FabSwingers.com forum: Setting my wife up

By *itnakedlad OP Man
over a year ago

London Bridge

Getting more and more keen for someone to meet, seduce, fuck my wife

Have a specific image in mind for them.. but my real question is, does anyone have experience of setting their wives up, discretely so that they don’t know it was a set up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does she know

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By *exycouplesswingCouple
over a year ago

Tunbridge Wells

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

be careful with this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Getting more and more keen for someone to meet, seduce, fuck my wife

Have a specific image in mind for them.. but my real question is, does anyone have experience of setting their wives up, discretely so that they don’t know it was a set up "

Swinging is based on trust. Remove that and you open up a whole world of possible hurts. It's very easy to get drawn along by a fantasy idea, much harder to know how it will feel in reality.

My suggestion is to speak to your wife about this. Just because she knows it's a fantasy of yours doesn't mean she will know when/what you are planning. Talking about it gives you both a chance to discuss any boundaries, let's reach other know what you want and, if it does go wrong gives you an open and honest place to build on to our things right.

You don't have to go straight in with a fully prepared script, just let her know the idea appeals then you can judge her reaction. Saying things like 'if we ever did this then x would be important or I wouldn't like Y etc gives you both a better understanding of expectations. If she's interested in the surptise then you can choose how much you both need to know before hand, let it simmer for a while then surprise her.

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By *itnakedlad OP Man
over a year ago

London Bridge

Ok.. thanks for the thoughts and taking the time for a full response

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By *arkhorse12345Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Great comprehensive reply .

Thanks. I also suggest idea of suggesting meeting over a coffee for a casual conversation and later on bringing the topic with her ..of course you know the situation better and it need tailoring to individual circumstances preferences and likings..

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

Be very careful with this it could go horribly wrong

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By *ookinforfun6972Couple
over a year ago

Hartlepool

That's how we got our first time with someone. We both talked about meeting someone then when we where on holiday hubby got chatting to a guy on fab he told the guy which bars we'd be in. Anyway the music was playing the drinks where flowing, hubby went to the toilet and this guy came over chatting to me. When hubby came back the three of us talked just general chit chat weather etc then he asked me for a dance. Hubby told me to go for it. Anyway as we danced he told me hubby arranged this. I was so horny, we all had a walk outside and had a real passionate kiss then we all went for another drink I didn't want sex on a first "social" so we all went our separate ways. I was so horny me and hubby had great sex for the rest of the holiday and that was the start for us...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Getting more and more keen for someone to meet, seduce, fuck my wife

Have a specific image in mind for them.. but my real question is, does anyone have experience of setting their wives up, discretely so that they don’t know it was a set up

Swinging is based on trust. Remove that and you open up a whole world of possible hurts. It's very easy to get drawn along by a fantasy idea, much harder to know how it will feel in reality.

This reply is from my better half and this is exactly the approach he took with me. He arranged a surprise for me after we had lengthy chats over time... so the surprise was a fantastic success and exactly what we both wanted from it....

... hint hint my darling

NBVN x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There was an excellent episode of Death In Paradise that you should watch for tips. A husband set his wife up and all sorts of hilarious japes ensued.

Admittedly it was for murder but there are some parallels.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We started off going to Leysdown/shellness nudist beach about 30 years ago. I've talked re thressomes for a while but she refused.

Anyway, we went to look at the nudist beach on a hot weekday, not too many people there but enough. I dared her to take her clothes off, she dared me, we sat in a dune intially she took hers off and then me then her knickers. Gradually from there she allowed men to chat and teased them open legs etc, then kisses and an more, fingering etc - then next stage got her to agree home nudist massage and the first time she got her nude massage guy was well, she enjoyed her love making then gradually next few guys i was allowed to watch and join in. We stopped several years ago as lot older and trying to get back into it - been to leysdown but older now and she is lacking confidence

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Getting more and more keen for someone to meet, seduce, fuck my wife

Have a specific image in mind for them.. but my real question is, does anyone have experience of setting their wives up, discretely so that they don’t know it was a set up "

Be careful what you wish for.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

If she has no idea then it's not for her or both of you it's just for you.

She may like it , she may not.

It's best to decide together , surely ?

The phrase 'setting up' ...... speaks loudly.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

The thought of men colluding to set up an unaware woman is just awful. If someone did this to me I'd walk.

Don't even contemplate it. If you're too scared of your partners reaction to your fantasy maybe have a discussion round your communication skills

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Setting up is definitely the wrong choice off words

It’s should be agreed appon

But the easies way would be to sit down and talk to her about it if you can’t do that then I not shour you should be able to talk to your wife about anything

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

"Getting more and more keen for someone to meet, seduce, fuck my wife

Have a specific image in mind for them.. but my real question is, does anyone have experience of setting their wives up, discretely so that they don’t know it was a set up "

Used to get loads of these and you say does she know "yes", then you ask to speak to her they'll say thats not the point or block you. It is a very dangerous game sorry OP.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Put the ball only in her court. Communication is key to great relationships, so finding her needs and fantasies is important

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

"The thought of men colluding to set up an unaware woman is just awful. If someone did this to me I'd walk.

Don't even contemplate it. If you're too scared of your partners reaction to your fantasy maybe have a discussion round your communication skills"

. I'd be exactly the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone's letting a fantasy override real life considerations. Trust and consent might be a couple of them.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Please don't just do this without speaking to her and confirming this is what she wants and not just what you want op.

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By *exycouplesswingCouple
over a year ago

Tunbridge Wells

Beware op, if she doesn’t know it’s a set up, and she goes for it anyway… you will have inadvertently discovered that your wife is perfectly happy to cheat on you..

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Sounds like a honey trap

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

Communication you need to talk to your wife at the very least she needs to know.

If you push on without her knowledge you can easily push past some lines that can not come back from not know your wife My wife would 100% move out not sure she be back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd love to explore this as well

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