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"Have you ever been catfished by someone’s body? Cloths can work absolute magic, especially if you know what your doing. The right colours, the right patterns, a strategically placed belt. But when the cloths come off and you realise you prefer how they looked dressed, how do you politely say so? How do you back out without hurting their feelings? In a bit of a predicament myself so people’s answers will be appreciated " Tell them you like to fuck them whilst they are clothed, then lift up skirt and poke it in... | |||
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"I do it all the time to myself. When clothed I think I look alright, then I get naked and look like a sack of shit with toothpicks for arms and legs! Filters, angles, how you turn the body, shadows etc. We see it all the time now a days, and thats not counting the obvious photo shops!" I don’t think there’s an issue with trying to look your best! All the more power to you. I just recently had it come up where I was quite attracted to her with her cloths on and now they’ve come off I’m quite not attracted to her She’s lovely, so I don’t want to hurt her feelings | |||
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"Have you ever been catfished by someone’s body? Cloths can work absolute magic, especially if you know what your doing. The right colours, the right patterns, a strategically placed belt. But when the cloths come off and you realise you prefer how they looked dressed, how do you politely say so? How do you back out without hurting their feelings? In a bit of a predicament myself so people’s answers will be appreciated " Tough one actually, as there’s no way round to be polite to say “oh by the way I don’t like you naked” Ultimately I think you aren’t attracted enough to this woman so, maybe rethink and politely decline without going there and say.. “I’m sorry but I don’t find your body attractive when it’s naked?” I don’t know. | |||
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"Have you ever been catfished by someone’s body? Cloths can work absolute magic, especially if you know what your doing. The right colours, the right patterns, a strategically placed belt. But when the cloths come off and you realise you prefer how they looked dressed, how do you politely say so? How do you back out without hurting their feelings? In a bit of a predicament myself so people’s answers will be appreciated Tell them you like to fuck them whilst they are clothed, then lift up skirt and poke it in..." They may not be quite so keen when you’ve asked them to put their clothes back on first!  | |||
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"Have you ever been catfished by someone’s body? Cloths can work absolute magic, especially if you know what your doing. The right colours, the right patterns, a strategically placed belt. But when the cloths come off and you realise you prefer how they looked dressed, how do you politely say so? How do you back out without hurting their feelings? In a bit of a predicament myself so people’s answers will be appreciated Tough one actually, as there’s no way round to be polite to say “oh by the way I don’t like you naked” Ultimately I think you aren’t attracted enough to this woman so, maybe rethink and politely decline without going there and say.. “I’m sorry but I don’t find your body attractive when it’s naked?” I don’t know. " Sadly we had sex twice in a dimly lighted room, 3rd time was with lights on and I couldn’t finish. It’s just not for me, but she’s so lovely, I just don’t wanna hurt her | |||
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"Have you ever been catfished by someone’s body? Cloths can work absolute magic, especially if you know what your doing. The right colours, the right patterns, a strategically placed belt. But when the cloths come off and you realise you prefer how they looked dressed, how do you politely say so? How do you back out without hurting their feelings? In a bit of a predicament myself so people’s answers will be appreciated Tough one actually, as there’s no way round to be polite to say “oh by the way I don’t like you naked” Ultimately I think you aren’t attracted enough to this woman so, maybe rethink and politely decline without going there and say.. “I’m sorry but I don’t find your body attractive when it’s naked?” I don’t know. Sadly we had sex twice in a dimly lighted room, 3rd time was with lights on and I couldn’t finish. It’s just not for me, but she’s so lovely, I just don’t wanna hurt her " Then you kind of answered yourself, just politely and gently tell her you don’t think it can go further and to remain friendly x I’d try avoid tho the … because I realise I don’t find you attractive enough when lights are on and clothes are off. That can hurt her confidence if she doesn’t have much x | |||
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"Have you ever been catfished by someone’s body? Cloths can work absolute magic, especially if you know what your doing. The right colours, the right patterns, a strategically placed belt. But when the cloths come off and you realise you prefer how they looked dressed, how do you politely say so? How do you back out without hurting their feelings? In a bit of a predicament myself so people’s answers will be appreciated Tough one actually, as there’s no way round to be polite to say “oh by the way I don’t like you naked” Ultimately I think you aren’t attracted enough to this woman so, maybe rethink and politely decline without going there and say.. “I’m sorry but I don’t find your body attractive when it’s naked?” I don’t know. Sadly we had sex twice in a dimly lighted room, 3rd time was with lights on and I couldn’t finish. It’s just not for me, but she’s so lovely, I just don’t wanna hurt her " What's wrong with just saying you don't want to see her again. There's absolutely no need to tell her why | |||
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"I do it all the time to myself. When clothed I think I look alright, then I get naked and look like a sack of shit with toothpicks for arms and legs! Filters, angles, how you turn the body, shadows etc. We see it all the time now a days, and thats not counting the obvious photo shops! I don’t think there’s an issue with trying to look your best! All the more power to you. I just recently had it come up where I was quite attracted to her with her cloths on and now they’ve come off I’m quite not attracted to her She’s lovely, so I don’t want to hurt her feelings " Just be honest and say you don’t feel a connection now. It happens sometimes. I’d rather hear that than be ghosted and block like I was a couple of weeks ago. | |||
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"Have you ever been catfished by someone’s body? Cloths can work absolute magic, especially if you know what your doing. The right colours, the right patterns, a strategically placed belt. But when the cloths come off and you realise you prefer how they looked dressed, how do you politely say so? How do you back out without hurting their feelings? In a bit of a predicament myself so people’s answers will be appreciated Tough one actually, as there’s no way round to be polite to say “oh by the way I don’t like you naked” Ultimately I think you aren’t attracted enough to this woman so, maybe rethink and politely decline without going there and say.. “I’m sorry but I don’t find your body attractive when it’s naked?” I don’t know. Sadly we had sex twice in a dimly lighted room, 3rd time was with lights on and I couldn’t finish. It’s just not for me, but she’s so lovely, I just don’t wanna hurt her Then you kind of answered yourself, just politely and gently tell her you don’t think it can go further and to remain friendly x I’d try avoid tho the … because I realise I don’t find you attractive enough when lights are on and clothes are off. That can hurt her confidence if she doesn’t have much x " Christ that would hurt the confidence of most people  | |||
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"Have you ever been catfished by someone’s body? Cloths can work absolute magic, especially if you know what your doing. The right colours, the right patterns, a strategically placed belt. But when the cloths come off and you realise you prefer how they looked dressed, how do you politely say so? How do you back out without hurting their feelings? In a bit of a predicament myself so people’s answers will be appreciated Tough one actually, as there’s no way round to be polite to say “oh by the way I don’t like you naked” Ultimately I think you aren’t attracted enough to this woman so, maybe rethink and politely decline without going there and say.. “I’m sorry but I don’t find your body attractive when it’s naked?” I don’t know. Sadly we had sex twice in a dimly lighted room, 3rd time was with lights on and I couldn’t finish. It’s just not for me, but she’s so lovely, I just don’t wanna hurt her " Well if she's on this site, you may already have. If not, then I may I just suggest phasing the visits out. There's probably no way of saying what's on your mind without it hurting her. | |||
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"I do it all the time to myself. When clothed I think I look alright, then I get naked and look like a sack of shit with toothpicks for arms and legs! Filters, angles, how you turn the body, shadows etc. We see it all the time now a days, and thats not counting the obvious photo shops! I don’t think there’s an issue with trying to look your best! All the more power to you. I just recently had it come up where I was quite attracted to her with her cloths on and now they’ve come off I’m quite not attracted to her She’s lovely, so I don’t want to hurt her feelings Just be honest and say you don’t feel a connection now. It happens sometimes. I’d rather hear that than be ghosted and block like I was a couple of weeks ago. " This! She will get over it and she doesn’t need to know the true reason of why u don’t find her physically attractive. X x Like I’d never tell a guy… oh i dont think we can sleep together again because I find out ur dick is small. Because he might be self conscious and I think it’s better not to be brutal with people x | |||
