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By *luebell888 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Here am I alone in Majorca having the holiday which was postponed from last year. I needed this holiday so much as work has been so tough during the pandemic. Yesterday I received a phone call to say my 14yr old dog had taken unwell and after discussions with family and vets I agreed today to have him put to sleep. I am now heartbroken as was not there at the end when I always promised I would be. My dogs are the one thing in life that keep me going and the one I have lost today was my soulmate. I know dogs don't last forever but I am heartbroken I was not there for him at the end.

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito


"Here am I alone in Majorca having the holiday which was postponed from last year. I needed this holiday so much as work has been so tough during the pandemic. Yesterday I received a phone call to say my 14yr old dog had taken unwell and after discussions with family and vets I agreed today to have him put to sleep. I am now heartbroken as was not there at the end when I always promised I would be. My dogs are the one thing in life that keep me going and the one I have lost today was my soulmate. I know dogs don't last forever but I am heartbroken I was not there for him at the end. "

Awww but you couldn’t have known it would happen. And he knew you loved him even to the end *hugs*

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Sorry for your loss OP can’t even imagine. I have a very poorly old boy and dread the day. Sending love

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That’s terrible luck.

Be kind to yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m so sorry for your loss .

He knew you loved him

Sending hugs.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

It's a sad day for you but remember the love you had from your doggy soul mate and know he isn't suffering now.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

So sorry for your loss OP, you couldn’t have known xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Here am I alone in Majorca having the holiday which was postponed from last year. I needed this holiday so much as work has been so tough during the pandemic. Yesterday I received a phone call to say my 14yr old dog had taken unwell and after discussions with family and vets I agreed today to have him put to sleep. I am now heartbroken as was not there at the end when I always promised I would be. My dogs are the one thing in life that keep me going and the one I have lost today was my soulmate. I know dogs don't last forever but I am heartbroken I was not there for him at the end. "

Oh lovely, so sorry for your loss! Truly heartbreaking.

And I know it is easy for me to say and it's not going to lessen your grief but don't feel guilty, you just didn't know

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

“Goodbyes are only for those that love with their eyes. For those that love with heart and soul there is no such thing as separation” - Rumi

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

You definitely need hugs. I can’t even begin to comprehend how distraught you must be. I’m sorry you’re suffering the loss of your dog and in this way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh Bluebell...

I'm sure all the dog owners here feel something of your pain.

Your beloved one couldn't have wanted a better soul mate and guardian than you. RIP

So sorry xx

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By *luebell888 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I was always aware and prepared for this day but not being with him at the end has made it so much tougher.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sending, hugs, also have a pensioner that I feel like that about xx

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'm so sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All dogs go to heaven

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By *elshkinkyMan
over a year ago

south wales

That’s awful news OP… sending love your way as losing a pet is such a hard process to work through …

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Huge hugs xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No words x

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By *oubleswing2019Man
over a year ago

Colchester

From what you have written and the time you had spent with him, he knew that you loved him and cared for him.

He knew it everyday, which was why he was always so pleased to see you.

For an animal to understand a quite human concept, and essentially an alien one to them, demonstrates very clearly that he would have known you would have been there if you could.

All he would have known is that perhaps you were out "hunting for food", and he would have been thinking more about your welfare than his own.

You are the food giver, so please hunt well. Please come back with food. I hope mistress is ok and hunting well.

He would not have been thinking anything more adverse than that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m so sorry to hear about your loss, it fucking sucks!! X try not to beat yourself too much about what happened, I know it’s difficult x

Sending u hugs

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

So sorry to hear your sad news. I can understand how heartbroken you are.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

I’m so sorry to hear that. Please don’t feel guilty, he knew you loved him all the time.

