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"Why you ask? Well, after chatting to some female friends today who've had the usual drivel in their inbox and who still can't believe the crap they often have to put up with - I did my best to reassure them that there are some very nice guys around and that many still have manners! Just uploaded a few new pics - and 30 secs after - 10 random friends requests, all from guys!! Didn't read that bit in my profile did you fellas? Then the mail starts, the winks and all of a sudden I found myself wondering if i'd suddenly grown tits or if my profile had somehow been swapped with the content of one of fabs finest ladies!! Guys - pleeeeeeeeeaaaaaaasssssssseeeee! Read profiles. Take note of preferences. Show some fucking manners and try and be just a tad respectful!! If the crap I just got sent reflects what the ladies and couples have to deal with - no wonder there's so many 'why can't I' and 'what's the best way to break the ice' threads! It's not often I rant - but fuck me I needed to tonight! Normal 'calm and contented obi' service now resumed!! "When addressing people that don't read much, it's best to get to the point well before the sixth paragraph. Futile exercise otherwise. | |||
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"It's not often I rant - but fuck me I needed to tonight!" To be honest your profile is quite a big read and doesn't explicitly say your not looking for single guys, and your bisexual so i can understand them mailing you. maybe try the good old filters | |||
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"Why you ask? Well, after chatting to some female friends today who've had the usual drivel in their inbox and who still can't believe the crap they often have to put up with - I did my best to reassure them that there are some very nice guys around and that many still have manners! Just uploaded a few new pics - and 30 secs after - 10 random friends requests, all from guys!! Didn't read that bit in my profile did you fellas? Then the mail starts, the winks and all of a sudden I found myself wondering if i'd suddenly grown tits or if my profile had somehow been swapped with the content of one of fabs finest ladies!! Guys - pleeeeeeeeeaaaaaaasssssssseeeee! Read profiles. Take note of preferences. Show some fucking manners and try and be just a tad respectful!! If the crap I just got sent reflects what the ladies and couples have to deal with - no wonder there's so many 'why can't I' and 'what's the best way to break the ice' threads! It's not often I rant - but fuck me I needed to tonight! Normal 'calm and contented obi' service now resumed!! " | |||
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"could you not just use your no males filter" I could - but i'm happy to chat to anyone and get a fair few PM's off the back of forum posts, including male regulars and newbies seeking the odd bit of assistance/advice and the occasional cracking joke! Just wish people would be a little less - how should I put it subtly......rude, ignorant, immature, disrespectful...the list goes on!!  | |||
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"Thought you could opt out of having them show in the most recent gallery" pictures that are uploaded to public view automatically get uploaded to the gallery and you can't opt out. ways to combat this would be to upload them to friends only and then release them to public photo's as a guess | |||
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" i have been studying the pictures intently. and shared them with FSM. we may need to study them some more later, "Im trying to convince Obi to come to Plymouth for a night of partying in Reflex | |||
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" i have been studying the pictures intently. and shared them with FSM. we may need to study them some more later,
Im trying to convince Obi to come to Plymouth for a night of partying in Reflex"ohh perfect... he would love it.. grin..  | |||
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"It's not often I rant - but fuck me I needed to tonight! To be honest your profile is quite a big read and doesn't explicitly say your not looking for single guys, and your bisexual so i can understand them mailing you. maybe try the good old filters" I'd rather have a big read that sets out who I am than a one/two liner. And it does actually state 'primarily looking for couples' and 'will meet single ladies too'. As for filters - I try and avoid them as I like to be as 'inclusive' as possible - but would prefer it if those messaging would at least try to take the 2 odd minutes it would take to read whats written. Wishful thinking eh!!  | |||
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"could you not just use your no males filter I could - but i'm happy to chat to anyone and get a fair few PM's off the back of forum posts, including male regulars and newbies seeking the odd bit of assistance/advice and the occasional cracking joke! Just wish people would be a little less - how should I put it subtly......rude, ignorant, immature, disrespectful...the list goes on!! " Well said!!
I removed my profile from searches ages ago and it's been brilliant. I now get about 1 unsolicited mail a week. It's so much easier without all the dumb one line emails!!
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"Why you ask? Well, after chatting to some female friends today who've had the usual drivel in their inbox and who still can't believe the crap they often have to put up with - I did my best to reassure them that there are some very nice guys around and that many still have manners! Just uploaded a few new pics - and 30 secs after - 10 random friends requests, all from guys!! Didn't read that bit in my profile did you fellas? Then the mail starts, the winks and all of a sudden I found myself wondering if i'd suddenly grown tits or if my profile had somehow been swapped with the content of one of fabs finest ladies!! Guys - pleeeeeeeeeaaaaaaasssssssseeeee! Read profiles. Take note of preferences. Show some fucking manners and try and be just a tad respectful!! If the crap I just got sent reflects what the ladies and couples have to deal with - no wonder there's so many 'why can't I' and 'what's the best way to break the ice' threads! It's not often I rant - but fuck me I needed to tonight! Normal 'calm and contented obi' service now resumed!! "Not all guys are full of crap and drivel ......also you could be forgiven for coming across as patronising....just saying like..... | |||
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"Try cutting your knob off then "Maybe not then. I'll just hush til those in the gang wanna reply... No further comments unless im im in the gang! | |||
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"Why you ask? Well, after chatting to some female friends today who've had the usual drivel in their inbox and who still can't believe the crap they often have to put up with - I did my best to reassure them that there are some very nice guys around and that many still have manners! Just uploaded a few new pics - and 30 secs after - 10 random friends requests, all from guys!! Didn't read that bit in my profile did you fellas? Then the mail starts, the winks and all of a sudden I found myself wondering if i'd suddenly grown tits or if my profile had somehow been swapped with the content of one of fabs finest ladies!! Guys - pleeeeeeeeeaaaaaaasssssssseeeee! Read profiles. Take note of preferences. Show some fucking manners and try and be just a tad respectful!! If the crap I just got sent reflects what the ladies and couples have to deal with - no wonder there's so many 'why can't I' and 'what's the best way to break the ice' threads! It's not often I rant - but fuck me I needed to tonight! Normal 'calm and contented obi' service now resumed!! Not all guys are full of crap and drivel ......also you could be forgiven for coming across as patronising....just saying like..... "
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No further comments unless im im in the gang!"Is there a knob cutting gang?  | |||
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"Try cutting your knob off then
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No further comments unless im im in the gang!"You can be in my gang. | |||
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Is there a knob cutting gang? "If there is, I want to know why I'm not in it. Hmmpphh! | |||
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"Try cutting your knob off then
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No further comments unless im im in the gang!
