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"To start up & run my own consulting firm. Barriers is probably knowing how to get clients and keeping them. " Oh nice.. Presumably you have experience in your chosen topic? How you gonna find clients? Linked-in? Other agencies Keeping clients is an interesting prospect... | |||
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"I am always impressed by people that make sudden abrupt turns in their lives to follow their dreams. I know a lady who used to do a very complex legal job, but in her 40s went on a retreat, re-evaluated her life and decided she wanted to become a pediatrician. She quit her job, and retained as a doctor and then specialised. "I knew a lady who finished her midwifery degree at 52! I want to be that person too. Retrain and start a new life. Thanks for sharing that. | |||
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"To be truly truly at peace with myself. I hope one day i can be but in reality i think it will beat me "What will beat you? Life or your disbelief ? | |||
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"To get some decent sleep with good dreams..." Wow, if you crack that you could be set for life selling the secret! I think i have too many dreams.. My brain can't switch off and we go through endless variations until i find an ending i like I find scented baths (don't tell Busty Belle), clean bedding and complete darkness /silence help me to sleep ...But usually a car is rattling, or a cat is yowling or an owl is screeching  | |||
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"To start up & run my own consulting firm. Barriers is probably knowing how to get clients and keeping them. Oh nice.. Presumably you have experience in your chosen topic? How you gonna find clients? Linked-in? Other agencies Keeping clients is an interesting prospect..." I have almost 6 years experience in my field, as for the clients, that's what I'm trying to work out, how to do it. All I've seen so far is just shady sales tactics.  | |||
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"I mean it’s not a dream anymore but it used to feel like one for sure. It’s more like a goal and that’s feeling happy and content once I’ve “completed” all the steps towards my transition and me being a woman. I hope I’ll eventually stop feeling in a certain way once that’s done… a girl can dream right? Also, my romantic self thinks that maybe one day I’d love to walk down the isle in a white dress. Who knows if that’s ever gonna happen x " Wow that is an amazing goal! What is holding you back from feeling a certain way?? Is it the perspective you put onto yourself that you think others have of you? Let me tell you all girls think that easy, so bingo haha ! The white dress is every girls dream at some point... If you want to go dress shopping just for fun, we can always lie about the groom  | |||
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"For me it's taken a bit of a crisis, and some support from good friends. I'm in the process of making it happen. Fulfilling a childhood ambition." Oh Swing,that sounds exciting! Does it involve writing? Crisis can be good for galvanising us into action! It's good that you have your friends as the wind beneath your wings! | |||
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"For my liver to survive this upcoming Butlins 80’s weekender and the gran can holiday week after "
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"For me it's taken a bit of a crisis, and some support from good friends. I'm in the process of making it happen. Fulfilling a childhood ambition. Oh Swing,that sounds exciting! Does it involve writing? Crisis can be good for galvanising us into action! It's good that you have your friends as the wind beneath your wings! " Yes. It's sort of the culmination of so much of what I already am. It's just perfect and I'm terrified and excited and utterly unworthy but... Let's do this thing | |||
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"I am always impressed by people that make sudden abrupt turns in their lives to follow their dreams. I know a lady who used to do a very complex legal job, but in her 40s went on a retreat, re-evaluated her life and decided she wanted to become a pediatrician. She quit her job, and retained as a doctor and then specialised.
I knew a lady who finished her midwifery degree at 52! I want to be that person too. Retrain and start a new life. Thanks for sharing that. "That's good going at 52! We're retiring much later in life too, so anything is possible, plus there are some societal preconceptions that can unnecessarily limit us. Definitely follow your dreams. We only get one life: it's a gift, not a god-given right!! | |||
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"Do you think they will remain a dream ... or will you manage to bring them to fruition? What are the barriers to achieving them do you think?? " The barriers are always passion , if you truly have it for your dream you will reach it , but many dreams are just….dreams and people choose the safety of 9-5 jobs and Netflix. You need passion to make the sacrifices, switch of the TV, persist and do the hard work. | |||
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"I mean it’s not a dream anymore but it used to feel like one for sure. It’s more like a goal and that’s feeling happy and content once I’ve “completed” all the steps towards my transition and me being a woman. I hope I’ll eventually stop feeling in a certain way once that’s done… a girl can dream right? Also, my romantic self thinks that maybe one day I’d love to walk down the isle in a white dress. Who knows if that’s ever gonna happen x Wow that is an amazing goal! What is holding you back from feeling a certain way?? Is it the perspective you put onto yourself that you think others have of you? Let me tell you all girls think that easy, so bingo haha ! The white dress is every girls dream at some point... If you want to go dress shopping just for fun, we can always lie about the groom "Thanks lovely, and yes that’s part of the pressure I put on myself of what I think others might see of me and sometimes it gives me anxiety to think they see through me how I was born. But it’s all very much triggered by the dysphoria a lot of the times. I hope to find the peace and not have the bad days of thinking less of me as a woman, once I’ve reassigned and done the lot. Ha TOTES regarding the dress shopping, we can have free champers too while trying out the dresses!!! X 
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"The only barrier for me is a childcare. Co-parenting is a challenge but their dad has been a star recently. I'm not really complaining. My kids dreams and future matter to me more than anything else. It's a loving sacrifice of some things. Or just postponing them. I am good at this waiting game. In a meantime i try and do my things when I can and what I can.. in small chunks, because one day I will be able to put it all together in a one big collage of things which made a difference. Just had a phone call about the course I signed up for and feeling good about it
What about you Midnight ? "You are very artistic Rose, i can see you have a lot of interests and potential paths to explore! I would like to open my own cafe... Either next to the sea, or in France. It would also double as a cool cookery school... And in the evening it would be licensed and turn into a swing /jazz club with musicians and swing dancing... I'd sell hot brownies with icecream There would be a secret fetish dungeon below, cooled by a breeze that gently goosepimples the skin.... The furniture would be shared with the cafe, bringing a secret smile as fingers are run along the wooden grain
Barriers are me i guess... The courage to step off the cliff.. I have a very comfortable job, life + income | |||
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"To enter my new career which I start college for this month, I need a less physical job as aches and pains are getting more frequent " Ooh, good luck! | |||
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"To be truly truly at peace with myself. I hope one day i can be but in reality i think it will beat me "That is a grand plan .. What tips /tools are you developing? I hope you recognise it, when you find it 
Self forgiveness is often the hardest step. Meditation, breathing... And resilience are good things to have in your toolbox | |||
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"I am always impressed by people that make sudden abrupt turns in their lives to follow their dreams. I know a lady who used to do a very complex legal job, but in her 40s went on a retreat, re-evaluated her life and decided she wanted to become a pediatrician. She quit her job, and retained as a doctor and then specialised. "I think that is that hardest thing.. Achieving clarity of mind /dream.... Once you have that you then 'just' need a plan to make it happen | |||
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"I have no dreams or aspirations. I never have." Do you feel you are just drifting along, happy in your groove ? | |||
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"The only barrier for me is a childcare. Co-parenting is a challenge but their dad has been a star recently. I'm not really complaining. My kids dreams and future matter to me more than anything else. It's a loving sacrifice of some things. Or just postponing them. I am good at this waiting game. In a meantime i try and do my things when I can and what I can.. in small chunks, because one day I will be able to put it all together in a one big collage of things which made a difference. Just had a phone call about the course I signed up for and feeling good about it
What about you Midnight ?
