FabSwingers.com forum: Is being sex partners easier than being friends?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

A person will share an intimate experience with you by having sex, showing you nakedness, vulnerability, even do things reserved for the realms of trusted long term partner but ask them to be your friend and its one step too far it seems sometimes. Why is this? Has the ‘value’ of sex decreased? Does friendship require giving more of your ‘private’ self? What say you?

I was just pondering whilst washing my thighs in the shower….

Malted milk biscuit anyone?

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I won't do one without the other so this is not my experience.

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston

Friendship and emotional attachment are deal breakers for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Friend first and foremost for me OP. So I don’t have this issue and never will.

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Never get it that way round. If anything some become too good a friend..

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
over a year ago

Wales/ All over UK

I suppose for some people it’s a way of separating their everyday life and their swinging life, not everyone wants crossover between the two and prefer them to be two different things entirely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not sure if this is what you mean, op, but I have different sorts of friendlies with those I meet on here. I don't want to mix fab with the rest of my life so wouldn't have someone from here enter into my normal everyday life. I like to keep the 2 very separate. I would still call many of those I meet friends, just a different type.

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By *heshirefungirlWoman
over a year ago

ammanford

Some of my best friends and most valued members of my life, I've met though swing, I've been to there weddings, milestone birthday partys and there kids have grown up with me around and call me auntie and know I'd do anything for them

There is some that the friendship is only a swing thing

And there is some who were just a fuck in a club

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By *heshirefungirlWoman
over a year ago

ammanford

"Some of my best friends and most valued members of my life, I've met though swing, I've been to there weddings, milestone birthday partys and there kids have grown up with me around and call me auntie and know I'd do anything for them

There is some that the friendship is only a swing thing

And there is some who were just a fuck in a club "

You have to be mindful that everyone's situation outside of swing is different and for some a club is their realise and a separate part of their life than the real world

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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

This is a testy subject and a bone of contention with someone atm.

I'm friend abundant and don’t need any more but I would like new lovers... at the same times I'd like to be friendly with my lovers. But I still don't need more friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people just want a fuck with no strings. Friendship/ human interaction is too much for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not sure if this is what you mean, op, but I have different sorts of friendlies with those I meet on here. I don't want to mix fab with the rest of my life so wouldn't have someone from here enter into my normal everyday life. I like to keep the 2 very separate. I would still call many of those I meet friends, just a different type. "

Same here well said

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By *mily36CWoman
over a year ago

Beds (or anywhere beginning with B..!?)

"Never get it that way round. If anything some become too good a friend.. "

Agreed ...there's the dark hole area of being Fab friend zoned...

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

I don't know. I was just struck by the image of you washing your thighs in the shower.

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
over a year ago

Wales/ All over UK

"This is a testy subject and a bone of contention with someone atm.

I'm friend abundant and don’t need any more but I would like new lovers... at the same times I'd like to be friendly with my lovers. But I still don't need more friends

That’s not particularly strange… you can still be friendly with someone without actually being friends

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I don't think that you need to be committed friends of the type where you support each other through bad times and are god parents to their children in order to enjoy sex. I'm not sure that makes it of less value really

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