Is there a knob cutting gang?
If there is, I want to know why I'm not in it. Hmmpphh!"Bobbit. Now that's nominative determinism | |||
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"Try cutting your knob off then
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No further comments unless im im in the gang!
You can be in my gang.
I want to be in your gang. "I'll sort out a secret handshake and some club rules and let you all know. | |||
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"I am not sure why some women and couples say they get so many crap messages....we must be one of the minority as we never get crap messages. Some may not be what we want, but none the less they are not crap or disrespetful. As for not reading profiles...it isn't just single men who do this....the couples who mail us obviously don't read ours either. We just put it down to people taking a chance...as to wind ourselvs up over it would mean we would be putting too much importance on it." If you are feeling left out I am sure we could come up with half a doz crap ones for you. A cople of puwer spullerz and the odd one saying can uz cum over now lik | |||
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"Well I was going to say I pays my money, what happened to my crap mails "I decided to make coco and have a digestive instead | |||
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"Well I was going to say I pays my money, what happened to my crap mails "I'll send you one if you like. I get plenty of examples to work from.
On one hand, my av photo does seem to encourage it, but it's a great photo and I love it, so I want to keep it. And really, no avatar picture should justify rude or crude messages. | |||
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"Ffs, my rant fell off for some reason, but bascally for sngle fems and straight guys use your filters. Its not rocket science! I block those im not interested in if I'M meeting, those who moan about inbox messages, try your filters for what you are after, its not hard, and a bit of a P.S. You arent the only ones who get a lot of messages, I (we) know when to delete or ignore from the first few words. Just saying for those who dont do fllters n moan about lots of messages!" As obi has said, I'd prefer not to have to block an entire gender, just to stop the crap. I've had messages from single men, asking for information - such as where my boots came from - or wanting to comment on a forum post. They wouldn't have been able to message me had I been blocking men. | |||
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"Well I was going to say I pays my money, what happened to my crap mails
I'll send you one if you like. I get plenty of examples to work from.
On one hand, my av photo does seem to encourage it, but it's a great photo and I love it, so I want to keep it. And really, no avatar picture should justify rude or crude messages."Your AV is amazing as is your other pics n profile, but my moan is about people who moan when they dont have the filters off and what they are looking for on their prof. If one is unendated with requests etc. use the filters etc. (Apologies for spelliing, but on my phone) | |||
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"Ffs, my rant fell off for some reason, but bascally for sngle fems and straight guys use your filters. Its not rocket science! I block those im not interested in if I'M meeting, those who moan about inbox messages, try your filters for what you are after, its not hard, and a bit of a P.S. You arent the only ones who get a lot of messages, I (we) know when to delete or ignore from the first few words. Just saying for those who dont do fllters n moan about lots of messages! As obi has said, I'd prefer not to have to block an entire gender, just to stop the crap. I've had messages from single men, asking for information - such as where my boots came from - or wanting to comment on a forum post. They wouldn't have been able to message me had I been blocking men." No offence then, but DON'T moam about people contactng you. Take it as a compliment and move on or block and delete. Its not hard to click delete surely??? | |||
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"Well I was going to say I pays my money, what happened to my crap mails
I'll send you one if you like. I get plenty of examples to work from.
On one hand, my av photo does seem to encourage it, but it's a great photo and I love it, so I want to keep it. And really, no avatar picture should justify rude or crude messages."Define crude? ( don't put your message up though as Admin will tell me for ncouraging you ) Your pics are there to encourage people to look, why would that be bad if anyone mentioned it? | |||
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"Well I was going to say I pays my money, what happened to my crap mails
I decided to make coco and have a digestive instead "Now I had you down as a Horlicks and Hobnob man myself. | |||
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"Well I was going to say I pays my money, what happened to my crap mails
I'll send you one if you like. I get plenty of examples to work from.
On one hand, my av photo does seem to encourage it, but it's a great photo and I love it, so I want to keep it. And really, no avatar picture should justify rude or crude messages."I am confused....what in particular is it about your avatar photo that you feel invites rude or crude messages? | |||
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"Well I was going to say I pays my money, what happened to my crap mails
I'll send you one if you like. I get plenty of examples to work from.
On one hand, my av photo does seem to encourage it, but it's a great photo and I love it, so I want to keep it. And really, no avatar picture should justify rude or crude messages.
Define crude? ( don't put your message up though as Admin will tell me for ncouraging you )
Your pics are there to encourage people to look, why would that be bad if anyone mentioned it?"It's the way it's mentioned that's usually the problem. Not boobs specific but I had an unsolicited message from a total stranger a couple of weeks ago saying something along the lines of he needed to cum in my filthy little mouth very soon. That was it, no introduction, no hi, just that one statement. From a total stranger, that's pretty crude, and presumptuous. I get a lot of similar messages. Just as wearing a low cut top or short skirt out isn't an invitation for crude approaches, nor is my av here. | |||
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"Why you ask? Well, after chatting to some female friends today who've had the usual drivel in their inbox and who still can't believe the crap they often have to put up with - I did my best to reassure them that there are some very nice guys around and that many still have manners! Just uploaded a few new pics - and 30 secs after - 10 random friends requests, all from guys!! Didn't read that bit in my profile did you fellas? Then the mail starts, the winks and all of a sudden I found myself wondering if i'd suddenly grown tits or if my profile had somehow been swapped with the content of one of fabs finest ladies!! Guys - pleeeeeeeeeaaaaaaasssssssseeeee! Read profiles. Take note of preferences. Show some fucking manners and try and be just a tad respectful!! If the crap I just got sent reflects what the ladies and couples have to deal with - no wonder there's so many 'why can't I' and 'what's the best way to break the ice' threads! It's not often I rant - but fuck me I needed to tonight! Normal 'calm and contented obi' service now resumed!! Not all guys are full of crap and drivel ......also you could be forgiven for coming across as patronising....just saying like..... "Just saw this post.....exactly what she said.... | |||
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"Well I was going to say I pays my money, what happened to my crap mails
I'll send you one if you like. I get plenty of examples to work from.
