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"[Removed by poster at 06/09/21 10:57:46]" I managed to see what you wrote. You are way more of a better value than described. Once you've realised you aren't first choice etc, drop him. There is someone out there who will deserve you. X | |||
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"The last one for me was when I had to give myself a little talk and remind myself that I am better than I am allowing myself to be. Did it make me happy? No What did I do with the information? Reminded myself to be better " That sounds very positive indeed xx | |||
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"That moment in the gym 2 mins ago when I realised my knees were bending in because I had omitted to get the correct posture on set up. Sorted that on the last set and knees are holding true again. " Definitely a lightbulb moment there! | |||
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"I've had a couple recently. One where I realised I was actually desirable and deserved kindness and time and all those things. It kind of hit me in a good way and I sort of made a vow to speak up more when I'm not happy, not put up with crap, cruelty under the guise of a joke etc. I'm a bit of a people pleaser and would rather keep other people happy even if it's at a cost to my own happiness and upsets me. The other is a lot more personal but a positive one on the whole. I have mini epiphanies constantly. c"100% me to the first part of your comment Meli…I’ve always been a bit of a people pleaser and at the cost of my own feelings and upset. It’s still very much a work in progress for me as I tend to have days where I say to myself “you’re worth so much more” and also having someone who gives back equally and then I have wobbles and go back into that rut again. It’s never easy. I’m forever working on it. desirable to some and not to all | |||
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"I've had a couple recently. One where I realised I was actually desirable and deserved kindness and time and all those things. It kind of hit me in a good way and I sort of made a vow to speak up more when I'm not happy, not put up with crap, cruelty under the guise of a joke etc. I'm a bit of a people pleaser and would rather keep other people happy even if it's at a cost to my own happiness and upsets me. The other is a lot more personal but a positive one on the whole. I have mini epiphanies constantly. c
100% me to the first part of your comment Meli…I’ve always been a bit of a people pleaser and at the cost of my own feelings and upset.
It’s still very much a work in progress for me as I tend to have days where I say to myself “you’re worth so much more” and also having someone who gives back equally and then I have wobbles and go back into that rut again.
It’s never easy.
I’m forever working on it.
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"I've had a couple recently. One where I realised I was actually desirable and deserved kindness and time and all those things. It kind of hit me in a good way and I sort of made a vow to speak up more when I'm not happy, not put up with crap, cruelty under the guise of a joke etc. I'm a bit of a people pleaser and would rather keep other people happy even if it's at a cost to my own happiness and upsets me. The other is a lot more personal but a positive one on the whole. I have mini epiphanies constantly. c
100% me to the first part of your comment Meli…I’ve always been a bit of a people pleaser and at the cost of my own feelings and upset.
It’s still very much a work in progress for me as I tend to have days where I say to myself “you’re worth so much more” and also having someone who gives back equally and then I have wobbles and go back into that rut again.
It’s never easy.
I’m forever working on it.