You are very artistic Rose, i can see you have a lot of interests and potential paths to explore!
I would like to open my own cafe... Either next to the sea, or in France. It would also double as a cool cookery school... And in the evening it would be licensed and turn into a swing /jazz club with musicians and swing dancing... I'd sell hot brownies with icecream
There would be a secret fetish dungeon below, cooled by a breeze that gently goosepimples the skin.... The furniture would be shared with the cafe, bringing a secret smile as fingers are run along the wooden grain
Barriers are me i guess... The courage to step off the cliff.. I have a very comfortable job, life + income "Your last line resonated with me. I run my own business. When I was relatively young and contemplating quitting my job and starting the business, I had a chat with an accountant friend of my father's who told me that in life you're going to find yourself standing on the edge of a cliff and you have to decide whether you're going to jump or not. I bottled it! Later in life, I was standing on the edge of that same cliff, but this time the drop was much further now and the rocks below were much sharper looking. I jumped! I guess I'd grown. Since then, there hasn't been a single day where I've regretted that decision. | |||
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"I am always impressed by people that make sudden abrupt turns in their lives to follow their dreams. I know a lady who used to do a very complex legal job, but in her 40s went on a retreat, re-evaluated her life and decided she wanted to become a pediatrician. She quit her job, and retained as a doctor and then specialised.
I think that is that hardest thing.. Achieving clarity of mind /dream.... Once you have that you then 'just' need a plan to make it happen "Yes…. Because we aren’t programmed to envision or create , in fact it’s actively discouraged, we are programmed to comply , react and respond. But you can change all that | |||
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"The only barrier for me is a childcare. Co-parenting is a challenge but their dad has been a star recently. I'm not really complaining. My kids dreams and future matter to me more than anything else. It's a loving sacrifice of some things. Or just postponing them. I am good at this waiting game. In a meantime i try and do my things when I can and what I can.. in small chunks, because one day I will be able to put it all together in a one big collage of things which made a difference. Just had a phone call about the course I signed up for and feeling good about it
What about you Midnight ?
You are very artistic Rose, i can see you have a lot of interests and potential paths to explore!
I would like to open my own cafe... Either next to the sea, or in France. It would also double as a cool cookery school... And in the evening it would be licensed and turn into a swing /jazz club with musicians and swing dancing... I'd sell hot brownies with icecream
There would be a secret fetish dungeon below, cooled by a breeze that gently goosepimples the skin.... The furniture would be shared with the cafe, bringing a secret smile as fingers are run along the wooden grain
Barriers are me i guess... The courage to step off the cliff.. I have a very comfortable job, life + income "I love your dream!!! 
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"I still want my little piece of land in Scotland a Croft maybe 50 acres. A few cows, a few hardy goats and some rescue donkeys. "Now that is a nice dream, feels attainable.. 50 acres is a lot to manage tho.. Maybe you can set up as a charity and host experiences learning how to drystone wall or harvest heather, plant trees etc etc to help you with free labour! One of the charities does this already... I'll see if i can find the link | |||
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"To just be truly and totally at peace with my life..whether that happens or not who knows "What do you think will help you to achieve that? What measure will you apply to know you've achieved peace .. Do you think it will be a moving target? | |||
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"For me it's taken a bit of a crisis, and some support from good friends. I'm in the process of making it happen. Fulfilling a childhood ambition. Oh Swing,that sounds exciting! Does it involve writing? Crisis can be good for galvanising us into action! It's good that you have your friends as the wind beneath your wings! Yes. It's sort of the culmination of so much of what I already am. It's just perfect and I'm terrified and excited and utterly unworthy but... Let's do this thing "Wishing you much success! I am excited for you and envious that you have your shit together!! | |||
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"I still want my little piece of land in Scotland a Croft maybe 50 acres. A few cows, a few hardy goats and some rescue donkeys.
Now that is a nice dream, feels attainable..
50 acres is a lot to manage tho.. Maybe you can set up as a charity and host experiences learning how to drystone wall or harvest heather, plant trees etc etc to help you with free labour!
One of the charities does this already... I'll see if i can find the link "You are a dream x x x | |||
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"Do you think they will remain a dream ... or will you manage to bring them to fruition? What are the barriers to achieving them do you think?? The barriers are always passion , if you truly have it for your dream you will reach it , but many dreams are just….dreams and people choose the safety of 9-5 jobs and Netflix. You need passion to make the sacrifices, switch of the TV, persist and do the hard work. " Yes, you are right... Sacrifices vs comfort... We often take the path of least resistence! | |||
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"To just be truly and totally at peace with my life..whether that happens or not who knows
What do you think will help you to achieve that? What measure will you apply to know you've achieved peace .. Do you think it will be a moving target? "Honestly just to wake up in the morning and feel happy, my life has been a car crash the past three years and I'm only just on the incline again, it's a take each day as it comes... First step was finally getting a home of my own, now it's everything else in my life to level out | |||
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"To be happy" Awww... What do you think is stopping you being happy? | |||
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"For me it's taken a bit of a crisis, and some support from good friends. I'm in the process of making it happen. Fulfilling a childhood ambition. Oh Swing,that sounds exciting! Does it involve writing? Crisis can be good for galvanising us into action! It's good that you have your friends as the wind beneath your wings! Yes. It's sort of the culmination of so much of what I already am. It's just perfect and I'm terrified and excited and utterly unworthy but... Let's do this thing
Wishing you much success! I am excited for you and envious that you have your shit together!! "Shit together... Sometimes. 