On one hand, my av photo does seem to encourage it, but it's a great photo and I love it, so I want to keep it. And really, no avatar picture should justify rude or crude messages.
Define crude? ( don't put your message up though as Admin will tell me for ncouraging you )
Your pics are there to encourage people to look, why would that be bad if anyone mentioned it?
It's the way it's mentioned that's usually the problem.
Not boobs specific but I had an unsolicited message from a total stranger a couple of weeks ago saying something along the lines of he needed to cum in my filthy little mouth very soon. That was it, no introduction, no hi, just that one statement.
From a total stranger, that's pretty crude, and presumptuous.
I get a lot of similar messages.
Just as wearing a low cut top or short skirt out isn't an invitation for crude approaches, nor is my av here."You describe yourself as 'Kinky'....but you don't expect to receive 'kinky' messages? It's a swingers site....it happens | |||
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"Well I was going to say I pays my money, what happened to my crap mails
I'll send you one if you like. I get plenty of examples to work from.
On one hand, my av photo does seem to encourage it, but it's a great photo and I love it, so I want to keep it. And really, no avatar picture should justify rude or crude messages.
Define crude? ( don't put your message up though as Admin will tell me for ncouraging you )
Your pics are there to encourage people to look, why would that be bad if anyone mentioned it?
It's the way it's mentioned that's usually the problem.
Not boobs specific but I had an unsolicited message from a total stranger a couple of weeks ago saying something along the lines of he needed to cum in my filthy little mouth very soon. That was it, no introduction, no hi, just that one statement.
From a total stranger, that's pretty crude, and presumptuous.
I get a lot of similar messages.
Just as wearing a low cut top or short skirt out isn't an invitation for crude approaches, nor is my av here."Ok talking about spunking in your mouth isn't what you would probably want for a first mail....but that isn't talking about your Av pic. Your pic ( and mine and lots of other peoples ) is on show , so it shouldn't really surprise any of us if we get mail about it? | |||
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"Well I was going to say I pays my money, what happened to my crap mails
I'll send you one if you like. I get plenty of examples to work from.
On one hand, my av photo does seem to encourage it, but it's a great photo and I love it, so I want to keep it. And really, no avatar picture should justify rude or crude messages.
Define crude? ( don't put your message up though as Admin will tell me for ncouraging you )
Your pics are there to encourage people to look, why would that be bad if anyone mentioned it?
It's the way it's mentioned that's usually the problem.
Not boobs specific but I had an unsolicited message from a total stranger a couple of weeks ago saying something along the lines of he needed to cum in my filthy little mouth very soon. That was it, no introduction, no hi, just that one statement.
From a total stranger, that's pretty crude, and presumptuous.
I get a lot of similar messages.
Just as wearing a low cut top or short skirt out isn't an invitation for crude approaches, nor is my av here.
You describe yourself as 'Kinky'....but you don't expect to receive 'kinky' messages?
It's a swingers site....it happens"That's not kinky, (what's kinky about coming in someone's mouth?), it's rude. If we'd been chatting for a bit it might be appropriate. Not as a first message from someone. | |||
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"Well I was going to say I pays my money, what happened to my crap mails
I'll send you one if you like. I get plenty of examples to work from.
On one hand, my av photo does seem to encourage it, but it's a great photo and I love it, so I want to keep it. And really, no avatar picture should justify rude or crude messages.
Define crude? ( don't put your message up though as Admin will tell me for ncouraging you )
Your pics are there to encourage people to look, why would that be bad if anyone mentioned it?
It's the way it's mentioned that's usually the problem.
Not boobs specific but I had an unsolicited message from a total stranger a couple of weeks ago saying something along the lines of he needed to cum in my filthy little mouth very soon. That was it, no introduction, no hi, just that one statement.
From a total stranger, that's pretty crude, and presumptuous.
I get a lot of similar messages.
Just as wearing a low cut top or short skirt out isn't an invitation for crude approaches, nor is my av here.