desirable to some and not to all "This is me as well. I have wobbles, but then my gf and other people get me back on track. The most recent moment of clarity for me was putting up a torso pic on my profile for Torso Tuesday. I’d convinced myself people would hate it, but I got so many lovely supportive comments, it was an eye opener about how nice and positive this community can be. | |||
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"This morning when I received a message saying" please remove your profile picture not everyone wants to see a grotesque overweight middle aged woman whilst having thee morning coffee, made me feel sick " It's not what he said what bothered me , it's the fact there are such nasty vile people out there who could say that someone they've never met or spoke to before. If they said that too someone else could have major consequences." I’m so sorry  . What a nasty person they were | |||
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"This morning when I received a message saying" please remove your profile picture not everyone wants to see a grotesque overweight middle aged woman whilst having thee morning coffee, made me feel sick " It's not what he said what bothered me , it's the fact there are such nasty vile people out there who could say that someone they've never met or spoke to before. If they said that too someone else could have major consequences." The thing who wrote that is no longer a human/person. | |||
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"That moment in the gym 2 mins ago when I realised my knees were bending in because I had omitted to get the correct posture on set up. Sorted that on the last set and knees are holding true again. " Yeah, mirrors in gyms aren’t just for posing! Very useful for checking posture / movement, particularly with heavier weights exercises. Also filming. Although best to stick to filming yourself rather than others ... | |||
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"This morning when I received a message saying" please remove your profile picture not everyone wants to see a grotesque overweight middle aged woman whilst having thee morning coffee, made me feel sick " It's not what he said what bothered me , it's the fact there are such nasty vile people out there who could say that someone they've never met or spoke to before. If they said that too someone else could have major consequences." That’s just shite. I hope you reported them and that they get blocked so that they don’t do this to anyone else. I’m glad I didn’t see your pictures when drinking my morning coffee ... I would probably have spilt it looking at those amazing curves! | |||
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"While cursing the thought of coming back to work after a week off and having to answer to those I feel are unworthy of their roles, I realised that these are actually the people responsible for how much I progress in my career if keep going as I am. Currently looking at courses to help expand my skillset and will be job-hunting pretty soon as well." Fairly similar myself. Having had a series of problems with my managers and realised that these problems had all happened before or had similar themes, the penny dropped ... I was managing my managers, because they have no clue how to manage effectively, and (this is the key bit), that will never change. I had flagged issues before, they had been grateful, but the bottom line is that as they are hopeless managers, these ballsups will happen again and again and again. Do I want to spend the rest of my career being wound up by these clowns? No. | |||
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"Most recent moment of clarity was when I realised I would never be enough for him. Solution - knock it on the head and cut all ties. Hurts like hell but I have no other option. "Awww so sorry to hear that - we've all been through that at some point (or more if we're honest) and it's heart wrenching. You are doing the right thing for you - by stepping away. Huge hugs | |||
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"This morning when I received a message saying" please remove your profile picture not everyone wants to see a grotesque overweight middle aged woman whilst having thee morning coffee, made me feel sick " It's not what he said what bothered me , it's the fact there are such nasty vile people out there who could say that someone they've never met or spoke to before. If they said that too someone else could have major consequences. That’s just shite. I hope you reported them and that they get blocked so that they don’t do this to anyone else. I’m glad I didn’t see your pictures when drinking my morning coffee ... I would probably have spilt it looking at those amazing curves! " Thankyou x I blocked immediately x | |||
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"This morning when I received a message saying" please remove your profile picture not everyone wants to see a grotesque overweight middle aged woman whilst having thee morning coffee, made me feel sick " It's not what he said what bothered me , it's the fact there are such nasty vile people out there who could say that someone they've never met or spoke to before. If they said that too someone else could have major consequences." The trick with a message like this is not to get hurt at their comments towards you, rather to pity them for being the kind of person who outwardly projects their inadequacy. You are wonderful, they are damaged in some way. | |||
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"This morning when I received a message saying" please remove your profile picture not everyone wants to see a grotesque overweight middle aged woman whilst having thee morning coffee, made me feel sick " It's not what he said what bothered me , it's the fact there are such nasty vile people out there who could say that someone they've never met or spoke to before. If they said that too someone else could have major consequences." he was just sad little excuse for a man cry wanking into his cornflakes. | |||
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"This morning when I received a message saying" please remove your profile picture not everyone wants to see a grotesque overweight middle aged woman whilst having thee morning coffee, made me feel sick " It's not what he said what bothered me , it's the fact there are such nasty vile people out there who could say that someone they've never met or spoke to before. If they said that too someone else could have major consequences. The trick with a message like this is not to get hurt at their comments towards you, rather to pity them for being the kind of person who outwardly projects their inadequacy. You are wonderful, they are damaged in some way. " didn't hurt me at all it'sire if he said to someone who did have issues or self doubt about themselves could have been a different outcome x | |||
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"Most recent moment of clarity was when I realised I would never be enough for him. Solution - knock it on the head and cut all ties. Hurts like hell but I have no other option.
