FabSwingers.com forum: Do You Take Your Own Advice ?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I see lots of great advice on Forum, practical and emotional, so there are some wise heads here.

But do you always follow the good advice you give to others ?

Or is it easier to sort out other peoples problems than your own ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try to as much as possible

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I give advice that is gleaned from my own experiences

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By *agerMorganMan
over a year ago

Canvey Island

Yup, I wouldn't give advice to someone if I wouldn't follow it myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I see lots of great advice on Forum, practical and emotional, so there are some wise heads here.

But do you always follow the good advice you give to others ?

Or is it easier to sort out other peoples problems than your own ?"

No and yes

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I see lots of great advice on Forum, practical and emotional, so there are some wise heads here.

But do you always follow the good advice you give to others ?

Or is it easier to sort out other peoples problems than your own ?

No and yes

Me too, and that's been my experience with most people. It's so much harder to be objective about ourselves, I think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I see lots of great advice on Forum, practical and emotional, so there are some wise heads here.

But do you always follow the good advice you give to others ?

Or is it easier to sort out other peoples problems than your own ?

No and yes

Me too, and that's been my experience with most people. It's so much harder to be objective about ourselves, I think."

Yes definitely.

My advice normally comes from what I should’ve or could’ve done differently and helps me reflect on things that have happened in life, but totally agree about the objectivity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My advice usually revolves around mental health and taking time out for self care. I try as much as possible to cater for myself when I need it but sometimes it's not always feasible! Walking is my medicine but unfortunately I don't have the time or childcare to get out every day which is frustrating.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My advice usually revolves around mental health and taking time out for self care. I try as much as possible to cater for myself when I need it but sometimes it's not always feasible! Walking is my medicine but unfortunately I don't have the time or childcare to get out every day which is frustrating."

Very good point. Sometimes it's just practical issues rather than lack of will which stop us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not when it comes to spending too much time on fabs. I should!

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By *ittleMissCaliWoman
over a year ago

all loved up

"I see lots of great advice on Forum, practical and emotional, so there are some wise heads here.

But do you always follow the good advice you give to others ?

Or is it easier to sort out other peoples problems than your own ?"
I never ever take my own advice.. or others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hell no

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By *TK421-Man
over a year ago

Cheltenham

Narp......

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Helping others is easier than dealing with yourself, a distraction from your own things.

As with all advice given or received, unless the individual is ready to make that change it is just words, only the individual can take the step forward.

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Usually yes.. I occasionally go against that but always realise pretty fast and sort myself out.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hell no

You're really owning that contradiction !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great at sorting other peoples lives out, straight in. When it comes to sorting myself out I'm rubbish

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Helping others is easier than dealing with yourself, a distraction from your own things.

As with all advice given or received, unless the individual is ready to make that change it is just words, only the individual can take the step forward.

I have noticed that people who go out of their way to advise others often have unresolved issues of their own.

Physician heal thyself ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s harder for me to take my own advice as it’s often given from experience but I do have to give myself a talk occasionally

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Great at sorting other peoples lives out, straight in. When it comes to sorting myself out I'm rubbish "

Have you thought much about why that is ?

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By *essica FlabbitWoman
over a year ago

west midlands/shropshire

I try to listen. The only person's advice I take on board is my best friend. Because she's honest and will tell me and advise me truthfully

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fuck no! Why on Earth would I do that??

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It’s harder for me to take my own advice as it’s often given from experience but I do have to give myself a talk occasionally"

I find it helps to write down the self-advice rather than keep it all upstairs. Gives some distance maybe.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Fuck no! Why on Earth would I do that??"

Heh PD, haven't seen you for a while.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fuck no! Why on Earth would I do that??

Heh PD, haven't seen you for a while.

Hey man, had to retreat to the shadows for a bit. You good?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Fuck no! Why on Earth would I do that??

Heh PD, haven't seen you for a while.

Hey man, had to retreat to the shadows for a bit. You good?"

Top,thank you. An occasional break is always a good idea.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

If i wouldn't do it myself i wouldn't advise others to do so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hell no

You're really owning that contradiction !

Christ imagine what i would have achieved if i listened to myself

... Stop procrastinating Midnight, step away from the crisps, get your arse off sofa... Just do it

... I could be PM by now lol... If only I'd listened to myself

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Fuck no! Why on Earth would I do that??

Heh PD, haven't seen you for a while.

Hey man, had to retreat to the shadows for a bit. You good?

Top,thank you. An occasional break is always a good idea."

Now watch me ignore that advice.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If i wouldn't do it myself i wouldn't advise others to do so. "

Is there a difference though between knowing it is good advice and actually following that advice ?

