FabSwingers.com forum: How well do you take nice things being said about you?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Maybe it's just me but often I second guess when someone says something nice about me, which I know could be seen as a bit rude but don't mean it that way.

For example I am due to be meeting some one I was in uni with for the first time in 20 years and I was surprised when they said it would be great to catch up.

Do you handle nice things said well?

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

It depends on why they are said really. I tend to take them in the good natured way they are intended most of the time - maybe people genuinely mean/believe what they are saying and I should just allow myself to enjoy that without overthinking.

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I take compliments on here wuth a pinch of salt.

In real life I have learnt to accept them gracefully and try to return the compliment.

In fact I will often tell people if I like something they are wearing or their new hairstyle.

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

I immediately question the motives as nobody ever says nice things to me

I wpuld be concerned

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Not particularly well unless it’s people I know very well.. I question people’s motivations more than their words.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not particularly well unless it’s people I know very well.. I question people’s motivations more than their words."

Snap, i never take it as i was ment to, probaly just me over thinking.

Who am i kidding i dont even remember the last one i had

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone gives me a compliment it all depends on who it's from. If it's a total stranger the first I think is "what does he want?". Sometimes I take them well, sometimes I don't. Just a minute ago, someone called me a babe and whilst it's a compliment, I really don't like the word babe x

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By *ilverjagMan
over a year ago

swansea

It depends on who is saying the nice things and why. From people who don't know me that well, it's always nice to know that people like me, but from certain people especially locally, the first thing that I wonder is, what are you after, and what's your angle???

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By *onb21Woman
over a year ago

Cardiff

I tend to respond with honest thanks. I think it helps feeling less suspicious of the other person's sincerity to show appreciation.

However, quite often I can also feel like an imposter. It depends on how unexpected the compliments are or if they seem disproportionate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It depends on who is saying the nice things and why. From people who don't know me that well, it's always nice to know that people like me, but from certain people especially locally, the first thing that I wonder is, what are you after, and what's your angle???

This! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From a female, I’m grateful and flattered.

From a man, they just want to fuck.

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By *ream2972TV/TS
over a year ago

newquay

I will let you know when someone says something nice about me.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"I will let you know when someone says something nice about me."

Your picture is really good. It's an honest picture , you look good in it and I am liking that hair do ....

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Time , Place, Who, Where, When , What , Why !!!

I don't really have roboticised formulaic responses to every social situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why over think? Take it as said unless obvious proof otherwise.

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By *edsmudgeMan
over a year ago

oxford

"It depends on why they are said really. I tend to take them in the good natured way they are intended most of the time - maybe people genuinely mean/believe what they are saying and I should just allow myself to enjoy that without overthinking."

You should ..

Ps you are soooo hot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I secretly love to get compliments but never know how to outwardly respond or react, so end up trying to return a clumsy compliment.

I think some people fish for them though while others just have some physical or personal quality that deserves recognition.

But the trick for all of this is to determine if the source of the compliment was being sincere..

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

Depends on how genuine the compliments are .

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By *llWomanButNoLadyWoman
over a year ago

Dundee

If somebody compliments me I immediately go on the defensive and think it’s some sort of devious mind fuck. Or I think they must have had traumatic brain injury. I don’t deal well at all hahaha.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends if they are genuine and sound genuine x

I do appreciate compliments from men (but I get a bit uncomfortable if it’s a compliment after the other…)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Appreciate there are many factors that will determine how people react

In the case I quoted, initial thought was why did they not make more effort to keep in touch if it would be so great to catch up.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

You should ..

Ps you are soooo hot"

Thank you Smudge, I'll take that in the well intended, penis activated way it was meant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually brush over them with an awkward thanks and change the subject. They make me uncomfortable but I do appreciate genuine one's from people in real life, not strangers who want to bang me on the internet.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

I’m learning to notice them more; take them as being significant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get really uncomfortable.