Diving in and hoping for the best | |||
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"I mean it’s not a dream anymore but it used to feel like one for sure. It’s more like a goal and that’s feeling happy and content once I’ve “completed” all the steps towards my transition and me being a woman. I hope I’ll eventually stop feeling in a certain way once that’s done… a girl can dream right? Also, my romantic self thinks that maybe one day I’d love to walk down the isle in a white dress. Who knows if that’s ever gonna happen x Wow that is an amazing goal! What is holding you back from feeling a certain way?? Is it the perspective you put onto yourself that you think others have of you? Let me tell you all girls think that easy, so bingo haha ! The white dress is every girls dream at some point... If you want to go dress shopping just for fun, we can always lie about the groom
Thanks lovely, and yes that’s part of the pressure I put on myself of what I think others might see of me and sometimes it gives me anxiety to think they see through me how I was born. But it’s all very much triggered by the dysphoria a lot of the times. I hope to find the peace and not have the bad days of thinking less of me as a woman, once I’ve reassigned and done the lot.
Ha TOTES regarding the dress shopping, we can have free champers too while trying out the dresses!!! X
Even if I’ll never have the right man who will propose… that has to happen x "Pah, who needs a man.. Lets do it... Bubbles!! It's harder fooling your own brain...Maybe you need to do some positive reinforcement daily... i wonder if it's a bit like looking yourself in the mirror everyday and telling yourself that you love yourself... Perhaps you need to try something like "I am a woman, she is amazing.. I am me" | |||
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"A curve ball that life has thrown at me is needing knee replacements. I just want to get through that and then hopefully a more active life. Maybe able to dance again." Dancing is a great goal to spur your recovery... My swing teacher had two hip replacements, but was still teaching into his 90s! How long will you need to wait for replacement surgery, do you know ? | |||
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"To enter my new career which I start college for this month, I need a less physical job as aches and pains are getting more frequent " Gosh, that is exciting... You are already executing a plan to achieve your dreams +ambition! I stand in awe! | |||
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"All my dreams and aspirations went out the window during the winter lockdown, I lost my business and the woman I loved. Picking yourself up is the hardest thing you can do after that, but I am getting there, but it's a slow process" That is harsh man, keep looking for the light, it's just around the corner, trust. | |||
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"Just to be happy, have good relationships with people. Ideally in Greece by the sea with a beautiful partner who adores me and I adore even more.For my children to be happy and fulfilled in whatever path they choose." Ooo there are a lot of variables in your plan to control... How are you going to bring it into fruition? | |||
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"A curve ball that life has thrown at me is needing knee replacements. I just want to get through that and then hopefully a more active life. Maybe able to dance again. Dancing is a great goal to spur your recovery... My swing teacher had two hip replacements, but was still teaching into his 90s! How long will you need to wait for replacement surgery, do you know ? " I have an appointment with a consultant next month. Should have some idea then. | |||
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"I am chasing my dreams right now OP. With I ever achieve them? Not sure but that isn’t going to stop me. " Wow, i have so much admiration for people going after their dreams Are you able to share a flavour of what they are? | |||
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"The only barrier for me is a childcare. Co-parenting is a challenge but their dad has been a star recently. I'm not really complaining. My kids dreams and future matter to me more than anything else. It's a loving sacrifice of some things. Or just postponing them. I am good at this waiting game. In a meantime i try and do my things when I can and what I can.. in small chunks, because one day I will be able to put it all together in a one big collage of things which made a difference. Just had a phone call about the course I signed up for and feeling good about it
What about you Midnight ?
You are very artistic Rose, i can see you have a lot of interests and potential paths to explore!
I would like to open my own cafe... Either next to the sea, or in France. It would also double as a cool cookery school... And in the evening it would be licensed and turn into a swing /jazz club with musicians and swing dancing... I'd sell hot brownies with icecream
There would be a secret fetish dungeon below, cooled by a breeze that gently goosepimples the skin.... The furniture would be shared with the cafe, bringing a secret smile as fingers are run along the wooden grain
Barriers are me i guess... The courage to step off the cliff.. I have a very comfortable job, life + income
Your last line resonated with me. I run my own business. When I was relatively young and contemplating quitting my job and starting the business, I had a chat with an accountant friend of my father's who told me that in life you're going to find yourself standing on the edge of a cliff and you have to decide whether you're going to jump or not. I bottled it! Later in life, I was standing on the edge of that same cliff, but this time the drop was much further now and the rocks below were much sharper looking. I jumped! I guess I'd grown. Since then, there hasn't been a single day where I've regretted that decision. "So you are saying jump now or the chasm will become even deeper! It's scarey isn't it | |||
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"I am always impressed by people that make sudden abrupt turns in their lives to follow their dreams. I know a lady who used to do a very complex legal job, but in her 40s went on a retreat, re-evaluated her life and decided she wanted to become a pediatrician. She quit her job, and retained as a doctor and then specialised.
