FabSwingers.com forum: Ghosting

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It’s happened twice in the last week. Once on here and once in real life. What am I doing wrong?

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

You need a ouija board

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You need a ouija board"

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By *iltopbearMan
over a year ago

Norfolk

You're not doing anything wrong OP, manners are a thing of the past.

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By *batMan
over a year ago

Alicante, Spain. (Sometimes in Wales)

Investing time in the wrong people?

Gbat

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

It’s really shaken my faith in people

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Investing time in the wrong people?

Gbat "

Yes, quite possibly

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

"It’s really shaken my faith in people"

Don’t let it get to you. Women these days are terrible for it because they have so many choices. It happens to literally everyone.

It’s not you

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

May be your picking the wrong people op

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It’s really shaken my faith in people

Don’t let it get to you. Women these days are terrible for it because they have so many choices. It happens to literally everyone.

It’s not you "

You’re probably right

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

"It’s really shaken my faith in people"

It happens to us all, Ghosting. It's just the way of the world right now, especially on here with hundreds of people trying to chat & meet.

Dust yourself down & carry on

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"May be your picking the wrong people op"

It would seem that way

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It’s really shaken my faith in people

It happens to us all, Ghosting. It's just the way of the world right now, especially on here with hundreds of people trying to chat & meet.

Dust yourself down & carry on "

Very true. Will do

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By *andsome HandMan
over a year ago

roundabout

You need more cowbell

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You need more cowbell "

Haha really?

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito

"It’s happened twice in the last week. Once on here and once in real life. What am I doing wrong? "

It’s even worse when you physically meet them, get a good night kiss and make future plans then boom they’ve blocked you and the tumble s roll past your last message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s happened twice in the last week. Once on here and once in real life. What am I doing wrong? "

Probably nothing OP. Keep your spirits up

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

I think I peaked when the same woman ghosted me twice. Twice?!?

Not cool.

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By *andsome HandMan
over a year ago

roundabout

"You need more cowbell

Haha really? "

Most likely but also you probably aren't doing anything wrong as you didn't do the ghosting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mate if I had a pound for every time I've been ghosted I would have enough money to manufacture the perfect man in a lab by now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ex ghosted me after 5 years together, little brutal to say the least haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Mate if I had a pound for every time I've been ghosted I would have enough money to manufacture the perfect man in a lab by now

Hehe xx

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By *oozleMan
over a year ago

high wycombe

Ghosting seems to be a side effect of the online world and easy way for people to screw with you, be glad you avoided them mate and someone worthwhile will show up at some point.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My ex ghosted me after 5 years together, little brutal to say the least haha "

Ouch! xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ghosting seems to be a side effect of the online world and easy way for people to screw with you, be glad you avoided them mate and someone worthwhile will show up at some point."

Hope so

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think I peaked when the same woman ghosted me twice. Twice?!?

Not cool. "

Damn!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It’s happened twice in the last week. Once on here and once in real life. What am I doing wrong?

It’s even worse when you physically meet them, get a good night kiss and make future plans then boom they’ve blocked you and the tumble s roll past your last message."

Ugh xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mate if I had a pound for every time I've been ghosted I would have enough money to manufacture the perfect man in a lab by now

That explains where I came from

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's one of the major downsides of any online site. I agree that people are dispensible on here so if a better offer comes along it's easy to get tossed aside.

Unfortunately, for some (and I've experienced this on other sites) trolling / catfishing etc is a hobby for some sad individuals. It's a sad world when people just want to be a c*nt for shits & giggles. It makes people put barriers up and can make you suspicious of anyone and everyone!

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito

"I think I peaked when the same woman ghosted me twice. Twice?!?

Not cool. "

Errr was that me?! Sorry about that I thought you were someone else at the time.

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito

"Mate if I had a pound for every time I've been ghosted I would have enough money to manufacture the perfect man in a lab by now

Could we club together and make two of them?

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito

"Mate if I had a pound for every time I've been ghosted I would have enough money to manufacture the perfect man in a lab by now

That explains where I came from

Please submit the paperwork for verification of the perfect man to…

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Sounds like it’s all too common

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mate if I had a pound for every time I've been ghosted I would have enough money to manufacture the perfect man in a lab by now

That explains where I came from

Please submit the paperwork for verification of the perfect man to…

Does the perfect man give in to outrageous demands?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mate if I had a pound for every time I've been ghosted I would have enough money to manufacture the perfect man in a lab by now

That explains where I came from

Please submit the paperwork for verification of the perfect man to…

Does the perfect man give in to outrageous demands?

Yes, for he is perfect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As someone who has ghosted another person , I would say the possible fall out and ill feeling to both parties makes it an easier option than directly addressing. That’s not to say that it is the correct way to behave and that is how everyone reacts all of the time but that was what made it feel as though an option. I knew the person in question would probably not accept and maybe “bother” me a lot afterwards .

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"As someone who has ghosted another person , I would say the possible fall out and ill feeling to both parties makes it an easier option than directly addressing. That’s not to say that it is the correct way to behave and that is how everyone reacts all of the time but that was what made it feel as though an option. I knew the person in question would probably not accept and maybe “bother” me a lot afterwards . "

I think this approach only works if you can remove feelings, which is much easier for the one ghosting than the one being ghosted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh yes for sure. As I said , that was why I ghosted someone. So a view from the side of a person doing it. Empathy and maturity have set in now but that was why I did it when I did.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mate if I had a pound for every time I've been ghosted I would have enough money to manufacture the perfect man in a lab by now

That explains where I came from

Please submit the paperwork for verification of the perfect man to…

Does the perfect man give in to outrageous demands?

Yes, for he is perfect

I think it walked straight into that one

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Oh yes for sure. As I said , that was why I ghosted someone. So a view from the side of a person doing it. Empathy and maturity have set in now but that was why I did it when I did. "

We live and learn I guess xx

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By *aysOfOurLivesCouple
over a year ago

Essex

"It’s really shaken my faith in people"

Honestly? That’s a pretty drastic reaction to two people being themselves. Ghosting is something they do. because you wouldn’t do it to other, it simply means they aren’t for you. Chalk it up as a close shave, move on with dignity and pride, safe in the knowledge that you are better than they.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It’s really shaken my faith in people

These are just the two most recent. The list goes on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ghosting story is a bit tragic, they said they'd had covid, then poof...gone!

Can you be simultaneously pissed off while still worried that they might in fact be an actual ghost now?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My ghosting story is a bit tragic, they said they'd had covid, then poof...gone!

Can you be simultaneously pissed off while still worried that they might in fact be an actual ghost now?

Oh god lol xx

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