FabSwingers.com forum: Read/unread/deleted?

By *e renard de la campagne OP Man
over a year ago

Surrey mostly when over

I’m curious as to the status of the above?

Deleted speaks for itself presumably.

Unread could mean inbox is jammed full or not interested maybe?

Read but no reply and not deleted could mean can’t be bothered to delete or come back later?

What’s your ‘mail etiquette’?

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By *929Man
over a year ago

bedlington

Don’t get many messages but do try to reply to all even if it polite no thanks. Accept for when first sign back up again and forget to set filters and blokes message despite it clearly saying straight.

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By *e renard de la campagne OP Man
over a year ago

Surrey mostly when over

"Don’t get many messages but do try to reply to all even if it polite no thanks. Accept for when first sign back up again and forget to set filters and blokes message despite it clearly saying straight."

Same here but I guess all us chaps reply as we get so few messages, especially compared to the ladies I’d imagine.

Hope those filters are working! I didn’t know there are filters to be honest. I’d better check mine!!

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By *uietly_KinkyMan
over a year ago

High Wycombe

"I’m curious as to the status of the above?

Deleted speaks for itself presumably.

Unread could mean inbox is jammed full or not interested maybe?

Read but no reply and not deleted could mean can’t be bothered to delete or come back later?

What’s your ‘mail etiquette’? "

Do yourself a favour and delete messages out of your sent box. Nothing helpful comes of monitoring what happened to a message you sent. If you get a reply, great. Otherwise, let it pass from your mind.

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By *e renard de la campagne OP Man
over a year ago

Surrey mostly when over

"I’m curious as to the status of the above?

Deleted speaks for itself presumably.

Unread could mean inbox is jammed full or not interested maybe?

Read but no reply and not deleted could mean can’t be bothered to delete or come back later?

Good advice, thank you

What’s your ‘mail etiquette’?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We thought this thread was going to be a new take on the popular forum game "snog, fuck, avoid"...

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By *e renard de la campagne OP Man
over a year ago

Surrey mostly when over

"We thought this thread was going to be a new take on the popular forum game "snog, fuck, avoid"...

Now that’s a cracking idea! Wouldn’t it be great of the mailbox posted that instead

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over a year ago

"We thought this thread was going to be a new take on the popular forum game "snog, fuck, avoid"...

Now that’s a cracking idea! Wouldn’t it be great of the mailbox posted that instead

Hahaha yeh but you'd just get loads of forum posts by thirsty guys complaining about their messages always coming back as "avoid" then...

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By *e renard de la campagne OP Man
over a year ago

Surrey mostly when over

"We thought this thread was going to be a new take on the popular forum game "snog, fuck, avoid"...

Now that’s a cracking idea! Wouldn’t it be great of the mailbox posted that instead

Hahaha yeh but you'd just get loads of forum posts by thirsty guys complaining about their messages always coming back as "avoid" then...

another fine point, but I’m guessing read would be marry? Delete avoid, leaving read as snog! Id’ take that

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By *onb21Woman
over a year ago

Cardiff

Read and no reply from my side usually means that I don't know what to reply or that I have not got round to it yet.

Or it could be a message that is saying so little that I don't even bother replying that I'm not interested and I just delete it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Delete unread for me most of the time unless it's a friend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Err..I deleted hundreds this week. I usually read first and last sentence. Most of the time I do know after opening line. It just works or doesn't. Out of hundreds I replied to about 10 or less. If I read and deleted it means not interested. I didnt open it yet.. it just means I didn't get round to it.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

I read, sometimes reply but I NEVER bulk delete. To me that’s the height of sheer arrogance if not ignorance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Once a message has been sent, that's up to them what and how they do things.

All that matters to the sender is the reply (if there is one) and what kind of reply that is.

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By *inAndTonic21Couple
over a year ago

Merseyside

We delete all sent unless it needs to be saved as they are there grouped in inbox anyway. We always try to reply to all messages even if no thanks politely, only time we don’t and delete immediately is when it isn’t a humane message haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There can be many reasons for unread or not replied.

