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First Dates BDSM

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Did anyone see it last night and have any thoughts? Would you disclose an interest in BDSM on a first date? How would you react if a first date disclosed it to you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

God I'd be delirious with glee

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"God I'd be delirious with glee"

;-) xx

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I don't watch TV so I haven't seen what you're referring to.

Personally if that happened, and it wasn't outside my comfort zone, I'd get a bit of a flutter in the knicker dept.

C

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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I haven't seen it.

I don't always lead with kinks as its not everything, but there's also some very vanilla people out there to scare off too

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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham


"God I'd be delirious with glee"

Can you record a video rubbing your hands together and mwahahahahaing please!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's the confusing part. If you are very much into kink and cannot imagine a relationship without it, would it make sense to be open about it right from the beginning?

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By *ealthy_and_HungMan
over a year ago

Princes Risborough, Luasanne, Alderney

privately i'd be sceptical that they actually had any more than just a modicum of experience in bdsm, but would give them the benefit of the doubt as it would only be fair to give them the chance to prove that scepticism as unfounded.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

never had anyone disclose to me on a first date but in messages on various dating sites i have....mainly from sissy men or subs which dont interest me.

i have disclosed fairly early on that i swing and all that does is make them just want sex and nothing else.

i want a relationship with kink and swinging involved in someway but seem to be destined to be a swinging spinster forever lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"God I'd be delirious with glee

Can you record a video rubbing your hands together and mwahahahahaing please! "

I'd dramatically swipe my arm across the pub table, pushing everything off, and then pull my pants down as I draped myself across the now empty table

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By *ealthy_and_HungMan
over a year ago

Princes Risborough, Luasanne, Alderney

spilling my pint could be a deal breaker

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As kink is what I'm looking for etc etc I always open with that saves everyone's time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As kink is what I'm looking for etc etc I always open with that saves everyone's time "

Open with that in a real life date or when messaging online? Curious to know how vanilla people react to these things normally.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford


"God I'd be delirious with glee

Can you record a video rubbing your hands together and mwahahahahaing please!

I'd dramatically swipe my arm across the pub table, pushing everything off, and then pull my pants down as I draped myself across the now empty table "

Hang on, let me get my crisps first

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

I would disclose it in messages or social conversation first before meeting for a date.

BDSM is part of who I am so I couldn’t give it up.

That being said, there are always ways of bringing it up in conversation without scaring people away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Didn’t see it

But my normal is vanilla for the first couple off meets

Then a evening off vanilla fun with chat and go over kinks and stuff and see they want to movie forward

Always tell them if it’s not for you just say so don’t bs me with saying ooo yip yip yip bla bla bla get home and message sorry just not that in to it

Just be straight forward with me not going to change the outcome off that night we still have vanilla play regardless if you are in to it or not

Only thing that it will offect is repet meets not saying I will not meet you again as if I am horny and need a vanilla night then you can be a booty call so to speak but as far as regular probably not

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By *ailingSwagmanMan
over a year ago

North Essex / Midlands / Southcoast

I certainly would, It's part of me. Using sites like this helps find those with compatible interests.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s an interesting conversation. We got pregnant before I had the opportunity to disclose my kink to my wife..it’s always been a bit of a niggle between us. She enjoys it but I think she’d probably have thought twice if she knew from the outset. I was trying to suppress my feelings when I met her which I suppose was never going to end well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As kink is what I'm looking for etc etc I always open with that saves everyone's time

Open with that in a real life date or when messaging online? Curious to know how vanilla people react to these things normally."

I'd open with it in real life too, I'm kink focused so if they aren't, no point in moving it forward better we just move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As kink is what I'm looking for etc etc I always open with that saves everyone's time

Open with that in a real life date or when messaging online? Curious to know how vanilla people react to these things normally.

I'd open with it in real life too, I'm kink focused so if they aren't, no point in moving it forward better we just move on "

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