FabSwingers.com forum: Chat, social then play….

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So is that how people play it?

Chat for a little while to see if there’s a match up… then organise a social to figure out if there’s a spark? Then finally a meet to have fun?

Or are you a let’s meet to fuck type?

Just wondering how others play it out…. All part of the adventure

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Always the former. Tried the latter once for a change of pace and left after 30 mins because it was all about her. I was fully dressed throughout. I won't be repeating that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chat them a social followed by play session next time if the attraction is there

I think there would be nothing worse than raising pressure and expectation to have something go wrong. Social to gauge the connection is crucial for me

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

Sex is secondary looking for connection or you might as well stay at home to have a wank but remember connection can be instant.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Chat a bit on here, arrange a social only meet, if all get on and like one another then arrange to meet for play.

Rarely play on first meet but it has happened a couple of times and is more likely if we are at a club.

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By *aucy tiggerWoman
over a year ago

Back where I belong

I prefer to meet for a social fairly quickly and then if everything clicks move on to play meets. Although it did take 2 years to arrange a social with one guy as our diaries were always full x

PS I like repeat meets xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you gotta have a social to make sure you are in the same page as if not it wouldn't be fun to play

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

It depends on lots of variables... I've done both, I prefer long chats, social, meet, but if the moons align and the chemistry is intense, I don't want to wait I want to taste him

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By *ubmissiveman2uMan
over a year ago

Cheshire

Social Social Social first get to know the Lady then play, am a bit diffrent its not all about the bed with me. Am i strange????

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"So is that how people play it?

Chat for a little while to see if there’s a match up… then organise a social to figure out if there’s a spark? Then finally a meet to have fun?

Or are you a let’s meet to fuck type?

Just wondering how others play it out…. All part of the adventure

We will generally meet for a social first, but it is completely acceptable to move on to a hotel afterwards if we all get on.

We are also happy to meet at a club, with the understanding that it is still a social first, there is no guarantee that it will progress onto anything more... but it usually does.

Cal

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By *onb21Woman
over a year ago

Cardiff

I prefer not to have a separate social. I chat until they ask to meet, then have a drink and if it feels right move on to play, if not go our separate ways.

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

Chemistry is key as is the art of conversation, it’s more than a physical thing for me. I’ve got to be able to have banter and flirtation with someone, get my mind going and my body will follow

Prefer to get to know someone before jumping straight in, sex with connection always out ways a quick fuck and go for me xx

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By *rixieMeWoman
over a year ago

Farfarfar away

Done both. Turned up at one meet in just lingerie and a trench coat! Presumptuous but it worked!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It depends on lots of variables... I've done both, I prefer long chats, social, meet, but if the moons align and the chemistry is intense, I don't want to wait I want to taste him

This!

I wouldn't rule out play on a first meet if the chemistry is right.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Sex is secondary looking for connection or you might as well stay at home to have a wank but remember connection can be instant.

It certainly can

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Chat a bit on here, arrange a social only meet, if all get on and like one another then arrange to meet for play.

Rarely play on first meet but it has happened a couple of times and is more likely if we are at a club."

The social just allows those barriers to come down a little to set up a relaxed meet the next time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends how horny I am sometimes skip the chat and just take me to the bar toilets lol

Can chat afterwards then hotel for rounds 2-3-4-5-6 lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It depends on lots of variables... I've done both, I prefer long chats, social, meet, but if the moons align and the chemistry is intense, I don't want to wait I want to taste him

All about the mood & moment

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So is that how people play it?

Chat for a little while to see if there’s a match up… then organise a social to figure out if there’s a spark? Then finally a meet to have fun?

Or are you a let’s meet to fuck type?

Just wondering how others play it out…. All part of the adventure

We will generally meet for a social first, but it is completely acceptable to move on to a hotel afterwards if we all get on.

We are also happy to meet at a club, with the understanding that it is still a social first, there is no guarantee that it will progress onto anything more... but it usually does.

Cal"

I guess as long as there is understanding that nothing is guaranteed then all can just go with the flow …

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I prefer not to have a separate social. I chat until they ask to meet, then have a drink and if it feels right move on to play, if not go our separate ways."

