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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm not great at approaching women for dating, so how and what is the best way to approach a lady. What do you say to them and how do you let them know your interested in them? For example you see someone in a shop, or a lady walking down the street?

I'd like more than just swinging now, and want someone to go home to also.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

smile and say good morning/afternoon/evening

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

not an expert but an air of confidence will help

good luck

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Its a difficult one because some women might find it a bit creepy if a strange man approached just to say how attractive he thought they were. You don't know if they've been stalked or assaulted in the past and might knee you in the balls before running away screaming. Your best bet is probably to catch their eye and smile nicely (don't leer!) and, if they respond, maybe start chatting. If they do not respond, leave them alone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What I've done in the past is just walked up to them and either told them how nice they look and that they have caught my eye and would they be interested in going for a coffee and a chat...surprisingly the bold approach seems to work. It would be awful to go through life wondering what if so I always take the bull by the horns so to speak. Mind you this type of approach does bomb too so it's not foolproof lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And never approach from the front head on or from directly behind. A proven scientific study found that a high percentage of females felt intimidated by the above method but felt more assured when males approached from side on. I can understand the 'approaching from behind' but not from the front. Perhaps you ladies have an opinion on it??

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Mr fusion you can take me for a coffee anytime x

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I despair of you dan, but as your adopted mother and from the threads you have written, it might be worth investing in some confidence boosting classes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mr fusion you can take me for a coffee anytime x"

Anytime you fancy it just let me know...nice corset btw xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I despair of you dan, but as your adopted mother and from the threads you have written, it might be worth investing in some confidence boosting classes"

I know, never have had any confidence kinda sucks affect me a lot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Smile followed by good-whatever is an ice breaker.

If the lady is remotely interested, she'll respond in kind.

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By *evilwolfCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Oh dear me Dan work at it mate.. He who dares wins

Wolf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think we need some sort of confidence lessons for Dan. Sadly I'm a bit too far away to help!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think we need some sort of confidence lessons for Dan. Sadly I'm a bit too far away to help!"

Would be great, I am desperate

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By *empnbunkCouple
over a year ago

south coast

"I despair of you dan, but as your adopted mother and from the threads you have written, it might be worth investing in some confidence boosting classes"

Or a wee bottle if chloroform and some hankies

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"I despair of you dan, but as your adopted mother and from the threads you have written, it might be worth investing in some confidence boosting classes

Or a wee bottle if chloroform and some hankies

Now there's a chat up line! *holds out hanky* 'Does this smell of chloroform to you?'

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Do something that not many men do where there are lots of women. A community choir - never enough men and it really doesn't matter if you can't sing. It will build your confidence, get you meeting lots of women and give you something to talk about. You might even find you have a voice.

Volunteering - lots of options there.

Pottery class - all the ones I have ever attended only ever had one gay man in each of them and loads of hot single women.

If you are even slightly religious go to Church - someone will fix you up quicker than you can say Amen.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Do something that not many men do where there are lots of women. A community choir - never enough men and it really doesn't matter if you can't sing. It will build your confidence, get you meeting lots of women and give you something to talk about. You might even find you have a voice.

Volunteering - lots of options there.

Pottery class - all the ones I have ever attended only ever had one gay man in each of them and loads of hot single women.

If you are even slightly religious go to Church - someone will fix you up quicker than you can say Amen."

I told a guy i know whose a little overweight and looking for a girlfriend to join his local slimming class lol

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Seriously, if you lack a certain cheek and charm wrapped in confidence... DO NOT approach women in the street! You're more likely to be pepper sprayed or kicked in the nuts for being a weirdo.

Socialise, go out with friends and meet people, join in activities and interests where you will meet other people of your age group.... and if all else fails, stalk a few on facebook.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Eye contact, smile. If she smiles back, you're golden.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Eye contact, smile. If she smiles back, you're golden."

But they might think hes abit deranged walking down the street smiling to himself

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Volunteering - lots of options there.

Pottery class - all the ones I have ever attended only ever had one gay man in each of them and loads of hot single women.

If you are even slightly religious go to Church - someone will fix you up quicker than you can say Amen."

My mate joined a cookery class to meet women. He was most put out to find out they were all attached.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Join a gym, half of fab are members of a gym somewhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Speed dating? Sounds like it could be fun, and I have been tempted to attend such an event.

However, events for my age group is far and between.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

...... I just hang at the juice-bar and perv.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go to a Gay sauna for the straight in denial bi guys.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

You could join gingerbread but i think you have to have a child to join lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You could join gingerbread but i think you have to have a child to join lol"

..... he can borrow mine!

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"Speed dating? Sounds like it could be fun, and I have been tempted to attend such an event.

However, events for my age group is far and between.

I have been speed dating in the dim and distant past and you need a bit of confidence to make an impression. Build confidence and then throw yourself into it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think we need some sort of confidence lessons for Dan. Sadly I'm a bit too far away to help!"
hummmn near me tho lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not great at approaching women for dating, so how and what is the best way to approach a lady. What do you say to them and how do you let them know your interested in them? For example you see someone in a shop, or a lady walking down the street?

I'd like more than just swinging now, and want someone to go home to also."

There are 5 rules to follow.

1/Don't get your cock out.

2/Smile but normal not like an inane chimp.

3/Don't touch till asked.

4/Say something funny.

5/Ask her if she would accompany you to a swingers club for a coffee.

*Disclaimer* I am not responsible for results be them good bad or pregnant.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

easy one!

carry a big bag.

approach from the front and look longingly into her eyes and smile.

then trip and fall.

when she bends over to help you, throw her into the bag and take her home

if that fails.

plan B. just be youself! trust fate and it will happen!

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By *empnbunkCouple
over a year ago

south coast

"I despair of you dan, but as your adopted mother and from the threads you have written, it might be worth investing in some confidence boosting classes

Or a wee bottle if chloroform and some hankies

Now there's a chat up line! *holds out hanky* 'Does this smell of chloroform to you?'

Just dont accomodate could be rather awkward in the morning

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

trip her up and throw yourself under her to break the fall

not coming to court though if it goes pear shaped

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