Awww so sorry to hear that - we've all been through that at some point (or more if we're honest) and it's heart wrenching. You are doing the right thing for you - by stepping away. Huge hugs "Spent most of the morning sobbing like a baby but my self respect just doesnt allow me to be 2nd,3rd,4th best. Thank you for your kind words x | |||
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"This morning when I received a message saying" please remove your profile picture not everyone wants to see a grotesque overweight middle aged woman whilst having thee morning coffee, made me feel sick " It's not what he said what bothered me , it's the fact there are such nasty vile people out there who could say that someone they've never met or spoke to before. If they said that too someone else could have major consequences. he was just sad little excuse for a man cry wanking into his cornflakes." Not worth wasted oxygen x x | |||
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"This morning when I received a message saying" please remove your profile picture not everyone wants to see a grotesque overweight middle aged woman whilst having thee morning coffee, made me feel sick " It's not what he said what bothered me , it's the fact there are such nasty vile people out there who could say that someone they've never met or spoke to before. If they said that too someone else could have major consequences. The trick with a message like this is not to get hurt at their comments towards you, rather to pity them for being the kind of person who outwardly projects their inadequacy. You are wonderful, they are damaged in some way. didn't hurt me at all it'sire if he said to someone who did have issues or self doubt about themselves could have been a different outcome x" I’m glad to hear it and I agree. Did you report it? | |||
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"I've had a couple recently. One where I realised I was actually desirable and deserved kindness and time and all those things. It kind of hit me in a good way and I sort of made a vow to speak up more when I'm not happy, not put up with crap, cruelty under the guise of a joke etc. I'm a bit of a people pleaser and would rather keep other people happy even if it's at a cost to my own happiness and upsets me. The other is a lot more personal but a positive one on the whole. I have mini epiphanies constantly. c"That is an important epiphany to have. Just hold on to it. | |||
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"While cursing the thought of coming back to work after a week off and having to answer to those I feel are unworthy of their roles, I realised that these are actually the people responsible for how much I progress in my career if keep going as I am. Currently looking at courses to help expand my skillset and will be job-hunting pretty soon as well." That's a great thing to realise. Well done you. Never stop learning and making yourself happy FH | |||
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"I meditate for clarity, taking a moment to hush my busy brain and letting things flow On here stepping back from the lounge these past months has helped put my fabbing back into focus and I am a lot happier for it "Meditation never seems to work for me. I should try it more. Happier is a damn good thing C, I'm glad for you xx | |||
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"I've had a couple recently. One where I realised I was actually desirable and deserved kindness and time and all those things. It kind of hit me in a good way and I sort of made a vow to speak up more when I'm not happy, not put up with crap, cruelty under the guise of a joke etc. I'm a bit of a people pleaser and would rather keep other people happy even if it's at a cost to my own happiness and upsets me. The other is a lot more personal but a positive one on the whole. I have mini epiphanies constantly. c
100% me to the first part of your comment Meli…I’ve always been a bit of a people pleaser and at the cost of my own feelings and upset.
It’s still very much a work in progress for me as I tend to have days where I say to myself “you’re worth so much more” and also having someone who gives back equally and then I have wobbles and go back into that rut again.
It’s never easy.
I’m forever working on it.
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"Fairly recently for me, theres only one number one and it should be yourself. Was empowering for me." The most empowering thing will be to live by that. Well done you! | |||
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"When I realised the word advice had the word vice within it...like are they trying to set my head right or to straight up crush it! You can't tell until you put your head on the block! So I always try to grease my head for a possible easy escape!! " It makes me sad that you're looking for the escape. I hope you also manage to just embrace the now. | |||
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"I've had a couple recently. One where I realised I was actually desirable and deserved kindness and time and all those things. It kind of hit me in a good way and I sort of made a vow to speak up more when I'm not happy, not put up with crap, cruelty under the guise of a joke etc. I'm a bit of a people pleaser and would rather keep other people happy even if it's at a cost to my own happiness and upsets me. The other is a lot more personal but a positive one on the whole. I have mini epiphanies constantly. c
100% me to the first part of your comment Meli…I’ve always been a bit of a people pleaser and at the cost of my own feelings and upset.
