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By *acDreamy OP Man
over a year ago

Wirral

Sometimes, if I have a moment to think, I wish I had more time to spend with people I love and doing things I enjoy.

How do you all balance work and the fun parts of life? X

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By *acDreamy OP Man
over a year ago

Wirral

Obviously finished work too late. Everyone else is having sex!

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

Love to know the answer to this, if I'm not working I'm swamped doing stuff I can't get done on my work days done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t try and aim for a work/life balance OP. Look for a balanced life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This all comes down to your why. The reason that you are prioritising one thing over another. Does one thing mean more to you? Or the other just not enough?

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By *acDreamy OP Man
over a year ago

Wirral

"Don’t try and aim for a work/life balance OP. Look for a balanced life "

Please could you explain that more.

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By *urls and DressesWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near here

I stepped away from a career that didn’t give me the work life balance. I’ve never been happier

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By *acDreamy OP Man
over a year ago

Wirral

"This all comes down to your why. The reason that you are prioritising one thing over another. Does one thing mean more to you? Or the other just not enough? "

Some jobs aren't about what is important for you.

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

I changed my career to a job with huge job satisfaction on a lower salary but with a 4 day flexible week. Yes I’m poor. But god I’m happy.

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By *xciter7169Man
over a year ago

The Midlands

"Love to know the answer to this, if I'm not working I'm swamped doing stuff I can't get done on my work days done

Tell me about it,where do folk find the time to go to the gym?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don’t try and aim for a work/life balance OP. Look for a balanced life

Please could you explain that more. "

Rather than try to keep 2 aspects of your life separate look at them as a whole. When we separate things in our life it takes more time and effort because without knowing you are becoming 2 people. One for work and the other for family/friends. The time it takes to switch mindsets is wasted and takes energy

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

C, I think your family understand that what you do is a vocation and requires a certain level of sacrifice. I bet they're incredibly proud of you.

I'm the worst person to be giving advice about work/life balance though. For me, work is pretty much the only part of my life that I can still do without any difference AND I'm not treated any differently by colleagues etc than before I became disabled. Therefore I think I spend longer than I should because it's my one tie to being/feeling normal.

Psychology the fuck out of that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Love to know the answer to this, if I'm not working I'm swamped doing stuff I can't get done on my work days done

Tell me about it,where do folk find the time to go to the gym?

How strong are your reasons for going to the gym?

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By *acDreamy OP Man
over a year ago

Wirral

"I changed my career to a job with huge job satisfaction on a lower salary but with a 4 day flexible week. Yes I’m poor. But god I’m happy.

Good for you. Find a job you enjoy and you never work a day in your life!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"C, I think your family understand that what you do is a vocation and requires a certain level of sacrifice. I bet they're incredibly proud of you.

Psychology the fuck out of that!

I’m happy too

Because work has become as comfortable part of you it has become part of your identity, part of who you are. Outside of the ‘safe space’ that you have in your mind it’s, well not you

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By *acDreamy OP Man
over a year ago

Wirral

"C, I think your family understand that what you do is a vocation and requires a certain level of sacrifice. I bet they're incredibly proud of you.

Psychology the fuck out of that!

Your disability doesn't define you. I bet your family don't see your life as abnormal. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My work/life balance is currently 50/50 (4 days on, 4 days off)

Switching off from work is incredibly easy, just like a flick of a switch, once I’m out of that door I don’t give it another thought.

I try to plan and manage all the boring stuff, ie chores, to minimise the time and effort they take and therefore maximise my leisure time. It’s working very well so far.

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By *acDreamy OP Man
over a year ago

Wirral

"Love to know the answer to this, if I'm not working I'm swamped doing stuff I can't get done on my work days done

It can be tough. You do such a valuable job. X

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"C, I think your family understand that what you do is a vocation and requires a certain level of sacrifice. I bet they're incredibly proud of you.

Psychology the fuck out of that!

Your disability doesn't define you. I bet your family don't see your life as abnormal. X"

Maybe not, but I don't feel like "me" still. I'd imagine it's the same for your family - the life you guys have (including your work) is how it is.

Do YOU want to do less work and more other stuff? Or do you feel you have to for other people/other reasons?

