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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Curly haired people! I need help. I'm lusting after 3a curls but mine are 2c (the frizzy type).

I run and swim a lot and its getting really dried out. Thinking about a cowash but does anyone have any recommendations?

Also, the day I wash my hair, it's fine. Day 2 - super tangled. If I brush it, it goes frizzy. If I wash it every day it gets drier. If I leave it, it gets matted and I have to cut clumps out.

What do you all do?

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

Sounds like you need someone to come and stroke it for you.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I live with my frizz to be honest. After thinking I should have straight hair, so straightened the crap out of it. Then told it's ok not to have straight hair have curly hair it's easy if you dry your hair with an ostrich feather fan.

I've decided my hair is frizzy and that's ok too. Doesn't have to be sleak and straight or volumptous bouncing curls. Frizzy half straight half curls look good too.

Know this is bog all use to you, but this has been my realisation this week.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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Hello Op! I'm guessing you follow the curly girl method? My hair is mainly 3b/c for reference so obviously I need some heavier moisture to help but I can definitely recommend a few things that are more suited for your hair.

- a cowash might be a very good shout. I alternate between two, As I Am Coconut Cowash and Curlsmith Quenching Cowash - the first is meant to be universally good regardless of hair curl type.

- are you using any leave in product? Do you sleep with a silk bonnet/scarf on? Do you have silk pillowcases?

- what's your refresh technique?

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

Do you follow the CG method at all?

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham


"Hello Op! I'm guessing you follow the curly girl method? My hair is mainly 3b/c for reference so obviously I need some heavier moisture to help but I can definitely recommend a few things that are more suited for your hair.

- a cowash might be a very good shout. I alternate between two, As I Am Coconut Cowash and Curlsmith Quenching Cowash - the first is meant to be universally good regardless of hair curl type.

- are you using any leave in product? Do you sleep with a silk bonnet/scarf on? Do you have silk pillowcases?

- what's your refresh technique?"

Ummmm you seem to have a much better understand on the CG method so I’ll respectfully back out

You can find me in the corner googled almost everything you write

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By *herry OnatopWoman
over a year ago

Just over there

Sound like me!

I've found a cheap oil in tesco for 99p! It's better than anything I've ever used! Little clear bottle, two pumps after washing and leave to dry scrunched up. I try not to brush, just use a detailer.

I'm currently harvesting marestail, an invasive plant that contains silica to make a hair rinse and oil. I'll let you know how it goes!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I thought the curly girl method looked a bit overwhelming. I've been using the lemon clarifying shampoo they use at the hairdressers but because I'm using it every time, my hair is getting dry.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"Sound like me!

I've found a cheap oil in tesco for 99p! It's better than anything I've ever used! Little clear bottle, two pumps after washing and leave to dry scrunched up. I try not to brush, just use a detailer.

I'm currently harvesting marestail, an invasive plant that contains silica to make a hair rinse and oil. I'll let you know how it goes! "

I have loads of marestail in my garden. Please do need some way of getting rid of it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Hello Op! I'm guessing you follow the curly girl method? My hair is mainly 3b/c for reference so obviously I need some heavier moisture to help but I can definitely recommend a few things that are more suited for your hair.

- a cowash might be a very good shout. I alternate between two, As I Am Coconut Cowash and Curlsmith Quenching Cowash - the first is meant to be universally good regardless of hair curl type.

- are you using any leave in product? Do you sleep with a silk bonnet/scarf on? Do you have silk pillowcases?

- what's your refresh technique?"

I have some silk pillow cases. Going to put them on my bed now!

And going to look up the cowashes now - thank you so much x

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By *ager4moreWoman
over a year ago

Warrington

I wash mine and leave it to dry naturally on day 1. I’ll add some frizz calming serum once its dry if it looks like a layer of pubes is nesting over the top. On day 2 I straightened it and on day 3 it’s usually straight enough to just brush and leave slightly wavy. Wash again on day 4 if going out, or leave until day 5. My hair is straw dry and made worse by over washing.