I think that is that hardest thing.. Achieving clarity of mind /dream.... Once you have that you then 'just' need a plan to make it happen
Yes…. Because we aren’t programmed to envision or create , in fact it’s actively discouraged, we are programmed to comply , react and respond. But you can change all that "Oh food for thought.. Is that why we are so passive and accepting of our 'lot' perhaps and why there are so few entrepreneurs  | |||
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"Been lucky enough to follow and continue to follow. Although following the dream it has also expanded it in many different ways." Oh are you able to share how you did it and made your dreams reality? | |||
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"I am chasing my dreams right now OP. With I ever achieve them? Not sure but that isn’t going to stop me. Wow, i have so much admiration for people going after their dreams Are you able to share a flavour of what they are? " My dream is ultimately the life that I want to live. How I get there is how I’m chasing it. I can be quite stubborn with no deviating from that dream and that’s why I’ve accepted that I may always be single. To allow someone that deep into my life I have to know that they won’t want to change me or the course of my dream. | |||
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"The only barrier for me is a childcare. Co-parenting is a challenge but their dad has been a star recently. I'm not really complaining. My kids dreams and future matter to me more than anything else. It's a loving sacrifice of some things. Or just postponing them. I am good at this waiting game. In a meantime i try and do my things when I can and what I can.. in small chunks, because one day I will be able to put it all together in a one big collage of things which made a difference. Just had a phone call about the course I signed up for and feeling good about it
What about you Midnight ?
You are very artistic Rose, i can see you have a lot of interests and potential paths to explore!
I would like to open my own cafe... Either next to the sea, or in France. It would also double as a cool cookery school... And in the evening it would be licensed and turn into a swing /jazz club with musicians and swing dancing... I'd sell hot brownies with icecream
There would be a secret fetish dungeon below, cooled by a breeze that gently goosepimples the skin.... The furniture would be shared with the cafe, bringing a secret smile as fingers are run along the wooden grain
Barriers are me i guess... The courage to step off the cliff.. I have a very comfortable job, life + income
I love your dream!!!
Can I come over and help you sell pastries/viennoiseries in the morning? X "Most definitely.. I have been eyeing up a gorgeous property in Wales near the coast for the last year.. It's still for sale... It might be waiting for my name! | |||
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"To help get the company I’m working for at the moment scaled up enough so we can sell it within 10 years and all retire " That sounds exciting! Hard work, but so satisfying if you get it right... May we know the broad industry? | |||
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"Just to be happy, have good relationships with people. Ideally in Greece by the sea with a beautiful partner who adores me and I adore even more.For my children to be happy and fulfilled in whatever path they choose. Ooo there are a lot of variables in your plan to control... How are you going to bring it into fruition? " if things keep going I have a decent pension, I have lot of equity in my flat despite having to start all over again couple of years ago. Combined with the right partners income we can definitely achieve this together. First daughter at Uni already on right track, second doing well and knows what she wants. | |||
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"I have been fortunate to achieve a number of things that whilst they were not my dream at the time are for plenty of others (never realised just how fortunate I was). These days we (have to include Mrs in these dreams) will often like an idea and then work out how we get to achieve it, these are not long held dreams don't have them anymore. We are currently thinking about retiring and moving abroad so looking at how we make this happen." Hmm.. But despite achieving things that may be other people's dreams.. What about you.. It feels like there is something there that you have not verbalised? Or maybe not yet formalised? | |||
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"They aren't huge really. A couple of small things that have been held back by the shit storm of the last 18months but they are gradually getting back on track. Oh and to write more but writers block can be a bitch to shift so I'm going with the flow on that one. " The last 18 months have been interesting .. It feels like we were entering a new way of living and there are new opportunities there for the grasping if you can stretch to catch them I'd love to be able to write! What sort of things interest you? | |||
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"I still want my little piece of land in Scotland a Croft maybe 50 acres. A few cows, a few hardy goats and some rescue donkeys.
Now that is a nice dream, feels attainable..
50 acres is a lot to manage tho.. Maybe you can set up as a charity and host experiences learning how to drystone wall or harvest heather, plant trees etc etc to help you with free labour!
One of the charities does this already... I'll see if i can find the link
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"To help get the company I’m working for at the moment scaled up enough so we can sell it within 10 years and all retire That sounds exciting! Hard work, but so satisfying if you get it right... May we know the broad industry? " It’s a consultancy firm and we are dealing with a lot of clients that have technology to help get other companies to their carbon neutral and net zero targets so saving the world at the same time | |||
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"To just be truly and totally at peace with my life..whether that happens or not who knows
What do you think will help you to achieve that? What measure will you apply to know you've achieved peace .. Do you think it will be a moving target?
Honestly just to wake up in the morning and feel happy, my life has been a car crash the past three years and I'm only just on the incline again, it's a take each day as it comes... First step was finally getting a home of my own, now it's everything else in my life to level out "Getting a home of your own is a fantastic feeling and achievement... I'm glad life is going in the right direction and hope you tick your boxes off one at a time x | |||
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"For me it's taken a bit of a crisis, and some support from good friends. I'm in the process of making it happen. Fulfilling a childhood ambition. Oh Swing,that sounds exciting! Does it involve writing? Crisis can be good for galvanising us into action! It's good that you have your friends as the wind beneath your wings! Yes. It's sort of the culmination of so much of what I already am. It's just perfect and I'm terrified and excited and utterly unworthy but... Let's do this thing
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Shit together... Sometimes.