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"Have you ever been catfished by someone’s body? Cloths can work absolute magic, especially if you know what your doing. The right colours, the right patterns, a strategically placed belt. But when the cloths come off and you realise you prefer how they looked dressed, how do you politely say so? How do you back out without hurting their feelings? In a bit of a predicament myself so people’s answers will be appreciated Tough one actually, as there’s no way round to be polite to say “oh by the way I don’t like you naked” Ultimately I think you aren’t attracted enough to this woman so, maybe rethink and politely decline without going there and say.. “I’m sorry but I don’t find your body attractive when it’s naked?” I don’t know. Sadly we had sex twice in a dimly lighted room, 3rd time was with lights on and I couldn’t finish. It’s just not for me, but she’s so lovely, I just don’t wanna hurt her What's wrong with just saying you don't want to see her again. There's absolutely no need to tell her why" Because we had an absolute blast together, she’s so sweet, she was very vulnerable with me, and we had good sex twice, and to just randomly end it. Am I being too soft? I just really don’t wanna hurt her, but at the same time I guess I gotta look after myself | |||
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"Have you ever been catfished by someone’s body? Cloths can work absolute magic, especially if you know what your doing. The right colours, the right patterns, a strategically placed belt. But when the cloths come off and you realise you prefer how they looked dressed, how do you politely say so? How do you back out without hurting their feelings? In a bit of a predicament myself so people’s answers will be appreciated Tough one actually, as there’s no way round to be polite to say “oh by the way I don’t like you naked” Ultimately I think you aren’t attracted enough to this woman so, maybe rethink and politely decline without going there and say.. “I’m sorry but I don’t find your body attractive when it’s naked?” I don’t know. Sadly we had sex twice in a dimly lighted room, 3rd time was with lights on and I couldn’t finish. It’s just not for me, but she’s so lovely, I just don’t wanna hurt her " Maybe just tell her that you think she's a lovely person but you have realised that the chemistry isn't there and you would rather not continue? | |||
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"This is society today....searching for perfection whilst people undergo procedures to fit in with the expectation... I prefer to find someone attractive as a whole "Where everything is about visual 24/7, I think it’s being ingrained in us (we all know it’s not right) from a very young age … sadly I guess. But it’s the harsh reality | |||
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"I do it all the time to myself. When clothed I think I look alright, then I get naked and look like a sack of shit with toothpicks for arms and legs! Filters, angles, how you turn the body, shadows etc. We see it all the time now a days, and thats not counting the obvious photo shops! I don’t think there’s an issue with trying to look your best! All the more power to you. I just recently had it come up where I was quite attracted to her with her cloths on and now they’ve come off I’m quite not attracted to her She’s lovely, so I don’t want to hurt her feelings Just be honest and say you don’t feel a connection now. It happens sometimes. I’d rather hear that than be ghosted and block like I was a couple of weeks ago. This! She will get over it and she doesn’t need to know the true reason of why u don’t find her physically attractive. X x Like I’d never tell a guy… oh i dont think we can sleep together again because I find out ur dick is small. Because he might be self conscious and I think it’s better not to be brutal with people x " Ok that seems fair. I was kinda thinking 2 more dates, and end of the 2nd one just say that she’s great, sex is great, very physically attracted etc, but there’s just not that spark. Nothing specific. And hopefully she’s ok | |||
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"Have you ever been catfished by someone’s body? Cloths can work absolute magic, especially if you know what your doing. The right colours, the right patterns, a strategically placed belt. But when the cloths come off and you realise you prefer how they looked dressed, how do you politely say so? How do you back out without hurting their feelings? In a bit of a predicament myself so people’s answers will be appreciated Tough one actually, as there’s no way round to be polite to say “oh by the way I don’t like you naked” Ultimately I think you aren’t attracted enough to this woman so, maybe rethink and politely decline without going there and say.. “I’m sorry but I don’t find your body attractive when it’s naked?” I don’t know. Sadly we had sex twice in a dimly lighted room, 3rd time was with lights on and I couldn’t finish. It’s just not for me, but she’s so lovely, I just don’t wanna hurt her What's wrong with just saying you don't want to see her again. There's absolutely no need to tell her why" This  | |||
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"Have you ever been catfished by someone’s body? Cloths can work absolute magic, especially if you know what your doing. The right colours, the right patterns, a strategically placed belt. But when the cloths come off and you realise you prefer how they looked dressed, how do you politely say so? How do you back out without hurting their feelings? In a bit of a predicament myself so people’s answers will be appreciated Tough one actually, as there’s no way round to be polite to say “oh by the way I don’t like you naked” Ultimately I think you aren’t attracted enough to this woman so, maybe rethink and politely decline without going there and say.. “I’m sorry but I don’t find your body attractive when it’s naked?” I don’t know. Sadly we had sex twice in a dimly lighted room, 3rd time was with lights on and I couldn’t finish. It’s just not for me, but she’s so lovely, I just don’t wanna hurt her What's wrong with just saying you don't want to see her again. There's absolutely no need to tell her why Because we had an absolute blast together, she’s so sweet, she was very vulnerable with me, and we had good sex twice, and to just randomly end it. Am I being too soft? I just really don’t wanna hurt her, but at the same time I guess I gotta look after myself " You're going to hurt her either way but please don't tell her it's because you don't like her naked body when there's a light on. At least let the poor girl keep a bit of dignity. | |||
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"I really hope she isn't on fab OP. If she is, this is just cruel." Obviously not, Christ Never meet off here for relationship stuff. | |||
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"The tone of this thread is a bit weird...how was the woman concerned ‘catfishing’? What it comes down to is the OP doesn’t fancy her, she hasn’t set out to mislead him." | |||
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"Have you ever been catfished by someone’s body? Cloths can work absolute magic, especially if you know what your doing. The right colours, the right patterns, a strategically placed belt. But when the cloths come off and you realise you prefer how they looked dressed, how do you politely say so? How do you back out without hurting their feelings? In a bit of a predicament myself so people’s answers will be appreciated Tough one actually, as there’s no way round to be polite to say “oh by the way I don’t like you naked” Ultimately I think you aren’t attracted enough to this woman so, maybe rethink and politely decline without going there and say.. “I’m sorry but I don’t find your body attractive when it’s naked?” I don’t know. Sadly we had sex twice in a dimly lighted room, 3rd time was with lights on and I couldn’t finish. It’s just not for me, but she’s so lovely, I just don’t wanna hurt her What's wrong with just saying you don't want to see her again. There's absolutely no need to tell her why Because we had an absolute blast together, she’s so sweet, she was very vulnerable with me, and we had good sex twice, and to just randomly end it. Am I being too soft? I just really don’t wanna hurt her, but at the same time I guess I gotta look after myself " Soft? You're trying to avoid being the bad guy in my opinion. There is no way to tell someone you don't want to have sex with them again without at least making them feel a bit fed up. Telling a woman or a man that you've had sex with three times that you find them unnatractive naked to the extent that you couldn't finish the last time is a not a nice thing to do even if it's true. | |||
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"I do it all the time to myself. When clothed I think I look alright, then I get naked and look like a sack of shit with toothpicks for arms and legs! Filters, angles, how you turn the body, shadows etc. We see it all the time now a days, and thats not counting the obvious photo shops! I don’t think there’s an issue with trying to look your best! All the more power to you. I just recently had it come up where I was quite attracted to her with her cloths on and now they’ve come off I’m quite not attracted to her She’s lovely, so I don’t want to hurt her feelings Just be honest and say you don’t feel a connection now. It happens sometimes. I’d rather hear that than be ghosted and block like I was a couple of weeks ago. This! She will get over it and she doesn’t need to know the true reason of why u don’t find her physically attractive. X x Like I’d never tell a guy… oh i dont think we can sleep together again because I find out ur dick is small. Because he might be self conscious and I think it’s better not to be brutal with people x Ok that seems fair. I was kinda thinking 2 more dates, and end of the 2nd one just say that she’s great, sex is great, very physically attracted etc, but there’s just not that spark. Nothing specific. And hopefully she’s ok " I wouldn’t drag it out with more dates unless you actually feel a connection. Dragging it out will just make it harder on her. But I’m just talking from personal experiences and everyone is different. | |||
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"I really hope she isn't on fab OP. If she is, this is just cruel. Obviously not, Christ Never meet off here for relationship stuff." In that case that's a relief. The best thing you can do is just tell her you think she is lovely but it isn't working for you. Or something similar. Honestly, if she has confidence issues then no matter what you say it'll hurt that part of her. But a clean break is always preferable to dragging it out and honestly, as long as you aren't nasty or hurtful to her it's better for you both to cut off. | |||
