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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

So what’s better? Spontaneous heat of the Moment or planned in advance and eagerly anticipated?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This reply was spontaneous and it's hugely disappointing so I'd have to say planned.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Spontaneous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh god spontaneous wins everytime

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Spontaneity is my middle name.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like a good mix, like planning to visit a new place to eat and then wing it and explore

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Spontaneity is my middle name."

No wait… I’m thinking of dignity.

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

Both can be as good as each other

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

I've found when you've got a kid your spontaneity usually takes planning

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I've found when you've got a kid your spontaneity usually takes planning "

Ah yes very true!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Both can be as good as each other "

That’s where i was leaning

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Spontaneity is my middle name.

No wait… I’m thinking of dignity."

Mines Hamish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely planned

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By *LiamMan
over a year ago

Midlands

Prefer planned

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

It depends on who,where,when.

With Mr spontaneous can be the best, we need to often grab the opportunity whilst we can when the kids are out of the house.

With other people planned is good, the build up, planning and anticipation can be exciting.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I like to plan mainly because of an irregular work pattern x

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire


"So what’s better? Spontaneous heat of the Moment or planned in advance and eagerly anticipated? "

they both have their place

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By *revaunanceCouple
over a year ago

Exeter


"So what’s better? Spontaneous heat of the Moment or planned in advance and eagerly anticipated? "

We prefer to plan in advance. With limited time available to meet, planning in advance is less likely to result in us being all ready to play but having no one to play with. That said, we are not averse to pulling someone direct rom the chatroom if we are available nd they are local.

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By *harisajidanWoman
over a year ago

london

Never spontaneous with strangers from Fab. Spontaneous in a club or party, more likely. Planned is the best.

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By *ougie321Man
over a year ago

Milford Haven

Depends where you live

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Prefer planned

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By *iman2100Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

For me it depends if you already know them. If it is a new couple with specific needs, e.g. cuckold, voyeur etc. then planned is best to give the best experience. If you know them then spontaneous can work.

The trouble with 1st time spontaneous is some people think one size fits all and it usually does not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have a balance, I do the homework and the planning, giving Mrs the chance to be spontaneous.

Regarding meets that is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like both. The anticipation when you've planned a meet and being able to get to know each other better over the course of a few weeks than a few hours is great. Although if we're out and in the moment then I'll take what I can get

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

I’ll never do spontaneous. I’m just not wired that way.

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

For safety and personal choice, I never do spontaneous.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Safety is a valid concern fair point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Prefer planned and I love the anticipation of something HOT planned… unless it’s spontaneous in an organic way. Like, you are both out, u meet at a club and it happens that you go home together.

But going out like that u are automatically open to the possibility.. or so I think..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I HATE making a plan, so spare of the moment is always better.... but what if I've not shaved my legs

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove


"I HATE making a plan, so spare of the moment is always better.... but what if I've not shaved my legs "

I suspect the condition of your legs would not influence an offer of spontaneous sex

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

Spontaneous for us

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

Planned is great when it builds anticipation. But somewhat spontaneous can be fun as long as there is time to prepare.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

We need to plan, so we can ensure all the bits n bobs are cleaned, prepared, everyone knows whats likely to happen, any risk assessments are done, we are aware of any physical or mental health issues, triggers, limits, safe words etc.

Spontaneous only happens with people we know well.

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By *oubleswing2019Man
over a year ago

Colchester

Planned.

If you fail to plan, you plan to fail.

This applies to all elements of life.

Planning is paramount.

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