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By *acDreamy OP Man
over a year ago

Wirral

"My work/life balance is currently 50/50 (4 days on, 4 days off)

Switching off from work is incredibly easy, just like a flick of a switch, once I’m out of that door I don’t give it another thought.

I try to plan and manage all the boring stuff, ie chores, to minimise the time and effort they take and therefore maximise my leisure time. It’s working very well so far."

I envy that.

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By *acDreamy OP Man
over a year ago

Wirral

"C, I think your family understand that what you do is a vocation and requires a certain level of sacrifice. I bet they're incredibly proud of you.

Psychology the fuck out of that!

Your disability doesn't define you. I bet your family don't see your life as abnormal. X

Maybe not, but I don't feel like "me" still. I'd imagine it's the same for your family - the life you guys have (including your work) is how it is.

Do YOU want to do less work and more other stuff? Or do you feel you have to for other people/other reasons?"

A bit of both. I want more time to do fun stuff but there aren't other people to do the work and I can't let it not be done.

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By *xciter7169Man
over a year ago

The Midlands

"Love to know the answer to this, if I'm not working I'm swamped doing stuff I can't get done on my work days done

Tell me about it,where do folk find the time to go to the gym?

How strong are your reasons for going to the gym? "

Now you've put it like that,i guess there not that strong,if you want to do something,you will find the time

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By *acDreamy OP Man
over a year ago

Wirral

"Love to know the answer to this, if I'm not working I'm swamped doing stuff I can't get done on my work days done

Tell me about it,where do folk find the time to go to the gym?

How strong are your reasons for going to the gym?

Now you've put it like that,i guess there not that strong,if you want to do something,you will find the time"

It isn't always possible. You are not in control of all of your own time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Love to know the answer to this, if I'm not working I'm swamped doing stuff I can't get done on my work days done

Tell me about it,where do folk find the time to go to the gym?

How strong are your reasons for going to the gym?

Now you've put it like that,i guess there not that strong,if you want to do something,you will find the time

It isn't always possible. You are not in control of all of your own time. "

Google Simon Sinek

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By *acDreamy OP Man
over a year ago

Wirral

I will but at a glance it doesn't take account of the fact that sometimes it is hard to put yourself ahead of others needs.

For example, a soldier can't say they aren't going to work because peoples lives may depend on it.

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By *xciter7169Man
over a year ago

The Midlands

"Love to know the answer to this, if I'm not working I'm swamped doing stuff I can't get done on my work days done

Tell me about it,where do folk find the time to go to the gym?

How strong are your reasons for going to the gym?

Now you've put it like that,i guess there not that strong,if you want to do something,you will find the time

It isn't always possible. You are not in control of all of your own time.

Google Simon Sinek"

Just youtubed some of his stuff,interesting,i need to find my Why

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Love to know the answer to this, if I'm not working I'm swamped doing stuff I can't get done on my work days done

Tell me about it,where do folk find the time to go to the gym?

How strong are your reasons for going to the gym?

Now you've put it like that,i guess there not that strong,if you want to do something,you will find the time"

I use the 3 hours a day i used to commute to walk to and from the gym and do a class as well... Its hard to make myself always do it and its not always possible to finish work on time (but nobody dies if i finish 'on time')

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By *onzacappaMan
over a year ago

Formby

"Find a job that you love and youll never work a day in your life"

If only it was this easy

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By *xciter7169Man
over a year ago

The Midlands

"Love to know the answer to this, if I'm not working I'm swamped doing stuff I can't get done on my work days done

Tell me about it,where do folk find the time to go to the gym?

How strong are your reasons for going to the gym?

Now you've put it like that,i guess there not that strong,if you want to do something,you will find the time

I bike or walk to work,so i guess i am killing 2 birds with 1 stone in a way

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By *acDreamy OP Man
over a year ago

Wirral

I take the stairs rather than the lift!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Love to know the answer to this, if I'm not working I'm swamped doing stuff I can't get done on my work days done

Tell me about it,where do folk find the time to go to the gym?

How strong are your reasons for going to the gym?

Now you've put it like that,i guess there not that strong,if you want to do something,you will find the time

I bike or walk to work,so i guess i am killing 2 birds with 1 stone in a way"

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By *xciter7169Man
over a year ago

The Midlands

"I take the stairs rather than the lift!"

