FabSwingers.com forum: Is it body shaming?

By *urvySub87 OP Woman
over a year ago

Near Wellingborough

Personal opinion here but I don't think leggings should be worn like trousers. My friend says it's body shaming. I won't deny that some asses look better than others but it's not like I'm saying she shouldn't wear leggings with a short top because I can see her knickers but it's fine on her mate. It's a general opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How they should be worn then? Tied up like a turban?

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

It's not body shaming, you're just fashion policing.

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By *urvySub87 OP Woman
over a year ago

Near Wellingborough

A long top that covers the ass. A short dress. Sorry, I should have explained better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That’s only a problem if you go for cheap leggings

They have they place ie strutting around the house or in a private setting if they black white knickers work the best

For public never go cheap alway expensive they are thicker and will not have that problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personal opinion here but I don't think leggings should be worn like trousers. My friend says it's body shaming. I won't deny that some asses look better than others but it's not like I'm saying she shouldn't wear leggings with a short top because I can see her knickers but it's fine on her mate. It's a general opinion

My opinion, let people wear what they like.

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

I agree OP.

Can I just add the following to the "shouldn't be worn" list:

football shirts

Baseball caps

Uggs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A long top that covers the ass. A short dress. Sorry, I should have explained better"

The ones I buy never have that issue but I read reviews carefully. I know what look you mean. I'm sure I flashed my bra many times at people because of style of dress I chose sometimes. Not a big deal. Not your arse. Not your modesty.

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By *elshkinkyMan
over a year ago

south wales

*removes swans shirt, baseball hat and Wooly boots

And as for leggings… if you wear them make sure they are decent enough to not look like tights IMHO

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

Not body shaming but really not cool anyway.

People should be free to wear what they want.

(Although if they're not dressed correctly for the cold weather in winter they should be shot because they'll make me feel cold)

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By *ittlekinks38Woman
over a year ago

outside belfast x

So how do you suppose ppl are to wear leggings then? If not like trousers? Slightly baffled here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It reminds me.. last time I went out. I had strapless dress and no bra. It was nicely wired on top and secured. There was cleavage of course but I don't have big boobage. There was a woman who kept obsessing about it and coming up to me to pull my dress up several times

She was lucky I was in a brilliant mood and she was too tipsy to comprehend any preachy speech of mine

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

"*removes swans shirt, baseball hat and Wooly boots

And as for leggings… if you wear them make sure they are decent enough to not look like tights IMHO "

Interesting. So you're naked now....?

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By *urvySub87 OP Woman
over a year ago

Near Wellingborough

I think it's more when people wear really thin leggings and you can see their white undies sticking out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to think like that when I wore them but gradually stopped caring when they are practical and comfy. It's a lot more freeing to not care what others think about how I dress now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"*removes swans shirt, baseball hat and Wooly boots

And as for leggings… if you wear them make sure they are decent enough to not look like tights IMHO "

What about Leggings with sheer panels? I think some can be sexy AF

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I had a shortish faux leather skirt that used to wear with leggings. I thought my mum would have (another) stroke it upset her so much. She referred to the skirt which was mid thigh at worst, as a belt and was quite annoyed despite me wearing what was essentially trousers with a skirt over. I'm still not quite sure what her objection was but I think it was because she thought my body was too old to wear an outfit like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only wear leggings with tops that are too long to be shirts but too short to be dresses.

Unless they're a specialty legging like leather look/vinyl/sports leggings as they're usually thicker.

At the end of the day they're just comfy ennit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I spent a long time being told I shouldn’t wear them, and being shamed for what I chose to wear, so now I wear what I want, freedom!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I kind of think opposite when I see that sort of thing.

I can see her underwear...

Does she know...

Probably...

Good for her for not caring!

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

"I think it's more when people wear really thin leggings and you can see their white undies sticking out"

I'm with you on this. Each to their own and all that but personally it's not a look I think looks good on anyone.

I make sure I buy good quality leggings that don't go really see through.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

It's ok to have an opinion OP.

But ultimately other people's clothing choices are exactly that, their choice.

How boring would life be if we all dressed the same

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By *ayHamboMan
over a year ago

Enfield

Sporty leggings -no issue!

Fancy leggings -no issue!

Cotton comfy ones are fine but can really show alot if they're too thin, I'm not complaining but I've observed that a spot of sun could render them virtually transluscent.