I use a hair mask overnight once every couple of months just to show willing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sounds like you need someone to come and stroke it for you. "

Nice try

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"I thought the curly girl method looked a bit overwhelming. I've been using the lemon clarifying shampoo they use at the hairdressers but because I'm using it every time, my hair is getting dry. "

I use imbue curl liberating shampoo which I found does help and the curl respecting conditioner. My hair is a combination of 2b, 2c and 3a.

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By *herry OnatopWoman
over a year ago

Just over there


"Sound like me!

I've found a cheap oil in tesco for 99p! It's better than anything I've ever used! Little clear bottle, two pumps after washing and leave to dry scrunched up. I try not to brush, just use a detailer.

I'm currently harvesting marestail, an invasive plant that contains silica to make a hair rinse and oil. I'll let you know how it goes!

I have loads of marestail in my garden. Please do need some way of getting rid of it. "

Pick the younger shoots and cover in warm water in a large mason jar making sure no plant goes above the water line and place in a dark cupboard for 2-3 weeks. Same with oil. Just choose your favourite oil, I use almond and store in the same way. The first is a rinse use after shampoo,re-rinsing 3 times with the same water.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"

Ummmm you seem to have a much better understand on the CG method so I’ll respectfully back out

You can find me in the corner googled almost everything you write "

Ha! No, it's good to have a range of knowledge about it. There's so much to curly hair and it doesn't all have to be expensive either - you can do a test to check whether your hair needs protein or moisture. Take a strand of hair and if you stretch it far and it breaks, you need protein. You can use rice water (cook rice, use the water) and that helps restore strength to it. Moisture you can use coconut oil, slather it on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I live with my frizz to be honest. After thinking I should have straight hair, so straightened the crap out of it. Then told it's ok not to have straight hair have curly hair it's easy if you dry your hair with an ostrich feather fan.

I've decided my hair is frizzy and that's ok too. Doesn't have to be sleak and straight or volumptous bouncing curls. Frizzy half straight half curls look good too.

Know this is bog all use to you, but this has been my realisation this week. "

I don't mind my frizz but it's getting worse and sometimes I see my shadow and my hair is massive. I want good curls!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

Ummmm you seem to have a much better understand on the CG method so I’ll respectfully back out

You can find me in the corner googled almost everything you write

Ha! No, it's good to have a range of knowledge about it. There's so much to curly hair and it doesn't all have to be expensive either - you can do a test to check whether your hair needs protein or moisture. Take a strand of hair and if you stretch it far and it breaks, you need protein. You can use rice water (cook rice, use the water) and that helps restore strength to it. Moisture you can use coconut oil, slather it on. "

Ooh interesting. Going to try now...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I thought the curly girl method looked a bit overwhelming. I've been using the lemon clarifying shampoo they use at the hairdressers but because I'm using it every time, my hair is getting dry.

I use imbue curl liberating shampoo which I found does help and the curl respecting conditioner. My hair is a combination of 2b, 2c and 3a. "

Thank you x

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'm closer to 2b (although I run the gamut from 2a to 3a, mostly 2b) and riff off CGM. (I also have fine hair which colours my response)

Sounds like you need a less drying routine and/or to switch out products. Depending on what my hair needs when it's washing, I either use a low poo (Johnson and Johnson baby wash - seriously), a regular sulphate shampoo to clarify (infrequently) or cowash with a light conditioner (also infrequently, my scalp is too much of a grease monster for that).

After showering I use a variation on the LOG method - leave in, oil, gel (can also be mousse). My hair is quite fine so sometimes it's LG or OG, both can be too heavy.

Unless you're specifically treating your hair (today I'm treating it with a heavy leave in and am not worried about appearance), keep in mind that type 2 hair is more delicate in its curl pattern, and heavier leave ins and oils pull out the waves. (On days when the curl pattern isn't important, I enjoy the Shea Moisture strengthen and restore leave in, my hair feels a lot healthier. If I'm trying to get waves - nope)

I'll be honest, refreshing isn't something I have a lot of success with, I usually brush it out and tie it up if I'm not on a wash day. Pantene gold do a good detangling milk that I get on well with, even if I've got a lot of gel in. It returns my hair to manageable floof, but that's what plaits are for.

Some frizz is inevitable.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"Sounds like you need someone to come and stroke it for you.