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"All my dreams and aspirations went out the window during the winter lockdown, I lost my business and the woman I loved. Picking yourself up is the hardest thing you can do after that, but I am getting there, but it's a slow process" That sounds like a very bruising experience.. Your challenge now will be stopping your internal comparison to what is lost, as it may prevent you from living in the moment and embracing what you have /will have...of course your life is on a different course, maybe you need to set some attainable goals, get them under your belt and focus on the next stepping stones? | |||
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"My dreams aren’t grand… To live in harmony with C with our daily stresses less and for us both to be more economically viable. For my son to grow up responsibly and just continue to make me proud. To continue enjoying this new unexpected lease of life presented to us and embrace and enjoy each and every moment. K " Aww K, you are so smitten and high on life right now, it is infectious | |||
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"My only dream (aside from kid’s future) is to travel. Last year that got blew away, maybe in 10-15 years time instead, but if it doesn’t happen it is not something I will stress over or regret. Just follow the twists and turns of the path and see where they lead. " I like that attitude, new experiences to be gained around each corner if you are open and receptive
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"A curve ball that life has thrown at me is needing knee replacements. I just want to get through that and then hopefully a more active life. Maybe able to dance again. Dancing is a great goal to spur your recovery... My swing teacher had two hip replacements, but was still teaching into his 90s! How long will you need to wait for replacement surgery, do you know ? I have an appointment with a consultant next month. Should have some idea then." Oh brilliant.. Almost a tangible plan! | |||
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"I am chasing my dreams right now OP. With I ever achieve them? Not sure but that isn’t going to stop me. Wow, i have so much admiration for people going after their dreams Are you able to share a flavour of what they are? My dream is ultimately the life that I want to live. How I get there is how I’m chasing it. I can be quite stubborn with no deviating from that dream and that’s why I’ve accepted that I may always be single. To allow someone that deep into my life I have to know that they won’t want to change me or the course of my dream. " Ohhh.. You sound like my DD! Fierce independence is a very attractive quality you'll have to cast aside girls hearts | |||
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"Just to be happy, have good relationships with people. Ideally in Greece by the sea with a beautiful partner who adores me and I adore even more.For my children to be happy and fulfilled in whatever path they choose. Ooo there are a lot of variables in your plan to control... How are you going to bring it into fruition? if things keep going I have a decent pension, I have lot of equity in my flat despite having to start all over again couple of years ago. Combined with the right partners income we can definitely achieve this together. First daughter at Uni already on right track, second doing well and knows what she wants." Nice.. But wait you've not found your goddess yet? | |||
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"Hope to live until 80 and to enjoy each day and to be able to dance, sing and fuck ....... Fucking might require some adjustments in speed , variety and frequency but a fuck of some sorts.... Not much to ask for is it ?" I love it Granny.. What will you sing?? I struck my finger in the woodpeckers hole maybe? | |||
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"I am chasing my dreams right now OP. With I ever achieve them? Not sure but that isn’t going to stop me. Wow, i have so much admiration for people going after their dreams Are you able to share a flavour of what they are? My dream is ultimately the life that I want to live. How I get there is how I’m chasing it. I can be quite stubborn with no deviating from that dream and that’s why I’ve accepted that I may always be single. To allow someone that deep into my life I have to know that they won’t want to change me or the course of my dream. Ohhh.. You sound like my DD! Fierce independence is a very attractive quality you'll have to cast aside girls hearts "Unless they want to share my journey with me though it’s a hard ask | |||
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"To help get the company I’m working for at the moment scaled up enough so we can sell it within 10 years and all retire That sounds exciting! Hard work, but so satisfying if you get it right... May we know the broad industry? It’s a consultancy firm and we are dealing with a lot of clients that have technology to help get other companies to their carbon neutral and net zero targets so saving the world at the same time " Omg i love the thought of saving the world! It sounds like a win win scenario! | |||
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"Just to be happy, have good relationships with people. Ideally in Greece by the sea with a beautiful partner who adores me and I adore even more.For my children to be happy and fulfilled in whatever path they choose. Ooo there are a lot of variables in your plan to control... How are you going to bring it into fruition? if things keep going I have a decent pension, I have lot of equity in my flat despite having to start all over again couple of years ago. Combined with the right partners income we can definitely achieve this together. First daughter at Uni already on right track, second doing well and knows what she wants. Nice.. But wait you've not found your goddess yet? " not quite, missing piece, but I will | |||
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"I would love to run either a wedding planner business or straight party planning, I got the web domain and permission from the council last week, so it hopefully will become a reality in the next year or so. Danish x" That sounds amazing.. I can imagine mostly filled with hard work and happiness ... But you're gonna need a 'omg the shit has hit the fan' plan
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"To stay good and healthy in mind and body and to bring help , kindness and love and compassion into as many people's lives as l possibly can before l kick the bucket ." Aww that is a good mantra
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"In not even sure I have a dream? At the moment I just want to feel happy. I don’t want to be alone" Maybe dreams will come when you attain happiness?? What does not being alone mean to you? Is it having a 24/7 partner.. I can send my mum over if you have space - I'll pay you  | |||
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"Do not have time for dreams I have 642 things to write about. "Then that in itself is your dream and you are fulfilling it?! | |||
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"I am chasing my dreams right now OP. With I ever achieve them? Not sure but that isn’t going to stop me. Wow, i have so much admiration for people going after their dreams Are you able to share a flavour of what they are? My dream is ultimately the life that I want to live. How I get there is how I’m chasing it. I can be quite stubborn with no deviating from that dream and that’s why I’ve accepted that I may always be single. To allow someone that deep into my life I have to know that they won’t want to change me or the course of my dream. Ohhh.. You sound like my DD! Fierce independence is a very attractive quality you'll have to cast aside girls hearts
Unless they want to share my journey with me though it’s a hard ask"What is your journey I'm intrigued! | |||
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"Just to be happy, have good relationships with people. Ideally in Greece by the sea with a beautiful partner who adores me and I adore even more.For my children to be happy and fulfilled in whatever path they choose. Ooo there are a lot of variables in your plan to control... How are you going to bring it into fruition? if things keep going I have a decent pension, I have lot of equity in my flat despite having to start all over again couple of years ago. Combined with the right partners income we can definitely achieve this together. First daughter at Uni already on right track, second doing well and knows what she wants. Nice.. But wait you've not found your goddess yet? not quite, missing piece, but I will"
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"I’d love to own a nightclub or run a security firm but I’m too stupid to do that lol " Lol.. Well it's rare we have all the skills we need, that's what partnerships are for, or if you can swallow your pride, find talented people, hire them and keep them! Then 'grow your own' and let them expand and grow | |||
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"The only barrier for me is a childcare. Co-parenting is a challenge but their dad has been a star recently. I'm not really complaining. My kids dreams and future matter to me more than anything else. It's a loving sacrifice of some things. Or just postponing them. I am good at this waiting game. In a meantime i try and do my things when I can and what I can.. in small chunks, because one day I will be able to put it all together in a one big collage of things which made a difference. Just had a phone call about the course I signed up for and feeling good about it
What about you Midnight ?
You are very artistic Rose, i can see you have a lot of interests and potential paths to explore!
