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By *rJay1878 OP   Man
over a year ago

koh Phangan

Just out of curiosity…

I’m a single male, and I 100% understand the bombardment and rude messages and approaches that people get here, but I feel that some single guys get painted with the same brush as the not so nice ones.. just interested in seeing people’s views. Just curious that’s al

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

It doesn't really matter tbh.

Be yourself and that will shine through.

If someone thinks all single males are dicks, then they aren't going to be interested in you anyway and so they aren't worth worrying about.

There are plenty of people on here that do recognise and appreciate the decent single guys. Give them your attention.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually don’t agree !!

Yeah course dudes on here can be creeps I’ve heard story’s alright

But If you don’t bang on dick pic’s

Or detail in your first sentence how you want to fuck her

and actually try stand out with good chat more often then not you get a reply good or bad !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get a lot of messages from single men and most of them are just a few words long and very much straight-to-the-point. Personally I think that’s fine as I know exactly what they’re expecting and I always tend to reply as I’ll happily consider meeting up with a man at short notice if I can. I soon lose interest though if they continue to send messages that are only a few words long, I can understand the first message being like that as they’re just gauging interest but once I’ve shown I’m interested I like to see a little bit more in their replies. When someone can only think of a few words to write in their message it just makes me think that they’re not going to be particularly good company, both socially and sexually as it shows a lack of imagination, enthusiasm and charisma. I will continue to reply to all messages I receive though as I like to give everyone the benefit of the doubt but most of the time I know what the outcome’s going to be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As I was typing that someone has replied to me with an intriguing and conversation developing message that said ‘Yes’...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have enough brushes for all single guys here so some do get painted with the same one and rightly so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Due to the site been inudated with hundreds of single males to every female or couple (do local searches to check) its inevitable that many of these guys are the further thing from genuine swingers.

It's much easier for a guy to pull / meet people in real life, pubs, work nightclubs etc that on fab.

Even Tinder where the male female ratios are in balance is far easier. However the platform is built on getting your face picture out into all the singletons in your immediate geographic area. Not something that would appeal to many cheaters is it.

The volume of single men here trying to cheat on partners is also very high. Swinging is not cheating its the absolute opposite, swinging for most couples is built on trust, love and a strong central relationship.

Most of these guys wouldn't go straight up to a women or couple in the pub and the first thing you say before any sort of introduction is "can we meet for sex now?“ in most cases you'd be told to fuck off, get a slap etc. That's because in the real world manners, respect, charm and been a gentleman are critical to any chance of meeting new people who are some point may entertain the idea of having sex.

It's absolutely no different on here and in the swinging world.

Swinging is a life style choice built on respect and social engagement. The successful single male swingers know this and act accordingly. They go to clubs, social events to meet other swingers socially (first) which leads to them been meet verified. This in turn opens more doors such as the private house parties etc.

Far to many men come here because they have zero social skills to be able to succeed in real life and wrongly think that Fab is a free escort / hooked site.

We specifically meet single males in fact its what we are looking for currently. We have also met a few genuine single male swingers whom are a credit and asset to this lifestyle and local swinging community.

KJ

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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago

harrow

Here are my thoughts. Being a single male is a challenge I would say.

1) all it’s the number of other single guys. Women and couples have their pick of who and what they want. Often you may not get a response or even an acknowledgment if you have written the best message in the world

2) I would say I could count on two hands the amount of people I have just met through fabs. As in I have messaged them we have spoken then we have met. Nearly all the people I have met has been though club scene. Why if your in the club scene people know you are real, they can make a judgement if they want to play or just chat

3) a lot of guys just want a fuck. Yes I think we all do but at least start by introducing yourself and being a little bit polite rather than fancy a fuck

4) personal space - this is my ultimate pet peeves. I don’t understand people who invade i or there personal

Space without at least asking and also reading the signs

5) letching and not speaking. Again a massive issue. I treat you the same if your a couple, female , male. If I am talking to you, it doenst mean i want to fuck you. Just I am having a natter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Due to the site been inudated with hundreds of single males to every female or couple (do local searches to check) its inevitable that many of these guys are the further thing from genuine swingers.

It's much easier for a guy to pull / meet people in real life, pubs, work nightclubs etc that on fab.

Even Tinder where the male female ratios are in balance is far easier. However the platform is built on getting your face picture out into all the singletons in your immediate geographic area. Not something that would appeal to many cheaters is it.

The volume of single men here trying to cheat on partners is also very high. Swinging is not cheating its the absolute opposite, swinging for most couples is built on trust, love and a strong central relationship.