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"I do it all the time to myself. When clothed I think I look alright, then I get naked and look like a sack of shit with toothpicks for arms and legs! Filters, angles, how you turn the body, shadows etc. We see it all the time now a days, and thats not counting the obvious photo shops! I don’t think there’s an issue with trying to look your best! All the more power to you. I just recently had it come up where I was quite attracted to her with her cloths on and now they’ve come off I’m quite not attracted to her She’s lovely, so I don’t want to hurt her feelings Just be honest and say you don’t feel a connection now. It happens sometimes. I’d rather hear that than be ghosted and block like I was a couple of weeks ago. This! She will get over it and she doesn’t need to know the true reason of why u don’t find her physically attractive. X x Like I’d never tell a guy… oh i dont think we can sleep together again because I find out ur dick is small. Because he might be self conscious and I think it’s better not to be brutal with people x Ok that seems fair. I was kinda thinking 2 more dates, and end of the 2nd one just say that she’s great, sex is great, very physically attracted etc, but there’s just not that spark. Nothing specific. And hopefully she’s ok I wouldn’t drag it out with more dates unless you actually feel a connection. Dragging it out will just make it harder on her. But I’m just talking from personal experiences and everyone is different. " This. The more you date the more she might also feel attached to you, making it harder for her when u lay her down “gently” x | |||
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"Have you ever been catfished by someone’s body? Cloths can work absolute magic, especially if you know what your doing. The right colours, the right patterns, a strategically placed belt. But when the cloths come off and you realise you prefer how they looked dressed, how do you politely say so? How do you back out without hurting their feelings? In a bit of a predicament myself so people’s answers will be appreciated Tough one actually, as there’s no way round to be polite to say “oh by the way I don’t like you naked” Ultimately I think you aren’t attracted enough to this woman so, maybe rethink and politely decline without going there and say.. “I’m sorry but I don’t find your body attractive when it’s naked?” I don’t know. Sadly we had sex twice in a dimly lighted room, 3rd time was with lights on and I couldn’t finish. It’s just not for me, but she’s so lovely, I just don’t wanna hurt her " 
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"Is anything in my post giving the impression that I don’t wanna let her down gently? I thought it was clear. The reason I’m struggling is because I don’t want her to feel bad in the slightest. If I didn’t care, I wouldn’t have made the post. I would have just txt “not interested anymore”" So discuss it with her like A gentleman Instead of using a Fog horn Over the Internet She might not like parts of you. | |||
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"Is anything in my post giving the impression that I don’t wanna let her down gently? I thought it was clear. The reason I’m struggling is because I don’t want her to feel bad in the slightest. If I didn’t care, I wouldn’t have made the post. I would have just txt “not interested anymore” So discuss it with her like A gentleman Instead of using a Fog horn Over the Internet She might not like parts of you." I hope she doesn’t maybe she’ll do the job for me | |||
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"Is anything in my post giving the impression that I don’t wanna let her down gently? I thought it was clear. The reason I’m struggling is because I don’t want her to feel bad in the slightest. If I didn’t care, I wouldn’t have made the post. I would have just txt “not interested anymore”" She is probably more resilient than you realise. Don't do two more dates that's patronising just tell her you've had a great time and want to move on, no hard feelings etc etc. | |||
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"Is anything in my post giving the impression that I don’t wanna let her down gently? I thought it was clear. The reason I’m struggling is because I don’t want her to feel bad in the slightest. If I didn’t care, I wouldn’t have made the post. I would have just txt “not interested anymore”" She's going to feel bad. There I nothing you can do about that. Unless rejection is like water off a duck's back to her, which is unlikely, there will be some hurt. Not telling her that it's a lack of physical attraction, and making it absolutely clear that it is done, are the best things to do. | |||
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"Is anything in my post giving the impression that I don’t wanna let her down gently? I thought it was clear. The reason I’m struggling is because I don’t want her to feel bad in the slightest. If I didn’t care, I wouldn’t have made the post. I would have just txt “not interested anymore” So discuss it with her like A gentleman Instead of using a Fog horn Over the Internet She might not like parts of you. I hope she doesn’t maybe she’ll do the job for me "Discuss it with her we all have Flaws no one is perfect | |||
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"Is anything in my post giving the impression that I don’t wanna let her down gently? I thought it was clear. The reason I’m struggling is because I don’t want her to feel bad in the slightest. If I didn’t care, I wouldn’t have made the post. I would have just txt “not interested anymore” She is probably more resilient than you realise. Don't do two more dates that's patronising just tell her you've had a great time and want to move on, no hard feelings etc etc. " In person? Phone call? Obviously not just a txt? | |||
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"Is anything in my post giving the impression that I don’t wanna let her down gently? I thought it was clear. The reason I’m struggling is because I don’t want her to feel bad in the slightest. If I didn’t care, I wouldn’t have made the post. I would have just txt “not interested anymore” She is probably more resilient than you realise. Don't do two more dates that's patronising just tell her you've had a great time and want to move on, no hard feelings etc etc. In person? Phone call? Obviously not just a txt?" Person | |||
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" I can't get my head around how if you like someone clothed and the shape of thier body why you wouldn't also like them naked? I can work out what would be so different you can go from lights low good sex twice to not liking it the 3rd time with the light on. Are we talking major scars? Or something ridiculous (as in it shouldn't make any difference) like a mum tum or similar? Genuinely curious OP. Also agree telling anyone you liked them with clothes but not make its be hi and cruel please for heavens sake don't do that. KJ" I look a bit different naked. A good bra does wonders at my age  | |||
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" I can't get my head around how if you like someone clothed and the shape of thier body why you wouldn't also like them naked? I can work out what would be so different you can go from lights low good sex twice to not liking it the 3rd time with the light on. Are we talking major scars? Or something ridiculous (as in it shouldn't make any difference) like a mum tum or similar? Genuinely curious OP. Also agree telling anyone you liked them with clothes but not make its be hi and cruel please for heavens sake don't do that. KJ I look a bit different naked. A good bra does wonders at my age " | |||
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" I can't get my head around how if you like someone clothed and the shape of thier body why you wouldn't also like them naked? I can work out what would be so different you can go from lights low good sex twice to not liking it the 3rd time with the light on. Are we talking major scars? Or something ridiculous (as in it shouldn't make any difference) like a mum tum or similar? Genuinely curious OP. Also agree telling anyone you liked them with clothes but not make its be hi and cruel please for heavens sake don't do that. KJ I look a bit different naked. A good bra does wonders at my age
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" I can't get my head around how if you like someone clothed and the shape of thier body why you wouldn't also like them naked? I can work out what would be so different you can go from lights low good sex twice to not liking it the 3rd time with the light on. Are we talking major scars? Or something ridiculous (as in it shouldn't make any difference) like a mum tum or similar? Genuinely curious OP. Also agree telling anyone you liked them with clothes but not make its be hi and cruel please for heavens sake don't do that. KJ I look a bit different naked. A good bra does wonders at my age "Lol same here | |||
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"Have you ever been catfished by someone’s body? Cloths can work absolute magic, especially if you know what your doing. The right colours, the right patterns, a strategically placed belt. But when the cloths come off and you realise you prefer how they looked dressed, how do you politely say so? How do you back out without hurting their feelings? In a bit of a predicament myself so people’s answers will be appreciated Tough one actually, as there’s no way round to be polite to say “oh by the way I don’t like you naked” Ultimately I think you aren’t attracted enough to this woman so, maybe rethink and politely decline without going there and say.. “I’m sorry but I don’t find your body attractive when it’s naked?” I don’t know. Sadly we had sex twice in a dimly lighted room, 3rd time was with lights on and I couldn’t finish. It’s just not for me, but she’s so lovely, I just don’t wanna hurt her
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Clothes are only thin material layers and as you have seen her in person you must of had some idea of her shape underneath them.
