FabSwingers.com forum: Singles

By *aomilatte OP Couple
over a year ago

Midlands

We're curious to know. Are you single by choice and prefer casual sexual encounters? Or would you prefer a partner to live with full-time?

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By *oozleMan
over a year ago

high wycombe

Not single by choice, would prefer someone to share my life with, but content to not rush and just enjoy life till I meet someone special

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

By choice and staying that way thankyou

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single by choice but would love a FB

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By *ardinal FangMan
over a year ago

Sandy

Playing single because of complications.

I have a partner, who lives in the US, so we are open to meets as singles and keep each other aware. Thanks to COVID I haven’t seen her since March 2020.

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

By choice right now and happy to just have fwb's, if someone came along and changed that who knows

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was single by choice for many years.

Now, I'm just single.

I'd love to find my happy ever after but sadly I don't see it happening.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would love a partner

single way to long now

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By *urious_Female89Woman
over a year ago

great yarmouth

By choice.. scared of commitment but do miss the feeling of loving someone, but in no rush!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Choose to be single, live with my fwb... Still enjoy encounters with other people though... I am a very happy girl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After 34yrs by choice, we both came to that conclusion so amicably single, which is nice !

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By *ave1963BarnsleyMan
over a year ago

Barnsley

I'm single because I split up with my long term partner nearly two years ago.

I currently live with a female friend who I pay rent to, i.e. I'm her lodger.

She knows I swing and, although not involved herself, has agreed that when we move to Clacton in a few weeks she's ok with the prospect of me playing in her new bungalow, with the caveat that it's only women who visit as she's not comfortable with guys she doesn't know.

I'd love to have a FWB at some point in the future, especially as I'd like a partner to attend clubs with, but I'm realistic enough to know it's unlikely to happen.

Having said that, I'm a single guy who does get regular play with two couples and one married lady (her hubby swings separately and knows me) so I'm very lucky.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not by choice, work gets in the way, I work away for 6 months at a time and only home for 2, would love to find someone it’s it’s difficult with such limited time at home and finding someone who understands my work schedule

Looking for a FWB while home right now, if something better came along then all the better

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By *onb21Woman
over a year ago

Cardiff

Well it was my choice to leave every time but it's not been my plan to stay alone. As desperate as I am I just can't be with the wrong guys.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single for years by choice now single because I’m to fussy

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By *mma_EvansTV/TS
over a year ago

Colchester

"We're curious to know. Are you single by choice and prefer casual sexual encounters? Or would you prefer a partner to live with full-time?"

I am single by choice and I prefer casual encounters with the people I choose whether at a venue or through this site. To tell you truth, I don't think I could live with someone now xx

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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

I can't envisage wanting to live with someone for a very long time. I've come to realise having a boyfriend would be nice though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I came back onto fabs without the intention of finding a partner. It just happened (and I couldn't be happier). We don't live together though.

If anyone needs a bucket, feel free to ask and I'll pass it over...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not by choice I love being in a relationship having someone to come home to. But finding the right person seems to be difficult at the moment

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By *ardinal FangMan
over a year ago

Sandy

"Choose to be single, live with my fwb... Still enjoy encounters with other people though... I am a very happy girl

Yeah, I did that once. I now have a 14yr old son and maintenance payments lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single by choice at the minute not desperate to be in a relationship but always open to a non-vanilla happy ever after!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Choose to be single, live with my fwb... Still enjoy encounters with other people though... I am a very happy girl

Yeah, I did that once. I now have a 14yr old son and maintenance payments lol"

We buy condoms in bulk but that would never happen regardless... I am a granny... That's enough of small children for me, thanks!

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By *ardinal FangMan
over a year ago

Sandy

"Choose to be single, live with my fwb... Still enjoy encounters with other people though... I am a very happy girl

Yeah, I did that once. I now have a 14yr old son and maintenance payments lol

We buy condoms in bulk but that would never happen regardless... I am a granny... That's enough of small children for me, thanks! "

So did we, but she had a birthday, we got d*unk, yadda, yadda.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Choose to be single, live with my fwb... Still enjoy encounters with other people though... I am a very happy girl

Yeah, I did that once. I now have a 14yr old son and maintenance payments lol

We buy condoms in bulk but that would never happen regardless... I am a granny... That's enough of small children for me, thanks!