I think that they really don't mean it.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I take nice things being said about me well. I smile and thank the person. There was one exception where a colleague went over board and I asked her to stop because it embarrassed me.

I'm pretty good at sussing out the bs from the genuine too. I "know* I'm not the hottest woman on fab for instance

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

If its from people who know me personally then it's nice and I know they mean it. If it's on here and from some random person, I take it with a pinch of salt x

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By *arty84Man
over a year ago

Orpington

Growing up as an ethnic minority in a predominantly white region, has always been a bit of a struggle for myself. Girls would always pass me over, for all my other friends (who were mostly white), so it was always a bit of a confidence destroyer for me that I wasn't good enough for anyone in school, college and uni.

Even though I was great at making friends with almost everyone, I could never quite get anyone to see me as anything more than a friend. So yeah I rarely ever got compliments growing up, but a lot of insults about my looks, appearance or skin colour from bullies, thankfully that sort of thing stopped when I moved off to Uni.

So whenever I get a compliment now, I'm not sure if they are being genuine or sarcastic, really I should just accept them, but a life time of not receiving them has left me somewhat skeptical.

Most people on here seem genuine, so just accept it if someone throws it your way op.

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

I take with a pinch of salt and question there motive

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I only ever compliment people if I genuinely mean it. Is it worth bothering as so many people seem not to believe compliments?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never get them so dont know lol

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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I generally take them well. For I am generally awesome.

People often comment have I lost weight though, erm nope and not since the last time you asked

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends, my mum said recently that no one was more suprised than her when I turned out to be a good mother!! I mean, how Do you take something like that??

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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

I take them badly and go in a strop and assume they are only after my trouser snake or food.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Depends, my mum said recently that no one was more suprised than her when I turned out to be a good mother!! I mean, how Do you take something like that??"

blimey. Did you reply "I learned how not to do it from you?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never reject compliments. Someone is choosing to say something nice about you and you should accept it with grace. You never know when it might stop.

I understand people wonder what people’s motives are at times but that’s none of your business if they want to be scheming

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't take compliments too good I shy away and just become mute

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I only ever compliment people if I genuinely mean it. Is it worth bothering as so many people seem not to believe compliments? "

Definitely worth doing as can often brighten up someone's day

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

If genuine it's nice

But can be embarrassing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On here,I don't believe them.

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

I tend to assume that people are making meaningless mouth-noises purely because our society runs on bullshit and deceit.

At best, it's someone saying something they don't believe because they feel sorry for me.

When the person who paid me the compliment is actually having sex with me, *then* I might start to believe they meant it.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I'm learning to say thank you when someone says something nice.

But it takes a long time and a lot of effort on another person's part to convince me they mean it. And I'm not really worth the effort to convince.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Graciously but with big pinch of salt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *rhugesMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

No I'm rubbish with being given compliments

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I never reject compliments. Someone is choosing to say something nice about you and you should accept it with grace. You never know when it might stop.

I understand people wonder what people’s motives are at times but that’s none of your business if they want to be scheming"

I think it absolutely my business to be concerned with someone's motives if they're towards me

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By *illiamMeetsMan
over a year ago

sunnyside

Sometimes there's no chance of meeting on here due to distance but no harm in saying something nice and passing a compliment. Hopefully they'll smile and appreciate it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe it's just me but often I second guess when someone says something nice about me, which I know could be seen as a bit rude but don't mean it that way.

Do you handle nice things said well? "

Happens so rarely, like Yourself OP,I second guess it thinking I misheard/misread or the message wasn't for me

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By *TK421-Man
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I've lost 6 stone recently and people seeing me constantly comment. I get embarrassed.

It's all honest compliments...

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"I've lost 6 stone recently and people seeing me constantly comment. I get embarrassed.

It's all honest compliments... "

On reading it at first I was going to say well done but I don't want to embarrass you.

I think people try and be kind and sometimes get it wrong.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

I’m fucking awesome so happily take compliments from others as I know they are telling the truth!

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