It’s still very much a work in progress for me as I tend to have days where I say to myself “you’re worth so much more” and also having someone who gives back equally and then I have wobbles and go back into that rut again.
It’s never easy.
I’m forever working on it.
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This is me as well. I have wobbles, but then my gf and other people get me back on track. The most recent moment of clarity for me was putting up a torso pic on my profile for Torso Tuesday. I’d convinced myself people would hate it, but I got so many lovely supportive comments, it was an eye opener about how nice and positive this community can be. "This community can be such a wonderfully supportive place. There is evidence of that all the time. I'm glad you have seen it. | |||
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"When I realised the word advice had the word vice within it...like are they trying to set my head right or to straight up crush it! You can't tell until you put your head on the block! So I always try to grease my head for a possible easy escape!! It makes me sad that you're looking for the escape. I hope you also manage to just embrace the now." My heads in a vice! | |||
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"I've had a couple recently. One where I realised I was actually desirable and deserved kindness and time and all those things. It kind of hit me in a good way and I sort of made a vow to speak up more when I'm not happy, not put up with crap, cruelty under the guise of a joke etc. I'm a bit of a people pleaser and would rather keep other people happy even if it's at a cost to my own happiness and upsets me. The other is a lot more personal but a positive one on the whole. I have mini epiphanies constantly. c
That is an important epiphany to have. Just hold on to it."Thanks OP! It appears to be a shared thought with quite a few which is reassuring in itself. I think people pleasing can be exhausting and sometimes it's okay to speak up, do you. I think we're all worthy of it. | |||
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"This morning when I received a message saying" please remove your profile picture not everyone wants to see a grotesque overweight middle aged woman whilst having thee morning coffee, made me feel sick " It's not what he said what bothered me , it's the fact there are such nasty vile people out there who could say that someone they've never met or spoke to before. If they said that too someone else could have major consequences." I wish that hadn't happened. You have to know you're anything but grotesque. The vile people are cruel and unnecessary. Try and turn the volume down on them and up on the positive ones. I know it is so hard, I struggle all the time..... but we can do it. The replies in this thread I hope have helped to show that there may be vile people, but there are so many more good ones. | |||
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"I’m aware of how much of a work in progress I am, so I have epiphanies Alllll the time. My last one was last week, someone did something for me, with no queries, and when I thanked him, he was confused as to why it was a big thing for me, but I’ve never known it any different. I genuinely didn’t know how to react, because it was so alien. " You deserve it. And I'll tell you every day if it helps. | |||
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"Most recent moment of clarity was when I realised I would never be enough for him. Solution - knock it on the head and cut all ties. Hurts like hell but I have no other option. "Oh sweetheart. It does hurt. I can only hope that you realise that in the long run it will be a good thing. No matter how much it hurts now. Sending hugs | |||
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"While cursing the thought of coming back to work after a week off and having to answer to those I feel are unworthy of their roles, I realised that these are actually the people responsible for how much I progress in my career if keep going as I am. Currently looking at courses to help expand my skillset and will be job-hunting pretty soon as well. Fairly similar myself. Having had a series of problems with my managers and realised that these problems had all happened before or had similar themes, the penny dropped ... I was managing my managers, because they have no clue how to manage effectively, and (this is the key bit), that will never change. I had flagged issues before, they had been grateful, but the bottom line is that as they are hopeless managers, these ballsups will happen again and again and again. Do I want to spend the rest of my career being wound up by these clowns? No. " So glad to read you've also realised it's not acceptable to settle for that. | |||
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"The moment I realised how toxic my ex was and this was actually a chance for freedom and happiness." There's the silver lining. Grab that freedom and the happy. You deserve it. | |||
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"We all need a little reminder now and again, it can be a wow gosh moment Mine made me remember myself worth "That's wonderful to read! Well done WW! | |||
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"A moment of clarify came with shock and realisation that some people don’t have good intentions simply because I think they will have them. It is something I’m struggling to understand. I’m not talking about random people, I’m talking about people you know well and thought you had the same understanding of things. One of life’s lessons I suppose. " It hurts so much more when it is people you know. I had that moment last year. And still have to remind myself of the lesson. I hope you're ok. | |||
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"I've had a couple recently. One where I realised I was actually desirable and deserved kindness and time and all those things. It kind of hit me in a good way and I sort of made a vow to speak up more when I'm not happy, not put up with crap, cruelty under the guise of a joke etc. I'm a bit of a people pleaser and would rather keep other people happy even if it's at a cost to my own happiness and upsets me. The other is a lot more personal but a positive one on the whole. I have mini epiphanies constantly. c
That is an important epiphany to have. Just hold on to it.