It's not shaming in my view, but to point it out is being a friend, to make a point of it borders on making her uncomfortable. I'd say live and let live.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unless you’re a fashion guru (and even then… ) No one should give a fuck. I wear my leggings how I want to wear them. Long shirt or crop top…what is it to other people?!

And I’m not sure if people should judge with lingerie straight outta the 90s.

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By *hocCock1Man
over a year ago

Southampton

This thread needs pics

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By *agpie and RavenMan
over a year ago

Leicester

Call it body shaming if you like, but some people should never wear leggings. Or any tight fitting apparel. They look terrible.

Frank

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By *arakiss12TV/TS
over a year ago

Bedford

Not a big fan of the leggings worn outside,yeh I realise they are comfy and hold everything in but when I see dog hairs and yogurt stains attached combined with a mohair jumper on a Saturday shop it kinda makes me think minimum effort.

A nice pair of heels and dress looks hell of alot better, where's Gok?

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By *ack688Man
over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)

What people choose to wear is nobody’s business but their own

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

"What people choose to wear is nobody’s business but their own "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's not body shaming, you're just fashion policing.

Howling!!!!

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By *eavertrackerMan
over a year ago

Bridgwater

Women should what they want how they want,....own your look xx

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By *onb21Woman
over a year ago

Cardiff

"A long top that covers the ass. A short dress. Sorry, I should have explained better"

Exactly what I've had to do all my life because people don't want to see my huge bum, apparently. So yeah, body shaming.

How we dress is personal expression and a very sensitive topic for many. I'm very averse to any dresscodes and the notion of telling others what to wear unless they asked for advice.

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By *iman2100Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

The flesh coloured ones that pull up between the bum cheeks make the wearers look naked from behind. If that is the look they are going for, fair enough, but please don't complain it it attracts the wrong kind of attention.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The flesh coloured ones that pull up between the bum cheeks make the wearers look naked from behind. If that is the look they are going for, fair enough, but please don't complain it it attracts the wrong kind of attention. "

What do you mean by "wrong kind of attention"? Are we back to victim shaming based on what people wear now?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What kind of wrong attention are you thinking of exactly ?

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I sometimes wonder if the wearer has checked in the mirror how they look from behind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a bona fide MAMIL*, I'm going to take solace from all the 'rock what you want' comments, as I head out into the mountains on the bike today

(* middle aged man in lycra)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a bona fide MAMIL*, I'm going to take solace from all the 'rock what you want' comments, as I head out into the mountains on the bike today

(* middle aged man in lycra)"

Enjoy the solitude and smooth lycra feel !

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By *toC Thats MeWoman
over a year ago

Sheffield

Life is far too short to even think or care about what other people wear in my eyes. Good for them for not giving a damn

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By *arakiss12TV/TS
over a year ago

Bedford

Could be worse, seen a dressing gown and fluffy slippers at the corner shop once.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Call it body shaming if you like, but some people should never wear leggings. Or any tight fitting apparel. They look terrible.

Frank"

I'm calling it body shaming

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

I wear leggings quite often because they are really comfortable and if I'm going to the shop for a few bits I'm not going changing out of them just because people don't like my big ass in them. If you don't like it don't look.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

This thread seems a bit snobbish to me. I've gone to work in dresses with a massive kid snot running up the whole arm. So let's stop with only people who wear leggings look scruffy.

And my bra straps often show in my tops or the bra design can be seen from under my top (impossible to get decent moulded bras at my size). These are no different to any issues with leggings but nowhere near as often highlighted.

Let people wear whatever the heck they like.

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By *arakiss12TV/TS
over a year ago

Bedford

There was a lady near me who used to go to the corner shop in full PVC regalia.

She liked the attention.

Horses for courses, you are entirely free to dress how you please at the end of the day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So long as it's decent and you're not flashing anyone in public, people should feel free to wear what they like. In my opinion.

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By *_elia DominaTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

In its simplest form.

You can provide advice based on your personal experience in fashion & dressing, whoever you should not judge how another dresses.

Example.

I like to wear a thicker legging and invisible knickers to give that smooth bum look under a shorty dress. (Tick)

God girl, yer bums hinging oot yer knickers and those leggings are mare like fishnets. I can see fecking day light through these things..(Just no...!!)

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By *arakiss12TV/TS
over a year ago

Bedford

In the future you'll have those funny mini dresses as seen on Star Trek, funny how you never saw a curvy girl in one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who cares really.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

"A long top that covers the ass. A short dress. Sorry, I should have explained better"

That is exactly Hannah's View. I (Luke) don't have a problem with how they are worn generally. I've grown up around that and it's just normal in my eyes. Plus they do make women's bums, thighs and legs look delectable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This thread seems a bit snobbish to me. I've gone to work in dresses with a massive kid snot running up the whole arm. So let's stop with only people who wear leggings look scruffy.

