FabSwingers.com forum: Is 50 years over the hill?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi guys & girls,

My first posted topic in the lounge, be gentle...

I'll cut straight to it, personal choice or not, most folks seem to have an age cap at 50, do folks judge anything older as over the hill, unable to perform or just plainly unattractive?

Please begin....

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

No x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope not, I'm 63 and think I can still hold my own - though it's nicer when someone else holds it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there is space for everyone

I would say, however, that those in their 30's have the most options if we are judging purely on age

It is, of course, way more complex than that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s just a number , my fella is over 50 & got the stamina & strength of a youngster

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all

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By *tephanjMan
over a year ago

Kettering

Oh dear well I'm over the mountains at 66

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I fooking hope not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For us to arrange to meet, Mrs prefers someone a little older but closer to her age.

Things could be different if at a party for example.

As her age grows, so will her top and bottom limit.

She's willing to go much higher above her age than lower.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope not! I’m fast approaching 50!!

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By *apxxxWoman
over a year ago

North Shropshire not Wales!!!ffs & Manchester

Still plenty of life in me yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do old goats fear hills?

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I just picked a hill with a long ridge walk so I've no plans on being over it just yet.

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By *herry OnatopWoman
over a year ago

Just over there

Never! It's better than ever! Though my age will now decline, celebrating my 49th next year!

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By *razzyhorseMan
over a year ago

cambridge

Hope not ... Don't fancy waving the white flag just yet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Life never been so good, took a long time coming

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

There are some ladies who like doing care in the community meets lol

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

At 53, I prefer people of similar age, though do go down to late '30s occasionally.

Plenty of fit 50yr olds on the site,OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I just picked a hill with a long ridge walk so I've no plans on being over it just yet. "

This definitely as I have been walking that one to.

Mrs KC

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi guys & girls,

My first posted topic in the lounge, be gentle...

I'll cut straight to it, personal choice or not, most folks seem to have an age cap at 50, do folks judge anything older as over the hill, unable to perform or just plainly unattractive?

Please begin...."

People like round numbers in my experience, but not all women, for example, set their age preference limits to round numbers. 50 and over is definitely not over the hill (says the 51 year old guy

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

I’m 54 and certainly not over the hill …. On my way up may be

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Hi guys & girls,

My first posted topic in the lounge, be gentle...

I'll cut straight to it, personal choice or not, most folks seem to have an age cap at 50, do folks judge anything older as over the hill, unable to perform or just plainly unattractive?

Please begin...."

How do you see over 60s? Their reasoning is probably similar

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

Absolutely not

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I'm 51 & in the prime of my life.

(Sort of).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Connection is more important than age.

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach

I'm over the hill, and heading down the other side to my second youth!

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

100% yes they are. You start going over the hill when you're 40, plus 50 and you've long since passed it.

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

"100% yes they are. You start going over the hill when you're 40, plus 50 and you've long since passed it."

How very date you, Meli

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

"100% yes they are. You start going over the hill when you're 40, plus 50 and you've long since passed it.

How very date you, Meli

*dare

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire

"Hi guys & girls,

My first posted topic in the lounge, be gentle...

I'll cut straight to it, personal choice or not, most folks seem to have an age cap at 50, do folks judge anything older as over the hill, unable to perform or just plainly unattractive?

Please begin...."

Not me.

I'm 62 and still enjoying everything the forum has to offer to the full.

For me it's not about age, it's about connection.

But there are those here who set their age preferences lower... that's their choice.

They miss out on lots of fun, but each to their own x

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By *mma29Couple
over a year ago

wirral

Not over the hill...just too old for us at the moment. I don't want to find one of my dad's mates on here! As we get older we'll increase our age cut off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When i was 30 i certainly used to think that way and my nanna +grandad were definitely old in their outlook at 50, but i think society as a whole is getting younger as we get older.. I'm 51 and think I'm in my prime now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hopefully not, as my partner is over 50, and she is as gorgeous as I first met her, and certainly not over the hill.

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"Hi guys & girls,

My first posted topic in the lounge, be gentle...

I'll cut straight to it, personal choice or not, most folks seem to have an age cap at 50, do folks judge anything older as over the hill, unable to perform or just plainly unattractive?

Please begin...."

It's whatever you want it to be

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

50 is only over the hill if YOU think it is.

I'm not far off and am nowhere near over the hill.

Think positive and maybe try clubs. Age is much less of a factor when you meet face to face.

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

50 is the new 30.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am 59 and hope I got a long time left in me and don't need a pill to have fun lol

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"100% yes they are. You start going over the hill when you're 40, plus 50 and you've long since passed it.

How very date you, Meli

No shame.

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By *rhugesMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

It would appear so . There is so much competition I really don't think the over 50s have a chance.

I'm speaking from experience.

