FabSwingers.com forum: Demoralised due to age...

By *mileTogether69 OP Man
over a year ago

Brighton

Hey guys.

Thinking of calling it day on here.

Saw a profile of a lovely looking lady which I would of like to of said hello to.

Reading her profile it said " please no Grandads " her preference age is 25- 50...!!

It's hard enough being a single guy on here ,then you read that and I think " what's the point ,who am I trying to fool"

The thing is when I look in a mirror I don,t see an old guy looking back at me.

Obviously it's not what others see.

Any one else thinking this way ?

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over a year ago

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

But it says you're 41 on your page. If the preference was up to 50, surely you've got 9 years in-hand?

Confused.com

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By *itsAndTangentsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

How old was the person you wanted to message out of curiosity?

You're as old as you feel op, there's someone for everyone on here which is the beauty of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t give up, if your not in the game you’ll never win

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But it says you're 41 on your page. If the preference was up to 50, surely you've got 9 years in-hand?

Confused.com

The site has it wrong.

Naughty site

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

"Hey guys.

Thinking of calling it day on here.

Saw a profile of a lovely looking lady which I would of like to of said hello to.just strategically block and move on ... she'll come crawling back when she's a granny

Reading her profile it said " please no Grandads " her preference age is 25- 50...!!

It's hard enough being a single guy on here ,then you read that and I think " what's the point ,who am I trying to fool"

The thing is when I look in a mirror I don,t see an old guy looking back at me.

Obviously it's not what others see.

Any one else thinking this way ?

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

She'll come crawling back when she's a granny

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By *oan of DArcCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Hey guys.

Thinking of calling it day on here.

Saw a profile of a lovely looking lady which I would of like to of said hello to.

Reading her profile it said " please no Grandads " her preference age is 25- 50...!!

It's hard enough being a single guy on here ,then you read that and I think " what's the point ,who am I trying to fool"

The thing is when I look in a mirror I don,t see an old guy looking back at me.

Obviously it's not what others see.

Any one else thinking this way ?

Your own profile states an age preference of 18-60..imagine all those demoralised octogenarians!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey guys.

Thinking of calling it day on here.

Saw a profile of a lovely looking lady which I would of like to of said hello to.

Reading her profile it said " please no Grandads " her preference age is 25- 50...!!

It's hard enough being a single guy on here ,then you read that and I think " what's the point ,who am I trying to fool"

The thing is when I look in a mirror I don,t see an old guy looking back at me.

Obviously it's not what others see.

Any one else thinking this way ?

The day will come when she is rejected as a granny. HAHA Better you don't have contact with someone that shallow anyway mate. No loss to you!

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

U only 41? A mere pup! I'm still enjoying here and I'm a 64 year old great nanna! X

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By *ave1963MexboroughMan
over a year ago

Mexborough

I'm 57 and doing ok so don't give up. Don't forget, there are also women out there who like older guys.

I know that's true because I occasionally play with a lady in that category.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

We all have age ranges including you Op. However in a club or social these can change when you get to know that person.

If something like this questions your reasons for being on the site, then maybe you should leave as there’s plenty of other filters on profiles. These can be even more strict and in some cases very insulting.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

Nahhhhh queen her loss! She’s an idiot for not wanting a strong king like you in her life. She’s obviously just a childish idiot

Stay strong king and don’t even change!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"U only 41? A mere pup! I'm still enjoying here and I'm a 64 year old great nanna! X

I think you're gorgeous. There are plenty of lovely ladies on here of all ages. We can admire the younger ones who we're too old for from a distance. There's nothing wrong with that but why doesn't the OP concentrate on those who have an older age range? It's not rocket science.

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By *mileTogether69 OP Man
over a year ago

Brighton

"She'll come crawling back when she's a granny

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ha ha

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I didn't sign up here until I was 52 so you've a long way to go yet op. Don't give up just because of one profile. Us grandads rock.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Struggling with this one OP. You’re almost smack in the middle of what she’s looking for. What’s the problem??