Thanks OP! It appears to be a shared thought with quite a few which is reassuring in itself. I think people pleasing can be exhausting and sometimes it's okay to speak up, do you. I think we're all worthy of it."I think when we realise that we will hopefully find some personal peace. I'm still on the journey. | |||
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"Not sure where to even start on this one... "Wherever you like. Or nowhere. There's no pressure. | |||
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"This morning when I received a message saying" please remove your profile picture not everyone wants to see a grotesque overweight middle aged woman whilst having thee morning coffee, made me feel sick " It's not what he said what bothered me , it's the fact there are such nasty vile people out there who could say that someone they've never met or spoke to before. If they said that too someone else could have major consequences. I wish that hadn't happened. You have to know you're anything but grotesque. The vile people are cruel and unnecessary. Try and turn the volume down on them and up on the positive ones. I know it is so hard, I struggle all the time..... but we can do it. The replies in this thread I hope have helped to show that there may be vile people, but there are so many more good ones." personally doesn't bother me at all, I'm far more thick skinned then that and body positive. I'm more concerned if was sent to someone who has got body issues and no confidence what it could do to them x | |||
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"This morning when I received a message saying" please remove your profile picture not everyone wants to see a grotesque overweight middle aged woman whilst having thee morning coffee, made me feel sick " It's not what he said what bothered me , it's the fact there are such nasty vile people out there who could say that someone they've never met or spoke to before. If they said that too someone else could have major consequences. I wish that hadn't happened. You have to know you're anything but grotesque. The vile people are cruel and unnecessary. Try and turn the volume down on them and up on the positive ones. I know it is so hard, I struggle all the time..... but we can do it. The replies in this thread I hope have helped to show that there may be vile people, but there are so many more good ones. personally doesn't bother me at all, I'm far more thick skinned then that and body positive. I'm more concerned if was sent to someone who has got body issues and no confidence what it could do to them x" I can tell you from experience, it slices straight through all the good things people say and knocks you back a ways. How far depends on your mood at the time. I'm glad you aren't one of the people bothered by it x | |||
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"I can’t recall having such a moment….I tend to realise things over time, and usually too late." One day yours will come young man. One day.... | |||
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"I can’t recall having such a moment….I tend to realise things over time, and usually too late. One day yours will come young man. One day...." Needs to hurry up, I’m not that young. It would also be good if it could steer me away from any further monumental errors  | |||
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"I can’t recall having such a moment….I tend to realise things over time, and usually too late. One day yours will come young man. One day.... Needs to hurry up, I’m not that young. It would also be good if it could steer me away from any further monumental errors "You're not that old either. Monumental error sounds bad..... I hope it works out though xx | |||
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"I can’t recall having such a moment….I tend to realise things over time, and usually too late. One day yours will come young man. One day.... Needs to hurry up, I’m not that young. It would also be good if it could steer me away from any further monumental errors
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Monumental error sounds bad..... I hope it works out though xx"There’s been more than one, I’m an over-achiever…. | |||
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"I’m aware of how much of a work in progress I am, so I have epiphanies Alllll the time. My last one was last week, someone did something for me, with no queries, and when I thanked him, he was confused as to why it was a big thing for me, but I’ve never known it any different. I genuinely didn’t know how to react, because it was so alien. " Totally! I can relate to this cos I .. a) hate asking for help b) assume people don’t want to help or want something in return … So yeah, I’m thrown off sometimes when things like that happen and it’s just out of kindness x Someone gave me a bunch of flowers a couple of weeks ago, and yeah, was totally unexpected even if not reciprocated. Like, it hit me that. | |||
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"The moment I realised how toxic my ex was and this was actually a chance for freedom and happiness. There's the silver lining. Grab that freedom and the happy. You deserve it." Thanks Sugartits..it's the first time I felt a literally weight lift from my shoulders, it was such a moment of clarity. | |||
