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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

... when I reject/don't reply to someone?

Why am I a gorgeous, sexy goddess; literally the best thing to walk (waddle) the earth before that?

How am I ever meant to trust that someone genuinely fancies me ever again?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"... when I reject/don't reply to someone?

Why am I a gorgeous, sexy goddess; literally the best thing to walk (waddle) the earth before that?

How am I ever meant to trust that someone genuinely fancies me ever again? "

C**ts will always be c**ts, if that’s how they behave look at it as a lucky escape!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Personally I think that it's best to treat compliments and insults exactly the same on here. Don't believe either is genuine

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By *allllllWoman
over a year ago

Gloucester

Because their fragile egos can't hack being rejected so they revert to infantile insults. Sounds like a them problem, you are beautiful

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By *cooby07_1Man
over a year ago

nottinghamshire

I have to agree don’t take any notice or them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No idea OP. When I message women with a compliment it is genuine but I often feel it will be taken with a pinch of salt because of all the players on here.

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By *ingdong11Man
over a year ago

emsworth


"... when I reject/don't reply to someone?

Why am I a gorgeous, sexy goddess; literally the best thing to walk (waddle) the earth before that?

How am I ever meant to trust that someone genuinely fancies me ever again? "

I think it’s impossible to tell if you fancy somebody just from a pic or two , you have to meet . Some

Men will say anything to get laid though and have fragile egos when rejected .

I like to think I have grown out of that kind of behavior though !

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

You'd never, ever value such an opinion from scum.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"... when I reject/don't reply to someone?

Why am I a gorgeous, sexy goddess; literally the best thing to walk (waddle) the earth before that?

How am I ever meant to trust that someone genuinely fancies me ever again?

C**ts will always be c**ts, if that’s how they behave look at it as a lucky escape!"

Yeah but how are you meant to know they need escaping? Like, if I said yes to one of these abusers and never saw their ugly side.

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"Personally I think that it's best to treat compliments and insults exactly the same on here. Don't believe either is genuine"

^^^ This, you won’t go far wrong with this advice

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By *ink Panther.Woman
over a year ago

Preston


"... when I reject/don't reply to someone?

Why am I a gorgeous, sexy goddess; literally the best thing to walk (waddle) the earth before that?

How am I ever meant to trust that someone genuinely fancies me ever again?

C**ts will always be c**ts, if that’s how they behave look at it as a lucky escape!

Yeah but how are you meant to know they need escaping? Like, if I said yes to one of these abusers and never saw their ugly side. "

Bat shit crazy soon shows itself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I totally get that and most of us have had similar.

It's easy to get jaded on here but keep your chin up and remember there are very decent people here and you can find what you are looking for. X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Personally I think that it's best to treat compliments and insults exactly the same on here. Don't believe either is genuine"

Good advice, but what if I never believe a compliment from a man ever again? Starting to feel like that tbh

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Because their fragile egos can't hack being rejected so they revert to infantile insults. Sounds like a them problem, you are beautiful "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"... when I reject/don't reply to someone?

Why am I a gorgeous, sexy goddess; literally the best thing to walk (waddle) the earth before that?

How am I ever meant to trust that someone genuinely fancies me ever again?

C**ts will always be c**ts, if that’s how they behave look at it as a lucky escape!

Yeah but how are you meant to know they need escaping? Like, if I said yes to one of these abusers and never saw their ugly side. "

True, I see what you mean! This is one of the major problems with the current world of anonymity that particular exists in the world of social media at the moment! I guess it’s just lucky they have revealed themselves.

(I can see the irony of talking about anonymity when I don’t have face pics on a profile, hopefully my point still makes some sense!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"... when I reject/don't reply to someone?

Why am I a gorgeous, sexy goddess; literally the best thing to walk (waddle) the earth before that?

How am I ever meant to trust that someone genuinely fancies me ever again? "

The only honest answer to that is to use your own judgment and be very selective about who you engage with.

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By *opinovMan
over a year ago

Point Nemo, Cumbria

When considering my complimentary bell curve, I tend to take notice of only the interquartiles - extraquartile outliers are usually best discounted as out and out liars.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

because they are being fannies, i think you look fantastic and confident

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your not

Your absolutely stunning and fabulous in every way shape and forum

Don’t let them get you down hugs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because their fragile egos can't hack being rejected so they revert to infantile insults. Sounds like a them problem, you are beautiful "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I totally get that and most of us have had similar.

