FabSwingers.com forum: Forumite friend zone

By *EAT..85 OP Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

How many conversations have you started up with forumites you rather fancy and missed your chance at the sexy dance as things patter out friendly and mundane?

How many conversations would you wish to reverse back to the point of suggesting rampant sexy times?

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

Never communicated with a forumite enough to reach that point.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Was given good advice from a forumite dont meet any

Made some great mstes6

Do I fancy any

Yes

Do I regret not asking them for a date

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By *JB1954Man
over a year ago

Reading

Messaged with one or two. But all , I am out of their age range. So no further

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Nope. All that were meant to be more have naturally become that. No regrets.

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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago

Derbyshire village

Haven't seen anyone suitable as yet

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By *lenderfoxMan
over a year ago

Leeds

"Nope. All that were meant to be more have naturally become that. No regrets."

Couldn't have put it better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Probably the opposite for me ! My Fab chats usually begin with a friendly vibe, if that goes in a sexual direction for both then happy days, but if not there's still a cool friendship.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I don’t think anyone has communicated with me with a genuine interest to boff me from the forums. I think it’s always just been harmless flirting on their part and me being too shy to reciprocate.

I’m hard work to chat with so I take full responsibility. So friend zoned? Maybe? Or just passed over as really hard work!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it tails off I send a dick pic.

Ladies love it.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

A few, but distance is usually the killer. Or me being a twat, that can be an issue too

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

99.9% of my meets are with people who don't use the forums, prefer to keep it that way.

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By *EAT..85 OP Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"I don’t think anyone has communicated with me with a genuine interest to boff me from the forums. I think it’s always just been harmless flirting on their part and me being too shy to reciprocate.

I’m hard work to chat with so I take full responsibility. So friend zoned? Maybe? Or just passed over as really hard work!

Aww Luna, I bet you're so wrong!

Folks, make it stupendously obvious if you want to bump uglies with her!

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Zero. I'm one of those awkward sods who needs to be friends with someone before I can properly start to want to do the horizontal tango with them.

Sometimes that doesn't work out but I've still got a friendship there and to be honest, I'm a selective 'mare so my friendship is a lot easier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nope. All that were meant to be more have naturally become that. No regrets.

Couldn't have put it better"

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By *EAT..85 OP Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"99.9% of my meets are with people who don't use the forums, prefer to keep it that way. "

Mines a mixture, though more non forumites due to location ease. I'm terrible at figuring out who has/is nabbing who

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"99.9% of my meets are with people who don't use the forums, prefer to keep it that way.

Mines a mixture, though more non forumites due to location ease. I'm terrible at figuring out who has/is nabbing who

I just find there is less drama involved meeting non formites. Been there, done it and can't be arsed with all the childlike behaviour x

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

None, if I'm interested in meeting I say so early on...I'm not one for beating around the bush or waiting for someone else to make the first move.

Plus I really dislike endless messaging

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By *igcockhighsexdriveMan
over a year ago

birmingham

I keep it straight to the point, no beating around the bush

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What will be, will be. If I'm friendly with someone I fancy and chat about cake or the weather or something, I'll still jump into bed with them if the chance presented itself

I do know though, that if they can't hold a nice sexual, friendly conversation with me, I'm unlikely to want to sleep with them!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How many conversations have you started up with forumites you rather fancy and missed your chance at the sexy dance as things patter out friendly and mundane?

How many conversations would you wish to reverse back to the point of suggesting rampant sexy times? "

Is no one going to pick up on the terms ‘sexy dance’ and ‘sexy times’, OP have you got too much sexy you need to get rid of ?

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By *asilyled1Man
over a year ago

ogmore valley

I’m hard work to chat with so I take full responsibility. So friend zoned? Maybe? Or just passed over as really hard work!

We talked about IKEA!

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I’m hard work to chat with so I take full responsibility. So friend zoned? Maybe? Or just passed over as really hard work!

We talked about IKEA!

Mmmmmmmm meatballs *rubs thighs*

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

"How many conversations have you started up with forumites you rather fancy and missed your chance at the sexy dance as things patter out friendly and mundane?

How many conversations would you wish to reverse back to the point of suggesting rampant sexy times?

Is no one going to pick up on the terms ‘sexy dance’ and ‘sexy times’, OP have you got too much sexy you need to get rid of ?"