Every little helps

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

"Love to know the answer to this, if I'm not working I'm swamped doing stuff I can't get done on my work days done

It can be tough. You do such a valuable job. X"

Nowhere on the same par as you x

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

"How do you all balance work and the fun parts of life? X"

I quit my 50 plus hour a week, high pressured job in Pharmacy dispensing in London in 2006 because it was consuming me and taking over my life.

Had to get out of the rat race before it did my head in.

Moved 280 miles for calmer cleaner safer quality of life.

Never been so broke in the bank account, but no regrets.

Much more time to myself these days... chilled most of the time... not going back to full time work for all the money in the world.

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By *xciter7169Man
over a year ago

The Midlands

"Sometimes, if I have a moment to think, I wish I had more time to spend with people I love and doing things I enjoy.

How do you all balance work and the fun parts of life? X"

Too be honest i dont think i do,i work to live......and the fun parts,there isnt many really,to busy shopping,gardening,cooking,ironing etc etc

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By *onzacappaMan
over a year ago

Formby

Im a massive newbie to this forum so hope you dont mind me butting in, ive got alot to say on this topic haha. Theres a guy called Johann Hari, search a couple of his videos on youtube its well worth a watch and can put it far better than i can haha. Were all just humans with unmet needs, nothing complex, this life were given just isnt for us

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"I will but at a glance it doesn't take account of the fact that sometimes it is hard to put yourself ahead of others needs.

For example, a soldier can't say they aren't going to work because peoples lives may depend on it. "

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay

I'm self employed.. I chose it so I could manage the balance. It comes with a hit though.. Sometimes finances are tough to manage but Im there to spend time with my kids, myself, lovers and family.

My son doesn't gave the trainers he REALLY wants but hopefully one day he will appreciate my choice.

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By *xciter7169Man
over a year ago

The Midlands

"I'm self employed.. I chose it so I could manage the balance. It comes with a hit though.. Sometimes finances are tough to manage but Im there to spend time with my kids, myself, lovers and family.

My son doesn't gave the trainers he REALLY wants but hopefully one day he will appreciate my choice. "

Nothing wrong with Dunlop greenflash

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Tell me about it, juggling family life and looking after children, with running our own business, to doing housework, being taxi for our children to take them to work and hobbies, to fitting in exercise 5 days a week, uuuurgh it's hectic and tiring. We do try and go out either with friends or by ourselves every other weekend though as we need some playtime. All work and no play isn't good for anyone.

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By *acDreamy OP Man
over a year ago

Wirral

"Tell me about it, juggling family life and looking after children, with running our own business, to doing housework, being taxi for our children to take them to work and hobbies, to fitting in exercise 5 days a week, uuuurgh it's hectic and tiring. We do try and go out either with friends or by ourselves every other weekend though as we need some playtime. All work and no play isn't good for anyone.

Absolutely!

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Weekdays are family and work filled, weekends are fun filled

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You make time.

You simply prioritise it.

Unless you are working from eyess open to eyes shut, simply do what you wish to.

If you ARE working that much, ask yourself why? Do you really need to?

You are supposed to work to live, not live to work.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Getting older brings wisdom.

I used to work long hours and do anything for the sake of my career. Now I value my downtime, when I took up my latest position I was clear to them that during working hours I would give 100% but come the official end of the working day I was out of the office, no overtime, no answering phones etc.

My time out of work is for me and my family. We do things we enjoy and want to do.

The sacrifices we made when I was younger have enabled our lifestyle so no regrets.

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By *acDreamy OP Man
over a year ago

Wirral

Thanks everyone. Some seem to have cracked it! I hope those that struggle, like me, have found it helpful to reflect.

Off to work now! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After burning out in a job before I now try really hard not to.

As a single parent who works full time I've always found it tough. Recently though I made a conscious decision to put mine and my sons wellbeing first. My work will still be there.

It's helped but I do still feel guilty.

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By *anae21Woman
over a year ago

Nearer than you think

"I changed my career to a job with huge job satisfaction on a lower salary but with a 4 day flexible week. Yes I’m poor. But god I’m happy.

I did exactly the same. I can thoroughly recommend it.

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