It's easy to get jaded on here but keep your chin up and remember there are very decent people here and you can find what you are looking for. X"

Yeah I get that, I'm usually quite good at getting over insults and abusive messages.

But when it's over and over again, it makes you question whether anyone you've slept with was actually ever genuinely attracted to you

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Your beautiful

Ignore the negative remarks x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Personally I think that it's best to treat compliments and insults exactly the same on here. Don't believe either is genuine

Good advice, but what if I never believe a compliment from a man ever again? Starting to feel like that tbh"

Again this is just my personal opinion but on fab I think you probably have to assume that a lot *not all* men will just say what they hope will get them laid. It helps to have a realistic view of yourself, for instance I'm damn sure I don't have a better body than women half my age but a lot of men on here tell me that, I know not to believe that. I also know I'm not an ugly old bag, I know not to believe that too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I totally get that and most of us have had similar.

It's easy to get jaded on here but keep your chin up and remember there are very decent people here and you can find what you are looking for. X

Yeah I get that, I'm usually quite good at getting over insults and abusive messages.

But when it's over and over again, it makes you question whether anyone you've slept with was actually ever genuinely attracted to you "

I know you are brilliant at taking it with a pinch of salt.

I do understand that but remember it's not about you, it's them! I know that's hard but it's true. You are brilliant and you know I think you are fabulous. X

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I totally get that and most of us have had similar.

It's easy to get jaded on here but keep your chin up and remember there are very decent people here and you can find what you are looking for. X

Yeah I get that, I'm usually quite good at getting over insults and abusive messages.

But when it's over and over again, it makes you question whether anyone you've slept with was actually ever genuinely attracted to you "

That's quite a sad thing to read. I wish people would think about the effect of their words

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"... when I reject/don't reply to someone?

Why am I a gorgeous, sexy goddess; literally the best thing to walk (waddle) the earth before that?

How am I ever meant to trust that someone genuinely fancies me ever again? "

Excuse me - but "overweight monster" is my title and your can't have it.

Besides - you don't have the correct qualifications.

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By *issusWoman
over a year ago

Belfast


"... when I reject/don't reply to someone?

Why am I a gorgeous, sexy goddess; literally the best thing to walk (waddle) the earth before that?

How am I ever meant to trust that someone genuinely fancies me ever again? "

Because if you were skinny/athletic, after rejecting someone you'd become a gross, stuck up cunt.

If you were 10 years older, after rejecting someone you'd be an old hag, that nobody wants.

If you had too many veris, after rejecting someone you'd become a town bike not worth the ride.

If you had too few veris, after rejection you'd become a fake stuck up cock tease.

Moral of the story - it doesn't matter what size, age, sexuality, how busy or free you might be.

Some people can't take rejection and let their true colours shine bright.

Treat it as a token of good will and a bullet dodged with good fortune.

It's easier and safer to block a spotted wanker on fab rather than meet them in person.

About trust? Only gift your trust to people who earned it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"... when I reject/don't reply to someone?

Why am I a gorgeous, sexy goddess; literally the best thing to walk (waddle) the earth before that?

How am I ever meant to trust that someone genuinely fancies me ever again?

Because if you were skinny/athletic, after rejecting someone you'd become a gross, stuck up cunt.

If you were 10 years older, after rejecting someone you'd be an old hag, that nobody wants.

If you had too many veris, after rejecting someone you'd become a town bike not worth the ride.

If you had too few veris, after rejection you'd become a fake stuck up cock tease.

Moral of the story - it doesn't matter what size, age, sexuality, how busy or free you might be.

Some people can't take rejection and let their true colours shine bright.

Treat it as a token of good will and a bullet dodged with good fortune.

It's easier and safer to block a spotted wanker on fab rather than meet them in person.

About trust? Only gift your trust to people who earned it. "

Brilliantly put.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"... when I reject/don't reply to someone?

Why am I a gorgeous, sexy goddess; literally the best thing to walk (waddle) the earth before that?

