FabSwingers.com forum: Profile tweak

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Following some earlier disappointment, I’ve updated my profile. I don’t often ask this but I’d like some honest feedback on it please, from anyone who has a few moments spare.

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By *iBBWLondonWoman
over a year ago

London

"Following some earlier disappointment, I’ve updated my profile. I don’t often ask this but I’d like some honest feedback on it please, from anyone who has a few moments spare."

Honestly, it sounds very similar to what you had before; I’m struggling to find anything that’s changed, tbh, but that isn’t a bad thing. It says what you’re looking for and why, it states who you are in a light hearted but sensible way, and seems well thought out and considered.

I hope your disappointment doesn’t last too long; it’s their loss xxx

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

I didn't read it all...it's just too long for me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Following some earlier disappointment, I’ve updated my profile. I don’t often ask this but I’d like some honest feedback on it please, from anyone who has a few moments spare.

I hope your disappointment doesn’t last too long; it’s their loss xxx"

Thank you for looking. x The changes are small, you’re right, but may be significant in the future.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I didn't read it all...it's just too long for me."

Yeah, I know it’s a bit more than a paragraph; a side effect of having to explain a lot, unfortunately.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

"I didn't read it all...it's just too long for me.

Yeah, I know it’s a bit more than a paragraph; a side effect of having to explain a lot, unfortunately."

Good luck, hope it works for you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I didn't read it all...it's just too long for me.

Yeah, I know it’s a bit more than a paragraph; a side effect of having to explain a lot, unfortunately.

Good luck, hope it works for you."

Thank you! x

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By *ack688Man
over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)

Ok, honest feedback, as weird as this might sound, I’ve re-written your profile to really trim it down without losing any of its essence. If you want it I’m happy to post it and you can steal bits or use pieces or whatever you want, or completely ignore it.

I can’t message it to you so I would need to post it here I guess??

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I didn't read it all...it's just too long for me."

Same

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

It's fine, if a little longer than necessary.

Covers everything a potential meet might need to know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I kind of skim read it, because it is quite long. The relevant bits were at the top so that’s good.

Good pics, and overall it wouldn’t put me off if you were what I was looking for.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It's fine, if a little longer than necessary.

Covers everything a potential meet might need to know."

I think that’s the only time anything related to me will be ‘longer than necessary’

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I kind of skim read it, because it is quite long. The relevant bits were at the top so that’s good.

Good pics, and overall it wouldn’t put me off if you were what I was looking for. "

Thank you x

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

You have listed all relevant information tbf

The only thing I didn't like was the way it was set out as in bullet points, I'd much prefer a flowing story with that information, but thats just me x

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

I’m sorry that’s a short novel not a profile

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Hey OP! Erm, I don't dislike your profile.

You're now open to repeat meets? Before you said about no socials, has that changed?

Another thing, previously it was very much more geared towards very casual, club meets. Now I'm not quite certain. It sounds like you're open to club meets and repeat ones at that but now... I'm not too sure.

I'd probably edit it to be blunt. It's not a bad profile by any stretch of the imagination but... I'd be interested if it was that time in my cycle and less waffly. Coming from me, waffle central, that says a lot.

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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

Its very long and slightly militant. It's informative, but I honestly gave up reading

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Bedford (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

I'm just here for the pics... oh, and Fabathon ... and Winkathons... and any other type of 'thons'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I kinda like your style but there's something a bit off key ... I wonder if it's a bit too negative / self depricating.

I get what you're doing and we aren't in dissimilar boats ... But it doesn't make me think "this guy is gonna be a great person to share a drink with" more "he's grown a bit cynical with it all".

But the style does make me think you have something about you.

Yeah. I'm conflicted. I wonder if others see that ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You have listed all relevant information tbf

The only thing I didn't like was the way it was set out as in bullet points, I'd much prefer a flowing story with that information, but thats just me x"

That was just so the most important stuff didn’t disappear into just another block of text. People skip stuff that’s too wordy….as many of the replies here attest to.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’m sorry that’s a short novel not a profile

Haha! Yeah…I’ve tried to shrink it, but to no avail without losing relevant details.

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By *uddy laneMan
over a year ago

dudley

Put an 'i' infront of your name, go faster stripes and a turbo badge.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn’t read it all either, it’s way too long. I know a lot of people don’t like them but I always like at least one dick pic, mainly just to perv over though haha. It looks like you have a sexy, big dick so you should show it off.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hey OP! Erm, I don't dislike your profile.

You're now open to repeat meets? Before you said about no socials, has that changed?

It was never a case of ‘no socials’, only nothing that was too much like a date; but I probably didn’t explain that too well. If someone wanted to meet for a coffee to check we click or even just verify I’m who I claim to be, that was never a problem. But I’m not going out to dinner for example, as per some expectations I’ve seen here.

That was also the reason for the old statement around keeping things to a play dynamic. Repeat meets were never of the cards, as long as they were in that context and everyone involved wanted to. What was never going to happen was popping over on a Saturday afternoon for a cuppa, again because there’s an undertone, at least to me, that some people expect that wider friendship.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Its very long and slightly militant. It's informative, but I honestly gave up reading

I should probably give a free Red Bull out with it.

I assume the ‘militant’ part is around the bullet points? I get that, if so. That’s by design however, so those bits are all crystal clear.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I kinda like your style but there's something a bit off key ... I wonder if it's a bit too negative / self depricating.

I get what you're doing and we aren't in dissimilar boats ... But it doesn't make me think "this guy is gonna be a great person to share a drink with" more "he's grown a bit cynical with it all".

But the style does make me think you have something about you.

Yeah. I'm conflicted. I wonder if others see that ?

Maybe they do. I’m not loud, but I’m no wallflower either. The self-depreciation is just part of my sense of humour; if anyone doesn’t get the lightheartedness in it, they probably won’t get the rest of me!

It’s almost an auto-filter in that respect.

I’m keen to know where you drew the cynicism from. I may be a little jaded, but as a married man playing solo, it’s a hard sell here…..just a plain fact.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I didn’t read it all either, it’s way too long. I know a lot of people don’t like them but I always like at least one dick pic, mainly just to perv over though haha. It looks like you have a sexy, big dick so you should show it off. "

You didn’t check the boing vid then?

But yeah, I know it’s ’War and Peace’-esque, my situation just takes a fair bit of explanation. Hi

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah….. so……I undid my rage quit and I’m back. New profile text too, how about that?

Managed to shorten it so you don’t need a spare hour to go through it.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

That was a fucking big profile tweak

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Yeah….. so……I undid my rage quit and I’m back. New profile text too, how about that?

Managed to shorten it so you don’t need a spare hour to go through it.

Oh I remember this!

OP, as long as you're happy with it that's all that counts really. No more mantrums, get yourself to the Brummie social!

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

"Yeah….. so……I undid my rage quit and I’m back. New profile text too, how about that?

Managed to shorten it so you don’t need a spare hour to go through it.

Oh I remember this!

OP, as long as you're happy with it that's all that counts really. No more mantrums, get yourself to the Brummie social!

Mantrums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah….. so……I undid my rage quit and I’m back. New profile text too, how about that?

Managed to shorten it so you don’t need a spare hour to go through it.

Oh I remember this!

OP, as long as you're happy with it that's all that counts really. No more mantrums, get yourself to the Brummie social!

Yeah, I think I’m happy with it.

As for the Brum social, read the description and with a solo man’s hat on and let me know if it doesn’t sound like the most unwelcoming offer going.

I’ll be going to something, but not that.

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