I didn’t notice that, I was too busy having a schoolboy smirk over “beating around the bush”

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By *asilyled1Man
over a year ago

ogmore valley

I’m hard work to chat with so I take full responsibility. So friend zoned? Maybe? Or just passed over as really hard work!

We talked about IKEA!

Mmmmmmmm meatballs *rubs thighs*

You and your balls!

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By *irty Flirty HarryMan
over a year ago

East Sussex

I love a flirty and dirty conversation however it is quite a rare thing. If any ladies are up for a chat please let me know.

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By *amie HantsWoman
over a year ago

Atlantis

None really. The minute I have any sexual conversation with someone I cannot meet them. I say all sorts of bollocks midwank and it would be too awkward with too much pressure sitting through a coffee chatting about the weather after that

Sex definitely comes after the friendly chit chat but before the dirty flirty stuff for me

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

For me starts of as friendly chat, if it naturally progresses that way from both sides so be it, if not I haven’t thought about it so nothing lost.

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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

I’m hard work to chat with so I take full responsibility. So friend zoned? Maybe? Or just passed over as really hard work!

We talked about IKEA!

Mmmmmmmm meatballs *rubs thighs*

Mmmmmmmm stools *rubs thighs*

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I normally end up in the friend zone.

There's been a couple of instances where I'd hoped for more, but I'd rather keep a friend than lose them trying to push for something that they didn't want.

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

There are some forumites that I fancy - and tell them so!

Most of my "sexy time" meets follow on from a friendship, anyway. If they friend zone me, that's ok. Likewise, I've friend zoned a couple.

Only one person has ever been a dick about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to be on and off this site and found it fairly easy to find what I was looking for. Since becoming a site supporter and using the forums I haven't had one meet.

And I've not had any formite "indecent proposals" either.

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

Tbh friendships are more important to me than sex, so I'm never going to be disappointed being in a friendzone.

If it becomes sexual I'm a happy bunny, but if not I've gained a friend... so I'm still a happy bunny.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a complete wall flower in here, nobody notices me or really answers to anything I comment on.

I can be quite contentious, or boring?

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

None, they were all meant to have gone that way, the ones that went the other way and we actually met went the right way as well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In prefer the concept of Fight clubs "single serving friends" where I go out, meet people and become besties for that day then never see each other again. im not great at maintaining relationships.

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

Is an interesting question this actually as there has certainly has been one or two I'd like to start over with and one who was interested but I've given up haha ...

But that's fab so no major biggie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is not the first time I have been on here. Last time, when the conversations dried up, I took it as a failing on my part. The reality is I am one of so many men on here, it is buyer’s market.

One of the women I chatted to (and still do, bless her) tried to explain to me swinging is all about friendships, not sex and hook ups. I didn’t get that at the time but I think I do now.

Unless they start getting ‘ sexy’ I stay away from that now. Did it in the past and found it lasts two weeks tops. Now I chat, have a laugh, if the conversation comes to an end, or they stop replying then I leave it at that. Maybe life has got in the way or they have moved on, it is their choice

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

I tend to friend zone myself all the time

There are some I'd just wished I'd said straight off what I wanted but nerves and stuff got in the way. What's done is done I guess

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

None really. I’ve made lots of friends on here which I never really expected. It’s actually very rare that I want to take it further but when I have it’s always been worth it. No regrets or shoulda woulda coulda’s here x

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"I tend to friend zone myself all the time

There are some I'd just wished I'd said straight off what I wanted but nerves and stuff got in the way. What's done is done I guess "

We are who we are.

Taking that first step is a very anxious time.

Try and be brave (i should do the same).

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By *EAT..85 OP Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"How many conversations have you started up with forumites you rather fancy and missed your chance at the sexy dance as things patter out friendly and mundane?

How many conversations would you wish to reverse back to the point of suggesting rampant sexy times?

Is no one going to pick up on the terms ‘sexy dance’ and ‘sexy times’, OP have you got too much sexy you need to get rid of ?"

Does it show?

I'm a little without at the moment

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By *EAT..85 OP Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

"I'm a complete wall flower in here, nobody notices me or really answers to anything I comment on.

I can be quite contentious, or boring?

I see you. Keep at it and you'll float someone's boat

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