Having sex in a darkened room also makes no difference in my mind either. You have hands to feel your way around someone's body so you surely would of had some idea what they were like naked shape wise before full on sex had started.
I sure the woman in question is beautiful in her own way and just not for you OP , but many other men will probably love her figure and personality.
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Clothes are only thin material layers and as you have seen her in person you must of had some idea of her shape underneath them.
Having sex in a darkened room also makes no difference in my mind either. You have hands to feel your way around someone's body so you surely would of had some idea what they were like naked shape wise before full on sex had started.
I sure the woman in question is beautiful in her own way and just not for you OP , but many other men will probably love her figure and personality.
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"If the lady in question is on Fab then you have just told her anyway by putting this post up.
Clothes are only thin material layers and as you have seen her in person you must of had some idea of her shape underneath them.
Having sex in a darkened room also makes no difference in my mind either. You have hands to feel your way around someone's body so you surely would of had some idea what they were like naked shape wise before full on sex had started.
I sure the woman in question is beautiful in her own way and just not for you OP , but many other men will probably love her figure and personality.
I’d agree, but it doesn’t really help my situation "I'm getting you dont fancy Her Tell her | |||
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Clothes are only thin material layers and as you have seen her in person you must of had some idea of her shape underneath them.
Having sex in a darkened room also makes no difference in my mind either. You have hands to feel your way around someone's body so you surely would of had some idea what they were like naked shape wise before full on sex had started.
I sure the woman in question is beautiful in her own way and just not for you OP , but many other men will probably love her figure and personality.
I’d agree, but it doesn’t really help my situation "I think you should man up a bit and give it a chance. You like her enough as you keep saying above, so why not keep chatting for now and leave the sex stuff to one side and then in the future see if it leads you back to the bedroom. You never know you may actually enjoy it further down the line. I believe you do fancy her , she's just maybe isnt what you have had previously but tastes change over time | |||
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"If the lady in question is on Fab then you have just told her anyway by putting this post up.
Clothes are only thin material layers and as you have seen her in person you must of had some idea of her shape underneath them.
Having sex in a darkened room also makes no difference in my mind either. You have hands to feel your way around someone's body so you surely would of had some idea what they were like naked shape wise before full on sex had started.
I sure the woman in question is beautiful in her own way and just not for you OP , but many other men will probably love her figure and personality.
I’d agree, but it doesn’t really help my situation
I think you should man up a bit and give it a chance.
You like her enough as you keep saying above, so why not keep chatting for now and leave the sex stuff to one side and then in the future see if it leads you back to the bedroom. You never know you may actually enjoy it further down the line.
I believe you do fancy her , she's just maybe isnt what you have had previously but tastes change over time "Sorry not gonna settle for someone I’m not 100% smitten over And the fact some women in this thread are offended at having a preference and think I should just settle says more about them and their standards than myself | |||
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"If the lady in question is on Fab then you have just told her anyway by putting this post up.
Clothes are only thin material layers and as you have seen her in person you must of had some idea of her shape underneath them.
Having sex in a darkened room also makes no difference in my mind either. You have hands to feel your way around someone's body so you surely would of had some idea what they were like naked shape wise before full on sex had started.
I sure the woman in question is beautiful in her own way and just not for you OP , but many other men will probably love her figure and personality.
I’d agree, but it doesn’t really help my situation
I think you should man up a bit and give it a chance.
You like her enough as you keep saying above, so why not keep chatting for now and leave the sex stuff to one side and then in the future see if it leads you back to the bedroom. You never know you may actually enjoy it further down the line.
I believe you do fancy her , she's just maybe isnt what you have had previously but tastes change over time
Sorry not gonna settle for someone I’m not 100% smitten over
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"If the lady in question is on Fab then you have just told her anyway by putting this post up.
Clothes are only thin material layers and as you have seen her in person you must of had some idea of her shape underneath them.
Having sex in a darkened room also makes no difference in my mind either. You have hands to feel your way around someone's body so you surely would of had some idea what they were like naked shape wise before full on sex had started.
I sure the woman in question is beautiful in her own way and just not for you OP , but many other men will probably love her figure and personality.
I’d agree, but it doesn’t really help my situation
I think you should man up a bit and give it a chance.
You like her enough as you keep saying above, so why not keep chatting for now and leave the sex stuff to one side and then in the future see if it leads you back to the bedroom. You never know you may actually enjoy it further down the line.
I believe you do fancy her , she's just maybe isnt what you have had previously but tastes change over time
Sorry not gonna settle for someone I’m not 100% smitten over
And the fact some women in this thread are offended at having a preference and think I should just settle says more about them and their standards than myself "I never said settle for at all, I said you should give it another try. You clearly like her. | |||
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"If the lady in question is on Fab then you have just told her anyway by putting this post up.
Clothes are only thin material layers and as you have seen her in person you must of had some idea of her shape underneath them.
Having sex in a darkened room also makes no difference in my mind either. You have hands to feel your way around someone's body so you surely would of had some idea what they were like naked shape wise before full on sex had started.
I sure the woman in question is beautiful in her own way and just not for you OP , but many other men will probably love her figure and personality.
I’d agree, but it doesn’t really help my situation
I think you should man up a bit and give it a chance.
You like her enough as you keep saying above, so why not keep chatting for now and leave the sex stuff to one side and then in the future see if it leads you back to the bedroom. You never know you may actually enjoy it further down the line.
I believe you do fancy her , she's just maybe isnt what you have had previously but tastes change over time
Sorry not gonna settle for someone I’m not 100% smitten over
And the fact some women in this thread are offended at having a preference and think I should just settle says more about them and their standards than myself
I never said settle for at all, I said you should give it another try. You clearly like her.
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"Man how shallow. Yeah just go with the whole didn't feel a connection. You don't deserve her. God forbid someone have a physical preference for a life partner Never mind everyone, threads over. Just gonna date and marry someone I’m not physically attracted to so I don’t look shallow " don't get passive aggressive. You will get that kind of response.
