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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Have you ever been at a party or club event, loads of people milling around. Some you know, some you don't.

While there may be moments of good chat and fun, have you ever had moments where you feel alone, feel like everyone else there is having more fun than you are? It's as if you are on the outside looking on.

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By *iBBWLondonWoman
over a year ago

London


"Have you ever been at a party or club event, loads of people milling around. Some you know, some you don't.

While there may be moments of good chat and fun, have you ever had moments where you feel alone, feel like everyone else there is having more fun than you are? It's as if you are on the outside looking on. "

Yes, always.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, on too many occasions unfortunately

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

In personal hell currently, suddenly a lot of shit has come my way. Personal and health stuff, hopefully some of it is behind me, but I still have more to deal with before I see happier times again.

Due to this I had to log out of Facebook and some other social media. There’s nothing worse than feeling that your life is spiralling out of your control and seeing other people enjoying their lives. Or at least pretending on social media that they’re having a great time.

So unfortunately it’s not only in a room full of people that you can find yourself feeling alone and missing out.

So yes I’ve been there recently and can totally be empathetic to that feeling

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I think it's very easy to look at other people and think their lives are better, happier, more fulfilled etc. Possibly they are but most people live lives that are mundane the majority of the time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the replies. Not new to the site but newish to starting discussions here

While it's nice to see am not alone I do sympathise with anyone who feels the same. And agree that social media can make the feelings worse at times.

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By *toobguyMan
over a year ago

Manchester

One of the loneliest places in the world is being in a room full of people all having fun, and you're not.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Sometimes x

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Sometimes... staying in Gravesend caring for mum has been hard to make new friends here

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By *lbinoGorillaMan
over a year ago

Redditch

Yep, I get that feeling regularly, unfortunately.

Conversely I am often happy to go and sit on my own in a busy pub or café, reading a book or on my phone, content that there are people around if I want them

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

Happens all the time, suddenly just feel alone and think about leaving or just going and sitting in a corner somewhere.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yep, I get that feeling regularly, unfortunately.

Conversely I am often happy to go and sit on my own in a busy pub or café, reading a book or on my phone, content that there are people around if I want them"

I so get this and in fact doing it now as wanted to be around people, even if strangers

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Yes this is well documented

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think it's very easy to look at other people and think their lives are better, happier, more fulfilled etc. Possibly they are but most people live lives that are mundane the majority of the time. "

Have to agree

When I go clubs I'm lively and fun ,will talk to anyone and always include people on there own.

But my real life I'm just a stay at home mum with a very boring life waiting for the hubby to come home and liven me up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ya unfortunately it happens to most of us but the most important thing is to not let it get you down and if it does talk about it and don't bottle it up inside

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By *iltopbearMan
over a year ago

Norfolk


"It's as if you are on the outside looking on. "

Feel this way about most situations that I find myself in, including here on the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. I very rarely pull either

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By *uddy laneMan
over a year ago

dudley

Aww bless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes this is well documented "

No more, I’m your wingman now xxx

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

Most of the time in social gatherings tbh.

I want to get involved and have fun, but I just find it really hard to start talking or to get involved with existing conversations, so I end up not saying anything and then just drifting around aimlessly.

It's something I'm massively working on though and trying to push myself out of my comfort zones. When I have I've had the best of times.

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By *yronMan
over a year ago

grangemouth

Had it with a group of 'friends' in my first year at Uni. I dropped them in the second term, nobody needs to be treated like a leper.

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach


"Have you ever been at a party or club event, loads of people milling around. Some you know, some you don't.

While there may be moments of good chat and fun, have you ever had moments where you feel alone, feel like everyone else there is having more fun than you are? It's as if you are on the outside looking on. "

All the time but it doesn't bother me, certainly don't crave adoration or validation. Rather be alone in a crowd being me, than center of fake attantion

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

I permanently feel this way. It's hard for me to imagine what being on the inside of things might be like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes I think people think this about me. I'm happy to take time to myself in clubs and just watch from afar. I don't feel the need to be the life and soul of the party.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More often than I care to admit.

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By *.D.I.D.A.SMan
over a year ago

London/Essex... ish... Romford to be exact

Sometimes. When it does happen it is very uncomfortable. Best way I can describe it is like the comedy Peep Show. I look around and it is like I am watching a show as an observer. They're all talking and laughing but I have zero clue what is going on. I don't even hear words, I just see lips moving and noises emitting from their mouths. Meanwhile my internal monologue is turned up to volume 11. And all of a sudden time seems to have slowed down.

'Do something... Say something... I have no clue what! Don't just stand there... Its OK, nobody noticed. Maybe I'll just count to 100 and then leave. I must have been here for at least half an hour now. Wait, I've been here six minutes? No... I must find someone and talk to them. Oh my god... Why does my mate look like an alien. What's happened to me? OK... I'm going to talk to this person, they look like they're bored and would welcome a chat. I'm a cool, friendly guy. OK here goes... '

Me: Hi! Oranges!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often feel like this but equally I'm not someone who would want to be the centre of attention either x

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By *as_no_ideaCouple
over a year ago

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I often feel like this.

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