Ok talking about spunking in your mouth isn't what you would probably want for a first mail....but that isn't talking about your Av pic. Your pic ( and mine and lots of other peoples ) is on show , so it shouldn't really surprise any of us if we get mail about it? "I don't mind people mentioning my av and photos. I'd prefer them not to be crude from the outset, or to message me about meeting when they don't match what I am looking for. | |||
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"Ffs, my rant fell off for some reason, but bascally for sngle fems and straight guys use your filters. Its not rocket science! I block those im not interested in if I'M meeting, those who moan about inbox messages, try your filters for what you are after, its not hard, and a bit of a P.S. You arent the only ones who get a lot of messages, I (we) know when to delete or ignore from the first few words. Just saying for those who dont do fllters n moan about lots of messages! As obi has said, I'd prefer not to have to block an entire gender, just to stop the crap. I've had messages from single men, asking for information - such as where my boots came from - or wanting to comment on a forum post. They wouldn't have been able to message me had I been blocking men. No offence then, but DON'T moam about people contactng you. Take it as a compliment and move on or block and delete. Its not hard to click delete surely???" You're missing the point. I am specific on my profile about what I am looking for. I'd rather not have to keep clicking delete because some men won't read and consider what I've said. I'd also rather not have to block the decent ones, and those with a reason to contact me (like asking about boots) to keep those that think with the little head at bay. Are you suggesting men should not be expected to be able to control themselves? That they shouldn't be expected to read profiles and not approach people who are clearly not interested in them? What's the point of even having profiles if nobody is expected to read them? We could just put up photos and delete everyone who messages us and doesn't appeal. The point of a profile is to invite contact from people we're interested in. | |||
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"I must be doing something right, as I honestly cannot remember receiving any really crude messages. Naughty ones, yes, the most common one along the lines of giving me a pearl necklace! "+1 I can not recall any really filthy messages one here that may have made me boak a bit or think 'how rude'. If I get messages I dont like, I delete but havent have many a rude one. But I do agree, no offence, but if you have the name Kinky etc, expect some kinky messages . I'Ve had loads about my hels bells and laughed. Maybe its my humour, but I can always delete | |||
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"I'd hate to think how some people would manage a real crisis in their lives.... If only every really serious problem in life could be solved with the simple click of a mouse or button....." Or a couple of hours a day, looking at messages, checking the profiles to see if they actually match what I want, sending a thanks but no thanks when they don't, making a note I've declined before so I can block repeat mailers and deleting the message. If I spend just one minute on each message (which I don't because the interesting ones take longer) that's a minimum of an hour every day, dealing with messages. Usually more. Not quite "simply clicking the mouse button". | |||
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"I must be doing something right, as I honestly cannot remember receiving any really crude messages. Naughty ones, yes, the most common one along the lines of giving me a pearl necklace! +1
I can not recall any really filthy messages one here that may have made me boak a bit or think 'how rude'.
If I get messages I dont like, I delete but havent have many a rude one. But I do agree, no offence, but if you have the name Kinky etc, expect some kinky messages . I'Ve had loads about my hels bells and laughed. Maybe its my humour, but I can always delete "Kinky is not the same as rude. I do kinky things with people I like and trust, not with anyone who presumes to send me a filthy message without so much as a hi. Kinky does not mean easy, slutty or free whore for the taking. | |||
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" You're missing the point. I am specific on my profile about what I am looking for. I'd rather not have to keep clicking delete because some men won't read and consider what I've said. I'd also rather not have to block the decent ones, and those with a reason to contact me (like asking about boots) to keep those that think with the little head at bay. Are you suggesting men should not be expected to be able to control themselves? That they shouldn't be expected to read profiles and not approach people who are clearly not interested in them? What's the point of even having profiles if nobody is expected to read them? We could just put up photos and delete everyone who messages us and doesn't appeal. The point of a profile is to invite contact from people we're interested in. " Not missing the point at all. Just missing the use of filters. If you arent interested, use filters, if messages become far too much, browse and delete. It really isnt hard. T just annoys me when people moan abot hundreds of messages when there is a hide profile if overwhelmed by messages or use fllters. Just imagine if it was a single straght guy who moaned about this! | |||
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"I'd hate to think how some people would manage a real crisis in their lives.... If only every really serious problem in life could be solved with the simple click of a mouse or button..... Or a couple of hours a day, looking at messages, checking the profiles to see if they actually match what I want, sending a thanks but no thanks when they don't, making a note I've declined before so I can block repeat mailers and deleting the message. If I spend just one minute on each message (which I don't because the interesting ones take longer) that's a minimum of an hour every day, dealing with messages. Usually more. Not quite "simply clicking the mouse button"." However do you cope? Just as well none of this is compulsory....don't you reckon? | |||
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"I must be doing something right, as I honestly cannot remember receiving any really crude messages. Naughty ones, yes, the most common one along the lines of giving me a pearl necklace! +1
I can not recall any really filthy messages one here that may have made me boak a bit or think 'how rude'.
If I get messages I dont like, I delete but havent have many a rude one. But I do agree, no offence, but if you have the name Kinky etc, expect some kinky messages . I'Ve had loads about my hels bells and laughed. Maybe its my humour, but I can always delete
Kinky is not the same as rude.
I do kinky things with people I like and trust, not with anyone who presumes to send me a filthy message without so much as a hi.
Kinky does not mean easy, slutty or free whore for the taking.". Totally agree, kinky, doesnt mean any of the aforementioned, but if some stranger offered to cum in my mouth, would I be offended? No. I'd just delete if t was a stranger. Ladies on here, without filters etc, need a thick skn. IF you are after sweetness and roses change your name or use filters, or SIMPLY IGNORE and click delete if you arent interested in the frst 2 or 3 words f you are snowed under by messages | |||
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If you have a problems with messages, try filters. Its not hard."*sigh* I'm out since you are incapable of or are stubbornly refusing to comprehend why I don't want to filter mail from all men, and why I shouldn't have to. But I shall continue to do as I like, which includes supporting moaners or even actually moaning when I feel like it. You, as I've pointed out, are free to ignore it. And yes you got the meaning of the 15 hours bit totally wrong, since you asked. | |||
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""Others" who are these please, you said you dont like attention from the guys that send you crude messages, have i got that right? So for the people who have said that they use filters, or dont have problems with unsolicited messages......how can they have sour grapes? Or have i read it wrong... | |||
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If the moaners should just hit the delete button on messages they don't like then maybe the moaners about the moaners should take some of their own advice and pass by the moaning threads they so detest. "I was replying to your posts. And if you thnk there are any sour grapes for lack of attention on forums .... Think again and look in the mirror! | |||
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If the moaners should just hit the delete button on messages they don't like then maybe the moaners about the moaners should take some of their own advice and pass by the moaning threads they so detest.
I was replying to your posts. And if you thnk there are any sour grapes for lack of attention on forums .... Think again and look in the mirror!"Interesting, I didn't mention any names and yet you think it's directed at you. Oh, I wonder why! And since I just looked at your profile and you're not meeting at all, lmao, of course you don't have a problem managing messages. You don't want to meet anyone so can delete them all!!! Oh that's funny! | |||
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If you have a problems with messages, try filters. Its not hard.