How am I ever meant to trust that someone genuinely fancies me ever again? "

Because hastily typed manchild vitriol cannot define you.

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By *illen5Man
over a year ago

Bath

For men to get what they want they only say what they think you want to hear. Being primitive creatures they lash out when they don't get what they want. The anonymity plays an important part. Suggest you name and shame in your updates. Then the guy will wonder why loads of men are checking out his profile and hopefully messaging about rudeness.

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By *illen5Man
over a year ago

Bath

All your negative messages will generate a response. Why put yourself through this drama. Reject and block

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"All your negative messages will generate a response. Why put yourself through this drama. Reject and block"

Put this happens to lots of women on this site as well as on others is not unique and it's not just a case of blocking as the OP has pointed out these things have a lasting affect even if we are normally very robust.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"... when I reject/don't reply to someone?

Why am I a gorgeous, sexy goddess; literally the best thing to walk (waddle) the earth before that?

How am I ever meant to trust that someone genuinely fancies me ever again? "
because the person messaging you is a tool as they say once a c**t always a c**t

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Words can wound x

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"All your negative messages will generate a response. Why put yourself through this drama. Reject and block"

I don't block them I report them and hope they get a ban so therefore learn not to do it again.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"... when I reject/don't reply to someone?

Why am I a gorgeous, sexy goddess; literally the best thing to walk (waddle) the earth before that?

How am I ever meant to trust that someone genuinely fancies me ever again? "

Simply because not everyone acts the same there is good and bad in both so having a little bit of faith...x

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By *harlotteBigBoobsWoman
over a year ago

Hull

I get it all the time

I'm gorgeous , cracking body , curves to die for

Then as soon as I say no thankyou always polite

It turns into well fcik you

then , youve only got big boobs cos your fat anyway

Just remember it's there adolescent minds been children, can't handle rejection , block and move on x

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

Unfortunetly, theres some dickheads on here that hate rejection. Their only way to deal with a no is to lash out.

Dont let them spoil it for you. Just remember, theres others who dont do that and other people hoping to meet you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get it all the time

I'm gorgeous , cracking body , curves to die for

Then as soon as I say no thankyou always polite

It turns into well fcik you

then , youve only got big boobs cos your fat anyway

Just remember it's there adolescent minds been children, can't handle rejection , block and move on x"

It's not that easy to just move on and I think that's what people often say and i accept it's with good intentions but like the OP has said when you hear it regularly you start to doubt yourself so I think the responsibility comes to those who write such things and they need to called out and made aware of their actions.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Hugs... That's no way to treat a person

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Your beautiful

Ignore the negative remarks x"
v

Thank you xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I totally get that and most of us have had similar.

It's easy to get jaded on here but keep your chin up and remember there are very decent people here and you can find what you are looking for. X

Yeah I get that, I'm usually quite good at getting over insults and abusive messages.

But when it's over and over again, it makes you question whether anyone you've slept with was actually ever genuinely attracted to you

I know you are brilliant at taking it with a pinch of salt.

I do understand that but remember it's not about you, it's them! I know that's hard but it's true. You are brilliant and you know I think you are fabulous. X"

I think you're fabulous too

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"Your beautiful

Ignore the negative remarks xv

Thank you xx "

Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The greatest prison people live in is the fear of what other people think.

What you think of yourself is much more important than what people think of you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I totally get that and most of us have had similar.

It's easy to get jaded on here but keep your chin up and remember there are very decent people here and you can find what you are looking for. X

Yeah I get that, I'm usually quite good at getting over insults and abusive messages.

But when it's over and over again, it makes you question whether anyone you've slept with was actually ever genuinely attracted to you

That's quite a sad thing to read. I wish people would think about the effect of their words "

On the flip side I guess it's the repeat rejection and ghosting that gets some of them to this point, but it sucks being on the receiving end of their frustrations.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The greatest prison people live in is the fear of what other people think.

What you think of yourself is much more important than what people think of you. "

Very true.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"... when I reject/don't reply to someone?

Why am I a gorgeous, sexy goddess; literally the best thing to walk (waddle) the earth before that?

How am I ever meant to trust that someone genuinely fancies me ever again?

Excuse me - but "overweight monster" is my title and your can't have it.