I would like to open my own cafe... Either next to the sea, or in France. It would also double as a cool cookery school... And in the evening it would be licensed and turn into a swing /jazz club with musicians and swing dancing... I'd sell hot brownies with icecream
There would be a secret fetish dungeon below, cooled by a breeze that gently goosepimples the skin.... The furniture would be shared with the cafe, bringing a secret smile as fingers are run along the wooden grain
Barriers are me i guess... The courage to step off the cliff.. I have a very comfortable job, life + income
Your last line resonated with me. I run my own business. When I was relatively young and contemplating quitting my job and starting the business, I had a chat with an accountant friend of my father's who told me that in life you're going to find yourself standing on the edge of a cliff and you have to decide whether you're going to jump or not. I bottled it! Later in life, I was standing on the edge of that same cliff, but this time the drop was much further now and the rocks below were much sharper looking. I jumped! I guess I'd grown. Since then, there hasn't been a single day where I've regretted that decision.
So you are saying jump now or the chasm will become even deeper!
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"Been lucky enough to follow and continue to follow. Although following the dream it has also expanded it in many different ways. Oh are you able to share how you did it and made your dreams reality? " Yes, i have told the story well parts of it. | |||
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"Hope to live until 80 and to enjoy each day and to be able to dance, sing and fuck ....... Fucking might require some adjustments in speed , variety and frequency but a fuck of some sorts.... Not much to ask for is it ? I love it Granny.. What will you sing?? I struck my finger in the woodpeckers hole maybe? "And the woodpecker said GOD bless my soul..... Take it out ..... take it out.... take it out ... God Blimey! No.... only if d*unk ..... I'll sing songs by Nick Drake ...... Leonard Cohen, Bob Dylan .... Lery Lynn, Nick Cave,... Ian Dury .... L.P..... def L.P... and loads of others.... | |||
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I always find it strange as why I chased them though, as they seem to be different from what most of my friends want, and recently I came to the conclusion that my main drive and ambition is to leave a legacy that I'm happy with, regardless of possessions, money or status. | |||
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"I mean it’s not a dream anymore but it used to feel like one for sure. It’s more like a goal and that’s feeling happy and content once I’ve “completed” all the steps towards my transition and me being a woman. I hope I’ll eventually stop feeling in a certain way once that’s done… a girl can dream right? Also, my romantic self thinks that maybe one day I’d love to walk down the isle in a white dress. Who knows if that’s ever gonna happen x " I think u will get your dream of a white dress and u will look stunning x | |||
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"The only barrier for me is a childcare. Co-parenting is a challenge but their dad has been a star recently. I'm not really complaining. My kids dreams and future matter to me more than anything else. It's a loving sacrifice of some things. Or just postponing them. I am good at this waiting game. In a meantime i try and do my things when I can and what I can.. in small chunks, because one day I will be able to put it all together in a one big collage of things which made a difference. Just had a phone call about the course I signed up for and feeling good about it
What about you Midnight ?
You are very artistic Rose, i can see you have a lot of interests and potential paths to explore!
I would like to open my own cafe... Either next to the sea, or in France. It would also double as a cool cookery school... And in the evening it would be licensed and turn into a swing /jazz club with musicians and swing dancing... I'd sell hot brownies with icecream
There would be a secret fetish dungeon below, cooled by a breeze that gently goosepimples the skin.... The furniture would be shared with the cafe, bringing a secret smile as fingers are run along the wooden grain
Barriers are me i guess... The courage to step off the cliff.. I have a very comfortable job, life + income
Your last line resonated with me. I run my own business. When I was relatively young and contemplating quitting my job and starting the business, I had a chat with an accountant friend of my father's who told me that in life you're going to find yourself standing on the edge of a cliff and you have to decide whether you're going to jump or not. I bottled it! Later in life, I was standing on the edge of that same cliff, but this time the drop was much further now and the rocks below were much sharper looking. I jumped! I guess I'd grown. Since then, there hasn't been a single day where I've regretted that decision.
So you are saying jump now or the chasm will become even deeper!
It's scarey isn't it
Hard to say. Timing might just not have been right for me. I did it in the end and took an even bigger risk. "Food for thought! I'm glad its working out | |||
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"Just to be happy." Aww BiBBW.. Is there anything we can do to help you on your happiness journey?? | |||
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"Hope to live until 80 and to enjoy each day and to be able to dance, sing and fuck ....... Fucking might require some adjustments in speed , variety and frequency but a fuck of some sorts.... Not much to ask for is it ? I love it Granny.. What will you sing?? I struck my finger in the woodpeckers hole maybe?
And the woodpecker said GOD bless my soul..... Take it out ..... take it out.... take it out ... God Blimey!
No.... only if d*unk .....
I'll sing songs by Nick Drake ...... Leonard Cohen, Bob Dylan .... Lery Lynn, Nick Cave,... Ian Dury .... L.P..... def L.P... and loads of others.... "Now thats a karaoke party I'd like to be invited to!! I love LC's latest album (produced by his son) | |||
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"I'd like a career rather than going job to job. I'd love to do something which help people who are in a vulnerable position. I'll be looking into this more when I've moved and settled into Ireland. My main goal in life is to make my family happy and create wonderful and positive home memories and be a supportive and loving mama to my babies. Another thing that's important to me is to be confident in myself and more independent. I've made amazing progress over the past few years and I feel like it's something that will continue to grow as time passes. " I love all of these goals! Giving back, self development, pursuit of happiness! | |||
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"My only dream (aside from kid’s future) is to travel. Last year that got blew away, maybe in 10-15 years time instead, but if it doesn’t happen it is not something I will stress over or regret. Just follow the twists and turns of the path and see where they lead. I like that attitude, new experiences to be gained around each corner if you are open and receptive
What places do you have on your travel bucket... And how would you travel... I can see you in a camper van, sketching the local market scene and then cooking under the stars at night "Precisely that, you never know what is around the corner. My travel list is extensive, I could spin the globe throw a dart at it and off I go. Love ancient history, out the way spots and just nature at its finest. What you envision would be ideal, I’d need a chauffeur mind as I don’t drive, but I’d quite happily get on local transport / walk to reach my destination | |||
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"I'm chasing my dreams and I'm confident they'll come true
I always find it strange as why I chased them though, as they seem to be different from what most of my friends want, and recently I came to the conclusion that my main drive and ambition is to leave a legacy that I'm happy with, regardless of possessions, money or status. "I think that is what drives us all .. Whether it be continuity of our genes, or leaving our mark for eternity or at least the next generation What are you planning to achieve ? Are you able to share? | |||
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"I still want my little piece of land in Scotland a Croft maybe 50 acres. A few cows, a few hardy goats and some rescue donkeys.