For what it's worth I think you have every right to find a person unnatractive once you see them naked. I find the same thing with men. A suit cut by a good tailor and a fitted shirt can give an impression that is not representative of naked reality.
I think in an attempt to avoid hurting this woman you're over thinking things. Any relationship break is best handled quickly and unambiguously. It is never kind only kinder.
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You can't be that blind surely?
That’s why I call it cat fishing.
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" Because real life encounters aren't like fab etc where you rely entirely on a carefully angled, potentially lighting impressive still picture or several. You met this woman, and there is no way you didn't have a good idea, especially by the third shag, of what her body was like. It's not catfishing at all. It's you changing your mind for some reason. Just own it."
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"Man how shallow. Yeah just go with the whole didn't feel a connection. You don't deserve her. God forbid someone have a physical preference for a life partner Never mind everyone, threads over. Just gonna date and marry someone I’m not physically attracted to so I don’t look shallow don't get passive aggressive. You will get that kind of response.
For what it's worth I think you have every right to find a person unnatractive once you see them naked. I find the same thing with men. A suit cut by a good tailor and a fitted shirt can give an impression that is not representative of naked reality.
I think in an attempt to avoid hurting this woman you're over thinking things. Any relationship break is best handled quickly and unambiguously. It is never kind only kinder.
Speak to her tonight, get it done. You'll feel immense relief"I’m backing this up 1000% percent! X amazing advice x | |||
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"Have you ever been catfished by someone’s body? Cloths can work absolute magic, especially if you know what your doing. The right colours, the right patterns, a strategically placed belt. But when the cloths come off and you realise you prefer how they looked dressed, how do you politely say so? How do you back out without hurting their feelings? In a bit of a predicament myself so people’s answers will be appreciated Tough one actually, as there’s no way round to be polite to say “oh by the way I don’t like you naked” Ultimately I think you aren’t attracted enough to this woman so, maybe rethink and politely decline without going there and say.. “I’m sorry but I don’t find your body attractive when it’s naked?” I don’t know. Sadly we had sex twice in a dimly lighted room, 3rd time was with lights on and I couldn’t finish. It’s just not for me, but she’s so lovely, I just don’t wanna hurt her
You can't be that blind surely?
That’s why I call it cat fishing.
Some women can work absolute magic with the right cloths and shape wear
Think of all the women you could be missing out on, who wear baggy clothes, but have toned or the 'right body' underneath it all....
"There a TikTok tread, wear baggy cloths then show what’s underneath it. Cloths can make a crazy difference But despite most of the replies being somewhat nasty and dick-ish that god forbid a guy doesn’t just roll over and accept whatever a woman gives him There has been a few good ones and a fair few good private messages too. So I think I’ll plan a little public date this week and just end it as nicely as possible and keep it as vague as possible. So I really appreciate those replies that helped | |||
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"Man how shallow. Yeah just go with the whole didn't feel a connection. You don't deserve her. God forbid someone have a physical preference for a life partner Never mind everyone, threads over. Just gonna date and marry someone I’m not physically attracted to so I don’t look shallow don't get passive aggressive. You will get that kind of response.
For what it's worth I think you have every right to find a person unnatractive once you see them naked. I find the same thing with men. A suit cut by a good tailor and a fitted shirt can give an impression that is not representative of naked reality.
I think in an attempt to avoid hurting this woman you're over thinking things. Any relationship break is best handled quickly and unambiguously. It is never kind only kinder.
Speak to her tonight, get it done. You'll feel immense relief"Agreed and she will feel relieved too somehow at some point without even realising why. | |||
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"If the lady in question is on Fab then you have just told her anyway by putting this post up.
Clothes are only thin material layers and as you have seen her in person you must of had some idea of her shape underneath them.
Having sex in a darkened room also makes no difference in my mind either. You have hands to feel your way around someone's body so you surely would of had some idea what they were like naked shape wise before full on sex had started.
I sure the woman in question is beautiful in her own way and just not for you OP , but many other men will probably love her figure and personality.
I’d agree, but it doesn’t really help my situation
I think you should man up a bit and give it a chance.
You like her enough as you keep saying above, so why not keep chatting for now and leave the sex stuff to one side and then in the future see if it leads you back to the bedroom. You never know you may actually enjoy it further down the line.
I believe you do fancy her , she's just maybe isnt what you have had previously but tastes change over time
Sorry not gonna settle for someone I’m not 100% smitten over
And the fact some women in this thread are offended at having a preference and think I should just settle says more about them and their standards than myself
I never said settle for at all, I said you should give it another try. You clearly like her.
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You can't be that blind surely?
That’s why I call it cat fishing.
Some women can work absolute magic with the right cloths and shape wear
Think of all the women you could be missing out on, who wear baggy clothes, but have toned or the 'right body' underneath it all....
There a TikTok tread, wear baggy cloths then show what’s underneath it.
Cloths can make a crazy difference
But despite most of the replies being somewhat nasty and dick-ish that god forbid a guy doesn’t just roll over and accept whatever a woman gives him
There has been a few good ones and a fair few good private messages too. So I think I’ll plan a little public date this week and just end it as nicely as possible and keep it as vague as possible. So I really appreciate those replies that helped "Yeah good idea sweet
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"Man how shallow. Yeah just go with the whole didn't feel a connection. You don't deserve her. God forbid someone have a physical preference for a life partner Never mind everyone, threads over. Just gonna date and marry someone I’m not physically attracted to so I don’t look shallow I'm free" yas you kill me | |||
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"Have you ever been catfished by someone’s body? Cloths can work absolute magic, especially if you know what your doing. The right colours, the right patterns, a strategically placed belt. But when the cloths come off and you realise you prefer how they looked dressed, how do you politely say so? How do you back out without hurting their feelings? In a bit of a predicament myself so people’s answers will be appreciated Tough one actually, as there’s no way round to be polite to say “oh by the way I don’t like you naked” Ultimately I think you aren’t attracted enough to this woman so, maybe rethink and politely decline without going there and say.. “I’m sorry but I don’t find your body attractive when it’s naked?” I don’t know. Sadly we had sex twice in a dimly lighted room, 3rd time was with lights on and I couldn’t finish. It’s just not for me, but she’s so lovely, I just don’t wanna hurt her
You can't be that blind surely?
That’s why I call it cat fishing.
Some women can work absolute magic with the right cloths and shape wear
Think of all the women you could be missing out on, who wear baggy clothes, but have toned or the 'right body' underneath it all....
There a TikTok tread, wear baggy cloths then show what’s underneath it.
Cloths can make a crazy difference
But despite most of the replies being somewhat nasty and dick-ish that god forbid a guy doesn’t just roll over and accept whatever a woman gives him
There has been a few good ones and a fair few good private messages too. So I think I’ll plan a little public date this week and just end it as nicely as possible and keep it as vague as possible. So I really appreciate those replies that helped
Yeah good idea sweet
Make sure she gets home ok, either by you or you paying for a cab. Decent ending then. "Good idea, I’ll organise it so it’s closer to hers so she is only a very short Uber ride home and order her one. She really was very sweet and deserves someone great, and maybe it is shallow of me,but I actually think it’s nastier long term to stay with someone your not absolutely into in every way Imagine being in a long term relationship and marriage and finding out after all those years that he knew from the start you didn’t tick all the boxes. That he just settled for you. If I girl told me she wasn’t that keen on my body but I was a nice guy I’d end it myself. We all deserve to have someone that ticks all our boxes We also all deserve to be the person that ticks someone else’s boxes | |||
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"Have you ever been catfished by someone’s body? Cloths can work absolute magic, especially if you know what your doing. The right colours, the right patterns, a strategically placed belt. But when the cloths come off and you realise you prefer how they looked dressed, how do you politely say so? How do you back out without hurting their feelings? In a bit of a predicament myself so people’s answers will be appreciated Tough one actually, as there’s no way round to be polite to say “oh by the way I don’t like you naked” Ultimately I think you aren’t attracted enough to this woman so, maybe rethink and politely decline without going there and say.. “I’m sorry but I don’t find your body attractive when it’s naked?” I don’t know. Sadly we had sex twice in a dimly lighted room, 3rd time was with lights on and I couldn’t finish. It’s just not for me, but she’s so lovely, I just don’t wanna hurt her
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That’s why I call it cat fishing.