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By *mileTogether69 OP Man
over a year ago

Brighton

"U only 41? A mere pup! I'm still enjoying here and I'm a 64 year old great nanna! X

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Thankyou , slightly blushing..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"U only 41? A mere pup! I'm still enjoying here and I'm a 64 year old great nanna! X

Thankyou , slightly blushing..

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

"Hey guys.

Thinking of calling it day on here.

Saw a profile of a lovely looking lady which I would of like to of said hello to.

Reading her profile it said " please no Grandads " her preference age is 25- 50...!!

It's hard enough being a single guy on here ,then you read that and I think " what's the point ,who am I trying to fool"

The thing is when I look in a mirror I don,t see an old guy looking back at me.

Obviously it's not what others see.

Any one else thinking this way ?

"
. I can understand your frustration but at the end of the day we all have preferences and that includes age. I am 53 and there are lots of people I can’t even message because I am over their age limit so I just except that it is what it is and move on.On a different note since coming out of lockdown I am having difficulties motivating my self to attend the places I use to before Covid19 and I too may call it a day or bite the bullet and go and see if I can rediscover my old enthusiasm.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"Struggling with this one OP. You’re almost smack in the middle of what she’s looking for. What’s the problem?? "

This has been pointed out, but not addressed by the OP.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"U only 41? A mere pup! I'm still enjoying here and I'm a 64 year old great nanna! X

Excuse the bluntness but there's one fundamental difference with you and the OP. One of you has a fanny.

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By *ck BasswardsMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

"She'll come crawling back when she's a granny

Hahaha “plays the LONG ass game” ??

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By *iberty RedWoman
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I'm confused OP, the lady has an age preference but you do too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're 41 on your profile so what's the problem?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

The power one girl's profile had

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"U only 41? A mere pup! I'm still enjoying here and I'm a 64 year old great nanna! X

Excuse the bluntness but there's one fundamental difference with you and the OP. One of you has a fanny.

And ur point being? X

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

OP, even though your profile says your real age is 46, you're still within her - and a helluva lot of women's - age range. What's the problem? We keep asking, but you're not elaborating......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You're 41 on your profile so what's the problem?"

nah hes 46 its in the blurb of the profile its all good though hes still got 4 more years to meet that bird and as she gets older her age range might change upward as well

hopefully the op will message and be nuts deep in her before long he fits her current age profile so i hope he goes for it haha

it is weird though innit when i was young someone late 40s looked really old haha now I see someone that age and they dont seem old at all why is that????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey guys.

Thinking of calling it day on here.

Saw a profile of a lovely looking lady which I would of like to of said hello to.

Reading her profile it said " please no Grandads " her preference age is 25- 50...!!

It's hard enough being a single guy on here ,then you read that and I think " what's the point ,who am I trying to fool"

The thing is when I look in a mirror I don,t see an old guy looking back at me.

Obviously it's not what others see.

Any one else thinking this way ?

The day will come when she is rejected as a granny. HAHA Better you don't have contact with someone that shallow anyway mate. No loss to you!"

Is it shallow to have an age preference ? I think not.

And not all granny's get rejected

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Don’t get it… we all have preferences. There are loads of mig forty plus here, myself included. Just focus on those who are looking for your age group.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Think we all have those moments. In my head I still think I am in my 20s.

The other week I happened to put the radio on in the car and they did a golden hour. The golden hour in question was 1996!

I was like nooooo something from the 1960 or 70s is golden not the 90s.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"U only 41? A mere pup! I'm still enjoying here and I'm a 64 year old great nanna! X

Excuse the bluntness but there's one fundamental difference with you and the OP. One of you has a fanny.

And ur point being? X"

It's easier for women to meet due to huge female to male imbalance of numbers on here. I'm pretty sure this is a well known Fab fact and not ground breaking news to most.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

You need to do you I am now 46 years old and loving life you only have one life do what makes you happy.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"U only 41? A mere pup! I'm still enjoying here and I'm a 64 year old great nanna! X

Excuse the bluntness but there's one fundamental difference with you and the OP. One of you has a fanny.

And ur point being? X

It's easier for women to meet due to huge female to male imbalance of numbers on here. I'm pretty sure this is a well known Fab fact and not ground breaking news to most.