Now that is a nice dream, feels attainable..
50 acres is a lot to manage tho.. Maybe you can set up as a charity and host experiences learning how to drystone wall or harvest heather, plant trees etc etc to help you with free labour!
One of the charities does this already... I'll see if i can find the link
You are a dream x x x
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"I dint have dreams and aspirations specifically but I want to get my health back on track and be the vesst I can be for my children. I want them to live the best lives they can. I'm proud of all of them. Ab event in my life not that long ago made me realise I couldn't carry on living as I had been and I made lots of changes. So I guess in a way I started a new path. I realised then that all the best plans can be snatched away in seconds so I live each day as it comes instead of planning. " Yes good health is important... We only get one body/life! It's frightening how fast it can be snatched away.. It's a balance/challenge to live in the moment vs waiting for the 'perfect' alignment of the moon and stars that may never come... | |||
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"To be invited by my parents and sister to theirs, for no particular reason or occasion. Achievabilty, unlikely. Regular catch up on phone as substitute definitely doable " Hmm could you start the 'tradition' by hosting at yours, or finding neutral ground and build on that ? I live a long way from my mum so would never have occasion to casually just call by.. And even less likely to pop into my brothers, who is in similar area | |||
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"My only dream (aside from kid’s future) is to travel. Last year that got blew away, maybe in 10-15 years time instead, but if it doesn’t happen it is not something I will stress over or regret. Just follow the twists and turns of the path and see where they lead. I like that attitude, new experiences to be gained around each corner if you are open and receptive
What places do you have on your travel bucket... And how would you travel... I can see you in a camper van, sketching the local market scene and then cooking under the stars at night
Precisely that, you never know what is around the corner.
My travel list is extensive, I could spin the globe throw a dart at it and off I go. Love ancient history, out the way spots and just nature at its finest. What you envision would be ideal, I’d need a chauffeur mind as I don’t drive, but I’d quite happily get on local transport / walk to reach my destination "Oh I hope you get to achieve it one day! I'll be well jel x | |||
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"Being a carer I cannot afford to have either. It is also horrid knowing that for my life to have a kickstart someone else's needs to end "Ahh Hope you are in a very difficult position... I will say how much i admire you though for doing what you are doing, it is unbelievably selfless.. I hope something good comes your way... I'm going to buy you a lottery ticket for MLS | |||
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"To be invited by my parents and sister to theirs, for no particular reason or occasion. Achievabilty, unlikely. Regular catch up on phone as substitute definitely doable Hmm could you start the 'tradition' by hosting at yours, or finding neutral ground and build on that ? I live a long way from my mum so would never have occasion to casually just call by.. And even less likely to pop into my brothers, who is in similar area " Well, they both live less than 6 miles from me, so suffice to say distance, ability to host, availability, doesn't come into it at all | |||
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"To be invited by my parents and sister to theirs, for no particular reason or occasion. Achievabilty, unlikely. Regular catch up on phone as substitute definitely doable Hmm could you start the 'tradition' by hosting at yours, or finding neutral ground and build on that ? I live a long way from my mum so would never have occasion to casually just call by.. And even less likely to pop into my brothers, who is in similar area Well, they both live less than 6 miles from me, so suffice to say distance, ability to host, availability, doesn't come into it at all" Have you taken the bull by the horn and had the difficult conversation to express your desire? What would happen if you just casually called by with some excuse about passing and stopping for a cup of tea? | |||
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"To be invited by my parents and sister to theirs, for no particular reason or occasion. Achievabilty, unlikely. Regular catch up on phone as substitute definitely doable Hmm could you start the 'tradition' by hosting at yours, or finding neutral ground and build on that ? I live a long way from my mum so would never have occasion to casually just call by.. And even less likely to pop into my brothers, who is in similar area Well, they both live less than 6 miles from me, so suffice to say distance, ability to host, availability, doesn't come into it at all Have you taken the bull by the horn and had the difficult conversation to express your desire? What would happen if you just casually called by with some excuse about passing and stopping for a cup of tea? " Expressed desire more than a few times. Response is such the second thing would not happen | |||
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"Being a carer I cannot afford to have either. It is also horrid knowing that for my life to have a kickstart someone else's needs to end
Ahh Hope you are in a very difficult position... I will say how much i admire you though for doing what you are doing, it is unbelievably selfless.. I hope something good comes your way...
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"To be invited by my parents and sister to theirs, for no particular reason or occasion. Achievabilty, unlikely. Regular catch up on phone as substitute definitely doable Hmm could you start the 'tradition' by hosting at yours, or finding neutral ground and build on that ? I live a long way from my mum so would never have occasion to casually just call by.. And even less likely to pop into my brothers, who is in similar area Well, they both live less than 6 miles from me, so suffice to say distance, ability to host, availability, doesn't come into it at all Have you taken the bull by the horn and had the difficult conversation to express your desire? What would happen if you just casually called by with some excuse about passing and stopping for a cup of tea? Expressed desire more than a few times. Response is such the second thing would not happen " Aww i hope you get your desire.. But sometimes we have to accept we cannot influence others | |||
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"I want my kids to live happy and fulfilling lives doing whatever they are passionate about and not necessarily following conventional/traditional societal routes/expectations. For me once the youngest has flown the coop in 5 years I want to move to London.. it was an ambition I never fulfilled in my 20’s which I have always regretted. I’d also like to find a partner who loves me for me, flaws and all & embraces them rather than trying to change me. Sadly, deep, true love & connection has evaded me thus far, but I still have faith. Xx" Ooohhh London! Whereabouts?? I'd love to live in South Bank.. Do you have a portable job? Sometimes we find love when we've stopped looking and it catches us by surprise! | |||
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"In not even sure I have a dream? At the moment I just want to feel happy. I don’t want to be alone Maybe dreams will come when you attain happiness?? What does not being alone mean to you? Is it having a 24/7 partner.. I can send my mum over if you have space - I'll pay you "Haha I’ll pass on that sorry chick
Not being alone to me means feeling wanted, having someone who wants all of you, your flaws included. Anything to take away the void of loneliness that is sometimes so loud it’s deafening
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"Being a carer I cannot afford to have either. It is also horrid knowing that for my life to have a kickstart someone else's needs to end
Ahh Hope you are in a very difficult position... I will say how much i admire you though for doing what you are doing, it is unbelievably selfless.. I hope something good comes your way...