*sigh* I'm out since you are incapable of or are stubbornly refusing to comprehend why I don't want to filter mail from all men, and why I shouldn't have to.
But I shall continue to do as I like, which includes supporting moaners or even actually moaning when I feel like it. You, as I've pointed out, are free to ignore it.
And yes you got the meaning of the 15 hours bit totally wrong, since you asked."*SIGHS even louder, not inccapable at all for those who make sense. Just those who moan about messages but have their filters off, but reckon they get 1000's of messages a day that dont fit their own filters. Oh and for your totally wrong thoughts about filters, they can apply to men, or women, or mf couples, or mm couples or ff couples or ts/tgs not for everyone as you said. | |||
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If the moaners should just hit the delete button on messages they don't like then maybe the moaners about the moaners should take some of their own advice and pass by the moaning threads they so detest.
I was replying to your posts. And if you thnk there are any sour grapes for lack of attention on forums .... Think again and look in the mirror!
Interesting, I didn't mention any names and yet you think it's directed at you. Oh, I wonder why!
And since I just looked at your profile and you're not meeting at all, lmao, of course you don't have a problem managing messages. You don't want to meet anyone so can delete them all!!! Oh that's funny!"Why is that funny??? So you can read? Does that mean everyone who messages you can not read? | |||
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"Why you ask? Well, after chatting to some female friends today who've had the usual drivel in their inbox and who still can't believe the crap they often have to put up with - I did my best to reassure them that there are some very nice guys around and that many still have manners! Just uploaded a few new pics - and 30 secs after - 10 random friends requests, all from guys!! Didn't read that bit in my profile did you fellas? Then the mail starts, the winks and all of a sudden I found myself wondering if i'd suddenly grown tits or if my profile had somehow been swapped with the content of one of fabs finest ladies!! Guys - pleeeeeeeeeaaaaaaasssssssseeeee! Read profiles. Take note of preferences. Show some fucking manners and try and be just a tad respectful!! If the crap I just got sent reflects what the ladies and couples have to deal with - no wonder there's so many 'why can't I' and 'what's the best way to break the ice' threads! It's not often I rant - but fuck me I needed to tonight! Normal 'calm and contented obi' service now resumed!! "Hmmm...patronising thread towards your fellow single males to ingratiate yourself with couples and single women...way to go! | |||
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"Why you ask? Well, after chatting to some female friends today who've had the usual drivel in their inbox and who still can't believe the crap they often have to put up with - I did my best to reassure them that there are some very nice guys around and that many still have manners! Just uploaded a few new pics - and 30 secs after - 10 random friends requests, all from guys!! Didn't read that bit in my profile did you fellas? Then the mail starts, the winks and all of a sudden I found myself wondering if i'd suddenly grown tits or if my profile had somehow been swapped with the content of one of fabs finest ladies!! Guys - pleeeeeeeeeaaaaaaasssssssseeeee! Read profiles. Take note of preferences. Show some fucking manners and try and be just a tad respectful!! If the crap I just got sent reflects what the ladies and couples have to deal with - no wonder there's so many 'why can't I' and 'what's the best way to break the ice' threads! It's not often I rant - but fuck me I needed to tonight! Normal 'calm and contented obi' service now resumed!!
Hmmm...patronising thread towards your fellow single males to ingratiate yourself with couples and single women...way to go! "Of course! That's exactly why I did it! It's my way of finally getting some meets and messages! Not! It was a rant. A rare one for me. Born out of sheer disbelief! I'm not gonna quote the messages as thats a rule breaker - but the day I need to start posting 'look at me' style twaddle and arse kissing crap, sucking up to the female/couple contingent will be the day I hang up my hat and join Cliff and Mr Fry in the land of celibacy!! I'm sure we've all wished to vent at times - I just chose to do it, via the forums - not in the hope of sympathy and a rush of messages from the population of fab I am interested in getting to know better saying 'ooh - you're so sensitive and not like all these other twats' - in reality, in the vain hope that some of the people on here who don't seem to understand the need and benefits to themselves of not acting like horny teenagers with a vocabulary of 3 words - might read it and learn something helpful to themselves. But since it's more likely that I'll be having an orgy with a dozen supermodels tonight than the likelihood of these morons even noticing the 'forums' button - guess that's highly unlikely! So - whilst I don't regret for one second posting this - given that it's turned into a bit of a bun fight overnight - I wish some hadn't bothered reading it! | |||
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Yes, another "white knight".
"I suppose I could be a prick and spend my life wasting time not reading profiles and sending cut and paste 'fancy a fuck' messages? Or I could just try and pass on the hint that that never really works and that manners will always get you further? White knight? Hardly!! You lot can easily look after yourselves! | |||
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"I find it annoying rather than an end of the world event. I didn't really say much in this thread until Rugby commented they don't get many rude or disrespectful messages, whereupon I jokingly offered to send them one as I had plenty to use as a template. I was asked for an example and I gave one. I wasn't moaning, but giving an example of what I find disrespectful, because I was asked to. The answer I got was that with a name like kinky I should expect it and I should block all men or shut up. That I object to. Firstly, just as wearing a short skirt isn't an invitation for strangers to touch without permission, my name is a guide to what I enjoy, not an invitation to send crude messages. And secondly, some of the men who contact me are not looking for a meet but want information or such like and some are pleasant individuals I might want to meet. Telling me I should block all of them, totally ignoring that there is a good reason for not doing this, and telling me I should shut up if I don't do it is completely missing the point. I wasn't moaning about the messages. I was disagreeing that I should be expected to block ALL men to solve the problem, a point that was apparently totally missed, or misunderstood. Mass delete is a solution, but leads to the 'it's rude to delete without reading/replying" posts. It's an approach I am seriously considering though. " I was following this thread in bed last night and totally agree with your points.. | |||
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"No disrespect to the op here, seems to me that even though folks say on their profiles/in forums that they are polite and well mannered, there are an awful lot who are only polite until they get a knock back. Seen it a few times now... We give send a mail saying no thanks to get a torrent of abuse... Yet search for their posts in here and see them saying they are 'polite, respectful' etc. People will say anything to get a shag. I'm a cynic eh? " A cynic? On fab? Surely not?
