FabSwingers.com forum: Disappointed

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I’m kinda disappointed in this place, I’m active in forums, I’m respectful to peoples posts, I message people where I think I meet their preferences……yet my messages are ignored or deleted…. Am I delusional in thinking I’m an attractive guy, this spreads across all dating platforms I really don’t understand

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It isn't easy on here % of men to women is huge so keep plugging away and hopefully things will come out well for you, head up.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Takes more than three months to make friends here. You seem a good sort. You'll be fine. Stick with it, but it is easier to get laid irl.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have a good profile, you don’t sound too thirsty and you look very attractive in your pictures, they show off your sexy body and big dick which is important haha.

It’s hard being a single male here and even harder when you’re relatively new and don’t have any verifications. It’s a bit of a catch 22 situation as you don’t get meets without verifications but can’t get verifications without meets.

Maybe try to get some verifications from going on cam in the chat rooms here (I’d be happy to go on cam with you and verify you).

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

"I’m kinda disappointed in this place, I’m active in forums, I’m respectful to peoples posts, I message people where I think I meet their preferences……yet my messages are ignored or deleted…. Am I delusional in thinking I’m an attractive guy, this spreads across all dating platforms I really don’t understand "

Yes, you are delusional and not in the sense you think you are.

You're relying on apps where your part of a large pool of single guys to hook you up with the opposite sex. If 65% of the site is single guys (probably higher) and the rest is made up of couples and single women (and tv/ts), many of whom are not looking for single guys, what do you think your odds of success are going to be.

I've been on fab for 10 years and had zero meets through it on my single male profile (dont have a problem through our couples profile). I have however had plenty of meets that came directly from attending social events or clubs.

Get yourself to a social or a club. Mingle and be seen. Fab just dosent cut it for a lot of guys. Point in case..we see multiple posts like this on a daily basis now.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Understandable frustration. When I first heard of swinging the internet wasn’t even invented. Could only contact women via carrier pigeon. The amount of dick pics I sent off tied to their wee legs. Lost count mate.

Thought this is no use at all my balls were swollen with jizz just waiting to cover some boobies. Was ready to give up when I heard a wee peck at my window. Delighted to discover a returned minge shot. Exchanged a few more pics over eight months then met up.

Great night. She had cooked some pigeon pie as we didn’t need them anymore. Then I fucked her up the arse.

Keep going. Dreams can come true!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ollydoesWoman
over a year ago

Shangri-La

"Understandable frustration. When I first heard of swinging the internet wasn’t even invented. Could only contact women via carrier pigeon. The amount of dick pics I sent off tied to their wee legs. Lost count mate.

Great night. She had cooked some pigeon pie as we didn’t need them anymore. Then I fucked her up the arse.

Keep going. Dreams can come true!"

You never fail..

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great night. She had cooked some pigeon pie as we didn’t need them anymore. Then I fucked her up the arse.

Keep going. Dreams can come true!"

Top tier writing, 10/10 would read again

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *urious_Female89Woman
over a year ago

great yarmouth

Great night. She had cooked some pigeon pie as we didn’t need them anymore. Then I fucked her up the arse.

Keep going. Dreams can come true!"

This tickled me

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes

Try being a bit more interesting to get a reply

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

Treating a Swingers site as a dating platform is unlikely to work out the way you want.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great night. She had cooked some pigeon pie as we didn’t need them anymore. Then I fucked her up the arse.

Keep going. Dreams can come true!"

hilarious!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ose and her beastCouple
over a year ago

Watford

It's super hard for solo men you outnumber everyone else 100 to 1

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ueenbee77Woman
over a year ago

Rotherham

Not sure why you've got a lovely profile

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ose and her beastCouple
over a year ago

Watford

Great night. She had cooked some pigeon pie as we didn’t need them anymore. Then I fucked her up the arse.

Keep going. Dreams can come true!"

Legend

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It takes months for single men to get established here. It's tougher this year because of the pandemic. You can create your own expectations, so that they are realistic.

You can gauge others general needs but not their tastes. Nor what they want day to day. No reply equals no interest in you. Men can have their profile state what they have to offer, which can be more important than what they want.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ames-77Man
over a year ago

milton keynes

"It's super hard for solo men you outnumber everyone else 100 to 1"

Really isn't

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *undayTarkaMan
over a year ago

North Devon,

All competition on here,

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Clubs is your best bet

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Get yourself to some organised fab socials, its much easier than just chatting on here

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately you've got to remember sometimes you can write a decent profile sometimes you can have decent pictures and decent videos on there yeah but it just takes time for you to actually click with someone. Unfortunately there are are a lot more men on here than there is women just keep being yourself and that one person might catch you and go I'll have a bit of him. Not my cup of tea so don't worry

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

Historically only around 20% of men were able to pass on their genes. Where as around 80% of women did.

The invention of monogamy skewed those numbers, but they still favour women.

With the invention of hook up culture and online dating apps, the 20/80 number we’ve seen historically is probably close to 10/90 or even 5/95.

That means that 5-10% of guys are getting 90-95% of the action.

There’s no shame not doing well on here as a single guy, for the numbers are always against you, and even being near the top 10% of guys isn’t enough to get you much.

I’d say focus on tinder, it’s much easier on there, and remember that in real life things are much easier too. Fabs is like dating/hook up culture on difficulty level 11

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Treating a Swingers site as a dating platform is unlikely to work out the way you want."

I’m not treating FAB as a dating platform I only mentioned dating as I’m on the Normal dating apps and it’s the same story there, very much treating the 2 entities differently

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks to all who replied, I was a bottle of red down and feeling a little glum and horny when I wrote it but it is a minefield on here

I’ll remain positive that something might change

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try changing your pants in your avatar picture for white ones pal.

Chicks love tighty whiteys and you look to have a really good behind

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ack688Man
over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)

The odds of being noticed aren’t great for single guys. I was chatting recently to someone Ive known a little while, who had a pic in page 1 of the hot list, so an extreme case, but I was curious about the numbers of views etc she gets and she sent me a screen shot of her home page

Over 10,000 views in one day

450 unread messages

400 friend invites

430 winks.

So again, maybe an extreme case, but with stats like that, it’s not going to be easy.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

Post new Message to Thread