Let people wear whatever the heck they like. "

Agreed. I rarely managed to hide my bra straps and I don't bother trying most of the time. They are just straps, I'm more concerned when my big arse starts devouring my knickers

that's uncomfortable when they aren't supposed to be up there.

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By *harlotteBigBoobsWoman
over a year ago

Hull

I wear leggings all the time as find them very comfortable , always wear black underwear with though and always a long top to cover my arse

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

"This thread seems a bit snobbish to me. I've gone to work in dresses with a massive kid snot running up the whole arm. So let's stop with only people who wear leggings look scruffy.

Let people wear whatever the heck they like.

Agreed. I rarely managed to hide my bra straps and I don't bother trying most of the time. They are just straps, I'm more concerned when my big arse starts devouring my knickers

that's uncomfortable when they aren't supposed to be up there. "

Nothing as bad as an awkward walk due to your arse eating your knickers

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Knickers with leggings?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Call it body shaming if you like, but some people should never wear leggings. Or any tight fitting apparel. They look terrible.

Frank

I'm calling it body shaming

I've only just got up the nerve to wear leggings at all. So fuck the body shaming fashion police!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This thread seems a bit snobbish to me. I've gone to work in dresses with a massive kid snot running up the whole arm. So let's stop with only people who wear leggings look scruffy.

Let people wear whatever the heck they like.

Agreed. I rarely managed to hide my bra straps and I don't bother trying most of the time. They are just straps, I'm more concerned when my big arse starts devouring my knickers

that's uncomfortable when they aren't supposed to be up there.

Nothing as bad as an awkward walk due to your arse eating your knickers

Yep! Or trying to pull them out discreetly

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By *iltopbearMan
over a year ago

Norfolk

If everybody looked the same....

We'd get tired of looking at each other

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Is it a blanket opinion? If so then, no not body shaming. If it applies to people of a certain body shape or over a certain size then yes it could be.

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

Are you allowed to have an opinion?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't say so if you feel like that about leggings on every woman. But if it's just a certain size that bugs you then yeah I'd say you're body shaming. But I don't get that vibe from reading your post.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not gonna lie! I’m a legs and bum man and I love a lady in leggings!

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By *ugarbearCouple
over a year ago

Tredegar

i love it you can see my knickers thru my leggins and if gives the guys and hardon all good

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By *ddy GirthyMan
over a year ago

Girthy Town

My opinion, let people wear what they like."

Should it even be an opinion and not a factual statement?!

Wear what makes you comfortable

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By *ddy GirthyMan
over a year ago

Girthy Town

I used to think like that when I wore them but gradually stopped caring when they are practical and comfy. It's a lot more freeing to not care what others think about how I dress now

Amen to that… i feel the same when I wear grey joggers

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By *ddy GirthyMan
over a year ago

Girthy Town

"So long as it's decent and you're not flashing anyone in public, people should feel free to wear what they like. In my opinion."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Walmart fashion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you shout it at them or just think it?

You're allowed to have an opinion on things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldnt say its body shaming unless you are saying certain body types shouldn't wear them as trousers.

However I don't think it's any of your business to be honest what people choose to wear. If you don't want to wear them as trousers don't but you don't really get to say whether other people should or shouldn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is reasonable to point out that a friends leggings are see through, that their dress is tucked in the back of their knickers, that they've put their top on inside out - things they may not realise and could appreciate being made aware of.

It is also OK to have an opinion but always worth bearing in mind it is only an opinion and voicing it can cause hurt and upset others. There's that old adage, if you have nothing nice to say, say nothing.

I guess this needs to be tempered with understanding, my step daughter has body confidence issues and often uses filters to slim her face/body in photos and I'm happy to tease her/say they look nothing like her because this is balanced with compliments for her natural look - I am aware that by complimenting such pictures and not saying anything I would be reinforcing her belief that she is not good enough without these effects. I guess in your situation if you felt your friend was dressing in a certain way for a negative reason it may be OK to try to disuade her. If it's just what she's comfy in I'd be questioning if my comments were because I was more concerned about how others may judge her or possibly me for being seen with her, and if those concerns were more important to me than her feeling comfy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always wear leggings and a tshirt. I wear a little thong underneath or nothing and then no one can see my underwear

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