Nice try "

Just one option for you.

I'll go and join the other guy in the corner.

2 googles are better than one.

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By *rs mischiefWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

As all curly hair is different you have to find what works for you.

I wash with sulphate free shampoo, do not rub it in circles, just forward and backwards in lines, brush with shampoo in.

Rinse, condition mids to ends with high moisture conditioner, leave for 5 mins.

Brush again with conditioner in.

Rinse.

Dry with a tshirt! Not a towel, don't rub scrunch.

Run fingers through hair to separate.

Coconut oil mids to ends and a little on scalp and roots.

Leave to air dry or diffuse in low / cold heat.

I sleep with a satin scarf between washes to keep it hydrated.

Spray with water daily scrunch and if needed a tiny bit more coconut oil on the ends/dry bits.

It's kind of a taken on CG but you have to find what works for you best, products etc. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read the other day that hyaluronic acid is really good for dried out hair. I've just ordered some from The Ordinary to try.

I have naturally wavy hair and been saying for ages I should try the CG method

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for this everyone really appreciated xx

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham


"

Ummmm you seem to have a much better understand on the CG method so I’ll respectfully back out

You can find me in the corner googled almost everything you write

Ha! No, it's good to have a range of knowledge about it. There's so much to curly hair and it doesn't all have to be expensive either - you can do a test to check whether your hair needs protein or moisture. Take a strand of hair and if you stretch it far and it breaks, you need protein. You can use rice water (cook rice, use the water) and that helps restore strength to it. Moisture you can use coconut oil, slather it on. "

Wait, coconut oil for moisture?

I always thought to avoid heavy oils on CG because it actually dries the hair by not letting water in!

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"

Ummmm you seem to have a much better understand on the CG method so I’ll respectfully back out

You can find me in the corner googled almost everything you write

Ha! No, it's good to have a range of knowledge about it. There's so much to curly hair and it doesn't all have to be expensive either - you can do a test to check whether your hair needs protein or moisture. Take a strand of hair and if you stretch it far and it breaks, you need protein. You can use rice water (cook rice, use the water) and that helps restore strength to it. Moisture you can use coconut oil, slather it on.

Wait, coconut oil for moisture?

I always thought to avoid heavy oils on CG because it actually dries the hair by not letting water in!"

It depends on your hair type really - I've got mixed 3b/3c hair that needs all the moisture. You can experiment with the amount needed - some find using it mid to ends gives their hair enough moisture. I use it a mask and the difference it makes is... well a lot. The day before I'd have straw hair and after it bountiful curls.

So yes, heavy oils for one curl type will be soaked up by another's curls.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine is really frizzy too. I only started the CGM this week so I'm still finding my feet but there's some great resources out there including a group on FB that been brilliant.

My first attempt was awful and 3 days in I had a bird's nest on my head apparently it gets better! Good luck OP.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)


"

Ummmm you seem to have a much better understand on the CG method so I’ll respectfully back out

You can find me in the corner googled almost everything you write

Ha! No, it's good to have a range of knowledge about it. There's so much to curly hair and it doesn't all have to be expensive either - you can do a test to check whether your hair needs protein or moisture. Take a strand of hair and if you stretch it far and it breaks, you need protein. You can use rice water (cook rice, use the water) and that helps restore strength to it. Moisture you can use coconut oil, slather it on.

Wait, coconut oil for moisture?

I always thought to avoid heavy oils on CG because it actually dries the hair by not letting water in!

It depends on your hair type really - I've got mixed 3b/3c hair that needs all the moisture. You can experiment with the amount needed - some find using it mid to ends gives their hair enough moisture. I use it a mask and the difference it makes is... well a lot. The day before I'd have straw hair and after it bountiful curls.

So yes, heavy oils for one curl type will be soaked up by another's curls."

Conversely - obviously very different hair - I use light oils to lock moisture in. Definitely not coconut (that'd be a disaster). Grapeseed in my case.

It is a barrier but that isn't a bad thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have very curly hair. I don't use the CG method, i can't be doing with all that faffin to be honest. I did partly try it and bought a stupidly expensive brush and towel ... no difference at all in the end so now i stick to a simple method.

