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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’m just curious on how come it’s so hard for men to get a meet on this site and if anyone would have any pointers for me could they chat with me and help out on things I could try or do I’m new to this scene and haven’t tried much and I just can’t seem to find a meet no matter what I try

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

You joined during a pandemic and don't have any public pics? It took me about 9 months to get my first meet, and that was about 14 years ago

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By *TK421-Man
over a year ago

Cheltenham

Well....

My other half told me there's like hundreds of men to 1 woman.

She gets bombarded with messages (even though she's not active and her profile says don't).

I think it might help to have some public pictures?

Maybe fill out your profile more and post the verification?

You aren't alone.

All the best op

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Definitely b good to have some photos up good luck x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

See when I do have pics up I get less replies and I’m limited to what I can post because I’ve a lot of tattoos so I’m easily reckonised

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By *TK421-Man
over a year ago

Cheltenham


"See when I do have pics up I get less replies and I’m limited to what I can post because I’ve a lot of tattoos so I’m easily reckonised "

AHH this.... This is a fair point.

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove


"See when I do have pics up I get less replies and I’m limited to what I can post because I’ve a lot of tattoos so I’m easily reckonised "

Photo with a suit on, partially open necked white shirt (headless photo) maybe ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah so all I can really post is my cock then people ask why I do that I can’t post a body pic while staying discreet as my tattoos are very visable like on my hands neck chest etc

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

There are apps that can blur your ink out op

I'm sure someone will be able to recommend one for you.

The lack of pics will be a big factor for you not getting replies I think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’m just curious on how come it’s so hard for men to get a meet on this site and if anyone would have any pointers for me could they chat with me and help out on things I could try or do I’m new to this scene and haven’t tried much and I just can’t seem to find a meet no matter what I try"

Think you need to te think your profile. It’s no different to hundreds of others. No pictures either which will most off. Best idea is to go to clubs and socials

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, there’s plenty of hard on’s on this site.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

It’s honestly quite easy.

No pictures, you’ll get no interest.

It doesn’t matter what excuse you have for not putting up pictures, it’s a site with absolutely loads of men and very few women. Those guys with pictures up, will be more successful than you !

So either take the advice given or not. As the only other solution is get yourself to a club or social as this site will be of no use.

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)


"See when I do have pics up I get less replies and I’m limited to what I can post because I’ve a lot of tattoos so I’m easily reckonised "

If I didn’t blur out my tattoos I would be recognised straight away - the blurring does work. Plus you could wear a shirt and pants or wrap a towel around you? Try it, what’s the worst that could happen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even if you put photos on here, to many guys to women.

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By *r Rubba LoverMan
over a year ago

Bristol

Just go in a chat room to see the ratio of single guys to any other demographic...

I gave up trying to get meets now...mostly stay for shits n giggles....

Better than someone who giggles n shits... ?

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford


"See when I do have pics up I get less replies and I’m limited to what I can post because I’ve a lot of tattoos so I’m easily reckonised "

Know that feeling! Been spotted by 2 at work this week but I'm ok with that! Long as they realize I dont have time to stand and chat lol x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

See I’ve tried to post pics before but someone has told my family members on multiple occasions that I’m on here so I don’t really trust it anymore and suit isn’t going to work I still have tattoos on my hands and neck

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Firstly, for men it's a numbers issue - you outnumber others by a huge factor.

The typical advice for guys is to use your profile to sell yourself to the biggest possible extent. Some people look for single men, so any that don't stand out, get overlooked. If there are zero public pics, it's even worse People need to find you attractive and a profile without pics has limited chance of being looked at.

Look for profile advice if you think you could improve.

Go to fab socials or clubs to get to know people, so it's not all fixed online.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central


"See I’ve tried to post pics before but someone has told my family members on multiple occasions that I’m on here so I don’t really trust it anymore and suit isn’t going to work I still have tattoos on my hands and neck "

Any pic is better than none. Even an unrecognisable part of your body is better than none.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Use the forum search and read all the other zillions of threads on this topic.

Fab is not a ‘join and you will soon shag’ place.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford


"See I’ve tried to post pics before but someone has told my family members on multiple occasions that I’m on here so I don’t really trust it anymore and suit isn’t going to work I still have tattoos on my hands and neck "

Ahh ok get that if u dont want people knowing u here! My family know so not a problem x

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere


"See I’ve tried to post pics before but someone has told my family members on multiple occasions that I’m on here so I don’t really trust it anymore and suit isn’t going to work I still have tattoos on my hands and neck "

Post in the Ireland forum

Whats wrong with your family knowing you're on here...it's not illegal

Your profile is your shop window and you have your shutters down

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By *estcountryDadBodMan
over a year ago

Exeter

Public pics and send a pic of your cock to every women they love that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me I was concerned about public pics at first but then was like the only folk going to see me are folk in this site? Felt like if they’re here then they can’t judge me/ say anything for being here too?

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire


"See I’ve tried to post pics before but someone has told my family members on multiple occasions that I’m on here so I don’t really trust it anymore and suit isn’t going to work I still have tattoos on my hands and neck "

You either take advice or ignore it, just don’t give excuses why you can’t do something.

Currently you have a blank profile with a bit of writing on it. The guys who are showing pictures and some of them even their faces are going to be more successful than you.

If a woman has endless choices on here, do you honestly think you stand out ?

Take the advice or not, go to clubs or not, it’s up to you.

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace


"For me I was concerned about public pics at first but then was like the only folk going to see me are folk in this site? Felt like if they’re here then they can’t judge me/ say anything for being here too? "

This!!! The only people who will see your pictures are people on here, there are privacy settings so you don't show up on websearches with your profile name.... And honestly this is no worse than other places to be seen on, you're a man looking for a woman same as any other site, you need to make yourself appealing to us

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By *ollybirdWoman
over a year ago

east Cork


"See I’ve tried to post pics before but someone has told my family members on multiple occasions that I’m on here so I don’t really trust it anymore and suit isn’t going to work I still have tattoos on my hands and neck

You either take advice or ignore it, just don’t give excuses why you can’t do something.

Currently you have a blank profile with a bit of writing on it. The guys who are showing pictures and some of them even their faces are going to be more successful than you.

If a woman has endless choices on here, do you honestly think you stand out ?

Take the advice or not, go to clubs or not, it’s up to you. "

This

Just excuses as to why you can’t. Everything is manageable if you want it to be. Download a picture editing app for yourself and play around with the pictures. You are not the first person on here with recognisable tattoos (I have some myself), and you certainly won’t be the last.

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

It is

1) Disproportionate amount of males here looking for easy sex

2) A lot of the females here are not interested in meeting only attention. You only need to read profiles and the forums to understand that

3) The females that are looking, are looking to meet specific types of guys, which is not the average male on this site. It's not like Tesco Home Delivery - Substantiations are not accepted.

4) The majority of couples are looking for females fulfil their fantasies. Only a smaller number are actually looking to meet guys and only specific types of guys.

Given this there is only very small chance to meet anyone. So yes being hard here is such an understatement.

It is hard for couples also unless you are a guy of the couple and happy to sit in the bar while the other couple share your partner.

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By *100Man
over a year ago

Essex

Mate you need to be bi or gay as I get men wanting my cock all day long on on here

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By *og-ManMan
over a year ago

somewhere

Op to be honest you're better off leaving the site if you just want to come on ,make up stuff, and complain as it gets you nowhere

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