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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Okay, odd one as I hate melodramatic posts, but I wonder, what do you do as a cope mechanism when you feel in the cusp of crying but can’t cry?

I feel like I’ve been a bit emotionally constipated the past few days and I am on the brink of crying and it’s almost there, but it’s not coming out. And I know thatd release a lot of tension that I’ve been building up

As a good cry is always good … any tips? Or suggestions x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find something that I know will make me cry. I'd rather get it out on my own terms than it be brought on by something out of my control especially as I hate crying in front of other people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's a cry that is needed, then a good trigger song etc works. For me it's Bright Eyes.

The other thing is to just sit with it. Allow yourself that almost cry feeling. That's what you need right now.

Finally, write it all down. Don't edit just write.

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By *iltopbearMan
over a year ago

Norfolk

Think about something that has really hurt in the past, a loved one you miss.... The tears will come

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Look at what triggered the emotion. If it's not clear, write down the time, what you were doing etc to try and establish a pattern. Rather than cry, is there anyone you can hug? Or talk to your bestie?

Emotional blockage isn't healthy, I've been there. I wish you all the best

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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I normally take a good healthy dosage of emotional, cathartic laxatives and that helps me take an emotional crap so I feel less crap.

That could be in the form of sad music (Damien Rice appeals to my pseudo tortured artist soul), a sad film that I know is guaranteed to get things moving along (The Notebook, Pan's Labyrinth - anything featuring children, death, complicated love stories). Or I read something that tugs like The Selfish Giant (I think that's the name, it's by Oscar Wilde!).

Or I go the other way and do things that will boost my endorphins - a 5k waddle, even meditating. Oh and yoga! My friend has seen me so many times just crying randomly in her studio and she knows I just need to let it out. I hope you have a satisfying emotional poo soon

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"If it's a cry that is needed, then a good trigger song etc works. For me it's Bright Eyes.

The other thing is to just sit with it. Allow yourself that almost cry feeling. That's what you need right now.

Finally, write it all down. Don't edit just write. "

Thanks, I’ve been on the brink so many times today it’s almost there but I need an intense cry to get this out of me

I might have to watch Marley and me or something x

Thanks btw

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I normally take a good healthy dosage of emotional, cathartic laxatives and that helps me take an emotional crap so I feel less crap.

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I love this sentence so much, just the way you worded it is brilliant.

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By *im75Her77Couple
over a year ago

937 S.W.

If it is a film that you want to cry to, try The Lovely Bones.

Be forewarned, feelings of revenge anger might follow.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I normally take a good healthy dosage of emotional, cathartic laxatives and that helps me take an emotional crap so I feel less crap.

That could be in the form of sad music (Damien Rice appeals to my pseudo tortured artist soul), a sad film that I know is guaranteed to get things moving along (The Notebook, Pan's Labyrinth - anything featuring children, death, complicated love stories). Or I read something that tugs like The Selfish Giant (I think that's the name, it's by Oscar Wilde!).

Or I go the other way and do things that will boost my endorphins - a 5k waddle, even meditating. Oh and yoga! My friend has seen me so many times just crying randomly in her studio and she knows I just need to let it out. I hope you have a satisfying emotional poo soon "

Thanks my lovely! X

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By *ack688Man
over a year ago

abruzzo Italy (and UK)

Find somewhere you can be comfortably loud like maybe in your car somewhere, put on a really powerful emotionally meaningful song at high volume and sing/scream along with it, it’s not the same as crying but has the same sort of emotional release

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Managed to cry my eyes out like a baby girl

for an hour straight, then had some food and a sleep and now I feel much much lighter xx

Thanks for the tips peeps xxx

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By *iltopbearMan
over a year ago

Norfolk

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