Where we going for that drink :p haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I chat on here, then kik... With my DD we moved to phone calls.. I think we met up after maybe 2-3 months chatting for a play date?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Chemistry is key as is the art of conversation, it’s more than a physical thing for me. I’ve got to be able to have banter and flirtation with someone, get my mind going and my body will follow

Prefer to get to know someone before jumping straight in, sex with connection always out ways a quick fuck and go for me xx"

Can’t beat building the anticipation…. Allows the imagination to go wild

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Done both. Turned up at one meet in just lingerie and a trench coat! Presumptuous but it worked!

Well a very lucky person on the receiving end of that arrival

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It depends on lots of variables... I've done both, I prefer long chats, social, meet, but if the moons align and the chemistry is intense, I don't want to wait I want to taste him

This!

I wouldn't rule out play on a first meet if the chemistry is right. "

I best bring my A game then lol :p

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Depends how horny I am sometimes skip the chat and just take me to the bar toilets lol

Can chat afterwards then hotel for rounds 2-3-4-5-6 lol "

Ain’t no stopping you ha

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I chat on here, then kik... With my DD we moved to phone calls.. I think we met up after maybe 2-3 months chatting for a play date? "

Ah ok….. lots of ground work then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Chemistry is key as is the art of conversation, it’s more than a physical thing for me. I’ve got to be able to have banter and flirtation with someone, get my mind going and my body will follow

Prefer to get to know someone before jumping straight in, sex with connection always out ways a quick fuck and go for me xx"
Exactly this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely a social after chatting over a period, need to see if attraction is there before arrange play and agreed both sides don’t just jump in nice to tease flirt

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Definitely a social after chatting over a period, need to see if attraction is there before arrange play and agreed both sides don’t just jump in nice to tease flirt

Build that desire seems to be the answer most are saying … it’s good to get others thoughts

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Chemistry is key as is the art of conversation, it’s more than a physical thing for me. I’ve got to be able to have banter and flirtation with someone, get my mind going and my body will follow

Prefer to get to know someone before jumping straight in, sex with connection always out ways a quick fuck and go for me xx Exactly this

Well there’s only one way to get to know someone… let’s get chatting :p

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Chat very much so.

Social depends on whether we really click on chat or if it’s scenario based then no social.

Club meet, depends where we are…

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chat, see if get on, then social meet & if really get on & connect play....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Depends how horny I am sometimes skip the chat and just take me to the bar toilets lol

Can chat afterwards then hotel for rounds 2-3-4-5-6 lol

Ain’t no stopping you ha "

Definitely not ha ha

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By *iman2100Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

I believe that you can learn a lot through honest messaging. A final social is good but before then a lot of the "play or not" questions should have been answered. Don't have a social unless you think there is a real chance.

I had a situation a few years ago where a couple seemed keen to meet but insisted on a social first. I met them in a pub they designated and as we chatted she flirted whilst they proceeded to drink expensive shorts bought by me. After almost 2 hours I asked if they wanted to play and they said no chemistry and left to walk home. I subsequently met two other guys who had been caught by the same couple.

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By *rad670Man
over a year ago

South Lakes

The chat, social play is the best way to take things, never go to a social with expectations beyond a nice chat and some drinks, if something develops then its a bonus. It's nice to have had both ways but I have never and would never instigate a social turning into more, allowing the lady or couple to take the lead has paid dividends and a an old school gent I believe that's how it should be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"you gotta have a social to make sure you are in the same page as if not it wouldn't be fun to play"

I've only gone straight to arranging play meets once and it was a bit shit to be honest. I'd been talking to the guy on here for well over a year because of how our diaries lined up, but when we met in person he didn't look like his photos and I just wasn't into it and the sex was rubbish.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

In my misspent younger years I'd meet to fuck and that was it.

Nowadays I need to like a person before I'm attracted to them so I tend to talk a lot, arrange a social and then move things to a more horizontal position (rarely) the same day or at a later date. Even if Audrey Plaza came up to me and asked for sex, I think I'd still want to have a coffee first.

Besides, I like the butterflies, the intoxicating anticipation. That's probably one of my favourite feelings after the just fucked glow.