Besides - you don't have the correct qualifications. "

Adorable

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm heading to bed now, will read the rest of the replies tomorrow. Thank you so much for all the love and advice, already feeling a lot better xxx

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"I'm heading to bed now, will read the rest of the replies tomorrow. Thank you so much for all the love and advice, already feeling a lot better xxx"

Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm heading to bed now, will read the rest of the replies tomorrow. Thank you so much for all the love and advice, already feeling a lot better xxx"

You know many of us here for you So sleep well and remember it's them not you. X

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside

Thank them for their comments and for taking the time to send a message.

That's it, nothing more.

The worse thing you can do is give their post oxygen, and showing they have had any impact on your day is the oxygen they need.

Just think of the sad bastards all alone, bitter, twisted and desperately trying to drag others into their pit of despair.

Rise above it and them.

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By *illen5Man
over a year ago

Bath


"All your negative messages will generate a response. Why put yourself through this drama. Reject and block

Put this happens to lots of women on this site as well as on others is not unique and it's not just a case of blocking as the OP has pointed out these things have a lasting affect even if we are normally very robust. "

That's why women rarely message just for light banter. Many choose to show a message as being unread to avoid a 2nd with a rude where's my reply?

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By *illen5Man
over a year ago

Bath


"All your negative messages will generate a response. Why put yourself through this drama. Reject and block

I don't block them I report them and hope they get a ban so therefore learn not to do it again."

Like you can teach water to run uphill. Anonymity, with little consequence. New account in 5mins

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

You'll have to reject all of them.. even the ones that you really fancy...and only say you changed your mind can we meet to the ones that said nice things in reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because their fragile egos can't hack being rejected so they revert to infantile insults. Sounds like a them problem, you are beautiful "

Agreed...totally

Sad sack cant take no as an answer then resorts to playgriund behaviour

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By *itnakedladMan
over a year ago

London Bridge

I dislike those who say you look amazing and you have a hot flirty chat and 24 hours later they have moved on and don’t want to know anymore

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By *usthere8Man
over a year ago

acton

Never doubt yourself and your instincts. If someone is being genuine you will know. Unfortunately to many keyboard warriors who lack a bit of decency in taking rejection. Never change because of fools

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hahahaha im a size 8-10 and apparently im a "fat, ugly c**t" when i say " I'm so sorry, but you aren't my type"

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I wait to see the look on their face when I undress.

If I see the slightest eye twinge of horror they get a very toothy blow job.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I think that it's best to treat compliments and insults exactly the same on here. Don't believe either is genuine"

Spot on

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Some people will say literally anything to get into your knickers then quickly hurl insults if you say no.

The best thing to do is to take absolutely nothing to heart that is said on here, whether it's good or bad.

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By *uriouscouple83Couple
over a year ago

Worcester

You are always beautiful Amber, don’t forget that.

Those who have been rejected and want to fling a cheap insult will find something they think will hurt you. Treat it with the contempt it deserves, the only thing it shows is how nasty they are and that you were correct in rejecting them.

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By *iman2100Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

We are never going to meet; so I can say in all honesty you are a lovely sexy girl with womanly curves.

Don't worry about strike backs from small minded bruised egos. They will grow up some day and hopefully regret what they said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As gentleman I personally dont get compliments and don’t usually give them think it’s best just to ignore move on you get to know genuine friends when they don’t sugar coat the truth

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

Simple truth seems no one wants to here and is the theme of many threads is that people will say what they think others will want to hear and get in the knickers.

Then you'll get the guys saying all my complements are genuine its all the others that are nit - the usual "i'm better than them so shag me"

Yet people come into the forums and still jump on the popularity thread, the fab my photo threads etc etc. Which by their nature are completely shallow and full of hollow shag me complements. Guys fab photos cos they think it will get them somewhere, its all so fake but people still do it.

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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Personally I think that it's best to treat compliments and insults exactly the same on here. Don't believe either is genuine

Good advice, but what if I never believe a compliment from a man ever again? Starting to feel like that tbh"

Yup. Fab has a way of making everything seem hollow, fake and thankless. However when you DO find a conversation that flows , it's a delight

I think I've only had your above response twice, and I pity the guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends on how they compliment OP.

If they are happy to enter into conversation and get to know you with the odd compliment thrown in and specific about you then it’s usually genuine.