So did we, but she had a birthday, we got d*unk, yadda, yadda. "

Lol nope... Still wouldn't happen

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By *alty surpriseMan
over a year ago

Uttoxeter

Singleton.. But not my type of life style

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kind of my choice because I know I’m an obstinate arsehole

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Choice/necessity moreso I reckon.

I seem to fall for wronguns so no more falling. I ain't just got a wall up, I've got a shark filled moat

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

I’m single because I chose to be I wouldn’t rule out a partner it’s just the case of the right one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Started out as single by choice but now iv come to the conclusion that the world is just top pepoley

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

I’ve been single by choice for a long time. I don’t want the whole cohabitation shiz but I miss the someone to spend quiet time with. One day…

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Choice/necessity moreso I reckon.

I seem to fall for wronguns so no more falling. I ain't just got a wall up, I've got a shark filled moat "

Just sharks? My moat contains sharks crocodiles alligators jelly fish piranha and a bad tempered walrus

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Choice/necessity moreso I reckon.

I seem to fall for wronguns so no more falling. I ain't just got a wall up, I've got a shark filled moat

Just sharks? My moat contains sharks crocodiles alligators jelly fish piranha and a bad tempered walrus "

If they got past the sharks I've booby trapped a self destruct button on the doorbell and poof, I'm a gonna

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was not initially my choice, partner died a couple of years ago, kind of ok with my own space at the moment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not single by choice, would prefer someone to share my life with, but content to not rush and just enjoy life till I meet someone special "

I feel exactly the same way x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been single for to long now and would like to have a proper relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I choose to remain single. My family and my job leaves no time to dedicate to dating.

Men don't like being playing second fiddle to the dying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Choice/necessity moreso I reckon.

I seem to fall for wronguns so no more falling. I ain't just got a wall up, I've got a shark filled moat

Just sharks? My moat contains sharks crocodiles alligators jelly fish piranha and a bad tempered walrus

If they got past the sharks I've booby trapped a self destruct button on the doorbell and poof, I'm a gonna"

I removed the door bell and the knocker then replaced them with a guard goat with a stick of c4 in his mouth

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By *rNaughtyNickMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

Single over 5 years looking for something regular x

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Single by choice, other priorities come first.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Choice/necessity moreso I reckon.

I seem to fall for wronguns so no more falling. I ain't just got a wall up, I've got a shark filled moat

Just sharks? My moat contains sharks crocodiles alligators jelly fish piranha and a bad tempered walrus

If they got past the sharks I've booby trapped a self destruct button on the doorbell and poof, I'm a gonna

I removed the door bell and the knocker then replaced them with a guard goat with a stick of c4 in his mouth "

I may have to steal your goat. He sounds badass

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Through choice.

If I meet someone who is perfect for me I'd reconsider

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Choice/necessity moreso I reckon.

I seem to fall for wronguns so no more falling. I ain't just got a wall up, I've got a shark filled moat

Just sharks? My moat contains sharks crocodiles alligators jelly fish piranha and a bad tempered walrus

If they got past the sharks I've booby trapped a self destruct button on the doorbell and poof, I'm a gonna

I removed the door bell and the knocker then replaced them with a guard goat with a stick of c4 in his mouth

I may have to steal your goat. He sounds badass "

He is awesome but it does get tricky getting past him when it's time to take the bins out

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

By choice, it's going to take someone very special to change that as been hurt too many times

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I’m sort of single by circumstance.

I have a very unsexy home life situation going on that is not conducive to dating (live with doddery mum, two young kids).

I’m also fat.

Super tall.

And I don’t think I could live with a fella again. I would prefer he had his own place, and we saw each other a few times a week.

I also have hairy pubes and armpits and according to most men on Fab, that’s pretty horrific, and I’m not landscaping my body hair for no-one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

By choice for me the peace is bliss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wouldn't live with someone even if I wasn't single. My kids take priority. I'm happy being single for now.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Single by choice for 6 years now, I love my life as it is and have no need to change any of it

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By *etamax197t6Man
over a year ago

preston

not by choice. I'd love a relationship but I can't even get anyone to talk to me on a swingers site nevermind in public.

Most people look down on truck drivers and the hours are shit so I basically have no social life.

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Single by choice, don't think I could ever live with someone.

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

Not single by choice. Husband died.

I do like having fun with fwbs but I’ve been single ridiculously too long and I miss being with someone.

If someone comes along and sweeps me off my feet I won’t say no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not single by choice. Husband died.