I'm going to buy you a lottery ticket for MLS
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"I want my kids to live happy and fulfilling lives doing whatever they are passionate about and not necessarily following conventional/traditional societal routes/expectations. For me once the youngest has flown the coop in 5 years I want to move to London.. it was an ambition I never fulfilled in my 20’s which I have always regretted. I’d also like to find a partner who loves me for me, flaws and all & embraces them rather than trying to change me. Sadly, deep, true love & connection has evaded me thus far, but I still have faith. Xx Ooohhh London! Whereabouts?? I'd love to live in South Bank.. Do you have a portable job? Sometimes we find love when we've stopped looking and it catches us by surprise! " I luckily do have a very portable job that I can do anywhere. I was in London at Southbank this weekend, it was buzzing, although I’d love to live anywhere by Hyde Park.. pricey but could still manage a small flat. And yes I’ve stopped looking for love and enjoying having fun and quite content atm and maybe one day it will find me when I’m least expecting it! | |||
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"No dreams or aspirations. Happy pootling along in my own sweet time. I know my place in the world, and I'm content. " Contentment is an amazing thing to achieve.. Well done, there will be many envious eyes wondering what your secret is | |||
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"In not even sure I have a dream? At the moment I just want to feel happy. I don’t want to be alone Maybe dreams will come when you attain happiness?? What does not being alone mean to you? Is it having a 24/7 partner.. I can send my mum over if you have space - I'll pay you
Haha I’ll pass on that sorry chick
Not being alone to me means feeling wanted, having someone who wants all of you, your flaws included. Anything to take away the void of loneliness that is sometimes so loud it’s deafening
I don’t even want someone 24/7, just someone on my wavelength who isn’t a dick "Oh yes I know what you mean now.... It's a wonderful feeling.. I think i have found that.. I've gone to great lengths to highlight the flaws.. And still I'm adored.. Its kinda stopped me in my tracks
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"Get to a point in my career where I'm on comfortable money to not have to worry. A life partner to spend time with, share jokes, and just live life "Hmmmmm live to work or work to live? I tell my niece don't get a mortgage, you'll spend your life working to pay it off rather than living and enjoying.. And just being | |||
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"To live a pain free existence. Chances? Remote. Reason(s)? Biology/science. " Oh i wish i had a magic wand, i can't imagine how hard it is for you some days | |||
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"I want my kids to live happy and fulfilling lives doing whatever they are passionate about and not necessarily following conventional/traditional societal routes/expectations. For me once the youngest has flown the coop in 5 years I want to move to London.. it was an ambition I never fulfilled in my 20’s which I have always regretted. I’d also like to find a partner who loves me for me, flaws and all & embraces them rather than trying to change me. Sadly, deep, true love & connection has evaded me thus far, but I still have faith. Xx Ooohhh London! Whereabouts?? I'd love to live in South Bank.. Do you have a portable job? Sometimes we find love when we've stopped looking and it catches us by surprise! I luckily do have a very portable job that I can do anywhere. I was in London at Southbank this weekend, it was buzzing, although I’d love to live anywhere by Hyde Park.. pricey but could still manage a small flat. And yes I’ve stopped looking for love and enjoying having fun and quite content atm and maybe one day it will find me when I’m least expecting it!" It sounds like a great plan, i hope it comes to fruition | |||
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"Get to a point in my career where I'm on comfortable money to not have to worry. A life partner to spend time with, share jokes, and just live life
Hmmmmm live to work or work to live? I tell my niece don't get a mortgage, you'll spend your life working to pay it off rather than living and enjoying.. And just being "When so many choices are financially driven, you can fall into the trap of living to work. I think that's where my desire for financial stability comes from so that I can actually try to enjoy life. | |||
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"My aspersions is to retire at 60 in either turkey or Thailand I'm hammering my pension so in 15 years I'll be living by a beach drinking a cocktail getting my plums played with by a one night stand unless a miracle happens and I find someone who has the same dream as me" That is great! My mate is doing something similar | |||
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"Get to a point in my career where I'm on comfortable money to not have to worry. A life partner to spend time with, share jokes, and just live life
Hmmmmm live to work or work to live? I tell my niece don't get a mortgage, you'll spend your life working to pay it off rather than living and enjoying.. And just being
When so many choices are financially driven, you can fall into the trap of living to work. I think that's where my desire for financial stability comes from so that I can actually try to enjoy life."Yep.. I could defo sell my house and downsize and live more | |||
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"To retire,travel the world in my van,towing my Harley,and no chance it's going to happen anytime soon,I'm just content with being happy,healthy and on here lol." Good to have that longer term dream for when you are potentially ready | |||
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"To live a pain free existence. Chances? Remote. Reason(s)? Biology/science. Oh i wish i had a magic wand, i can't imagine how hard it is for you some days "Thanks Midnight | |||
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"Just to be happy. Aww BiBBW.. Is there anything we can do to help you on your happiness journey?? "Yep…just all of you keep being you. Thank you xxx | |||
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"Gave up on any lofty goals I had years back. Now I’ll be happy as long as never have to work for someone else again and can leave my kids something half decent when I die" Goals don't have to be lofty.. They just need to be personal.. Being your own boss sounds great | |||
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"Also I want to add, if I can dream, I’d love to have my own yoga retreat in Bali or something m, maybe together with my BFF twin. I went to one yoga+surf retreat a couple years ago and it was … amazing! The people were the best and I mean, it was so blissful… I was heart broken at the time (the guy was a douche) and that was exactly what I needed and people bonded together, it felt exciting. So yeah, a girl can dream also this right "The guy must have been a super douche to breat your heart lovely | |||
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"Contentment is an amazing thing to achieve.. Well done, there will be many envious eyes wondering what your secret is" I'd suggest Arthur Schopenhauer is a good place to start. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0cyq02jZV0g | |||
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