Grief is hard enough without guilt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Omg this is heartbreaking to read... Condolences sent your way Blue Bell . At least your beloved K-9 isn't in any pain. But I understand completely where you're coming from...the heartbreak of not been there with him Healing vibes sent your way X

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

That is truly awfull! Sending hugs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chin up pal x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Here am I alone in Majorca having the holiday which was postponed from last year. I needed this holiday so much as work has been so tough during the pandemic. Yesterday I received a phone call to say my 14yr old dog had taken unwell and after discussions with family and vets I agreed today to have him put to sleep. I am now heartbroken as was not there at the end when I always promised I would be. My dogs are the one thing in life that keep me going and the one I have lost today was my soulmate. I know dogs don't last forever but I am heartbroken I was not there for him at the end. "

I can't stress how much I feel for you it must of been like losing family my condolences darling

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By *inAndTonic21Couple
over a year ago

Merseyside


"Here am I alone in Majorca having the holiday which was postponed from last year. I needed this holiday so much as work has been so tough during the pandemic. Yesterday I received a phone call to say my 14yr old dog had taken unwell and after discussions with family and vets I agreed today to have him put to sleep. I am now heartbroken as was not there at the end when I always promised I would be. My dogs are the one thing in life that keep me going and the one I have lost today was my soulmate. I know dogs don't last forever but I am heartbroken I was not there for him at the end. "

So sorry to hear this I can imagine it was so difficult to hear. Thinking of you …we have been in same position xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aww Dear

I am so sorry to hear about difficult decisions you had to make and not being able to be there for those last moments. But you've been there.. for the previous 14 years, full of wonderful memories. Hold onto that if you can.. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"From what you have written and the time you had spent with him, he knew that you loved him and cared for him.

He knew it everyday, which was why he was always so pleased to see you.

For an animal to understand a quite human concept, and essentially an alien one to them, demonstrates very clearly that he would have known you would have been there if you could.

All he would have known is that perhaps you were out "hunting for food", and he would have been thinking more about your welfare than his own.

You are the food giver, so please hunt well. Please come back with food. I hope mistress is ok and hunting well.

He would not have been thinking anything more adverse than that."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"From what you have written and the time you had spent with him, he knew that you loved him and cared for him.

He knew it everyday, which was why he was always so pleased to see you.

For an animal to understand a quite human concept, and essentially an alien one to them, demonstrates very clearly that he would have known you would have been there if you could.

All he would have known is that perhaps you were out "hunting for food", and he would have been thinking more about your welfare than his own.

You are the food giver, so please hunt well. Please come back with food. I hope mistress is ok and hunting well.

He would not have been thinking anything more adverse than that."

That gave me a bit of a throat squeeze..

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Nothing I can say will take away that guilt, but you hold onto that he is not in any pain/suffering anymore and you as his mum saw to that, even thought you couldn't be there physically, you protected him till the end xxx

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire


"“Goodbyes are only for those that love with their eyes. For those that love with heart and soul there is no such thing as separation” - Rumi "

I love this

C

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Hug your pillow Bluebell, and know that your furbaby had the best life.

C

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people never understand when they lose their dog. A dog can be with you for a number of years and they become your friend. Yes they don't answer you back they might bark at you back but when you do lose a dog it is heartbreaking sorry for your loss bluebell

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Hugs xxx

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

Aw bless you, such a heartbreaking thing to deal with! Know that your little dog had 14yrs of love and take comfort in that. Sending you hugs xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we are all sending you a hug of support at this sad time.

NBVN x

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By *uckslut and MCouple
over a year ago

Poole

Oh gosh! Big hugs to you, although know it won't be enough.

I lost my 19 year old man 2 years ago. I was away for the weekend. He'd been rushed into the vets the day before I left, and had to stay in.

My partner and vets had to make the dessision for me, as I was out of contact. I'd given them permission before I left. I loved my old man with all my heart, but I could not have been there in the end. It would of ripped my heart out, looking in his eyes, knowing.... I miss him every day and still talk about him most days.