Most of these guys wouldn't go straight up to a women or couple in the pub and the first thing you say before any sort of introduction is "can we meet for sex now?“ in most cases you'd be told to fuck off, get a slap etc. That's because in the real world manners, respect, charm and been a gentleman are critical to any chance of meeting new people who are some point may entertain the idea of having sex.

It's absolutely no different on here and in the swinging world.

Swinging is a life style choice built on respect and social engagement. The successful single male swingers know this and act accordingly. They go to clubs, social events to meet other swingers socially (first) which leads to them been meet verified. This in turn opens more doors such as the private house parties etc.

Far to many men come here because they have zero social skills to be able to succeed in real life and wrongly think that Fab is a free escort / hooked site.

We specifically meet single males in fact its what we are looking for currently. We have also met a few genuine single male swingers whom are a credit and asset to this lifestyle and local swinging community.

KJ"

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

It’s less to do with being tarred with the same brush and more to do with numbers

Woman can only open so many messages s day, when they are getting 100s a day, there’s a greater chance yours will just go u opened

So take the time to build a nice profile, read theirs, and craft a stimulating 1st message, then watch it get lost in a sea of dick pics and FAF messages. It’s pointless.

My advice for single guys is always the same. Use tinder for meets, much better results for all guys. Use fabs to enjoy the forum and wait for couples/women to message you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Patience rewards

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Most single guys are actually decent nice guys from my experience on here .yes there are some cockwombles but they are just ruining their own chances on here.

Yes some women and couples get inundated with messages and I'm sure they get a fair few faf ones in those but to be fair the site gives you ways to deal with the amount of messages you get that can drastically cut down on the amount. If people choose not to use them well their choice. A lot of couples and women prefer to sit back and not message someone first then complain about how no one messages them that they like .Yet again that is in their own hands .It just seems easier on here to blame to men all the time than take responsibility for their their journey on here.

A good profile that tells a bit about you and some decent pics will also help a guy on their journey as it's your profile will draw people in.

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick


"It’s less to do with being tarred with the same brush and more to do with numbers

Woman can only open so many messages s day, when they are getting 100s a day, there’s a greater chance yours will just go u opened

So take the time to build a nice profile, read theirs, and craft a stimulating 1st message, then watch it get lost in a sea of dick pics and FAF messages. It’s pointless.

My advice for single guys is always the same. Use tinder for meets, much better results for all guys. Use fabs to enjoy the forum and wait for couples/women to message you."

You say that, but I found Tinder almost impossible yet I get chatting to lots of women on here.

If I wanted to I could have had loads of meets, it's just I've choosen not to (I can be picky and I'm not in any rush).

Maybe my approach is too relaxed and not direct enough? Maybe I'm wanting the social too much for Tinder and that benefits me here? I have no idea.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham


"It’s less to do with being tarred with the same brush and more to do with numbers

Woman can only open so many messages s day, when they are getting 100s a day, there’s a greater chance yours will just go u opened

So take the time to build a nice profile, read theirs, and craft a stimulating 1st message, then watch it get lost in a sea of dick pics and FAF messages. It’s pointless.

My advice for single guys is always the same. Use tinder for meets, much better results for all guys. Use fabs to enjoy the forum and wait for couples/women to message you.

You say that, but I found Tinder almost impossible yet I get chatting to lots of women on here.

If I wanted to I could have had loads of meets, it's just I've choosen not to (I can be picky and I'm not in any rush).

Maybe my approach is too relaxed and not direct enough? Maybe I'm wanting the social too much for Tinder and that benefits me here? I have no idea."

That’s very odd. Maybe some guys do better on here, but most will do better on tinder.

Despite what people think too, tinder isn’t much of a hook up site. You’ll very rarely get a hook up without atleast a social first. It’s great for dating and fwb situations, but very rare to get “come over and fuck” offers unless your in that top 10% of looks + body

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Similar to the thinking that women hold all the power on this site.

Maybe they do but only if you are trying to chat to them as a collective.

Contrary to popular opinion it is possible to lower your expectations without lowering your standards.

Chat to people as equals and you might find those pedestals can often be imaginary.

Far too many base their approach on pics they see on a profile.

A good pic means someone is handy with a selfie, it doesn't mean they deserve special attention or adulation.

Focus on the quality of your profile and your messages rather than a shotgun approach and your fab experience will improve gradually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It’s less to do with being tarred with the same brush and more to do with numbers

Woman can only open so many messages s day, when they are getting 100s a day, there’s a greater chance yours will just go u opened

So take the time to build a nice profile, read theirs, and craft a stimulating 1st message, then watch it get lost in a sea of dick pics and FAF messages. It’s pointless.