Some women can work absolute magic with the right cloths and shape wear "So you mean this was intentional? Catfishing? Wearing clothes to make her look better? And you had sex and it was great twice? She felt great but third time you saw her naked and it was then catfishing? Oh please..... maybe she was catfished into believing you were a nice guy when actually in the daylight you arent | |||
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"Wow.. this right here, is why I struggled for so long to enter this scene. Covered in stretch marks, jiggly bits, boobs that don’t sit where they’re supposed to! Reading something like this from a guy I’d slept with would destroy me. " To be honest Lincoln, you look fantastic so don't let those notions eat at you! As for the OP, no bodies perfect and it's a horribly shallow way of thinking. Just imagine whats going to happen when you get older, when your body starts to let you down and other people have the same reaction to you, hopefully your attitude won't be the same by then or your in for a lonely future, which I wouldn't want to wish on anyone. But what's even worse is you have slept with this woman twice before coming to this conclusion? That's horrible! "Thanks for the sex, but I don't find you attractive," not cool and then you feel a need to make a topic about it saying you've been body cat fished! Get a grip! | |||
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You can't be that blind surely?
That’s why I call it cat fishing.
Some women can work absolute magic with the right cloths and shape wear
Think of all the women you could be missing out on, who wear baggy clothes, but have toned or the 'right body' underneath it all....
There a TikTok tread, wear baggy cloths then show what’s underneath it.
Cloths can make a crazy difference
But despite most of the replies being somewhat nasty and dick-ish that god forbid a guy doesn’t just roll over and accept whatever a woman gives him
There has been a few good ones and a fair few good private messages too. So I think I’ll plan a little public date this week and just end it as nicely as possible and keep it as vague as possible. So I really appreciate those replies that helped
Yeah good idea sweet
Make sure she gets home ok, either by you or you paying for a cab. Decent ending then.
Good idea, I’ll organise it so it’s closer to hers so she is only a very short Uber ride home and order her one. She really was very sweet and deserves someone great, and maybe it is shallow of me,but I actually think it’s nastier long term to stay with someone your not absolutely into in every way
Imagine being in a long term relationship and marriage and finding out after all those years that he knew from the start you didn’t tick all the boxes. That he just settled for you.
If I girl told me she wasn’t that keen on my body but I was a nice guy I’d end it myself.
We all deserve to have someone that ticks all our boxes
We also all deserve to be the person that ticks someone else’s boxes "We absolutely do. And OP, if you thought at any point I was being an arsehole, I apologise. I wasn't intending to have a go at you and i do think you are just struggling with how to do this right. I hope what has been said has helped. It seems so. | |||
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"Have you ever been catfished by someone’s body? Cloths can work absolute magic, especially if you know what your doing. The right colours, the right patterns, a strategically placed belt. But when the cloths come off and you realise you prefer how they looked dressed, how do you politely say so? How do you back out without hurting their feelings? In a bit of a predicament myself so people’s answers will be appreciated Tough one actually, as there’s no way round to be polite to say “oh by the way I don’t like you naked” Ultimately I think you aren’t attracted enough to this woman so, maybe rethink and politely decline without going there and say.. “I’m sorry but I don’t find your body attractive when it’s naked?” I don’t know. Sadly we had sex twice in a dimly lighted room, 3rd time was with lights on and I couldn’t finish. It’s just not for me, but she’s so lovely, I just don’t wanna hurt her
You can't be that blind surely?
That’s why I call it cat fishing.
Some women can work absolute magic with the right cloths and shape wear
Think of all the women you could be missing out on, who wear baggy clothes, but have toned or the 'right body' underneath it all....
There a TikTok tread, wear baggy cloths then show what’s underneath it.
Cloths can make a crazy difference
But despite most of the replies being somewhat nasty and dick-ish that god forbid a guy doesn’t just roll over and accept whatever a woman gives him
There has been a few good ones and a fair few good private messages too. So I think I’ll plan a little public date this week and just end it as nicely as possible and keep it as vague as possible. So I really appreciate those replies that helped
Yeah good idea sweet
Make sure she gets home ok, either by you or you paying for a cab. Decent ending then.
Good idea, I’ll organise it so it’s closer to hers so she is only a very short Uber ride home and order her one. She really was very sweet and deserves someone great, and maybe it is shallow of me,but I actually think it’s nastier long term to stay with someone your not absolutely into in every way
Imagine being in a long term relationship and marriage and finding out after all those years that he knew from the start you didn’t tick all the boxes. That he just settled for you.
If I girl told me she wasn’t that keen on my body but I was a nice guy I’d end it myself.
We all deserve to have someone that ticks all our boxes
We also all deserve to be the person that ticks someone else’s boxes
We absolutely do. And OP, if you thought at any point I was being an arsehole, I apologise. I wasn't intending to have a go at you and i do think you are just struggling with how to do this right. I hope what has been said has helped. It seems so."I never read who actually typed what so I have no idea, I’m sure if your intention was to help it came through in your posts. I think I just hit a few nerves of woman that hand maybe faced this and they decided to let everyone know. But if not settling for whatever a woman gives me makes me shallow or nasty in their eyes, nothing to me is lost, because they obviously hold a sexist double standard that guys can have preferences when it comes to choosing a live partner. So all the more power to them I really appreciate the people that gave me solid advice, both on here and the many private messages I got. | |||
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"I do it all the time to myself. When clothed I think I look alright, then I get naked and look like a sack of shit with toothpicks for arms and legs! Filters, angles, how you turn the body, shadows etc. We see it all the time now a days, and thats not counting the obvious photo shops! I don’t think there’s an issue with trying to look your best! All the more power to you. I just recently had it come up where I was quite attracted to her with her cloths on and now they’ve come off I’m quite not attracted to her She’s lovely, so I don’t want to hurt her feelings Just be honest and say you don’t feel a connection now. It happens sometimes. I’d rather hear that than be ghosted and block like I was a couple of weeks ago. This! She will get over it and she doesn’t need to know the true reason of why u don’t find her physically attractive. X x Like I’d never tell a guy… oh i dont think we can sleep together again because I find out ur dick is small. Because he might be self conscious and I think it’s better not to be brutal with people x Ok that seems fair. I was kinda thinking 2 more dates, and end of the 2nd one just say that she’s great, sex is great, very physically attracted etc, but there’s just not that spark. Nothing specific. And hopefully she’s ok " I wouldn’t recommend going on two more dates with her if you know you’re going to call it a day. That’s two more opportunities for her feelings to develop which is only going to leave her more hurt. Do not tell her that her body is the reason you’re ending things, if it’s not something she can change in 5 minutes then it’s something she will dwell on for a while, she can’t change the way she looks she just needs to find the right man that will appreciate her for who she is. Just drop her a line, tell her you haven’t felt as much of a spark as you wanted to and that you hope she finds what she’s looking for! | |||
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You can't be that blind surely?
That’s why I call it cat fishing.
Some women can work absolute magic with the right cloths and shape wear
Think of all the women you could be missing out on, who wear baggy clothes, but have toned or the 'right body' underneath it all....