If it compliments and nothing but, then I would question it

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

These type of posts, it seems to me, are very similar , if not identical, to the ones posted by males asking why they cannot get meets.

Those kind of posts generally get short shrift.

I haven't read the responses so far. I will now.

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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham


"As gentleman I personally dont get compliments and don’t usually give them think it’s best just to ignore move on you get to know genuine friends when they don’t sugar coat the truth "

Thats sad. If I'm enjoying someone's conversation I'll always compliment something. Men are seriously starved of affection these days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi your not simple. You have just been let down. Don't let the idiots keep you down life is to short.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"... when I reject/don't reply to someone?

Why am I a gorgeous, sexy goddess; literally the best thing to walk (waddle) the earth before that?

How am I ever meant to trust that someone genuinely fancies me ever again? "

Alot of people on here are stuck up there own ass..they dont like it when you dont dance too there tune...fuck what they have got too say and anyone else on here with bad manners

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I think that it's best to treat compliments and insults exactly the same on here. Don't believe either is genuine

Good advice, but what if I never believe a compliment from a man ever again? Starting to feel like that tbh"

There are few men I believe a compliment from - if they're handing them out like sweets, they're worth nothing. I think it's probably more important than I believe in myself rather than men's words aimed at getting me into bed.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"... when I reject/don't reply to someone?

Why am I a gorgeous, sexy goddess; literally the best thing to walk (waddle) the earth before that?

How am I ever meant to trust that someone genuinely fancies me ever again?

Alot of people on here are stuck up there own ass..they dont like it when you dont dance too there tune...fuck what they have got too say and anyone else on here with bad manners"

O

No alot of people are not stuck up there own ass

A few are

Obviously he didn't like rejection so became silly and dramatic

OP is beautiful

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By *estinyIsAllCouple
over a year ago

Staffordshire

We experience this! I even had someone tell me my hubs is a "fat c*&t anyway" and I "should have my forehead checked as it looks like a tumour"! Lovely people on here.. all because we said "Thanks for the message but you're not what we're looking for at the moment, all the best xx".

Charming.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it does not matter what your dress size is we all get abuse sometimes when saying no ive had some horrible ones in my time but i never see them as negative anymore i see them as a blessing as a thank god i never said yes and block .... we alway keep and screen shot those messages of abuse and notes in the blocked profiles so for when they rejoin ...

the other thing these asshole forget is tho its againts fab rules to name and shame what happens out side of fab is not cant aurgue with solid facts such as screenshots..

will be a matter of time before we see a blog page somewhere where info will exchange... word of mouth is king in this scene as its not all internet traffic alot of us do meet up in real life...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"... when I reject/don't reply to someone?

Why am I a gorgeous, sexy goddess; literally the best thing to walk (waddle) the earth before that?

How am I ever meant to trust that someone genuinely fancies me ever again?

Alot of people on here are stuck up there own ass..they dont like it when you dont dance too there tune...fuck what they have got too say and anyone else on here with bad manners

O

No alot of people are not stuck up there own ass

A few are

Obviously he didn't like rejection so became silly and dramatic

OP is beautiful "

sorry disagree because since lockdown has lifted the abuse is rife its not a few its alot if it was not for the block button then i think we would have left fab ....

see how many have left since lockdown has lifted i know local to me quite a few who have left fab and just do club nights and a bit of local dogging for hassel free fun

look at the home section see how many men have joined and then try and see how many women a couples just by the joining on home page alone its like 200 men to every one or two women or couples if that carries on then this 10 to 1 ratio will be blown out the water and will = more abuse...

by the way abuse is not just a man thing its a people thing

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

At least the block button here can prevent many of them. It's better to never receive the abuse from scum but using the site tools can help to reduce the volume of them. Even turning on filters, to reduce unsolicited contact, puts you more in control, when you'd benefit from a break from time to time. Take care of your wellbeing OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Personally I think that it's best to treat compliments and insults exactly the same on here. Don't believe either is genuine"

Exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From looking at your profile you have nothing to worry about your a very sexy lady x tossers will always be tossers not worth your thoughts

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By *iltopbearMan
over a year ago

Norfolk

Their fragile ego couldn't take rejection OP, you are not at fault in anyway.

