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By *ightymouse123456 OP   Man
over a year ago

here

Does anyone else find this site smashes your confidence I m here most days I’m not pushy guy but you message people polite and get no reply my confidence is in bits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone else find this site smashes your confidence I m here most days I’m not pushy guy but you message people polite and get no reply my confidence is in bits "

PARKLIFE!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not one bit. My confidence doesn’t come from external validations

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t take it personally pal, this site is renowned for being incredibly difficult for single guys.

Have you tried some of the more traditional dating apps?

I hear that tinder is a much easier platform for singles.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can be tough, OP. Might be best to have a break to get your mojo back, and think about what you want from the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont look for people...I let them look for me

(Tumble)

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By *ightymouse123456 OP   Man
over a year ago

here

Yeah tried tinder hey ho I’ll just wait a week then most probably leave

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol can't type tumbleWeed

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

I don't think you should rely on this site alone. There are so many ways to meet people now we're pretty much back to normal again.

I get messages from guys who are lovely, but if they don't fit what I'm looking for, I just don't reply. It's not a slight on them.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

One thing I've learned is that confidence needs to a certain extent to be protected. So if I'm doing something or am around certain people who challenge my self esteem and confidence I move away from the situation if possible or try and change the way I perceive it. I'm not suggesting you leave fab but maybe step back for a bit. Good luck

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

If it’s not working then do something about it.

I can’t give you direct profile as you’ve not asked for it but your pics need to be appealing (cock pics and action shots divide people, so you’ll lose quite a lot if you display them).

People love confidence…it’s sexy. It can be an aphrodisiac someone sounding and looking confident (but not cocky).

Good profile bio explaining more about you, what you can offer, what you want is also important.

There’s thousands of guys on here - you’ve got to sell yourself and find a unique selling point.

You’ve got to stand out otherwise you’ll get nowhere and it’ll drag you down.

Use FAB for your gain…

Good luck

K

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By *ightymouse123456 OP   Man
over a year ago

here

Tumble is plant googled it lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not really, people don't like you, just deal with it & move on.

Hang in there & keep punching, there really is someone out there for everyone, just gotta find them, be kind, be honest, it'll happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone else find this site smashes your confidence I m here most days I’m not pushy guy but you message people polite and get no reply my confidence is in bits "

I made friends first then take it slowly and see what happens...im not the best looking or anything like that,but I now chat to 6 women(friends) that started on here and now we chat away from here....patience

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By *ustustwo.1965Couple
over a year ago

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"Does anyone else find this site smashes your confidence I m here most days I’m not pushy guy but you message people polite and get no reply my confidence is in bits "

If that is how you feel, maybe this site isn't for you??

We know it's tough, but people only see what they see, and if they don't want it they walk straight by to the next.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone else find this site smashes your confidence I m here most days I’m not pushy guy but you message people polite and get no reply my confidence is in bits "

It's only doing that if you allow it to

If you make this place the be all about sexual gratification or rely upon meets. It will mess with your head!

Add other apps to your portfolio as such - and get yourself out there on social meets or events.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with posts above. It will do if you allow it to… The site in my opinion is a tool don’t just rely on waiting for messages back. Get out there clubs and socials are on, if you want to meet people and build connections well that’s where others are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does anyone else find this site smashes your confidence I m here most days I’m not pushy guy but you message people polite and get no reply my confidence is in bits

PARKLIFE! "

Sorry to reply totally of topic to the thread but I need to acknowledge the brilliance of this hahaha.

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

Op be as confident as you like but bear in mind you may not be every ones cup of tea

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By *ightymouse123456 OP   Man
over a year ago

here

What sorry ?

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By *harisajidanWoman
over a year ago

london


"Not one bit. My confidence doesn’t come from external validations "

smart

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By *harisajidanWoman
over a year ago

london


"What sorry ?"

Use this site to find live events to go to— clubs and parties. Not so much for finding direct meets as a single man. Besides, people in the clubs are more genuine and real and about this life. Won’t be flakes.

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By *ature BBW Lover 69Man
over a year ago

exeter

I think for a single man it is hard , I do get a few replies and chat to quite a few but also plenty that don’t reply and some that are just hard work getting a conversation going . I very rarely have anyone message me first though unless it’s a guy lol.

On the flip side you have to also appreciate that women do get tons of messages and just have to accept they probably won’t reply to all especially if it’s a weak message like hello how are you ? Don’t let it knock your confidence though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not one bit. My confidence doesn’t come from external validations

smart "

Thank you I know that this doesn’t really help the OP but when you start seeking validation from other people it can become addictive and you then suffer lows when you don’t get it

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"Not one bit. My confidence doesn’t come from external validations

smart

Thank you I know that this doesn’t really help the OP but when you start seeking validation from other people it can become addictive and you then suffer lows when you don’t get it"

People seek confidence boosts externally, because they are not self confident. Yea it’s a trap, but for many people here they have such low opinions of themselves they can’t see any other option. Often people have low opinions of themselves for valid reasons too , as a mentor I tell people it’s normal to feel bad when you let yourself down, don’t try to smooth it over , feel bad and commit to change!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi OP - I am guessing your frustrated and I get that, but it is a sex meeting/dating site for swingers and as such us Solo men are are here in abundance - so be patient and bide your time

J xx

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

It is absolutely no different to women looking to meet women on here. I very rarely get messages or replies from women. It’s simply the ratio.

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

Confidence comes from within, now without. Make peace with yourself, admire your actions and accept who you are, never rely on a gift from someone else that you have the means to provide for yourself.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Confidence comes from within, now without. Make peace with yourself, admire your actions and accept who you are, never rely on a gift from someone else that you have the means to provide for yourself. "

I like this

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton


"Confidence comes from within, now without. Make peace with yourself, admire your actions and accept who you are, never rely on a gift from someone else that you have the means to provide for yourself.

I like this "

20 years in the fortune cookie business not wasted

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Your profile looks fine you're a very handsome guy hope you find what you're looking for just keep trying never give up

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

I actually find it works the other way.

Previous to fab, I had no confidence hated my body and wouldn't really feel able to talk to anyone when out.

From being here for a bit, that's all changed.

Most of that is due to the fabs and comments I get on photos, showing me that some people do find me attractive and from the lovely chats I've had in the forums.

Yes, I get overlooked a lot, but that's just how it goes and I'm not going to dwell on that, but focus on the good bits.

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By *ungBlackTopMan
over a year ago

salford

It used to, not anymore once you see the calibre and understand the ethos of the site OP. You should say thank god some don't reply as it could've been worse if you met them hahaha my motto is there's a reason why we didn't meet so don't sweat it just move to the next.

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By *l MateMan
over a year ago

Sheffield Centre

I only joined the site a few months ago, but I think a lot of people aren't meeting due to covid worries, which is fair enough.

If I send a message and it gets deleted that's fine, plenty more people on here.

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By *ilverSwordMan
over a year ago

Belfast-ish

It does knock my confidence a bit when messages are deleted or just read.. But shit I'm not everyone's cuppa tea

Now and again I get some fabs that bumps me back up

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