Your dig will always be with you in your heart.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m so sorry to hear about losing your lovely dog. It’s always a heartbreaking day when it happens. I know you weren’t there but take great comfort in having 14 amazing years of love from an ever faithful family member xx

Big hugs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So sorry for the loss of your canine soulmate, I know how heartbreaking it is. Be kind to yourself, there is nothing you could do about not being there, the vets/nurses will have been with him the whole time. I know when I lost mine last year and I wasn’t there the vet nurse sat with him and cuddled him till the end. You will heal eventually. Sending love & hugs. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So sorry to hear about your loss x

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By *ickyquimCouple
over a year ago

north west


"Here am I alone in Majorca having the holiday which was postponed from last year. I needed this holiday so much as work has been so tough during the pandemic. Yesterday I received a phone call to say my 14yr old dog had taken unwell and after discussions with family and vets I agreed today to have him put to sleep. I am now heartbroken as was not there at the end when I always promised I would be. My dogs are the one thing in life that keep me going and the one I have lost today was my soulmate. I know dogs don't last forever but I am heartbroken I was not there for him at the end. "

I’m so sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you right now. I had to make that decision on Monday after my 7 year old pupper went down hill and couldn’t walk. It was heartbreaking and I am devastated. Thankfully I was with him in the end, but it hurts so much more than when a human dies.

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

I’m sorry for your loss x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Here am I alone in Majorca having the holiday which was postponed from last year. I needed this holiday so much as work has been so tough during the pandemic. Yesterday I received a phone call to say my 14yr old dog had taken unwell and after discussions with family and vets I agreed today to have him put to sleep. I am now heartbroken as was not there at the end when I always promised I would be. My dogs are the one thing in life that keep me going and the one I have lost today was my soulmate. I know dogs don't last forever but I am heartbroken I was not there for him at the end. "

So sorry about your loss bluebelle, they become part of the family, our soulmates and love us for who we are.

You gave him a happy loving home and he will always be with you in your heart xx

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By *luebell888 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Thanks everyone your kind words have been appreciated.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m so sorry for your loss.

It must be so hard when you’re so far away xx

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Aww Bluebell, I'm so sorry for your loss.

That's some awful timing there, I bet your dog had an amazing life with you. Sending big hugs, it's so hard to lose our furry friends x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m so sorry OP. I really feel for you

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By *luebell888 OP   Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Just found out I can see my dog on my return. It will give a chance to say goodbye properly to him so feeling a bit better now.x

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Oh I'm sorry to hear this, but am glad you'll get to say goodbye x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just found out I can see my dog on my return. It will give a chance to say goodbye properly to him so feeling a bit better now.x"

. I’m glad you get to see him.

Try and focus on the wonderful 14 years you had together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just found out I can see my dog on my return. It will give a chance to say goodbye properly to him so feeling a bit better now.x"

Gosh my heart is aching for you, I'm glad you'll get to see him again xx

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"Just found out I can see my dog on my return. It will give a chance to say goodbye properly to him so feeling a bit better now.x"

That's great news at a very sad time.

Sending you a huge Chunky hug. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just found out I can see my dog on my return. It will give a chance to say goodbye properly to him so feeling a bit better now.x"

I'm glad you'll be able to say goodbye! I'm sorry you're in this situation though. It's awful. Sending love. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you can be there at the time of injection do it.....vets tell me all the time that the last moments are often the dog panicking/crying to see their owner....not how id want to let any little pooch go....so dont be in the majority and avoid it because its too painful....say goodbye properly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best wishes its never easy, it sounds like you gave him a beautiful life try to remember the good times.

My 1st dog getting to same age now i dread the day i feel your pain, my heart gose out to you.

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By *utterypopcornCouple
over a year ago

oxford

We are so so sorry for you.

We lost our dog last year so have an idea how hard it must be for you.

Just try and remind yourself it was the best thing for your dog.

Again so sorry for your loss.

Take care M&G

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By *riti PearWoman
over a year ago

Paisley

So sorry for your loss. He knew how loved he was, so try not to feel guilty.

I’m glad you will get a proper goodbye when you get home xx

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By *arol321Woman
over a year ago

Poole

I am so sorry for your loss, that’s so incredibly sad. Sending hugs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Here am I alone in Majorca having the holiday which was postponed from last year. I needed this holiday so much as work has been so tough during the pandemic. Yesterday I received a phone call to say my 14yr old dog had taken unwell and after discussions with family and vets I agreed today to have him put to sleep. I am now heartbroken as was not there at the end when I always promised I would be. My dogs are the one thing in life that keep me going and the one I have lost today was my soulmate. I know dogs don't last forever but I am heartbroken I was not there for him at the end. "