Immaturity, thats all it is.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Sorry you've had this op

People don't think about the impact their horrible words have on others.

Not everyone is the same, but I know it's easy to distrust others words when you've had this.

It's like when you find out someone's lied, you are suspicious of everyone else.

You're lovely as you are op and I hope you can see that x

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By *edheadsruleCouple
over a year ago

lancashire

This always makes me laugh, I don't have any public face pics so how do they know I'm gorgeous, could look like a bulldog chewing a wasp for all they know

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Personally I think that it's best to treat compliments and insults exactly the same on here. Don't believe either is genuine"

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This always makes me laugh, I don't have any public face pics so how do they know I'm gorgeous, could look like a bulldog chewing a wasp for all they know"

Some people find bulldogs attractive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"... when I reject/don't reply to someone?

Why am I a gorgeous, sexy goddess; literally the best thing to walk (waddle) the earth before that?

How am I ever meant to trust that someone genuinely fancies me ever again? "

You can never trust someone from messages on a hook/up website. Trust takes time, even in established relationships.

On here (myself included) all tell white lies. If we didn't sugar coat stuff we would never get a meet.

Which message grabs your attention

Man 1: Hi babe, love you pics and profile, you look great. Really fancy you.

Or

Man 2: Hey liked your profile, you look ok in your pics. Am bored and I've not really having much luck here. Was wondering if you want to chat.

?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"... when I reject/don't reply to someone?

Why am I a gorgeous, sexy goddess; literally the best thing to walk (waddle) the earth before that?

How am I ever meant to trust that someone genuinely fancies me ever again? "

Op you are gorgeous, don't let anyone tell you otherwise, especially because they've been rejected. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take it as a compliment. The worse the abuse, the more they fancy you and want to fuck you.

If they really thought you are a monster they would be relieved you said no and they'd just walk away. Xx

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By *atch0101Man
over a year ago

Here

As soon as anyone sends a message like "Overweight monster" they should be kicked off the site and banned.

I'm a firm believer of "name and shame".

It's twats like that who spoil it for genuine blokes.

The times I've read" Why am I not getting replies no matter how polite I am?"

Well above is your answer my friend because its Scumbags like the above who make it more difficult for you.

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By *onnie 90Woman
over a year ago

Leeds


"Because their fragile egos can't hack being rejected so they revert to infantile insults. Sounds like a them problem, you are beautiful "

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside


"As soon as anyone sends a message like "Overweight monster" they should be kicked off the site and banned.

I'm a firm believer of "name and shame".

It's twats like that who spoil it for genuine blokes.

The times I've read" Why am I not getting replies no matter how polite I am?"

Well above is your answer my friend because its Scumbags like the above who make it more difficult for you."

It's a good question.

Would the admin of FAB ban the offender if the OP asked them to check her mailbox?

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By *atch0101Man
over a year ago

Here


"

It's a good question.

Would the admin of FAB ban the offender if the OP asked them to check her mailbox?"

People should be encouraged to report.

If admin deem it to be out of order then a ban should be implemented.

It would make the experience on here for all that more enjoyable

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By *izandpaulCouple
over a year ago

merseyside

Or close the forums that are non swinging related.

There are plenty of sites discussing politics, vaccines and class struggles.

I just want to know about clubs, meets and swingers holidays.

Have no interest in your politics or social standing.

Just want you to be good fun and sexually adventurous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Or close the forums that are non swinging related.

There are plenty of sites discussing politics, vaccines and class struggles.

I just want to know about clubs, meets and swingers holidays.

Have no interest in your politics or social standing.

Just want you to be good fun and sexually adventurous. "

You could always just read the relevant sections and stay out of the others

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"

It's a good question.

Would the admin of FAB ban the offender if the OP asked them to check her mailbox?

People should be encouraged to report.

If admin deem it to be out of order then a ban should be implemented.

It would make the experience on here for all that more enjoyable"

That is what happens

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Here is an explanation from Admin from another thread on how they deal with reports.

******Just a quick note. If people report others and we can verify that they have broken site rules, we always take action (either a first and final warning, partially suspended account, fully suspended, mixture of the above).