I wash my hair every morning, sometimes in the evening too. My hair isn't dry despite the frequent washing. I use Alberto Balsam shampoo and conditioner, the green one. Once washed (in the bath) i use an ordinary towel to do a quick dry. I then comb it. I use Paul Mitchell sugar spray, 4 sprays into my hands then i wipe it in my hair. Sometimes i then scrunch my hair with my hands then leave it to dry. It looks great, sometimes it looks wet so i run my fingers through my hair. Looks great although not super shiny. If needed i can comb through some water at the end of the day to get rid of frizz although it rarely gets frizzy. It is today though due to humidity.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham


"

Ummmm you seem to have a much better understand on the CG method so I’ll respectfully back out

You can find me in the corner googled almost everything you write

Ha! No, it's good to have a range of knowledge about it. There's so much to curly hair and it doesn't all have to be expensive either - you can do a test to check whether your hair needs protein or moisture. Take a strand of hair and if you stretch it far and it breaks, you need protein. You can use rice water (cook rice, use the water) and that helps restore strength to it. Moisture you can use coconut oil, slather it on.

Wait, coconut oil for moisture?

I always thought to avoid heavy oils on CG because it actually dries the hair by not letting water in!

It depends on your hair type really - I've got mixed 3b/3c hair that needs all the moisture. You can experiment with the amount needed - some find using it mid to ends gives their hair enough moisture. I use it a mask and the difference it makes is... well a lot. The day before I'd have straw hair and after it bountiful curls.

So yes, heavy oils for one curl type will be soaked up by another's curls."

I’m going to bother you now

Just normal coconut oil? After a shower?

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Do you like curly pubes OP?

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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It depends on your hair type really - I've got mixed 3b/3c hair that needs all the moisture. You can experiment with the amount needed - some find using it mid to ends gives their hair enough moisture. I use it a mask and the difference it makes is... well a lot. The day before I'd have straw hair and after it bountiful curls.

So yes, heavy oils for one curl type will be soaked up by another's curls.

I’m going to bother you now

Just normal coconut oil? After a shower?"

You're not bothering me in the slightest. I normally use it in the shower while my hair is still wet (my hair absorbs products better the wetter it is) and the steam from the shower is helping keep my cuticles open. Normal coconut oil (decent quality though), if I'm doing a deep conditioning treatment/mask I'll use that, scrunch my hair and then leave it on with a shower cap/plastic bag for half a hour so it can do its thing. If you have a scalp brush it's a good idea to use it, stops any build up happening!

I sometimes mix a small bit with my normal CG approved conditioner and then just apply that as usual, wash it out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've no idea what letters or numbers my curls were when I had long curly hair (past my shoulders when pulled straight.)

All I know is if I didn't use a product on it I got an afro.

Usually I used mouse and had big bouncy ringlets!

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Bookmarking!!! God I need some help with mine right now. The nest is out of control and it’s not a good look!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have very curly hair. I don't use the CG method, i can't be doing with all that faffin to be honest. I did partly try it and bought a stupidly expensive brush and towel ... no difference at all in the end so now i stick to a simple method.

I wash my hair every morning, sometimes in the evening too. My hair isn't dry despite the frequent washing. I use Alberto Balsam shampoo and conditioner, the green one. Once washed (in the bath) i use an ordinary towel to do a quick dry. I then comb it. I use Paul Mitchell sugar spray, 4 sprays into my hands then i wipe it in my hair. Sometimes i then scrunch my hair with my hands then leave it to dry. It looks great, sometimes it looks wet so i run my fingers through my hair. Looks great although not super shiny. If needed i can comb through some water at the end of the day to get rid of frizz although it rarely gets frizzy. It is today though due to humidity. "

I think my hair is usually 2c/3a but sometimes it all ringlets.

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I don't have curly hair but hubby and friend do.

Cal uses frizz ease on dry hair and my friend swears by leave in conditioner. If it's very dry it might need a hair oil.

A good quality cut can make a big difference and it's worth getting advice from a hairdresser who specialises in African hair. Western curly hair is less fragile but similar care techniques often help.

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