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By *yrdsisWoman
over a year ago

Gleam Street

Neverdish out advice that hasn't been handed to me first... I always pinch from Nana's advice

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

I’m a firm believer in my own advice so yes

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

Always, any advice is based on our own experiences, but may not be applicable for all instances. Main thing im consitent accross all all threads and posts unlike many in the forums.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Good lord no!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But trust me on the Sunscreen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Easier to deal with everyone else's problems first and sort them out as I don't get enough time in the day to worry about my own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't give myself advice, just wing it. Works most of the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I see lots of great advice on Forum, practical and emotional, so there are some wise heads here.

But do you always follow the good advice you give to others ?

Or is it easier to sort out other peoples problems than your own ?"

NEVER

And the worst thing is that I’m super conscious that I’m heading for a car crash but I’m just watching it happen, with my eyes wide open while eating popcorns …

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do as I say, not as I do

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Sometimes yes.

More often than I used to.

But sometimes no, even though it's guarenteed to bite me on the arse a bit further down the line.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Great at sorting other peoples lives out, straight in. When it comes to sorting myself out I'm rubbish

Have you thought much about why that is ?"

Because I am shit lol

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I'll advise someone if I've experienced what they are going through x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The best advice I gave myself was tomorrow is not guaranteed and I'm making the rest of my life the best of my life.really helped me get out of a dark place.depression and anxiety.now,I've stopped worrying,life's too short,and yeah I'm a great listener,there's a world of difference between hearing and listening.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Easier to deal with everyone else's problems first and sort them out as I don't get enough time in the day to worry about my own.

That sounds like you're good at helping others. Hope you do find the time eventually for self care, you might be good at it too.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I see lots of great advice on Forum, practical and emotional, so there are some wise heads here.

But do you always follow the good advice you give to others ?

Or is it easier to sort out other peoples problems than your own ?

NEVER

And the worst thing is that I’m super conscious that I’m heading for a car crash but I’m just watching it happen, with my eyes wide open while eating popcorns …

That's a strong description. Sometimes it's like a film where we know the ending already.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The best advice I gave myself was tomorrow is not guaranteed and I'm making the rest of my life the best of my life.really helped me get out of a dark place.depression and anxiety.now,I've stopped worrying,life's too short,and yeah I'm a great listener,there's a world of difference between hearing and listening."

Hearing and listening...important distinction. Very pleased you've found a better place for yourself.

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By *ack688Man
over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)

I keep telling myself I should take my own advice, but I don’t always listen.

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By *asual_WandererWoman
over a year ago

A spot you want me

Ah that wonderful gap between what you "should" do and what you did do

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Helping others has always been much easier for me. Too easy in fact which is why I tend to avoid giving advice anymore or carrying the weight of other people's problems.

That's exactly what I've done all my life and as a direct result haven't lived my own life.

I often advised people to be a little more selfish and do things for themselves but I could never do it myself until a few years ago.

It's not in my nature to turn my back on others so it is always a conscious decision not to not offer advice.

It almost broke me and I advise myself now to focus more on me.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I should, because I give bloody amazing advice

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

Fuck that, I’m an idiot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont really, no. Were would be the fun in that. It's easy to know what to do, not so easy to do it. Which is why I am very sympathetic, I realise how impossible some things can be even when it shouldn't be so of we just listen to the words we say rather than consider putting them into practise.

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

"Helping others has always been much easier for me. Too easy in fact which is why I tend to avoid giving advice anymore or carrying the weight of other people's problems.

That's exactly what I've done all my life and as a direct result haven't lived my own life.

I often advised people to be a little more selfish and do things for themselves but I could never do it myself until a few years ago.

It's not in my nature to turn my back on others so it is always a conscious decision not to not offer advice.

It almost broke me and I advise myself now to focus more on me. "

...it is always a conscious decision now to not offer advice

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ah that wonderful gap between what you "should" do and what you did do"

Mind the gap indeed...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fuck no! Why on Earth would I do that??

Heh PD, haven't seen you for a while.

Hey man, had to retreat to the shadows for a bit. You good?

Top,thank you. An occasional break is always a good idea.

Now watch me ignore that advice.

HAHAHAHA!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I should, because I give bloody amazing advice

Preparing a list for you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Fuck that, I’m an idiot "

It's ok, I think you are among fellow idiots here.

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By *ormorantMan
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

No, because what works for you might not work for me…

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Helping others has always been much easier for me. Too easy in fact which is why I tend to avoid giving advice anymore or carrying the weight of other people's problems.

That's exactly what I've done all my life and as a direct result haven't lived my own life.

I often advised people to be a little more selfish and do things for themselves but I could never do it myself until a few years ago.

It's not in my nature to turn my back on others so it is always a conscious decision not to not offer advice.

It almost broke me and I advise myself now to focus more on me. "

It's definitely a paradox, advising people to be more selfish when the selfish (or self-first) thing would be to not give advice.

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