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

"It would appear so . There is so much competition I really don't think the over 50s have a chance.

I'm speaking from experience."

I'm nearly 54 & I do ok!

Look at all the fabulous 50+ folk on this thread!Don't use age as an excuse

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

"100% yes they are. You start going over the hill when you're 40, plus 50 and you've long since passed it.

How very date you, Meli

No shame. "

I'll come and remind you of this when you hit the 5-0, Meli.

Obviously, I'll need the care home folk to wheel me out to you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It would appear so . There is so much competition I really don't think the over 50s have a chance.

I'm speaking from experience.

I'm nearly 54 & I do ok!

Look at all the fabulous 50+ folk on this thread!Don't use age as an excuse

Ha! You will as you're female.

Maybe I should have refraised the initial question and included the word "male"..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"30 is the new 50. "

Tell Meli that

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach

"It would appear so . There is so much competition I really don't think the over 50s have a chance.

I'm speaking from experience.

I'm nearly 54 & I do ok!

Look at all the fabulous 50+ folk on this thread!Don't use age as an excuse

Ah! But as you say on your profile, "boobies".

In fairness I have boobs too, but they don't seem to have the same pulling power...

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By *hatHappensNextCouple
over a year ago

Essex, near basildon

Hope not as hubby is over 5o but certainly still got his mojo??

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By *B69Woman
over a year ago

Wiltshire

Not from my experience, I’m probably having more fun now than I did in my forties

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"It would appear so . There is so much competition I really don't think the over 50s have a chance.

I'm speaking from experience.

I'm nearly 54 & I do ok!

Look at all the fabulous 50+ folk on this thread!Don't use age as an excuse

Ha! You will as you're female.

Maybe I should have refraised the initial question and included the word "male"..

There's several successful 50+ men. Maybe it's their approach and positivity that makes the difference.

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By *oc30Man
over a year ago

Cheltenham

Age is just a number it’s the person who counts and the personality !

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Not at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Waves hand in the air! Over the hill

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Don't get me wrong here, apart from being on fat side (but working hard on it) I still feel like I'm thirty.

I don't write cheques my body can't cash anymore though.

I do cycle everyday, listen to lots of music and still enjoy fast motorbikes very much.

I just see a presumption that fifty is too old for most, even those in their fifties themselves sometimes.

That I just don't get but again it's a personal preference.

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach

"Age is just a number it’s the person who counts and the personality !

This is very true, but if you're outside a setting (be it age, sex, etc.) on here, then no one finds out about your sparkling personality.

(Yes, yes, I know, get to socials/clubs. Sometimes easier said than done)

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By *uenevereWoman
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

I think too many fall into the trap of letting things beyond their control get to them.

You can't change people's preferences but you can actively seek those who are interested in your age group.

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

"It would appear so . There is so much competition I really don't think the over 50s have a chance.

I'm speaking from experience.

I'm nearly 54 & I do ok!

Look at all the fabulous 50+ folk on this thread!Don't use age as an excuse

Ha! You will as you're female.

Maybe I should have refraised the initial question and included the word "male"..

And most of my veris are from guys round the 50 age mark

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

"It would appear so . There is so much competition I really don't think the over 50s have a chance.

I'm speaking from experience.

I'm nearly 54 & I do ok!

Look at all the fabulous 50+ folk on this thread!Don't use age as an excuse

Ha! You will as you're female.

Maybe I should have refraised the initial question and included the word "male"..

There's several successful 50+ men. Maybe it's their approach and positivity that makes the difference. "

Exactly that.

Given the choice of a fit guy in his 30's or a fit guy in his 50's, the latter wins every time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just see a presumption that fifty is too old for most, even those in their fifties themselves sometimes.

That I just don't get but again it's a personal preference."

You are almost dead mate. I'd find a quiet corner and sit out now.

On a serious note I was in a NW swinging club last night and despite being on the wrong side of 45, was one of the youngest there. I guess you may have a few years left

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By *iaisonseekerMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

It all depends what pool you're fishing in. If the question relates to the perception of those in their 20s and 30s then at 50+, you might well be considered past it and be automatically discounted by the application of age filters. That's not a judgement on you personally but just a broad trend.

If you're fishing in the middle-aged pool, many more options will be open to you. The only reason to suppose they'll be second best is if you prize much younger partners. As long as you can calibrate your expectations appropriately, it needn't be an issue that prevents you enjoying the site.

The ratio of men to women will do that job

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"50 is the new 30. "

Definitely agree I’m fitter now than I was in my 30s too

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford

Don’t worry about the ones who set their age limit there, plenty of people are ok with older ones.

Obviously they’ll have to speak up and probably write bigger, like

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By *ecky and justCouple
over a year ago

Godalming

Is 50 0ver the hill..?

Nope...

Not as far as we're concerned.