I do like having fun with fwbs but I’ve been single ridiculously too long and I miss being with someone.

If someone comes along and sweeps me off my feet I won’t say no "

oh christ i am sorry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not single by choice. Husband died.

I do like having fun with fwbs but I’ve been single ridiculously too long and I miss being with someone.

If someone comes along and sweeps me off my feet I won’t say no "

I'm so sorry

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

"Not single by choice. Husband died.

I do like having fun with fwbs but I’ve been single ridiculously too long and I miss being with someone.

If someone comes along and sweeps me off my feet I won’t say no

I'm so sorry

Im ok thanks lovely. It was 8 and a half years ago, I’ve been single since.

I think I’m undateable tbh.

No one wants a widow with two children

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

"Not single by choice. Husband died.

I do like having fun with fwbs but I’ve been single ridiculously too long and I miss being with someone.

If someone comes along and sweeps me off my feet I won’t say no

I'm so sorry

Im ok thanks lovely. It was 8 and a half years ago, I’ve been single since.

I think I’m undateable tbh.

No one wants a widow with two children "

Don't you talk like that missus!! Or I'll be walking the long trek up there to tell you off in person!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not single by choice. Husband died.

I do like having fun with fwbs but I’ve been single ridiculously too long and I miss being with someone.

If someone comes along and sweeps me off my feet I won’t say no

I'm so sorry

Im ok thanks lovely. It was 8 and a half years ago, I’ve been single since.

I think I’m undateable tbh.

No one wants a widow with two children "

I know this feeling too. I was widowed five years ago. I’ve tried conventional dating and a few women find it intimidating dating a widower which is understandable. I also find it more comfortable keeping things casual or in a fwb arrangement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not a widow, but I have four teens and very little time - I sometimes see myself as undateable too and that's not right. No-one is. We are all worthy of companionship and respect and even love.

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

"Not single by choice. Husband died.

I do like having fun with fwbs but I’ve been single ridiculously too long and I miss being with someone.

If someone comes along and sweeps me off my feet I won’t say no

I'm so sorry

Im ok thanks lovely. It was 8 and a half years ago, I’ve been single since.

I think I’m undateable tbh.

No one wants a widow with two children

Don't you talk like that missus!! Or I'll be walking the long trek up there to tell you off in person!"

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

I’ve had one date in that time.

Not for want of trying.

So you start to think you’re only good for a shag. It’s hard to tell your mind not to think that way.

Who knows maybe I’ll bump into my perfect man when I least expect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm single by choice, I think. I enjoy going on dates and having a boyfriend but I don't want to live with someone. I have a very busy life which I enjoy and sometimes I like time to myself which I might struggle to get if I was in a relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve had one date in that time.

Not for want of trying.

So you start to think you’re only good for a shag. It’s hard to tell your mind not to think that way.

Who knows maybe I’ll bump into my perfect man when I least expect "

I think this isn't a good place if you're already telling yourself you're only good for sex. I've thought that way before - it is hard to turn it off. But you're much more than that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would love a partner

single way to long now "

I offered so many times !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am single by choice

I just enjoy nsa dates and friends with benefits

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

At the moment single by choice, but I've recently realised that I would eventually like to find a long term partner for an open relationship.

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By *agic.MMan
over a year ago

Orpington

Single by choice... I suffer from extreme independence

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By *atalie..Woman
over a year ago

Bolton

Single by choice.

For a good few year's now.

I'm self-sufficient most people who show interest are not a fan of that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A bit of both getting used to being alone...

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By *JB1954Man
over a year ago

Reading

Widowed . So my status different .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve had one date in that time.

Not for want of trying.

So you start to think you’re only good for a shag. It’s hard to tell your mind not to think that way.

Who knows maybe I’ll bump into my perfect man when I least expect "

I feel like this too now. I'm only good for fun or in secret. It gets to you after a while so you stop bothering

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By *nigmatic_AngelWoman
over a year ago

The place where fairies live

"We're curious to know. Are you single by choice and prefer casual sexual encounters? Or would you prefer a partner to live with full-time?"

I would like to find someone to live with.. And we could play together x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

By choice.

Have my mind focused on other goals.

Fab fills a need without the need for all the commitment and stuff

I’m not a cold hearted person just single is good for me whilst I concentrate on other things

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Right now happily single

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve had one date in that time.