There a TikTok tread, wear baggy cloths then show what’s underneath it.
Cloths can make a crazy difference
But despite most of the replies being somewhat nasty and dick-ish that god forbid a guy doesn’t just roll over and accept whatever a woman gives him
There has been a few good ones and a fair few good private messages too. So I think I’ll plan a little public date this week and just end it as nicely as possible and keep it as vague as possible. So I really appreciate those replies that helped
Yeah good idea sweet
Make sure she gets home ok, either by you or you paying for a cab. Decent ending then.
Good idea, I’ll organise it so it’s closer to hers so she is only a very short Uber ride home and order her one. She really was very sweet and deserves someone great, and maybe it is shallow of me,but I actually think it’s nastier long term to stay with someone your not absolutely into in every way
Imagine being in a long term relationship and marriage and finding out after all those years that he knew from the start you didn’t tick all the boxes. That he just settled for you.
If I girl told me she wasn’t that keen on my body but I was a nice guy I’d end it myself.
We all deserve to have someone that ticks all our boxes
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"Wow.. this right here, is why I struggled for so long to enter this scene. Covered in stretch marks, jiggly bits, boobs that don’t sit where they’re supposed to! Reading something like this from a guy I’d slept with would destroy me. " Omg same!! I always tell guys I meet that my body is not necessarily like my pics. I obviously post the best ones but I know I have shit boobs and a mum tum. Posts like these make me super paranoid  | |||
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Says hi"The moral of the story is don’t ask advice on here if it’s anything to do with possibly rejecting a woman or having a preference or any level of standards when choosing a life partner. Just take what your given The old saying rings true, nothing like a woman scorned Next time I’ll just PM you and ask for the turtles advice | |||
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"OP The moral of this story Tell her I wish you the Best
And my pet
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The moral of the story is don’t ask advice on here if it’s anything to do with possibly rejecting a woman or having a preference or any level of standards when choosing a life partner. Just take what your given
The old saying rings true, nothing like a woman scorned
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The moral of the story is don’t ask advice on here if it’s anything to do with possibly rejecting a woman or having a preference or any level of standards when choosing a life partner. Just take what your given
The old saying rings true, nothing like a woman scorned
Next time I’ll just PM you and ask for the turtles advice "Humour I love it The
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The moral of the story is don’t ask advice on here if it’s anything to do with possibly rejecting a woman or having a preference or any level of standards when choosing a life partner. Just take what your given
The old saying rings true, nothing like a woman scorned
Next time I’ll just PM you and ask for the turtles advice
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"OP The moral of this story Tell her I wish you the Best
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The moral of the story is don’t ask advice on here if it’s anything to do with possibly rejecting a woman or having a preference or any level of standards when choosing a life partner. Just take what your given
The old saying rings true, nothing like a woman scorned
Next time I’ll just PM you and ask for the turtles advice "Honestly OP, I think sometimes u may come across with a blunt way of saying things (I know from past posts we haven’t necessarily agreed or u gave me advice about) so maybe that’s why some might find u triggering but don’t go all turtle and retract yourself, if you need advice. Ask away , and maybe just maybe work a tiny bit on how u project what goes on in ur mind xx (I think u did try to explain it all in the best way possible as u commented further btw!) x | |||
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"OP The moral of this story Tell her I wish you the Best
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The moral of the story is don’t ask advice on here if it’s anything to do with possibly rejecting a woman or having a preference or any level of standards when choosing a life partner. Just take what your given
The old saying rings true, nothing like a woman scorned
Next time I’ll just PM you and ask for the turtles advice
Honestly OP, I think sometimes u may come across with a blunt way of saying things (I know from past posts we haven’t necessarily agreed or u gave me advice about) so maybe that’s why some might find u triggering but don’t go all turtle and retract yourself, if you need advice. Ask away , and maybe just maybe work a tiny bit on how u project what goes on in ur mind xx
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"Man how shallow. Yeah just go with the whole didn't feel a connection. You don't deserve her. God forbid someone have a physical preference for a life partner Never mind everyone, threads over. Just gonna date and marry someone I’m not physically attracted to so I don’t look shallow I'm free" | |||
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"What a thread! My first piece of advice is, if you want balanced response, don't use a trolling subject title. Clothes hide things. As does poor light, make up, and for me, a beard. How the poor lass can be accessed of cat fishing you when you've had sex naked is just bizarre. My advice on the situation is simply tell her that youre not feeling the chemistry. Tell her that (if true) that you feel a bit of a dick for realising this after having sex a few times. If she asks try and keep generic... Tej sexual connection wasn't quite there. Super cheeky move is to suggest she may also feel it to. Gives her an out. "I suspeft you know this but are also finding it hard to say .... But"" A buddy of mine undressed and had several deep scars on his stomach. He covered them with his hands and apologised for them. I laid him down and kissed all of them. If I like someone enough to have sex with them how their body looks isn't important. | |||
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"Everyone is assuming that this woman is a vulnerable being who needs careful handling or her delicate feelings will be hurt. She may well be or she might be resilient with good self esteem who is able to handle the end of a short relationship in an adult and mature manner Women are tougher than they're made out to be. We don't need protecting by kind words and euphemisms we just need basic respect. " Very good point. If I'd had sex with someone twice and third time he didn't finish, I wouldn't be breaking my heart at a polite "you're a lovely person but not right for me". I'm not sure I would walk away with the same equanimity if the message was "your dress made you look prettier but seen in good lighting... *shudder*" though. OP nobody, even in the most dickish of dickish responses, really thinks you should carry on with someone you aren't attracted to. Nobody should have to settle for someone they only find unattractive in the dark. | |||
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"Have you ever been catfished by someone’s body? Cloths can work absolute magic, especially if you know what your doing. The right colours, the right patterns, a strategically placed belt. But when the cloths come off and you realise you prefer how they looked dressed, how do you politely say so? How do you back out without hurting their feelings? In a bit of a predicament myself so people’s answers will be appreciated " I'm speechless and find it rather shallow. I know we have preferences but still. I hope to god to stop seeing her and don't for the love of god say why. PW | |||
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"Have you ever been catfished by someone’s body? Cloths can work absolute magic, especially if you know what your doing. The right colours, the right patterns, a strategically placed belt. But when the cloths come off and you realise you prefer how they looked dressed, how do you politely say so? How do you back out without hurting their feelings? In a bit of a predicament myself so people’s answers will be appreciated That sounds shallow as f*ck to be honest. If you've been getting on with someone so well when they're clothed that you've got to the stripping off stage what should a few bits matter? It's like grow up a bit eh?... Grow up amd just settle for someone your not absolutely into? Is just settling for what you can get what you call “growing up”? If your ok just settling for someone that’s up to you and your low standards. Not everyone has such low standards themselves Nah just grow up in general. You're not so hot yourself. You look like a plate of sausages! " | |||
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"Have you ever been catfished by someone’s body? Cloths can work absolute magic, especially if you know what your doing. The right colours, the right patterns, a strategically placed belt. But when the cloths come off and you realise you prefer how they looked dressed, how do you politely say so? How do you back out without hurting their feelings? In a bit of a predicament myself so people’s answers will be appreciated That sounds shallow as f*ck to be honest. If you've been getting on with someone so well when they're clothed that you've got to the stripping off stage what should a few bits matter? It's like grow up a bit eh?... Grow up amd just settle for someone your not absolutely into? Is just settling for what you can get what you call “growing up”? If your ok just settling for someone that’s up to you and your low standards. Not everyone has such low standards themselves " Sorry I meant to say "uncooked sausages" | |||