Some like a tidy inbox, others aren't so bothered.

I often leave messages unread to show my partner or because we're discussing and haven't yet decided on a reply.

Like I said though, don't let your outbox concern you so much, your inbox is the one that matters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If my messages aren't read after two weeks I delete them,I'm not everyone's cup of tea,so I move on,no drama,no fuss.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Sometimes I leave a message unread if I'm deciding to reply or not.

Some days l'll read a message and then mark it as unread as I don't feel like dealing with it.

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

To be honest I rarely read messages that aren't from people that I already know, so the vast majority of mine stay unread...even when I was looking to meet I've always preferred to message people that I like the look of. I've only ever met one person who I didn't initiate contact with though, it's just the way that I like to do things.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

If message sent and read/deleted without response, block and move on. For read I give it a week.

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

I don't get unsolicited messages so for me it isn't an issue.

On the odd occasion I send one, I delete it so I have no idea if it's been read, ignored or deleted.

The only ones I keep at of those people that I speak to on a regular basis

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

Put the same effort into answering messages as the person who has sent messages so hi how are you doing just get deleted a genuine question will be answered but most of the time if you read our profile we shouldn't get any messages at all.

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

We always mark unsolicited messages as unread before deleting them.

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By *e renard de la campagne OP Man
over a year ago

Surrey mostly when over

"Read and no reply from my side usually means that I don't know what to reply or that I have not got round to it yet.

Or it could be a message that is saying so little that I don't even bother replying that I'm not interested and I just delete it."

I get the deleted, just not quite the read and no reply or no delete….but hey ho, my inbox is like Paris on a lockdown early morning

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By *e renard de la campagne OP Man
over a year ago

Surrey mostly when over

"Delete unread for me most of the time unless it's a friend. "

That makes sense totally…..just not the read and no delete or reply….it’s a tad demoralising

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By *e renard de la campagne OP Man
over a year ago

Surrey mostly when over

"Err..I deleted hundreds this week. I usually read first and last sentence. Most of the time I do know after opening line. It just works or doesn't. Out of hundreds I replied to about 10 or less. If I read and deleted it means not interested. I didnt open it yet.. it just means I didn't get round to it. "

Like your idea, like the rest, jut now I’m repeating myself alas…Hope you’ve had or are having a good one

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By *e renard de la campagne OP Man
over a year ago

Surrey mostly when over

"I read, sometimes reply but I NEVER bulk delete. To me that’s the height of sheer arrogance if not ignorance

Totally with you, although I don’t think people mind being deleted at all as at least you know where you stand

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By *e renard de la campagne OP Man
over a year ago

Surrey mostly when over

"Once a message has been sent, that's up to them what and how they do things.

All that matters to the sender is the reply (if there is one) and what kind of reply that is.

Absolutely

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By *e renard de la campagne OP Man
over a year ago

Surrey mostly when over

"If my messages aren't read after two weeks I delete them,I'm not everyone's cup of tea,so I move on,no drama,no fuss."

Totallly agree, especially no drama or fuss….there’s enough of that in this world as it is

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By *e renard de la campagne OP Man
over a year ago

Surrey mostly when over

"Sometimes I leave a message unread if I'm deciding to reply or not.

Some days l'll read a message and then mark it as unread as I don't feel like dealing with it.

That’s good to know…it’s nice getting replies even if it’s a thank no thanks

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By *e renard de la campagne OP Man
over a year ago

Surrey mostly when over

"To be honest I rarely read messages that aren't from people that I already know, so the vast majority of mine stay unread...even when I was looking to meet I've always preferred to message people that I like the look of. I've only ever met one person who I didn't initiate contact with though, it's just the way that I like to do things. "

Makes perfect sense….good to know too

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By *e renard de la campagne OP Man
over a year ago

Surrey mostly when over

"If message sent and read/deleted without response, block and move on. For read I give it a week. "

That’s a good idea

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By *e renard de la campagne OP Man
over a year ago

Surrey mostly when over

"I don't get unsolicited messages so for me it isn't an issue.