Becky's discovered some magical youth spell and I still think I'm mid 20's in my head..

We look at how people attract us, not at their numbers..

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I think too many fall into the trap of letting things beyond their control get to them.

You can't change people's preferences but you can actively seek those who are interested in your age group. "

I think you're right there and yes it's got to me a little being honest.

I find and feel removed and apart from the scene because of my age.

I've been on Fabs since it first started back in the naughties.

Left for twelve months as I was working abroad, rejoined when I came back home and found it had pretty much changed beyond all recognition as far as folks' attitudes went.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

In my teens, twenties , even late thirties early forties I would have considered 50 or over too old for me.

I'm 66 and a half

I am still sexually active but I don't expect anyone a decade younger than me to be in hot pursuit of someone of my age.

My 'current partner of 11 years ' is 50 ( and a half ) I don't think of him as either too young or too old. Suits us.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

When I say partner........... we don't live together and nor are we committed...

We just get on and do 'stuff' .......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope not because it’s next month for me!

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By *Just meMan
over a year ago

Basingstoke

"Hi guys & girls,

My first posted topic in the lounge, be gentle...

I'll cut straight to it, personal choice or not, most folks seem to have an age cap at 50, do folks judge anything older as over the hill, unable to perform or just plainly unattractive?

Please begin...."

I know what you mean... Shame they dont look at the quality... I can cetainly last longer than a younger guy... And have more skills too.

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By *heGateKeeperMan
over a year ago

Stratford

Don’t listen to those codgers, it absolutely is o

*walks away at a steady pace, knowing they can’t keep up with their achy hips and knees*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I say partner........... we don't live together and nor are we committed...

We just get on and do 'stuff' ......."

Like bingo and crown green bowling...

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By *aysOfOurLivesCouple
over a year ago

Essex

"Hi guys & girls,

My first posted topic in the lounge, be gentle...

I'll cut straight to it, personal choice or not, most folks seem to have an age cap at 50, do folks judge anything older as over the hill, unable to perform or just plainly unattractive?

Please begin...."

We know we are still every bit as good or better as our younger selves but it’s really not about that. It’s really not about age = ability but more like age = reminder of parent/child/uncle/experiences so it very much a personal choice to be respected.

Remember, for some those thoughts are what makes it work for them too.

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By *rhugesMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

Sadly in my experience on here if you're over 50 ( I'm 55) your chances of hooking up with a women or couple on here is a out 2%

And that's being optimistic

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By *rMojoRisinMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

I’m 55, I’m not sure what other people think about that, but I’m pretty happy and manage to meet people.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"30 is the new 50.

Tell Meli that

Oh this is clever, very clever! You made me snort in glee, good one Leo.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"When I say partner........... we don't live together and nor are we committed...

We just get on and do 'stuff' .......

Like bingo and crown green bowling...

Oh what a fucking hilarious comment.

You're so funny.

Fancy polishing my bowls ?

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I prefer gents older than me x

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

"When I say partner........... we don't live together and nor are we committed...

We just get on and do 'stuff' .......

Like bingo and crown green bowling...

"
if I ever go to a garden centre for lunch or coffee please shot me there and then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Defo not as far as I’m concerned but I do have friends younger than me who look and act like old people, properly stuck in their ways and ready for the pipe and slippers combo

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By *indy777Couple
over a year ago

Hampshire

Not if this morning’s antics are anything to go by!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"When I say partner........... we don't live together and nor are we committed...

We just get on and do 'stuff' .......

Like bingo and crown green bowling...

if I ever go to a garden centre for lunch or coffee please shot me there and then

Will do! Only got a water pistol though

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Is being old a bad thing (apart obviously from being nearer to death in most cases) in most people's opinion? I can't see much wrong with it myself

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"When I say partner........... we don't live together and nor are we committed...

We just get on and do 'stuff' .......

Like bingo and crown green bowling...

if I ever go to a garden centre for lunch or coffee please shot me there and then

Will do....... and you do likewise for me.

Why do the under 60's think that we all drive hondas and have wicker baskets with butter , eggs n home baked bread in them ...

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"When I say partner........... we don't live together and nor are we committed...

We just get on and do 'stuff' .......

Like bingo and crown green bowling...

if I ever go to a garden centre for lunch or coffee please shot me there and then

Will do! Only got a water pistol though

I'll hold him down. You drown him.

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach

"Is being old a bad thing (apart obviously from being nearer to death in most cases) in most people's opinion? I can't see much wrong with it myself

I'm loving my life at present. Probably the most happy and carefree I've been since my teens.

With the added bonus of financial security and a bit more wisdom in avoiding the most stupid decisions (though not all...)

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Is being old a bad thing (apart obviously from being nearer to death in most cases) in most people's opinion? I can't see much wrong with it myself"

No, not in my opinion, more life experience usually means a better experience all round.