FabSwingers.com forum: Is it rude

By *olmate OP Man
over a year ago

west mids

To delete messages after reading?

Do you think it as off putting your messages are read and replied but deleted afterwards?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people like tidy inboxes I think.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone has messaged you before then their past messages show up anyway. There's no way I could keep all mine and I get a lot less then most

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some people like tidy inboxes I think. "

Ha ha, you said tidy inbox ;-p

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some people like tidy inboxes I think.

Ha ha, you said tidy inbox ;-p"
I do like a tidy inbox, OCD kicking in

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Some people like tidy inboxes I think. "

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By *ermite12ukMan
over a year ago

Solihull and Brentwood

Prefer it tbh. As the next time, you go to message the person or couple. You get a wacking great message saying:

Warning. You've messaged this person before. Do you really want to waste your own time again.

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By *orksRockerMan
over a year ago

Bradford

Oh not another of these threads....

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"To delete messages after reading?

Do you think it as off putting your messages are read and replied but deleted afterwards?"

Yet another argument for thd sent items box to be removed as a site tool! Now we can't even delete messages we've replied to!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

No I don't think it's rude. I've had plenty of sent messages read and deleted doesn't bother me. If it's a big deal to you and annoying you why not just delete the sent messages and then you can't see what happens.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

I think deleted means a polite no thanks

Women get 100s of messages a day they can’t reply to them all

Read the faq. Deleted = no thanks

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By *rs mischiefWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

"I think deleted means a polite no thanks

Women get 100s of messages a day they can’t reply to them all

Read the faq. Deleted = no thanks "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think deleted means a polite no thanks

Women get 100s of messages a day they can’t reply to them all

Read the faq. Deleted = no thanks "

He means after they’ve been replied to

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

Not rude at all .. I like a tidy inbox

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its your box you can stuff it how like

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Ignorant yes.

I do it occasionally when someone has totally ignored everything on my profile, and I'm tired and lacking patience.

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By *herry OnatopWoman
over a year ago

Just over there

That's how I run my inbox! I deleted as soon as I've replied, the messages are still in the sent box should o need to find them. Tidy fabmin

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By *inAndTonic21Couple
over a year ago

Merseyside

It’s just easy to know what’s active or not and keeps it well managed; doesn’t mean they can’t contact or anything

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

He's not on about just deleting without replying. He's on about someone replying to a message then deleting the original read and replied to message!

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

If my message had been read, deleted and not responded to I'd take the hint?

No biggie

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By *rivervaderMan
over a year ago

bolton

I would be happy to get them read

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some of the messages need deleting as they are crass, etc, no intro etc and think they are God's gift, lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like my box tidy

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By *lzbobMan
over a year ago

plymouth

"If my message had been read, deleted and not responded to I'd take the hint?

No biggie

Exactly it's better to know that there's no interest with a deleted message than just wondering if there will ever be a reply. Used to bother me at first now I'm happy enough to have a virgin inbox yet to get a reply. Tidier is much better.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"To delete messages after reading?

Do you think it as off putting your messages are read and replied but deleted afterwards?"

Yes it's very rude. Rude as hell. I still have messages written in ink. Fab are digitalising them for me so I can add them to my ever lengthening list of messages that do nothing else but use up bandwidth.

Hope that helps. xx

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By *entlemenpipMan
over a year ago

not far

"To delete messages after reading?

Do you think it as off putting your messages are read and replied but deleted afterwards?"

Only if your are arranging a meet and havnt sort other means of communication

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How very dare they!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't look at my sent messages. If I have replied and said no thank you then yes I delete. Too many messages otherwise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s not rude at all

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

No, I always do

You can see the message thread if you're a site supporter anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't like it. Feels like they want the conversation to end.

They are probably just keeping a tidy inbox but it still makes me feel shit.

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By *olmate OP Man
over a year ago

west mids

Thank you for interesting comments.

Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If anyone is deleting my messages I'd appreciate them messaging me and letting me know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It used to make my eyes

but now i realise some people just like to delete and tidy up

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By *onb21Woman
over a year ago

Cardiff

Most commonly I do this when I reply

"Thank you", because they sent me a compliment of some description.

Or "I'm not interested, sorry" or a combination of the two.

I don't see any point keeping the messages. Why would it be considered rude to delete?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone has the manners to reply to you then they aren’t rude, rude would be ignoring then straight up deleting.

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By *olmate OP Man
over a year ago

west mids

Actually, I got messages from them. I read and replied (it was a no thank) and just deleted the messages but then I got message from them saying how rude I was to delete their message!

That is the whole thing that made me ask your opinions.

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By *odramafunCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire/staffordshire

I like a tidy inbox but try to reply to most

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone has the manners to reply to you then they aren’t rude, rude would be ignoring then straight up deleting.

Still not rude. Site rules state no reply = not interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone has the manners to reply to you then they aren’t rude, rude would be ignoring then straight up deleting.

Still not rude. Site rules state no reply = not interested."

Exactly it’s in the FAQs it’s not rude at all

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By *ormorantMan
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

No, no different to your spam box on any email account. If it’s unsolicited it’s a chance you take….

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By *not123Couple
over a year ago

sp1

"To delete messages after reading?

Do you think it as off putting your messages are read and replied but deleted afterwards?"

I get such abuse when I delete but hate loads of messages stuck there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I delete anything that doesn’t interest me.

I’m not at all bothered if strangers on the interweb think I’m rude.

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By *ld StrumpetWoman
over a year ago

Telford

I read the message go look at profile and if it’s clear they didn’t read profile ie it’s a smoker then yeah I delete. I know my profile is a fecking epic biography but if you can’t spend a minute reading it you won’t gonna spend that time working out what gets us off so fuck it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I'm still chatting to them I just assume they are good at housekeeping and like to keep things tidy. If they delete and then never reply back then that's that.

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