On the odd occasion I send one, I delete it so I have no idea if it's been read, ignored or deleted.

The only ones I keep at of those people that I speak to on a regular basis"

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By *LiamMan
over a year ago

Midlands

I usually just don't read from people I don't want to. So it stays unread until it falls off my inbox

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By *e renard de la campagne OP Man
over a year ago

Surrey mostly when over

"Put the same effort into answering messages as the person who has sent messages so hi how are you doing just get deleted a genuine question will be answered but most of the time if you read our profile we shouldn't get any messages at all.

Lovely profile I’d say and I like the idea of putting in effort in to relying as the sender…if only everyone was like that

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By *e renard de la campagne OP Man
over a year ago

Surrey mostly when over

"We always mark unsolicited messages as unread before deleting them."

Again I get the deleted, just not keeping after reading with no reply….but it doesn’t really matter…just good to know how people thing I guess

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By *e renard de la campagne OP Man
over a year ago

Surrey mostly when over

"I usually just don't read from people I don't want to. So it stays unread until it falls off my inbox"

I wish I had that many messages to choose

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By *JB1954Man
over a year ago

Reading

My thought. Fab states read mail , no reply = not interested. ?

My reason for ? . A lot of females and couples complain about having to many mails in inbox. So if read not interested . They should delete which to me makes sense. Clears inbox etc. If perhaps interested , Can read , then mark as unread. Save for later . ?

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By *e renard de la campagne OP Man
over a year ago

Surrey mostly when over

"My thought. Fab states read mail , no reply = not interested. ?

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over a year ago

"My thought. Fab states read mail , no reply = not interested. ?

We generally do this.

However, to you it makes sense, to others it just leads them to message again and again asking if we're not interested, or suggesting reasons to tempt us.

In a perfect online world, each person would act accordingly.

This isn't a perfect online world.

Many personalities all combining or clashing and leaving people to adapt how they handle messages here.

Best thing to do is send the message, then don't think about what's happened to it, just wait to see if your inbox lights up

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By *e renard de la campagne OP Man
over a year ago

Surrey mostly when over

"My thought. Fab states read mail , no reply = not interested. ?

We generally do this.

However, to you it makes sense, to others it just leads them to message again and again asking if we're not interested, or suggesting reasons to tempt us.

In a perfect online world, each person would act accordingly.

This isn't a perfect online world.

Many personalities all combining or clashing and leaving people to adapt how they handle messages here.

Best thing to do is send the message, then don't think about what's happened to it, just wait to see if your inbox lights up"

That’s my plan……it cou;d be dark here for a wee while mind

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By *JB1954Man
over a year ago

Reading

"My thought. Fab states read mail , no reply = not interested. ?

We generally do this.

However, to you it makes sense, to others it just leads them to message again and again asking if we're not interested, or suggesting reasons to tempt us.

In a perfect online world, each person would act accordingly.

This isn't a perfect online world.

Many personalities all combining or clashing and leaving people to adapt how they handle messages here.

Best thing to do is send the message, then don't think about what's happened to it, just wait to see if your inbox lights up"

I do yes see read messages etc. Like to know not to message again . Sometimes a bit confusing . If not deleted etc .

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By *e renard de la campagne OP Man
over a year ago

Surrey mostly when over

"My thought. Fab states read mail , no reply = not interested. ?

We generally do this.

However, to you it makes sense, to others it just leads them to message again and again asking if we're not interested, or suggesting reasons to tempt us.

In a perfect online world, each person would act accordingly.

This isn't a perfect online world.

Many personalities all combining or clashing and leaving people to adapt how they handle messages here.

Best thing to do is send the message, then don't think about what's happened to it, just wait to see if your inbox lights up

I do yes see read messages etc. Like to know not to message again . Sometimes a bit confusing . If not deleted etc . "

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By *asycouple1971Couple
over a year ago

midlands

If someone reads our message and doesnt reply in a day or two we just block them.

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