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By *onb21Woman
over a year ago

Cardiff

"I prefer not to have a separate social. I chat until they ask to meet, then have a drink and if it feels right move on to play, if not go our separate ways.

Where we going for that drink :p haha "

We aren't because of distance but if I meet it's in private.

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By *ickyquimCouple
over a year ago

north west

"Chat them a social followed by play session next time if the attraction is there

I think there would be nothing worse than raising pressure and expectation to have something go wrong. Social to gauge the connection is crucial for me"

Agreed.

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

"I prefer not to have a separate social. I chat until they ask to meet, then have a drink and if it feels right move on to play, if not go our separate ways."

This for me too a lot of the time as most of the people I seem to click with and we ant to meet seem to not live local

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Chat, social, play...always

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I prefer not to have a separate social. I chat until they ask to meet, then have a drink and if it feels right move on to play, if not go our separate ways.

Where we going for that drink :p haha

We aren't because of distance but if I meet it's in private. "

Oops I was just messing with you x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I prefer not to have a separate social. I chat until they ask to meet, then have a drink and if it feels right move on to play, if not go our separate ways.

This for me too a lot of the time as most of the people I seem to click with and we ant to meet seem to not live local

There is sucha thing about local but surely if you plan then distance isn’t all bad?

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

I’m only sexually attracted to people I know on a friendship level that I’ve met without pressure. That attraction grows or not when I see their face in the flesh. I need to have a connection of the minds to be interested in anything more.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Chat (normal chat!) not I want to bend you over the table and fuck you hard type chat, that’s a fuck right off from me. Then a social only then see each other again if we want to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve done both but I do enjoy a social before. Getting to know someone and becoming friends really does enhance the sex

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"So is that how people play it?

Chat for a little while to see if there’s a match up… then organise a social to figure out if there’s a spark? Then finally a meet to have fun?

Or are you a let’s meet to fuck type?

Just wondering how others play it out…. All part of the adventure

Definitely chat, social, play. You never really know if there's a spark until you meet.

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By *arol321Woman
over a year ago

Poole

As a single woman I’d never invite someone I’d never met in the flesh to meet me for sex, especially as my meets are usually at my home. A social is vital to see if I feel safe enough to invite them home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chat, social, play... Always.

I can't just fuck a stranger.

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By *rs mischiefWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

Chat, social, play.

I'm not into fuck and go"

No fun at all in that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chat and social first... Attraction in line doesn't always transalte to attraction irl. And I'm a picky sod!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It seems the consensus is chat-social-play…. With the importance of no expectations … all about building up to that fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends what you want. For me it’s an exchange of messages to establish what we want, then meet and play. I’m not here for any social interaction or even physical attraction. The excitement of playing is what i’m into.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Chat on here, but not for long, I tend to know if I'll get on with someone pretty quick so like to arrange a social. After that if all good arrange a sex date

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I don't plan sexy times on a first meet. But I won't rule it out.

That's partly because the people I want to meet, I've usually spoken to for a long while beforehand, and 99% of the time they're a long way away. As in over 200 miles.

But I'd rather build the connection and enjoy it when we can than settle for an easier option.

Spontaneity can be fun. Knowing you're having a coffee and then finding you just want to leap on them is a nice feeling.

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By *ewfie02Couple
over a year ago

Ayrshire

We prefer to arrange to meet up with bi guys in the swingers club.

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By *rsPricklePantsWoman
over a year ago

Room 237 at The Overlook Hotel, Suffolk

Social first every time otherwise how am I going to know I like them in person and vice versa? I've had a few occasions where they have been completely different in person to online and not in a good way total Jekyll and Hyde scenario, if a social turns into a bit more at the time fine but I never imply its a definite that it will

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Beds (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

I've juggled it various ways to be fair... one or two disasters, but more successful than not.

Possibly due to my pre-screening methods anyway.

Amen for filters

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Chat on here, but not for long, I tend to know if I'll get on with someone pretty quick so like to arrange a social. After that if all good arrange a sex date

Bish bash bosh as they say haha as easy as that

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Chat til I'm comfortable,

Meeh for a drink, then for fun if we both want to.

Always works for me.

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