Every single report sent via the REPORT link is reviewed. Clearly it's not in our interests to have people on here who are bad for the site. Equally we need to verify what has been reported and be fair to those who have been reported.

Admin

PS. we never provide feedback on what has happened. It's just not practical given that we get 100s of reports a day.

Here is what the page says after a report has been submitted:

--

Your feedback has been saved.

A website admin will shortly review your feedback and take the necessary action. After reviewing the evidence available to us, we may disable an account, remove a user, disable certain aspects of that user's account or issue a warning.

By leaving feedback you help improve the site for everyone who uses it. Thank you.******

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"... when I reject/don't reply to someone?

Why am I a gorgeous, sexy goddess; literally the best thing to walk (waddle) the earth before that?

How am I ever meant to trust that someone genuinely fancies me ever again? "

I don't believe any compliments I receive. I'm now of the opinion that most men will say anything to get my knickers off. As for the bitter keyboard warrior trolls that can't handle rejection, I block them and move on. You can't take their nastiness to heart!

Keep being gorgeous!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As soon as anyone sends a message like "Overweight monster" they should be kicked off the site and banned.

I'm a firm believer of "name and shame".

It's twats like that who spoil it for genuine blokes.

The times I've read" Why am I not getting replies no matter how polite I am?"

Well above is your answer my friend because its Scumbags like the above who make it more difficult for you."

sorry totally disagree those who are rude and abuse ruin it for no one but themselves and no one else ......

guys should stop blaming others for there own failings on fab and just accept that the reason guys dont do well is because of the sheer number of guys on fab that is growing at a silly rate compared to women and couples ...

people use to say its 10 men for every one woman/couple i think today its 100 to one and if it carrys on at the rate its going will be alot more thats why guys have a hard time not because someone else has been a dick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i too hate the compliment and false flattery its fake and they think it works in the dropping of the knickers department but it really dont i find it a massive turn off

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

you are gorgeous

ignor block delete or do whatever you want to rid yourself of their petty negativity.

The ones throwing the nasty comments are the ugly ones.

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By *otMe66Man
over a year ago

Terra Firma


"... when I reject/don't reply to someone?

Why am I a gorgeous, sexy goddess; literally the best thing to walk (waddle) the earth before that?

How am I ever meant to trust that someone genuinely fancies me ever again? "

Some people think they have given it their best shot and it is so good that nobody could possibly say no to it.

When a person does say no, the ego is so badly damaged that it exposes the sobbing sad little bullies they are meant to be, the veil has slipped for them.

I think you are a great at seeing through the BS because you are exposing the ego. Well done you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Finally found the time to catch up on this!!

Thanks for the kind messages and input everyone, I really appreciate you all taking the time to make me feel better

Just want to clear something up as I think it got lost in translation. I wasn't called a "monster" - that was me paraphrasing and kind of taking the piss out of the situation - but I did get made fun of for my size for the umpteenth time last night. Obviously I can't go into detail on the forums but just wanted to be as clear as possible.

Also I didn't report as I kept just deleting the messages as they were coming through.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

May be they couldn't live with the lie.

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By *alty surpriseMan
over a year ago

Uttoxeter

Take no notice of them...be happy In yourself and take sincere compliments on board x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"... when I reject/don't reply to someone?

Why am I a gorgeous, sexy goddess; literally the best thing to walk (waddle) the earth before that?

How am I ever meant to trust that someone genuinely fancies me ever again?

Because if you were skinny/athletic, after rejecting someone you'd become a gross, stuck up cunt.

If you were 10 years older, after rejecting someone you'd be an old hag, that nobody wants.

If you had too many veris, after rejecting someone you'd become a town bike not worth the ride.

If you had too few veris, after rejection you'd become a fake stuck up cock tease.

Moral of the story - it doesn't matter what size, age, sexuality, how busy or free you might be.

Some people can't take rejection and let their true colours shine bright.

Treat it as a token of good will and a bullet dodged with good fortune.

It's easier and safer to block a spotted wanker on fab rather than meet them in person.

About trust? Only gift your trust to people who earned it. "

Great post this

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By *rs mischiefWoman
over a year ago

Manchester


"Because their fragile egos can't hack being rejected so they revert to infantile insults. Sounds like a them problem, you are beautiful "

Love this!

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