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"Have you ever been catfished by someone’s body? Cloths can work absolute magic, especially if you know what your doing. The right colours, the right patterns, a strategically placed belt. But when the cloths come off and you realise you prefer how they looked dressed, how do you politely say so? How do you back out without hurting their feelings? In a bit of a predicament myself so people’s answers will be appreciated That sounds shallow as f*ck to be honest. If you've been getting on with someone so well when they're clothed that you've got to the stripping off stage what should a few bits matter? It's like grow up a bit eh?... Grow up amd just settle for someone your not absolutely into? Is just settling for what you can get what you call “growing up”? If your ok just settling for someone that’s up to you and your low standards. Not everyone has such low standards themselves " The trouble with setting very exact standards for how someone looks is no one stays the same. They put on weight or lose weight, get wrinkles, start having to wear glasses etc. What will you do then? What will they do if they have also selected you on how your body looks now? | |||
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"Have you ever been catfished by someone’s body? Cloths can work absolute magic, especially if you know what your doing. The right colours, the right patterns, a strategically placed belt. But when the cloths come off and you realise you prefer how they looked dressed, how do you politely say so? How do you back out without hurting their feelings? In a bit of a predicament myself so people’s answers will be appreciated That sounds shallow as f*ck to be honest. If you've been getting on with someone so well when they're clothed that you've got to the stripping off stage what should a few bits matter? It's like grow up a bit eh?... Grow up amd just settle for someone your not absolutely into? Is just settling for what you can get what you call “growing up”? If your ok just settling for someone that’s up to you and your low standards. Not everyone has such low standards themselves The trouble with setting very exact standards for how someone looks is no one stays the same. They put on weight or lose weight, get wrinkles, start having to wear glasses etc. What will you do then? What will they do if they have also selected you on how your body looks now? " I hope they do pick me for how my body look. I want someone that’s attracted to my body, not settling for it. As for getting older, that’s fine, but I’m not gonna start a relationship off with someone that I’m not fully into. | |||
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"How exactly can someone you say is lovely and you have a good laugh with and you were clearly attracted to change so much minus clothes OP? I mean body size and shape aren't vastly changed by clothes in my experience, especially if you have been naked with her. " I did a very bad job explaining it, I didn’t actually mean the thread to be so specifically targeted at my situation exactky. Just to generally be about the topic. It’s more than just her cloths coming off, but it’s too deep to explain that and I’ve already gotten the great advice I needed | |||
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"I can’t stop thinking about this thread.. it’s really bugging me. Please, please do not go and tell that gorgeous girl the reason you don’t want to hook up any more. You can dress it up however you like, as soon as the words leave your mouth that it’s because you don’t find her attractive with her clothes off, you can’t take them back. Take it from someone with not the best self esteem due to hurtful comments in the past.. no good comes from it! You don’t need to state a reason.. just say you no longer want to and leave it at that! " If you can’t stop thinking about it I’d take the time to read it and realise there’s been great advice given by a few that I’ll be following to spare her feelings as much as possible | |||
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"How exactly can someone you say is lovely and you have a good laugh with and you were clearly attracted to change so much minus clothes OP? I mean body size and shape aren't vastly changed by clothes in my experience, especially if you have been naked with her. I did a very bad job explaining it, I didn’t actually mean the thread to be so specifically targeted at my situation exactky. Just to generally be about the topic. It’s more than just her cloths coming off, but it’s too deep to explain that and I’ve already gotten the great advice I needed " I'm very confused now, so it's not due to the way she looks that you don't now find her attractive? | |||
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"What a thread! My first piece of advice is, if you want balanced response, don't use a trolling subject title. Clothes hide things. As does poor light, make up, and for me, a beard. How the poor lass can be accessed of cat fishing you when you've had sex naked is just bizarre. My advice on the situation is simply tell her that youre not feeling the chemistry. Tell her that (if true) that you feel a bit of a dick for realising this after having sex a few times. If she asks try and keep generic... Tej sexual connection wasn't quite there. Super cheeky move is to suggest she may also feel it to. Gives her an out. "I suspeft you know this but are also finding it hard to say .... But" A buddy of mine undressed and had several deep scars on his stomach. He covered them with his hands and apologised for them. I laid him down and kissed all of them. If I like someone enough to have sex with them how their body looks isn't important. " This ^^ | |||
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"How exactly can someone you say is lovely and you have a good laugh with and you were clearly attracted to change so much minus clothes OP? I mean body size and shape aren't vastly changed by clothes in my experience, especially if you have been naked with her. I did a very bad job explaining it, I didn’t actually mean the thread to be so specifically targeted at my situation exactky. Just to generally be about the topic. It’s more than just her cloths coming off, but it’s too deep to explain that and I’ve already gotten the great advice I needed I'm very confused now, so it's not due to the way she looks that you don't now find her attractive? " It’s not just that, there’s other physical stuff, but like I said, I didn’t think the thread would come to discuss my situation specifically The main issue for me was that we got along so well, I didn’t think I could just say there was “no chemistry” when there clearly was. I was hoping for more advice on how I could do it and skate her feelings. I’ve kinda learned that I can’t. I just need to be vague, kind, and swift so she can move on ASAP | |||
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"I can’t stop thinking about this thread.. it’s really bugging me. Please, please do not go and tell that gorgeous girl the reason you don’t want to hook up any more. You can dress it up however you like, as soon as the words leave your mouth that it’s because you don’t find her attractive with her clothes off, you can’t take them back. Take it from someone with not the best self esteem due to hurtful comments in the past.. no good comes from it! You don’t need to state a reason.. just say you no longer want to and leave it at that! If you can’t stop thinking about it I’d take the time to read it and realise there’s been great advice given by a few that I’ll be following to spare her feelings as much as possible " I have read the post and the replies. It can still bug me and make me feel like I need to give my opinion on the situation. | |||
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"In a previous job I lusted after a mechanic, but I'd only ever seen him in a boilersuit with a hard hat and safety glasses. He came into the offices and took off the glasses. Meh. Then he took off the hard hat. Even more meh (Sarah, what were you thinking?). Then he sent an email in which he misspelled "our" as "are" so he was dead to me from that point anyway. As a rule though if I'm interested enough in someone to remove their clothes I'm not going to be put off by anything other than an extreme issue they haven't made me aware of (like they're covered in green scales or they gave up washing a decade ago - I am genuinely talking something really extreme)." | |||
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"I do it all the time to myself. When clothed I think I look alright, then I get naked and look like a sack of shit with toothpicks for arms and legs! Filters, angles, how you turn the body, shadows etc. We see it all the time now a days, and thats not counting the obvious photo shops! I don’t think there’s an issue with trying to look your best! All the more power to you. I just recently had it come up where I was quite attracted to her with her cloths on and now they’ve come off I’m quite not attracted to her She’s lovely, so I don’t want to hurt her feelings " Am couldn't you just tell her to leave her clothes on... | |||
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"I do it all the time to myself. When clothed I think I look alright, then I get naked and look like a sack of shit with toothpicks for arms and legs! Filters, angles, how you turn the body, shadows etc. We see it all the time now a days, and thats not counting the obvious photo shops! I don’t think there’s an issue with trying to look your best! All the more power to you. I just recently had it come up where I was quite attracted to her with her cloths on and now they’ve come off I’m quite not attracted to her She’s lovely, so I don’t want to hurt her feelings Am couldn't you just tell her to leave her clothes on... "How does she look so different without clothes? Flabby is it or cellulite or what... I can't understand how someone could look that different without clothes...so she looked really hot dressed & not hot at all undressed... I'm kinda baffled ha...hope you explain op...I'd appreciate it | |||
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