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"I can’t recall having such a moment….I tend to realise things over time, and usually too late. One day yours will come young man. One day.... Needs to hurry up, I’m not that young. It would also be good if it could steer me away from any further monumental errors
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Monumental error sounds bad..... I hope it works out though xx
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"My last one was yesterday when the lady I'd had a lovely time with left me a verification saying I was caring. She's the second lady who's written something like that and it means a lot because for me swinging is about much, much more than the sex." It really is. And that's wonderful to read! | |||
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"I’m aware of how much of a work in progress I am, so I have epiphanies Alllll the time. My last one was last week, someone did something for me, with no queries, and when I thanked him, he was confused as to why it was a big thing for me, but I’ve never known it any different. I genuinely didn’t know how to react, because it was so alien. Totally! I can relate to this cos I .. a) hate asking for help b) assume people don’t want to help or want something in return … So yeah, I’m thrown off sometimes when things like that happen and it’s just out of kindness x Someone gave me a bunch of flowers a couple of weeks ago, and yeah, was totally unexpected even if not reciprocated. Like, it hit me that. " That's so me as well..... you deserve the kindness and the love you sweetheart xx | |||
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"The moment I realised how toxic my ex was and this was actually a chance for freedom and happiness. There's the silver lining. Grab that freedom and the happy. You deserve it. Thanks Sugartits..it's the first time I felt a literally weight lift from my shoulders, it was such a moment of clarity." Giggling like a schoolgirl at Sugartits 
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"You know my last one posh! "I do. And also. Shurrup else I'll smack you
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"You know my last one posh!
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Shurrup else I'll smack you
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"[Removed by poster at 06/09/21 10:57:46] I managed to see what you wrote. You are way more of a better value than described. Once you've realised you aren't first choice etc, drop him. There is someone out there who will deserve you. X" Agree with that statement | |||
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"Post nut clarity is amazing "You took words out of my mouth ! Yeah that is the clearest a bloke can think after his balls are empty ! Centre of gravity / thinking shifts back from the dick to the brain  | |||
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"Post nut clarity is amazing
Hmmmm...... not one I've experienced "No problem……I’ll show you | |||
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"Post nut clarity is amazing
You took words out of my mouth ! Yeah that is the clearest a bloke can think after his balls are empty ! Centre of gravity / thinking shifts back from the dick to the brain " | |||
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"The only one I can remember was after taking Ibuprofen before a night out and becoming so inebriated I ended up outside for half an hour, then came around sitting on a chair by the dance floor. My head cleared and I gave myself a talking to to get some water down my neck. Everything cleared and I said to my friend I'm seriously d*unk and need to go home." I imagine you are a brilliant d*unk | |||
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"When somebody is clearly staring at me for ages then…..thankfully……after a few minutes….politely informs me that I am indeed, “ very tall” !!! I’m very blessed that this happens daily as I do often forget hahahaha" People are just so helpful. They like to tell me I'm fat too..... | |||
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"I've had a few and it's rare they have been positive realisations. Often it's moments where I know full well that everything I've been told is true and indeed now it really is me breaking my own heart. " I completely feel this. Why we don't listen to our instincts when they tell us to listen to our friends sometimes I really don't know.... Hugs to you | |||
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"The only one I can remember was after taking Ibuprofen before a night out and becoming so inebriated I ended up outside for half an hour, then came around sitting on a chair by the dance floor. My head cleared and I gave myself a talking to to get some water down my neck. Everything cleared and I said to my friend I'm seriously d*unk and need to go home." That sounds like a very positive outcome from a dangerous situation! | |||
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No problem……I’ll show you "You are too kind Sir | |||
