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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hey. I was just wondering/hoping that someone would be ok to lend an ear. I've had a lot going on recently and have been struggling with my mentally for a while. Things have got on top of me and I feel alone and recently I haven't even got out of bed. I've spoken to crisis team. I don't know what I'm asking for. I just want someone to listen I suppose xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Please

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey, Mister.

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle

Are you sleeping a lot? It sounds like depression. If you have low moods you just want to sleep and not face the world, Hence staying in bed awake or asleep. Bless you xo

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hey

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Are you sleeping a lot? It sounds like depression. If you have low moods you just want to sleep and not face the world, Hence staying in bed awake or asleep. Bless you xo"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've been on medication since o was 16 for depression but over the last week ive probably been out of bed for less than four hours a day

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By *ySweetLadyWoman
over a year ago

London

I'm here if you want to talk, privately or in here

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle

"I've been on medication since o was 16 for depression but over the last week ive probably been out of bed for less than four hours a day"
Aww bless! I know what it's like too. You are having a little relapse? You either can't sleep or sleep too much i'm guessing. You waiting to get help or getting help? x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm here if you want to talk, privately or in here"

That's ok. I'm needing to hear a voice. X

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle

"I'm here if you want to talk, privately or in here

That's ok. I'm needing to hear a voice. X"
See people care! Nice lady bless her. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You'll get through it, Mister.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok I've worked myself up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok I've worked myself up"

What do you mean by worked?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Panic attack

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Panic attack"

Deep breaths.

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By *key1980Man
over a year ago

Okehampton

I can listen if you like

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By *ySweetLadyWoman
over a year ago

London

Please someone help.

I cannot be on the phone and he needs to speak with someone right now.

I thought messages would help but he really needs someone on the phone.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I beg for help

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Please someone help.

I cannot be on the phone and he needs to speak with someone right now.

I thought messages would help but he really needs someone on the phone.

Thank you x

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle

Have you ever rang samaritans or Mind? They can be helpful. You can hear a voice with no judgement and it's a stranger! So can be easier sometimes.

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Have you ever rang samaritans or Mind? They can be helpful. You can hear a voice with no judgement and it's a stranger! So can be easier sometimes. "

Samaritans don't answer through the night and crisis team won't speak anonymously

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have you ever rang samaritans or Mind? They can be helpful. You can hear a voice with no judgement and it's a stranger! So can be easier sometimes.

Samaritans don't answer through the night and crisis team won't speak anonymously "

Samaritans are open 24 hours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Regretfully I'm stuck at work..

Talk to Smaritans/Mind, They're pretty good as at stated above, giving non-judgemental advice and suggesting courses of action.

I also get severe swings (just coming up from one right now) but trust me, things will get better Chap but talk to People, either Messenger or Phone! they say it's good to talk, it hurts like a bugger at the start but once you start, You'll start looking forward and realising that what's happened in the past is in the past, You're here now and looking at the future!

Stay strong Chap and You're not alone

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Have you ever rang samaritans or Mind? They can be helpful. You can hear a voice with no judgement and it's a stranger! So can be easier sometimes.

Samaritans don't answer through the night and crisis team won't speak anonymously

Samaritans are open 24 hours

Have you tried calling them? This isn't the first time I've tried x

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle

"Have you ever rang samaritans or Mind? They can be helpful. You can hear a voice with no judgement and it's a stranger! So can be easier sometimes.

Samaritans don't answer through the night and crisis team won't speak anonymously "
24/7? I've rang a few times and are helpful. I get help with the local Mind and things. Hope you get the help x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Have you ever rang samaritans or Mind? They can be helpful. You can hear a voice with no judgement and it's a stranger! So can be easier sometimes.

Samaritans don't answer through the night and crisis team won't speak anonymously 24/7? I've rang a few times and are helpful. I get help with the local Mind and things. Hope you get the help x"

I've tried.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Good morning Mr..

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle

"Regretfully I'm stuck at work..

