FabSwingers.com forum: Feeling lost after Second Jab

By *yLongJourney OP Man
over a year ago

Lowestoft

when i got my Second Jab, I was elated, jumping for joy. I also thought that things may change near by me, but alas it has returned straight back to how it was before the Lockdowns. During them i became lonely and felt forgotten about and hated as i worked day in and day out in the retail sector so i withdrew again into my shell and didnt emerge again until my second jab was done with new ideas in mind. I was lonely, only a few people in a special bubble to confide with and nothing to show for it. I just thought things would be different afterwards and people would be more, how to put it, more accomodating to the un-hot guys on here and giving them a new chance in this era that we are living in. it seems like it has not changed on here one bit. I may be wrong but around my way it seems that lonelyness gets you nowhere and no one really cares at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some photos that showcase you and not ones of ladies boobs with just a little of your cock may help....and maybe a bit of profile text change. You need to sell yourself more

It's hard for a lot of people atm on Fab, because things are not really back to how they were pre covid.

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

"when i got my Second Jab, I was elated, jumping for joy. I also thought that things may change near by me, but alas it has returned straight back to how it was before the Lockdowns. During them i became lonely and felt forgotten about and hated as i worked day in and day out in the retail sector so i withdrew again into my shell and didnt emerge again until my second jab was done with new ideas in mind. I was lonely, only a few people in a special bubble to confide with and nothing to show for it. I just thought things would be different afterwards and people would be more, how to put it, more accomodating to the un-hot guys on here and giving them a new chance in this era that we are living in. it seems like it has not changed on here one bit. I may be wrong but around my way it seems that lonelyness gets you nowhere and no one really cares at all."

I’m not sure how being double jabbed and it being a ‘new era’ means people would meet others they wouldn’t meet before the pandemic?

There still has to be attraction, connection.

I’m sorry you’re feeling lonely OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sorry you're feeling lonely that I think it's an unfair request to ask people to give in your words un attractive people a chance.

I know that I am not gonna meet someone I dont find attractive but what we find attractive is very different so you will be what someone is looking for its just a case of being patient and proactive.

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By *yLongJourney OP Man
over a year ago

Lowestoft

The photos do have me in between them if you look close enough. I fully understand it is hard for a lot of people right now, I just didnt expect i would have more trouble than before the Pandemic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The photos do have me in between them if you look close enough. I fully understand it is hard for a lot of people right now, I just didnt expect i would have more trouble than before the Pandemic."

But of course it's going to be harder than it was before the pandemic because the lots of peoples situations and circumstances have changed.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"The photos do have me in between them if you look close enough. I fully understand it is hard for a lot of people right now, I just didnt expect i would have more trouble than before the Pandemic."

OP, I'm not going to comment on your profile but it must be difficult being lonely. Why not make your profile as appealing as possible?

The pandemic is still ongoing, people are cautious, making plans with those they couldn't meet during lockdown etc...

Being lonely isn't enough to make someone want to meet another sadly. I don't think people should be more accommodating to men we don't find attractive - we're not free escorts and shouldn't be offering out pity shags out of the goodness of our vagina.

I do understand and appreciate it must be difficult for you on here but women are people. Approach them as that, not solutions to your issues.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

"The photos do have me in between them if you look close enough. I fully understand it is hard for a lot of people right now, I just didnt expect i would have more trouble than before the Pandemic.

OP, I'm not going to comment on your profile but it must be difficult being lonely. Why not make your profile as appealing as possible?

The pandemic is still ongoing, people are cautious, making plans with those they couldn't meet during lockdown etc...

I do understand and appreciate it must be difficult for you on here but women are people. Approach them as that, not solutions to your issues."
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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Sorry that you feel lonely but unless Bill Gates really has put something in the vaccine people's preferences will not have changed why would they.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are some really helpful comments posted above OP, sorry to hear you are feeling lonely.

I won’t comment on your profile because you haven’t asked, although I might suggest going to a club? Socialise with other likeminded people there and see where it goes…

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

OP, loneliness is such a corrosive disease. I am sorry that it is eating in to you.

Fab isn't a remedy to loneliness, it often feeds that feeling with an added dose of feeling rejected. That leads to the confidence drain spiral back to loneliness and resentment.