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"Cracking thread, wish I'd thought of it. Put the boot into the opposition, make out I am female sympathy orientated and bag the trim.
Yes, another "white knight".
I suppose I could be a prick and spend my life wasting time not reading profiles and sending cut and paste 'fancy a fuck' messages?
Or I could just try and pass on the hint that that never really works and that manners will always get you further?
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"In the old days threads like this were confined to Thursdays only but I suppose it's good to break the rules once in a while. I for one don't mind being a ghey icon it means I am hot! But with that comes some over enthusiastic attention from the gheys, dudes can be rude and desperate but in my experience so can women. You can use filters I suppose but that would mean I couldn't talk to forum users both male and female in private when I want to talk about another forum member behind their back. I would suggest to the OP that when dealing with rude and pushy people, that don't take no for an answer, threaten to hunt them down and kill them. Then describe how you will kill them. That usually works for me "We don't all have the power and expertise to use the time machine and wipe people out before they become eejits. | |||
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"In the old days threads like this were confined to Thursdays only but I suppose it's good to break the rules once in a while. I for one don't mind being a ghey icon it means I am hot! But with that comes some over enthusiastic attention from the gheys, dudes can be rude and desperate but in my experience so can women. You can use filters I suppose but that would mean I couldn't talk to forum users both male and female in private when I want to talk about another forum member behind their back. I would suggest to the OP that when dealing with rude and pushy people, that don't take no for an answer, threaten to hunt them down and kill them. Then describe how you will kill them. That usually works for me "lol icon of the bum .. xx And do people really mail and chat about other here behind there back .. lol Getting more and more like Easterners here on fab , and i dont look at soaps but kids do at times so i here , lol | |||
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"I am not sure why some women and couples say they get so many crap messages....we must be one of the minority as we never get crap messages. Some may not be what we want, but none the less they are not crap or disrespetful. As for not reading profiles...it isn't just single men who do this....the couples who mail us obviously don't read ours either. We just put it down to people taking a chance...as to wind ourselvs up over it would mean we would be putting too much importance on it." I'm the same Rugby, I'm a girl so obviously get tons of mail but I don't get horrible mail even when I do reply saying can't meet blah blah, in general people are absolutely fine with it. I don't take the volume seriously and I totally understand why guys write one liners, I hardly ever reply to mail n I'm sure I'm not the only one so it's fair enough to one line it or copy n paste to see if any convo is even gonna start. Guys have a life too and just as we can't be arsed trying to answer 1500 emails neither can they be arsed composoing zillions of different versions of an amazing mail to catch someone's attention. There are filters as has been said and to be honest, this absolute trashing of guys gets right on my nerves. Half these complainers would be extremely happy to get one ounce of this attention in a pub or club and in that situation, would the guy be expected to have a poem written out when chatting said complainer up? I think not! Lol chill out n be glad you get messages, you'd have nothing to moan about otherwise! | |||
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"In the old days threads like this were confined to Thursdays only but I suppose it's good to break the rules once in a while. I for one don't mind being a ghey icon it means I am hot! But with that comes some over enthusiastic attention from the gheys, dudes can be rude and desperate but in my experience so can women. You can use filters I suppose but that would mean I couldn't talk to forum users both male and female in private when I want to talk about another forum member behind their back. I would suggest to the OP that when dealing with rude and pushy people, that don't take no for an answer, threaten to hunt them down and kill them. Then describe how you will kill them. That usually works for me "Funky you are funny, mainly because its just so spot on. Basically if you are going to show cock and arse then expect mail from peope who are into cock and arse | |||
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"In the old days threads like this were confined to Thursdays only but I suppose it's good to break the rules once in a while. I for one don't mind being a ghey icon it means I am hot! But with that comes some over enthusiastic attention from the gheys, dudes can be rude and desperate but in my experience so can women. You can use filters I suppose but that would mean I couldn't talk to forum users both male and female in private when I want to talk about another forum member behind their back. I would suggest to the OP that when dealing with rude and pushy people, that don't take no for an answer, threaten to hunt them down and kill them. Then describe how you will kill them. That usually works for me
Funky you are funny, mainly because its just so spot on.
Basically if you are going to show cock and arse then expect mail from peope who are into cock and arse " Much more succinct!
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"Half these complainers would be extremely happy to get one ounce of this attention in a pub or club and in that situation, would the guy be expected to have a poem written out when chatting said complainer up? On the other hand, would you expect him to open with "love your tits" or "I want to shoot my hot cum in your dirty little mouth very soon"? "No I wouldn't because I would be in a pub not on a site where I'm looking for sex! That said, i'd probably laugh and buy him a drink for his cheek! Makes a change from 'do you come here often ' | |||
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"I have to say OP, and I'm not wishing to offend, that the first thought I had when reading your opening post was that it was patronising, but coupled with a 'I've got new pics'. I also find the statement of 'giving the hint to other guys about what messages to send' patronising. Come on you're an adult, you know that having pics of an erect cock with the word 'bi' in your username will attract gay and bi guys. Its hardly going to be a surprise. All of us get unsolicited mail, every single one of us, most of us don't give it a second thought and just delete it. You won't help anyone with your post, everyone will do exactly as they like "actually.... have to fully agree with what Iconic said... My initial thought was "Arrogent, condescending arse".... and "way to run over single guys in that big bus to make yourself look good"..... oh but i am different because........... there as ways of saying what you said that would have got point over better... here is what I believe..... "actions speak louder than words"
the good ones don't need the tirade... the good ones stand out thru their actions... the good ones understand, the good ones go out there and shine and show people not everyone is the same.....
and the sad thing about your tirade is that the most likely the people you are aiming it at are probably not going to take any notice of it at all... it will go in one ear and out the other...