Not for want of trying.

So you start to think you’re only good for a shag. It’s hard to tell your mind not to think that way.

Who knows maybe I’ll bump into my perfect man when I least expect

I feel like this too now. I'm only good for fun or in secret. It gets to you after a while so you stop bothering "

This is so wrong. You're both beautiful women worth so much more. Real men would see that.

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By *arcuz85Man
over a year ago

stafford

I enjoy single life but when it's time to settle il settle

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By *lenderfoxMan
over a year ago

Leeds

I'm single by choice

Open to a relationship if the right person comes along, though can't imagine ever living with anyone. I really enjoy having my own space

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By *lenderfoxMan
over a year ago

Leeds

"I’ve had one date in that time.

Not for want of trying.

So you start to think you’re only good for a shag. It’s hard to tell your mind not to think that way.

Who knows maybe I’ll bump into my perfect man when I least expect

I feel like this too now. I'm only good for fun or in secret. It gets to you after a while so you stop bothering "

You're worth more than that. Sometimes things come along when you least expect. I'm of the opinion that actively seeking relationships can set you up for failure

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By *nigmatic_AngelWoman
over a year ago

The place where fairies live

"Kind of my choice because I know I’m an obstinate arsehole "

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By *arcuz85Man
over a year ago

stafford

??????

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By *nigmatic_AngelWoman
over a year ago

The place where fairies live

"By choice, it's going to take someone very special to change that as been hurt too many times"

I know that feeling!

I'm far too lovely for most men. They walk all over me..

Couldn't be a hard nosed cow if I tried though - I haven't got it in me.

I still want to find a naughty partner though to eventually live with.. Then we can play together.

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By *nigmatic_AngelWoman
over a year ago

The place where fairies live

"I'm not a widow, but I have four teens and very little time - I sometimes see myself as undateable too and that's not right. No-one is. We are all worthy of companionship and respect and even love. "

The thing is you do your best, bring up your children then they leave and suddenly you're alone... It's not easy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d love a relationship someone to cuddle up to, been single quite a while think I’m just too picky

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not by choice, recently became single and because of my disability it makes it difficult to socialise and meet people which is why I come onto these forums. Gives me that little bit of normality and to interact with others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Kind of my choice because I know I’m an obstinate arsehole

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not a widow, but I have four teens and very little time - I sometimes see myself as undateable too and that's not right. No-one is. We are all worthy of companionship and respect and even love.

The thing is you do your best, bring up your children then they leave and suddenly you're alone... It's not easy. "

I have thought of that of late. I know what you mean. But I just don't have the right headspace for anything more than fwb - too wary.

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

"I’ve had one date in that time.

Not for want of trying.

So you start to think you’re only good for a shag. It’s hard to tell your mind not to think that way.

Who knows maybe I’ll bump into my perfect man when I least expect

I feel like this too now. I'm only good for fun or in secret. It gets to you after a while so you stop bothering "

Big love

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

"I’ve had one date in that time.

Not for want of trying.

So you start to think you’re only good for a shag. It’s hard to tell your mind not to think that way.

Who knows maybe I’ll bump into my perfect man when I least expect

I feel like this too now. I'm only good for fun or in secret. It gets to you after a while so you stop bothering

This is so wrong. You're both beautiful women worth so much more. Real men would see that. "

Thank you

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"By choice, it's going to take someone very special to change that as been hurt too many times

I know that feeling!

I'm far too lovely for most men. They walk all over me..

Couldn't be a hard nosed cow if I tried though - I haven't got it in me.

I still want to find a naughty partner though to eventually live with.. Then we can play together.

I've definitely become more hard nosed over the past few years. I've managed to say no on lots of occasions to someone I couldn't before but she's still trying but she's never going to be forgiven let alone back in my life even as a friend.

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By *urvySub87Woman
over a year ago

Near Wellingborough

Not by choice that's for sure. I just can't seem to find the right guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single not by choice, but my lifestyle is complex and I get that…. Maybe one day lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single, looking for casual encounters

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By *nigmatic_AngelWoman
over a year ago

The place where fairies live

"By choice, it's going to take someone very special to change that as been hurt too many times

I know that feeling!

I'm far too lovely for most men. They walk all over me..

Couldn't be a hard nosed cow if I tried though - I haven't got it in me.

I still want to find a naughty partner though to eventually live with.. Then we can play together.