Talk to Smaritans/Mind, They're pretty good as at stated above, giving non-judgemental advice and suggesting courses of action.

Stay strong Chap and You're not alone "
So true! It's just managing it and it's okay to have good and bad days.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have you ever rang samaritans or Mind? They can be helpful. You can hear a voice with no judgement and it's a stranger! So can be easier sometimes.

Samaritans don't answer through the night and crisis team won't speak anonymously

Samaritans are open 24 hours

Have you tried calling them? This isn't the first time I've tried x"

I've checked their website and it still says open 24 hours.

I haven't personally called them. I used to work for a charity that did a lot of work with the Samaritans to promote their services.

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle

"Have you ever rang samaritans or Mind? They can be helpful. You can hear a voice with no judgement and it's a stranger! So can be easier sometimes.

Samaritans don't answer through the night and crisis team won't speak anonymously 24/7? I've rang a few times and are helpful. I get help with the local Mind and things. Hope you get the help x

I've tried. "
Aww okay! Just keep trying and remember people care and you are not alone. What matters is you keep trying! x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Have you ever rang samaritans or Mind? They can be helpful. You can hear a voice with no judgement and it's a stranger! So can be easier sometimes.

I've called them. They don't answer. I've called them a few times before and they never answered x

Samaritans don't answer through the night and crisis team won't speak anonymously

Samaritans are open 24 hours

Have you tried calling them? This isn't the first time I've tried x

I've checked their website and it still says open 24 hours.

I haven't personally called them. I used to work for a charity that did a lot of work with the Samaritans to promote their services."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Apologies people. This isn't the place to say this x

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

There's a few of us out here all wishing you well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Apologies people. This isn't the place to say this x"

Dude, it'll always feel like that! You'll sit there staring at the walls and feel them closing in but every time you reach out, you'll see, you're not alone, people do give a stuff (even ones You don't know) and that they're willing to lend an ear, be it message/phone! (personal experience there)

Chin up, Deep breaths, Relaxing bath/shower and scrub the outside clean, then you can start on the inside, speak to your GP as they'll know who to contact as well, might take a while as 1000s of people are suffering after lockdown but it's a start and talk to people here/other sites. Every time You talk to someone it starts slaying those dragons and easing your pain a bit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The NHS website says you can call 111 24 hours a day and you may be able to speak to a nurse, or mental health nurse, over the phone.

Also, have you tried:

Text "SHOUT" to 85258 to contact the Shout Crisis Text Line.

They may have contact numbers for a phone services in your area, other than just Samaritans

I'm sorry I can't be much more help than that at this moment. Sending hugs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its nice people care, bless all the lovely souls

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have you ever rang samaritans or Mind? They can be helpful. You can hear a voice with no judgement and it's a stranger! So can be easier sometimes.

Samaritans don't answer through the night and crisis team won't speak anonymously

Samaritans are open 24 hours

I've called them before at night and they never answer. IDK if it's a new policy or a staffing problem but it's very unhelpful.

OP you could try Shout 85258

which offers confidential 24/7 crisis text support for times when you need immediate assistance:

text "SHOUT" to 85258

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oops, didnt see that had already been posted.

Feel free to inbox me if you still want to chat, OP- I can stay up for an hour or so.

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle

"Its nice people care, bless all the lovely souls

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Oh stop it you will make me cry! Lol I don't like anyone suffering even if i have silently in the past. It's good that people reach out and should be no shame in it! I wish my daddy got the help when i was younger, But i didn't know he was suffering. I still feel guilty he died to suicide.

hope the OP gets the help and support he needs x

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle

"Have you ever rang samaritans or Mind? They can be helpful. You can hear a voice with no judgement and it's a stranger! So can be easier sometimes.

Samaritans don't answer through the night and crisis team won't speak anonymously

Samaritans are open 24 hours

I've called them before at night and they never answer. IDK if it's a new policy or a staffing problem but it's very unhelpful.