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"Half these complainers would be extremely happy to get one ounce of this attention in a pub or club and in that situation, would the guy be expected to have a poem written out when chatting said complainer up? On the other hand, would you expect him to open with "love your tits" or "I want to shoot my hot cum in your dirty little mouth very soon"?
No I wouldn't because I would be in a pub not on a site where I'm looking for sex! That said, i'd probably laugh and buy him a drink for his cheek! Makes a change from 'do you come here often ' "True, though I certainly wouldn't laugh. Yes this is a sex site but I don't regard the people on it as meat and I won't accept being treated that way. I expect to be treated with a little respect until I get to the stage with someone where more personal comments are acceptable. I'm not a filthy slut, except when I choose to be, with people I like, and I don't expect to be spoken to by strangers as if I am. Sex site or not, everyone deserves a basic level of respect. | |||
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"Well since we are all into providing tips for our fellow forumites, mine is.... Start your message with the title 'the most beautiful woman on the site'. Then the first line should read... You are so gorgeous, I can't believe your beauty. The new paragraph, that's important. Then on second para tyoe 'I want to shove my hard throbbing cock right down your filthy slut mouth and choke you with my cum'. See you've got them to read it at least "I've had that message | |||
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"Well since we are all into providing tips for our fellow forumites, mine is.... Start your message with the title 'the most beautiful woman on the site'. Then the first line should read... You are so gorgeous, I can't believe your beauty. The new paragraph, that's important. Then they would get told off for being over the top flattering lol Then on second para tyoe 'I want to shove my hard throbbing cock right down your filthy slut mouth and choke you with my cum'. See you've got them to read it at least " | |||
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"I have to say OP, and I'm not wishing to offend, that the first thought I had when reading your opening post was that it was patronising, but coupled with a 'I've got new pics'. I also find the statement of 'giving the hint to other guys about what messages to send' patronising. Come on you're an adult, you know that having pics of an erect cock with the word 'bi' in your username will attract gay and bi guys. Its hardly going to be a surprise. All of us get unsolicited mail, every single one of us, most of us don't give it a second thought and just delete it. You won't help anyone with your post, everyone will do exactly as they like
actually.... have to fully agree with what Iconic said...
My initial thought was "Arrogent, condescending arse".... and "way to run over single guys in that big bus to make yourself look good".....
oh but i am different because...........
there as ways of saying what you said that would have got point over better...
here is what I believe.....
"actions speak louder than words"
the good ones don't need the tirade... the good ones stand out thru their actions... the good ones understand, the good ones go out there and shine and show people not everyone is the same.....
and the sad thing about your tirade is that the most likely the people you are aiming it at are probably not going to take any notice of it at all... it will go in one ear and out the other...
whilst in the mean time all this will do is alienate yourself for those who thought "no need......""True - those this was aimed at will probably be too busy to notice - as for alienating people - am i worried? I personally feel a good rant every now and then is nothing but healthy - we've all done it! As for the responses so far? I'm not bothered if others feel this was a 'look at me' thread, or whether they feel I'm right, wrong, or labouring a futile point! I know my motives - a wee vent! And you're quite right about it being sad that those it was aimed at will never read it! I wish to god they would! But whilst the forums continue to be a free and open route for posting opinions, feelings and open debate - ill continue to chuck what I will at them - more often than not rant free, but hey - no guarantees!! And feel free to chuck your opinions straight back! As with all in life there's no right or wrong - and I really don't give a monkeys whether people agree or not! The OP was my opinion - no one else's!!! | |||
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"And that is where live n let live comes in! Just ignore the messages you don't like and concentrate on the ones you do. Like it or not, this is a sex site so people will speak to you in a sexual manner. Surely that doesnt come as that much of a shock to you! "Shock, no. I still think it's disrespectful and entirely unnecessary as a first message. | |||
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"Good post obi, I think it's good for some males to see what some female fabsters have to put up with. I often get messages that I, like kinkyin, would describe as crude. Such as wanting to 'fuck my tight little ass' although it may be tight ( ) but it's definitely not little! And I get messages from those who clearly haven't read the profile. I think I get where kinky is coming from, why should we use filters just because the select lazy or disrespectful ones spoil it for the decent guys?"Not once did I ever say tight | |||
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"Taken me bloody ages to read this thread and not one proper lemon meringue pie has been thrown. This place is going soft "No the OP would give as good as he get so thay hold off , lemon pies. | |||
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"Taken me bloody ages to read this thread and not one proper lemon meringue pie has been thrown. This place is going soft
That's because there is a lemon meringue pie shortage. Someone has cleaned the shelves of them. I still haven't had a slice. It's almost as bad as trying to get a meet with someone you want."That's because I have been buying them all up. Got some here | |||
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That's because there is a lemon meringue pie shortage. Someone has cleaned the shelves of them. I still haven't had a slice. It's almost as bad as trying to get a meet with someone you want."I cannot tell a lie it was me. I bought them all. I even got Lacey Top some as she seems to have taken an interest in them | |||
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"Taken me bloody ages to read this thread and not one proper lemon meringue pie has been thrown. This place is going soft
That's because there is a lemon meringue pie shortage. Someone has cleaned the shelves of them. I still haven't had a slice. It's almost as bad as trying to get a meet with someone you want.
That's because I have been buying them all up. Got some here "I only want one slice... how hard can it be? | |||
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That's because there is a lemon meringue pie shortage. Someone has cleaned the shelves of them. I still haven't had a slice. It's almost as bad as trying to get a meet with someone you want.