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"When something leaps into your head out of the blue and you just kind of go "well gosh". Or it kicks you like a punch to the gut of course. What was your last one? And did it make you happy? Did you do anything with the information?" Influencers are the modern day Judith Chalmers/Michael Palin, oversharing photo albums you never to be see. It made me very happy. So happy I took less pictures of the cheesy toast I was posting for lunch each day and switched it up to agrostology, sudoku and roundabouts. (reposted as I can't spell) | |||
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"I'm not sure I've come to terms with my latest, it could change things. " Same boat. Hopefully yours is in a good way too. | |||
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"When something leaps into your head out of the blue and you just kind of go "well gosh". Or it kicks you like a punch to the gut of course. What was your last one? And did it make you happy? Did you do anything with the information? Influencers are the modern day Judith Chalmers/Michael Palin, oversharing photo albums you never to be see. It made me very happy. So happy I took less pictures of the cheesy toast I was posting for lunch each day and switched it up to agrostology, sudoku and roundabouts. (reposted as I can't spell)" I like the influencers analogy. Never thought of it like that. Well done you. Also.... cheesy toast every day? That's a solid lifestyle choice right there. | |||
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"The other day there And nope it made me sad as it cost me 6 hours for nothing What I learned is stop getting wacky idears in your head at stupid o’clock and running with them they very rarely work out " Well listen to yourself this time then Nat!! And don't be sad. Have a hug xx | |||
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"Saying goodbye and telling someone I was blocking them because I started to get feels for them but they’d already been planning to move on with someone else. I’m no longer willing to be someone’s second choice. It felt so strange and upsetting doing it and doubted myself for a while but I know it was the best thing to do. " I think the being a second choice is something we all struggle with. It's whether we can accept that we aren't actually second choice, we are another choice, or whether we want to be the only choice. Well done for making that step for yourself. It will be better for you, long run style. | |||
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"The other day there And nope it made me sad as it cost me 6 hours for nothing What I learned is stop getting wacky idears in your head at stupid o’clock and running with them they very rarely work out Well listen to yourself this time then Nat!! And don't be sad. Have a hug xx" Awww thank you so much xxxx | |||
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"This morning when I received a message saying" please remove your profile picture not everyone wants to see a grotesque overweight middle aged woman whilst having thee morning coffee, made me feel sick " It's not what he said what bothered me , it's the fact there are such nasty vile people out there who could say that someone they've never met or spoke to before. If they said that too someone else could have major consequences. he was just sad little excuse for a man cry wanking into his cornflakes." You are right about him but I’m glad I don’t eat cornflakes as I don’t think I could now after that  | |||
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"While cursing the thought of coming back to work after a week off and having to answer to those I feel are unworthy of their roles, I realised that these are actually the people responsible for how much I progress in my career if keep going as I am. Currently looking at courses to help expand my skillset and will be job-hunting pretty soon as well. Fairly similar myself. Having had a series of problems with my managers and realised that these problems had all happened before or had similar themes, the penny dropped ... I was managing my managers, because they have no clue how to manage effectively, and (this is the key bit), that will never change. I had flagged issues before, they had been grateful, but the bottom line is that as they are hopeless managers, these ballsups will happen again and again and again. Do I want to spend the rest of my career being wound up by these clowns? No. So glad to read you've also realised it's not acceptable to settle for that." Thanks. Management of firms tend to put procedures, structures and controls in place to handle all sorts of situations except for one ... they themselves being shit! | |||
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"The moment I realised how toxic my ex was and this was actually a chance for freedom and happiness. There's the silver lining. Grab that freedom and the happy. You deserve it. Thanks Sugartits..it's the first time I felt a literally weight lift from my shoulders, it was such a moment of clarity. Giggling like a schoolgirl at Sugartits
That can be an incredible feeling."That's gonna stick now, Sugartits  | |||
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