Sending you hugs. You may not have physically been with him but your thoughts and love were - that’s all that matters. 14 years was a good innings for his happy life with you. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Here am I alone in Majorca having the holiday which was postponed from last year. I needed this holiday so much as work has been so tough during the pandemic. Yesterday I received a phone call to say my 14yr old dog had taken unwell and after discussions with family and vets I agreed today to have him put to sleep. I am now heartbroken as was not there at the end when I always promised I would be. My dogs are the one thing in life that keep me going and the one I have lost today was my soulmate. I know dogs don't last forever but I am heartbroken I was not there for him at the end. "

That is a hard decision to take, but shows your love. I had to do this in the past,not once. It hurts like hell. The only way you can heal that pain is by having another pet.

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By *ub4uyorkTV/TS
over a year ago

York

That's terrible for you and am sending my condolences.

I have dogs, cats and chickens that I all love dearly. It's always difficult when you lose one. Especially a dog. When I lose one it sometimes hurts so much that it feels like they taken a piece of me away with them. But have realised over the years that the love you can give and receive is infinite.

I appreciate it feels like a burden that you weren't there but that is one thing that you cannot control. And in matters like this life can be so harsh. Sending lots of hugs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Gutted for you OP, it's a hard enough decision when you are there - just toast the good times you had and look forwards, that's all you can do in those situations XO

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By *reat me rightWoman
over a year ago

Rotherham

So sorry to read this

We never have them long enough and our pets, whatever they may be are our family. I'm sure he knew how special he was to you - and that whoever was with him at the end loved him too.

Xxxxx

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By *oubleswing2019Man
over a year ago

Colchester


"If you can be there at the time of injection do it.....vets tell me all the time that the last moments are often the dog panicking/crying to see their owner...."

I has to take a family member's dog to the vets for this (they could not go themselves).

I cuddled him as he went, and my god that was hard. I'm not one to cry over anything, but I did have a right bawl after that, geeze.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Here am I alone in Majorca having the holiday which was postponed from last year. I needed this holiday so much as work has been so tough during the pandemic. Yesterday I received a phone call to say my 14yr old dog had taken unwell and after discussions with family and vets I agreed today to have him put to sleep. I am now heartbroken as was not there at the end when I always promised I would be. My dogs are the one thing in life that keep me going and the one I have lost today was my soulmate. I know dogs don't last forever but I am heartbroken I was not there for him at the end. "

So sorry to hear this. You'll get more support if you out this on our forum too. Thinking of you x

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Hugs sweet lady ...x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm so sorry you've lost a member of your family. I'm sure he was very loved

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By *TK421-Man
over a year ago

Cheltenham

OP sorry.

But without knowing the full ins and outs to me you did the very best thing for your dog. Given the consent to have them put down rather than suffering till you got back shows how much that dog was loved and respected by you. You were there for them OP.... you were outstanding.

Massive hugs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear about your dog. They have more love in their hearts than some of our human counterparts. My advice is this. Be happy your dog passed peacefully and remember the bond and good times you had together. It'll warm your heart. Our joy is our pain in life. Be strong.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

sorry for loss xx

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By *andare63Man
over a year ago

oldham


"Here am I alone in Majorca having the holiday which was postponed from last year. I needed this holiday so much as work has been so tough during the pandemic. Yesterday I received a phone call to say my 14yr old dog had taken unwell and after discussions with family and vets I agreed today to have him put to sleep. I am now heartbroken as was not there at the end when I always promised I would be. My dogs are the one thing in life that keep me going and the one I have lost today was my soulmate. I know dogs don't last forever but I am heartbroken I was not there for him at the end. "

This happened to my Dogue de Bordeaux last year while I was in Greece. Very upsetting and even worse that my poor daughter had to take him to the vets and see him put to sleep. He was only 7

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So sorry lovely. I lost mine last week and it is heartbreaking....sending big hugs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry to hear that. I have a cat of advancing years and am not looking forward to the day he departs this world.

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

So sorry for your loss. You were there for him throughout his life, loving and caring for him each day. That's what matters the most. Please don't beat yourself up for something that was beyond your control.

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

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So sorry

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