Sure I get that! But compared to me the op has age on his side! Only 2 thirds of my age!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You're 41 on your profile so what's the problem?

nah hes 46 its in the blurb of the profile its all good though hes still got 4 more years to meet that bird and as she gets older her age range might change upward as well

hopefully the op will message and be nuts deep in her before long he fits her current age profile so i hope he goes for it haha

it is weird though innit when i was young someone late 40s looked really old haha now I see someone that age and they dont seem old at all why is that????"

I get hit on far more in my 40s than I ever did in my 20s and 30s. Weird. Just last night I had a persistent young man in a club in London. I was already with friends so nothing happened but does go yo show age doesn't really mean much IRL.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Why is this an issue for you when you come in under her age preferences? Don’t get the big deal to be honest. You like women under a certain age, she like men under a certain age.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"U only 41? A mere pup! I'm still enjoying here and I'm a 64 year old great nanna! X

Excuse the bluntness but there's one fundamental difference with you and the OP. One of you has a fanny.

And ur point being? X

It's easier for women to meet due to huge female to male imbalance of numbers on here. I'm pretty sure this is a well known Fab fact and not ground breaking news to most.

Sure I get that! But compared to me the op has age on his side! Only 2 thirds of my age!

T'would be nice if age was a balancing factor but I don't think it really is with Fab. I'm sure one of the smart Fab boffins could write an equation based on Male/Female ratios, sexual preferences, age ranges etc to either prove or disprove the theory.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

So you are still within her age limits even with the age you have written in your profile as oppose to the one that shows up first so like others have said what the issue ? .

Everyone have preferences anyhow. Plenty of men who are older than you are on here get meets and enjoy fab.

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By *9alMan
over a year ago

Bridgend

I am in my 60s I don't worry about age will meet anybody legal & breathing, if others do not want to meet people outside their age bracket that's there problem not mine .

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By *itsAndTangentsCouple
over a year ago

Plymouth

"U only 41? A mere pup! I'm still enjoying here and I'm a 64 year old great nanna! X

Excuse the bluntness but there's one fundamental difference with you and the OP. One of you has a fanny.

And ur point being? X

It's easier for women to meet due to huge female to male imbalance of numbers on here. I'm pretty sure this is a well known Fab fact and not ground breaking news to most.

Sure I get that! But compared to me the op has age on his side! Only 2 thirds of my age!

You're kind a proving this lads point completely, 64 (female) and 188 Verifications

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Not sure why someone with an upper age limit 9 years above your stated age would demoralise anyone. I'm four nearly five years above the ops upper age and I'm not one but demoralised. I qualify for my pension and bus pass next year, I can't bloomin wait

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By *lipy123TV/TS
over a year ago

Birmingham

Maybe he is actually a grandad ? It's possible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe he is actually a grandad ? It's possible."

You mean some people lie about their age?

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

o/p just treat fab as a social club to share humour, thoughts, ideas. Chat in cam rooms and in forums. Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not sure what your point is OP? The lady said she didn't want older men and set her age range accordingly. Don't know how that could demoralise you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The power one girl's profile had

I wanna know who she is now!

The power of that young un

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

Her profile her choice

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By *lipy123TV/TS
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Maybe he is actually a grandad ? It's possible.

You mean some people lie about their age?

Come on Doc think about it. If he had a son or daughter when he was 18 and in turn they had a child that would make him a grandad.

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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago

Lifes departure lounge NN9 Northamptonshire East not West MidlandsMidlands

"Think we all have those moments. In my head I still think I am in my 20s.

The other week I happened to put the radio on in the car and they did a golden hour. The golden hour in question was 1996!

I was like nooooo something from the 1960 or 70s is golden not the 90s.

thank god for Tony Blackburn on a Saturday morning with his Sounds of the Sixties

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

"Her profile her choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What age is the lady you mention?

Are you actually 41 or adapted your actual age for your profile?

Mrs here prefers guys older than her but not so close to her parents age, so those around her parents age and those younger than 30 generally miss out.

We all have comfort zones and really shouldn't expect others to step out of theirs for our sake.