Being alone isn't the same as being lonely. Meeting people isn't a guarantee to stopping being lonely.

You can try and join in on the forum more, on other threads or posting something we can talk about that interests you. You could look for socials to attend and get to know people. Better still, do this off Fab, get an interest and address the loneliness. As your confidence builds you may find you do better out there and on here.

And, re-read Meli's post to this thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some excellent replies and I've little to add OP except don't ever let your Fab experience define your life or your self esteem. There are many other ways to meet people both socially and for sexual relationships.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

You're injected injected ... never infected...get out and party like it's 2020

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By *orksRockerMan
over a year ago

Bradford

So now you are double jabbed that you are entitled and ladies should drop what standards / preferences they have.... Re-read what you have written OP and think about it from someone else's eyes?

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By *yLongJourney OP Man
over a year ago

Lowestoft

"So now you are double jabbed that you are entitled and ladies should drop what standards / preferences they have.... Re-read what you have written OP and think about it from someone else's eyes? "

Im sorry did i hit your nerves or something. I never said that i was entitled and all ladies should drop all the standards and preferences that they had at all. Here we go i am the bad guy, of course i am, i am the epitomy of evil and should be burned at the stake for saying these vile things that abhore even the most hardest of people to deject me out of society.

Am i spot on yet? or need i go further into my self doubt.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's sad to read your experience of your situation OP. Unfortunately, Fab has traditionally been very tough for single men and it's taken the end of lockdown for many to realise the situation now. The key thing you can change is your expectations, to prevent disappointment etc. It's worthwhile not to have all of your swinging and sexual needs to be met via 1 source, especially IMO from a website.

As quite a few people have posted in other threads, many are finding it difficult to resume the quality of their lives of pre-pandemic. I think it's natural that it will take quite a long time for us to adjust, which we probably won't do in just 1 go. Ease yourself step by step into the new world. Minimise the pressure on yourself as you go, just taking things slowly.

Have goals but the key 1 to be looking after your wellbeing. Find out those again who nurture and support you. Participate in things that are good for you, including exercise and time around nature. The swinging can go slowly.

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By *yLongJourney OP Man
over a year ago

Lowestoft

I would love to go to a venue but getting there is difficult as i dont drive and i work most evenings now and i only hear about venues after my rota is setup. But i do wish to take it slow and build up friendships with people but i really dont know how to message people. They say dont say hi or hello at the beginning of your message or how are you, that was the way i was brought up unfortunately, kind and courteous and with manners.

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By *isspurplechesterWoman
over a year ago

Chester

I’m sorry to hear that you are feeling lonely!! It’s a horrible feeling and I hope that things pick up for you soon! Sending positive vibes your way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi J, I’m really sorry to hear that you’re feeling lonely and I know how you feel as I felt exactly the same during the lockdowns when I was living alone. To be honest I thought I was going to quite enjoy having more time to myself as I’ve always been happy spending time on my own but I found that it feels completely different spending time on your own through your own choice when you know you can go out to see people if you want to compared to spending time on your own knowing you can’t see anyone if you want to. I found that during the weekend I was looking forward to Monday so that I could get out of the house and see people at work.

Feel free to message me if you want to chat, I can be a good listener

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By *ervent_fervourMan
over a year ago

Halifax

You couldn't be in a more inappropriate place if you're feeling lonely and are here purely to find people to have fun with. That's for the few and not the many.

Bit confused about not having 'anything to show for it' when you felt hopeful. I presume you mean a meet? Yet it appears like you also want someone to care for you? They seem to contradict?

If you're here for sex, then fine. Iff you're here to find a relationship, you might be disappointed.

It can happen, but when you consider how hard it is to even get a social for most men, then the odds for finding yourself something emotionally sincere are beyond miniscule surely.

You seem quite fragile if you don't mind me saying. - I'd leave this site for a while, don't think of it as some sexual or relationship panacea, and instead try aa conventional dating site. I've met so many people on them who were genuine, and a good proportion are filthy as hell too. Hell, some even actually want a relationship too!And it's EASIER to make connections (yeah. Don't ask why I'm still on here. Habit I imagine. A dirty habit. But not as dirty as I'd like..).

Give it a go. Good luck. Take care of yourself. And be honest with yourself regarding what you want.

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