I cannot tell a lie it was me. I bought them all. I even got Lacey Top some as she seems to have taken an interest in them "Laceytop is getting my bloody meringue? Not fair. I'm off to start a new thread. | |||
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"We don't seem to get all these crude/abusive or rude emails that some people complain about. Think that there is something wrong with us! lol Yes we get the occasional one but not on a regular basis. We also don't get loads of random friend invites (max a couple a week) even when we have uploaded new photos, will still only get a handful. * Off to sulk now * " | |||
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"Good post obi, I think it's good for some males to see what some female fabsters have to put up with. I often get messages that I, like kinkyin, would describe as crude. Such as wanting to 'fuck my tight little ass' although it may be tight ( ) but it's definitely not little! And I get messages from those who clearly haven't read the profile. I think I get where kinky is coming from, why should we use filters just because the select lazy or disrespectful ones spoil it for the decent guys?
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"Half these complainers would be extremely happy to get one ounce of this attention in a pub or club and in that situation, would the guy be expected to have a poem written out when chatting said complainer up? On the other hand, would you expect him to open with "love your tits" or "I want to shoot my hot cum in your dirty little mouth very soon"?
No I wouldn't because I would be in a pub not on a site where I'm looking for sex! That said, i'd probably laugh and buy him a drink for his cheek! Makes a change from 'do you come here often '
True, though I certainly wouldn't laugh.
Yes this is a sex site but I don't regard the people on it as meat and I won't accept being treated that way.
I expect to be treated with a little respect until I get to the stage with someone where more personal comments are acceptable.
I'm not a filthy slut, except when I choose to be, with people I like, and I don't expect to be spoken to by strangers as if I am.
Sex site or not, everyone deserves a basic level of respect."So what are you going to do about getting the respect you feel you deserve. How are you going to stop these people sending out crude messages. Admin won't do anything about it as these people are entitled to send sexual messages. I never read messages that are crude, or if I have opened the message, ill take a quick look at the type, if I'm not interested I won't read it in full. Yes I agree its not the most courteous and pleasant message to receive and its disrespectful, but I don't let it bother me as I don't care enough to let it get to me | |||
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"Half these complainers would be extremely happy to get one ounce of this attention in a pub or club and in that situation, would the guy be expected to have a poem written out when chatting said complainer up? On the other hand, would you expect him to open with "love your tits" or "I want to shoot my hot cum in your dirty little mouth very soon"?
No I wouldn't because I would be in a pub not on a site where I'm looking for sex! That said, i'd probably laugh and buy him a drink for his cheek! Makes a change from 'do you come here often '
True, though I certainly wouldn't laugh.
Yes this is a sex site but I don't regard the people on it as meat and I won't accept being treated that way.
I expect to be treated with a little respect until I get to the stage with someone where more personal comments are acceptable.
I'm not a filthy slut, except when I choose to be, with people I like, and I don't expect to be spoken to by strangers as if I am.
Sex site or not, everyone deserves a basic level of respect.
So what are you going to do about getting the respect you feel you deserve. How are you going to stop these people sending out crude messages. Admin won't do anything about it as these people are entitled to send sexual messages.
I never read messages that are crude, or if I have opened the message, ill take a quick look at the type, if I'm not interested I won't read it in full. Yes I agree its not the most courteous and pleasant message to receive and its disrespectful, but I don't let it bother me as I don't care enough to let it get to me
"What I did was deleted it and blocked the sender and moved on to the next message. If you look back, Rugby asked for an example of my crude message, so I gave one. I don't like messages like that, hence deleting and blocking the sender but the ONLY reason I mentioned it in this thread was I was asked what I consider to be a crude message. If anyone here thinks that message, from a total stranger, as a first message, isn't crude | |||
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Would only work if the target audience read the thread!
Mind you - just had several more messages from guys (again - still not looking for them!) - but this time the majority showing intelligence and common sense! All got a reply too - might just bookmark this thread (and other similar ones!) and use as a cut and paste reply to the morons! "OP sorry but I didn't read your original post and I didn't bother reading the replies either. That tactic always works for the blokes right? Anyhow I should like to comment that I am mildly turned on by your armpit hair. I would very much like to lick it.
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"I'll be honest mate with this post you just sound like your trying to come across as the perfect single male you need to turn it in mate it's cringe worthy " Ooh - only just spotted this bit so apologies for a late reply!! Cringe away mate!! Guess I should have posted something like this interesting comment I found elsewhere! "I love things like this on here cos single lads get talked about like there off another planet, you don't need more than a couple of lines cos when it comes down to it people make there decision soon as they see your pictures not because you have sent a whitty message, I bet if you sent the words best message but didn't have any pictures you wouldn't get a reply, it's also funny how couples and single women on here seem to never admitt to one line messages or being rude cos there's more couples that are guilty of it than single lads, rant over bye" Or would that have come across a little ranty? | |||
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Would only work if the target audience read the thread!
Mind you - just had several more messages from guys (again - still not looking for them!) - but this time the majority showing intelligence and common sense! All got a reply too - might just bookmark this thread (and other similar ones!) and use as a cut and paste reply to the morons!
OP sorry but I didn't read your original post and I didn't bother reading the replies either. That tactic always works for the blokes right?
Anyhow I should like to comment that I am mildly turned on by your armpit hair. I would very much like to lick it.
I would mail you but as you're only looking for single blokes I won't. "Ha! Now there's a first! Never had my pit hair complemented!! | |||
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"Talking of armpit hair, my ex love it when I pulled it and played with it" THE HAIR!!!!!!! PMSL | |||
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"Talking of armpit hair, my ex love it when I pulled it and played with it THE HAIR!!!!!!! PMSL" We believe you! | |||
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"Talking of armpit hair, my ex love it when I pulled it and played with it THE HAIR!!!!!!! PMSL We believe you! "Thousands wouldn't! Lol Well - its longer than any other I have! Think I'll put it into dreads - or it could be styled to match my Afro wig! | |||
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"i felt the need to go inspect the armpit hair.. it is kinda nice actually..
I love armpit play pmsl "just cos its Jeffery id pluck it with tweezers after handcuffing him securely to the bed | |||
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