My advice for single guys is always the same. Use tinder for meets, much better results for all guys. Use fabs to enjoy the forum and wait for couples/women to message you.

You say that, but I found Tinder almost impossible yet I get chatting to lots of women on here.

If I wanted to I could have had loads of meets, it's just I've choosen not to (I can be picky and I'm not in any rush).

Maybe my approach is too relaxed and not direct enough? Maybe I'm wanting the social too much for Tinder and that benefits me here? I have no idea.

That’s very odd. Maybe some guys do better on here, but most will do better on tinder.

Despite what people think too, tinder isn’t much of a hook up site. You’ll very rarely get a hook up without atleast a social first. It’s great for dating and fwb situations, but very rare to get “come over and fuck” offers unless your in that top 10% of looks + body "

I'm with cockasaurus. Tinder is really tough I find. I'd say I'm average looking and a little bit out of shape and that probably shows in my fat head. I got very matches and even fewer responses to messages I sent to those matches.

I reckon that as a rule of thumb Tinder and Fab are pretty similar. If you're above average looking and in good shape you'll get the vast majority of the attention. I'm not convinced amazing bios or selling yourself massively increases your chances. Sure it does for some but I've read dozens of male profiles on here where it's basically just a load of dick pics (usually a large one! ) and a couple of lines saying they're after a bit of fun.

Like I said l, there are obviously exceptions to the rule and personality does play a big part for a lot of people but good looking, in shape, well-endowed guys will (almost) always go to the front of the queue regardless of how shit their bio is.

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

o/p join in with forum and cam chat. Get noticed and as the saying goes, patience is a virtue. Good luck!

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

The proper Swinger guys tend be nice to speak, it's the Tinder brigade that are usually arses.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So we all get tarred with the same brush....so what,just put more effort in the everyone else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Due to the site been inudated with hundreds of single males to every female or couple (do local searches to check) its inevitable that many of these guys are the further thing from genuine swingers.

It's much easier for a guy to pull / meet people in real life, pubs, work nightclubs etc that on fab.

Even Tinder where the male female ratios are in balance is far easier. However the platform is built on getting your face picture out into all the singletons in your immediate geographic area. Not something that would appeal to many cheaters is it.

The volume of single men here trying to cheat on partners is also very high. Swinging is not cheating its the absolute opposite, swinging for most couples is built on trust, love and a strong central relationship.

Most of these guys wouldn't go straight up to a women or couple in the pub and the first thing you say before any sort of introduction is "can we meet for sex now?“ in most cases you'd be told to fuck off, get a slap etc. That's because in the real world manners, respect, charm and been a gentleman are critical to any chance of meeting new people who are some point may entertain the idea of having sex.

It's absolutely no different on here and in the swinging world.

Swinging is a life style choice built on respect and social engagement. The successful single male swingers know this and act accordingly. They go to clubs, social events to meet other swingers socially (first) which leads to them been meet verified. This in turn opens more doors such as the private house parties etc.

Far to many men come here because they have zero social skills to be able to succeed in real life and wrongly think that Fab is a free escort / hooked site.

We specifically meet single males in fact its what we are looking for currently. We have also met a few genuine single male swingers whom are a credit and asset to this lifestyle and local swinging community.

KJ"

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

Patience’s comes with rewards

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

There is only ever one solution to the way you view fab as a single guy. Be the best guy that you can be. If you are giving 100%, are treating people with respect, take rejection with grace and presenting your best self, then regardless of success or failure you are doing it “right”.

Worry not so much about how others behave, that’s on them. I would like to think that the majority of people on fab, whilst able to dispense casual generalisations when the mood takes them, consider their choice of sexual partner carefully, so by being your best self, you give them the reason to pick you. Be positive, it goes a long way, be honest, it gives considered choice and portray yourself as you like others to portray themselves, with effort, measure, confidence and a spark that says “I’m different” without ever needing to say “in different”. Be it. Don’t say it.

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By *harlotteBigBoobsWoman
over a year ago

Hull

Ive seen a few posts like this now about single guys?

What about single woman ?

Im a single woman looking for single guys, ive no interest in swinging what so ever . Im on here cos i think its a more down to earth site more friendly then other sites ive tried nut i get no flack for saying this yet single guys get a bad reputation

I get more nasty messages from the married men when i say no thankyou not interested.

Your always going to get the bad ones on here its just part of the parcel but not just single men so you single guys carry on doing what your doing and everyone enjoy. If you dont want single guys / woman then ignore block them from contacting you its simple

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