraction then that is a bonus, but like minded fuck friends on the same journey as me is more important.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Friendship can lead to so much x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had some social meets, they said they were looking for the same as me but... They weren't.

One said... Yeah, what I'm after is a threesome with two women'

I just shook my head n asked.. mmm why disappoint one woman when you can disappoint two kinda thing?

He'd fibbed saying he wanted a friendship/fun thing, as did the others but... I live in hope lol

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

I've had some social meets, they said they were looking for the same as me but... They weren't.

One said... Yeah, what I'm after is a threesome with two women'

I just shook my head n asked.. mmm why disappoint one woman when you can disappoint two kinda thing?

He'd fibbed saying he wanted a friendship/fun thing, as did the others but... I live in hope lol"

I get this a lot too, sadly. I now try to drag out meeting for a social so I get a better feel for them. I mean, if they can't be arsed to message for a short while, they're not likely to want to put effort into a fab friendship!

Luckily, I've got some wonderful fab friends. Just wish I could find one close by.....x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had some social meets, they said they were looking for the same as me but... They weren't.

One said... Yeah, what I'm after is a threesome with two women'

I just shook my head n asked.. mmm why disappoint one woman when you can disappoint two kinda thing?

He'd fibbed saying he wanted a friendship/fun thing, as did the others but... I live in hope lol

Luckily, I've got some wonderful fab friends. Just wish I could find one close by.....x"

Id chatted, talked on phone too in fact Mr I want a 3some was allegedly pleased he'd found someone looking for same as him lol

I wondered if he thought I'd have said well.... My bestie is in the car, I always bring her just in case haha

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

I have some wonderful friends that are very much part of my life outside of here. There have been many fab related brews and dinners over the years. It’s the only reason I come back

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

I've had some social meets, they said they were looking for the same as me but... They weren't.

One said... Yeah, what I'm after is a threesome with two women'

I just shook my head n asked.. mmm why disappoint one woman when you can disappoint two kinda thing?

He'd fibbed saying he wanted a friendship/fun thing, as did the others but... I live in hope lol

Luckily, I've got some wonderful fab friends. Just wish I could find one close by.....x

Id chatted, talked on phone too in fact Mr I want a 3some was allegedly pleased he'd found someone looking for same as him lol

I wondered if he thought I'd have said well.... My bestie is in the car, I always bring her just in case haha"

I know! Telling us what they think we want to hear, just to get a shag. Bit bloody sad, isn't it? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had some social meets, they said they were looking for the same as me but... They weren't.

One said... Yeah, what I'm after is a threesome with two women'

I just shook my head n asked.. mmm why disappoint one woman when you can disappoint two kinda thing?

He'd fibbed saying he wanted a friendship/fun thing, as did the others but... I live in hope lol

Luckily, I've got some wonderful fab friends. Just wish I could find one close by.....x

Id chatted, talked on phone too in fact Mr I want a 3some was allegedly pleased he'd found someone looking for same as him lol

I wondered if he thought I'd have said well.... My bestie is in the car, I always bring her just in case haha

I know! Telling us what they think we want to hear, just to get a shag. Bit bloody sad, isn't it? X"

A wee bit yeah, I get its what some want n that's great but just be upfront with us