OP you could try Shout 85258

which offers confidential 24/7 crisis text support for times when you need immediate assistance:

text "SHOUT" to 85258"
Oh it worked for me! To be fair I've mainly rang through the day. x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Panic attack

Deep breaths."

Thank you xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Panic attack

Deep breaths.

Thank you xxx"

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

PM me your number I will talk to u on the phone? X

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"Its nice people care, bless all the lovely souls

Oh stop it you will make me cry! Lol I don't like anyone suffering even if i have silently in the past. It's good that people reach out and should be no shame in it! I wish my daddy got the help when i was younger, But i didn't know he was suffering. I still feel guilty he died to suicide.

hope the OP gets the help and support he needs x"

Never feel guilty was not your fault! My youngest 3 children's dad committed suicide very very sad x

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I hope that you managed to get to speak to someone.

The Samaritans are a great service but they can take a little while to answer, just keep trying. Beyond that, as others have said, Mind are good and if you’re at crisis point, the NHS can help too.

I’ve been where you are now and I’ve been needing that help too recently, people do care and they will help

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you all for your words of advice last night it is appreciated more than you could know. A special thank you to Jim. I can't explain how grateful I am. I managed to get some needed sleep and my mindset is more positive today. Not all heroes wear capes. Xx

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By *tarflyLouWoman
over a year ago

Preston

"Thank you all for your words of advice last night it is appreciated more than you could know. A special thank you to Jim. I can't explain how grateful I am. I managed to get some needed sleep and my mindset is more positive today. Not all heroes wear capes. Xx"

Glad you’re feeling a little brighter today. Mental health issues are awful and everything always feels worse during the night. Be kind to yourself today x

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Glad to hear this!

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

I will listen xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good news ..breathe walk in the fresh air does wonders...hope you are smiling again very soon !

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Above advice is good. Go for a walk and notice something new.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Small steps, each day at a time

Eat well, fresh air and focus on the little things x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes...I am there at the moment...7 days since a breakdown...

If you want someone to talk to please give me a shout

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle

"Its nice people care, bless all the lovely souls

hope the OP gets the help and support he needs x

Never feel guilty was not your fault! My youngest 3 children's dad committed suicide very very sad x"
Aww thank you! That is kind of you to say. Sorry to hear that bless you xo

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"Its nice people care, bless all the lovely souls

hope the OP gets the help and support he needs x

Never feel guilty was not your fault! My youngest 3 children's dad committed suicide very very sad x Aww thank you! That is kind of you to say. Sorry to hear that bless you xo"

Bless u and take care! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey. I was just wondering/hoping that someone would be ok to lend an ear. I've had a lot going on recently and have been struggling with my mentally for a while. Things have got on top of me and I feel alone and recently I haven't even got out of bed. I've spoken to crisis team. I don't know what I'm asking for. I just want someone to listen I suppose xx"

Hey mister, it does get better.. it does believe me. Your doing the right thing, speaking is a step in the right direction.

Now then i dont know anything about you but i know one thing that helped me aside speaking to someone is fresh air, exercise, whether your into keeping fit or not get out for a walk, jog, run inhale that fresh air i guarantee it will give you strength.

Staying in doesnt help bud

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hello ,l know , believe me ,that life in itself can dismantle anyone at anytime , if there's anything that l could say that in anyway might be of help to you if even in a small way ,it would be just to say to find whatever makes you happy , wether it's listening to music , watching a movie ,going for a swim, a walk, whatever, just find something that you enjoy doing so that you have something to look forward to doing , no matter what it is and most of all , please be kind to yourself , try to focus on what you have rather than what you haven't, best wishes to you in everyway.

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By *iss KissWoman
over a year ago

near Coventry

Has something happened to set you off

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle

Going back to OP post! Hope you get better soon and remember people care.

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

OP, I hope you are feeling a little brighter right now. Remember,baby steps forward are still steps forward. 4 hours a day out of bed is way better than no hours a day out of bed.

Please see your GP and reach out to the services that others have mentioned on this thread.

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