Look elsewhere at those that might be interested.

I saw a profile the other day stating only looking for single guys, I'm not a single guy. Damnit

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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago

Lifes departure lounge NN9 Northamptonshire East not West MidlandsMidlands

Well I happen to be one of the really old gits on here and a Grandad to boot, Currently ill health is dictating my life both on here and in the real world but I am far from disillusioned.

Where else can you get the fun and opportunities that Fab provides for an outlay of 10p a day (Cost of being a Silver Supporter).

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

"Maybe he is actually a grandad ? It's possible.

You mean some people lie about their age?

Come on Doc think about it. If he had a son or daughter when he was 18 and in turn they had a child that would make him a grandad."

Exactly! I was a nanna at 35 x

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By *alty surpriseMan
over a year ago

Uttoxeter

Don't be demoralised about it.. I'm 52 and I'm on here... I don't have as much fun as I like, and I see profiles stating an age from from 25 to 50...but it doesn't put me off... Theres many that want a 52 year old so you have more options than me.. So chin up and plug away..

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

Op I’m 54 and still in the game don’t give up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go along to socials to ensure your amazing personality shines through in person.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

"I'm not sure what your point is OP? The lady said she didn't want older men and set her age range accordingly. Don't know how that could demoralise you? "

See I didn't read the OPs opening post as having a go at anybody I read it as realising that the older we get the less chance we have on here as you move out of age brackets.

You look at a profile and think ooh I like him or her and then look at their age bracket and think oh shit too old move on. It is that sudden realisation that you are old

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Sympathy seeking post gone horribly wrong

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

That person can ask for what ever they want on their profile.

Sure they didn't have to be so judgemental as to call people GRANDADS but that doesn't mean that you have to take it personally .......

BTW ..... No Great Grandads for me !

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Hey guys.

Thinking of calling it day on here.

Saw a profile of a lovely looking lady which I would of like to of said hello to.

Reading her profile it said " please no Grandads " her preference age is 25- 50...!!

It's hard enough being a single guy on here ,then you read that and I think " what's the point ,who am I trying to fool"

The thing is when I look in a mirror I don,t see an old guy looking back at me.

Obviously it's not what others see.

Any one else thinking this way ?

Your own profile states an age preference of 18-60..imagine all those demoralised octogenarians!"

Yeah ....... what about me ! I'm shixty shix

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By * and M lookingCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

"But it says you're 41 on your page. If the preference was up to 50, surely you've got 9 years in-hand?

Confused.com

Fab age.com?

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By *enny PR9TV/TS
over a year ago

Southport

"Sympathy seeking post gone horribly wrong

So maybe I'd better keep my views on a locked room, a bottle of whisky and a service revolver to myself then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm gonna gues the OP is a grandad. So feels old despite the age range ...

Probably find the profilee sees grandads as being her granddads age. Forgetting shes 20whatever.

It's like when you are at school and all teachers are ancient. Then you realse many were only in their twenties.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe he is actually a grandad ? It's possible.

You mean some people lie about their age?

Come on Doc think about it. If he had a son or daughter when he was 18 and in turn they had a child that would make him a grandad."

Okay, i get that. I'm a grandad myself after all (don't tell anyone, mind).

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By *lipy123TV/TS
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Maybe he is actually a grandad ? It's possible.

You mean some people lie about their age?

Come on Doc think about it. If he had a son or daughter when he was 18 and in turn they had a child that would make him a grandad.

Okay, i get that. I'm a grandad myself after all (don't tell anyone, mind).

Our secret Doc

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By *edantic SheilaWoman
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

"Sympathy seeking post gone horribly wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"U only 41? A mere pup! I'm still enjoying here and I'm a 64 year old great nanna! X

Class

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By *JB1954Man
over a year ago

Reading

As someone who is 67

. Yes there are on Fab females who like older males. A lot on profiles though , even if filters open for any age range. State looking for younger male in their bio. Yes it is easier for a female on here to meet . Due to the ratio of females to males. I get replies to messages . Which is a bonus and average of more than 10 profile views a day. Mostly males . Females view in stealth mode ? I read profiles before messaging.

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