I've got a friend well.. Soon to be ex friend who has really hurt me. He has broken my heart previously & now it's just too much. Isn't it hard to step away tho...

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By *nigmatic_AngelWoman
over a year ago

The place where fairies live

"I'm not a widow, but I have four teens and very little time - I sometimes see myself as undateable too and that's not right. No-one is. We are all worthy of companionship and respect and even love.

The thing is you do your best, bring up your children then they leave and suddenly you're alone... It's not easy.

I have thought of that of late. I know what you mean. But I just don't have the right headspace for anything more than fwb - too wary. "

I hope you feel more at ease soon... Xx

I feel I struggle with vanilla dating sites - how do you tell anyone what you're really into

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

Single by choice, after fab I'm not sure I could 100 per cent trust anyone the same way anymore.

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle

By choice! After a horrible experience with my ex. It's easier sometimes just to have fun and have intimacy on your own terms, Guess we all like regular fun though whether single or in relationships/or open relationships.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"By choice right now and happy to just have fwb's, if someone came along and changed that who knows "

Same

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes

I'm single but not by choice. I've been single now for about 4 years now and been searching for that special someone in that time. I'm assuming it's just not my time yet I suppose. I've stopped trying so hard and now just enjoy life as it is until it happens. You just never know really. She may be on here somewhere

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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago

Lifes departure lounge NN9 Northamptonshire East not West MidlandsMidlands

Single by choice,

Much too old to change that position now.

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By *hroatQueen_CATV/TS
over a year ago

Carlisle

"Single by choice,

Much too old to change that position now. "

You are never too old Sir! As long you are happy that's what really matters.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Been single now for over 5years and quite content with my life.

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By *n4MotionMan
over a year ago

Essex

Single by choice and been quite happy with that

But the good times in life are better when shared

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By *alhamboyMan
over a year ago

West Sussex

Being single again has reminded me of how I used to be and have reverted to... I can speak to, see and befriend whomever I like without my ex placing her own limitations ... should have realised a lot sooner! Never felt better!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not a widow, but I have four teens and very little time - I sometimes see myself as undateable too and that's not right. No-one is. We are all worthy of companionship and respect and even love.

The thing is you do your best, bring up your children then they leave and suddenly you're alone... It's not easy.

I have thought of that of late. I know what you mean. But I just don't have the right headspace for anything more than fwb - too wary.

I hope you feel more at ease soon... Xx

I feel I struggle with vanilla dating sites - how do you tell anyone what you're really into

I think that's a quote from 3 women which looks like one - thank you if that was meant for me!

I can't do vanilla sites anymore - I'm not vanilla, I'm not monogamous - spent too much time trying to explain.

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By *ottoncandy42Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

Single by choice, just too independent to have a regular partner but I am looking for that needle in a haystack for a fwb scenario

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Kinda choice after breakup from last partner in 2004 ! Certainly never want another conventional relationship again! B nice to have a true fwb rather than a fb though! Best of both worlds then! As love my life as it is but be nice to share days eves out as well as sexy times! Found this once couple years ago was ideal till he wanted more! But maybe I will find this again x

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By *rMojoRisinMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

Single by choice, but I do miss the intimacy of being in a relationship, sharing a meal, chatting shit about your day and having someone to laugh with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single by choice and staying that way.

No interest in commitment of any kind, even socials are too datey for me.

Very happily single and too selfish to relinquish any of my freedom.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not single by choice would much rather be in a relationship but not desperate to be in relationship with the wrong person

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By *nfin8yWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle-under-Lyme

I’ve chosen to be single and very much doubt I will ever have another live in, long term relationship after my last experience. A true FWB is what I’m really hoping for. Someone to share fun times with and not just sex but that feels elusive right now. I’m not interested in being anyone’s FB.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not single by choice, unfortunately work and the accommodation situation does tend to get in the way.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"We're curious to know. Are you single by choice and prefer casual sexual encounters? Or would you prefer a partner to live with full-time?"

I tell myself it's by choice but I'm probably a bit of an Uggo as well lol

I go through stages of trying to date but it all comes round to sex in thd end. I wouldn't really want to gucd up arranging bbw nights and going to chams. Playing I was never bothered about when seeing someone from here but the buzz of chatting to naked people in the club was what I liked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well it was my choice to leave every time but it's not been my plan to stay alone. As desperate as I am I just can't be with the wrong guys."

better to be single than in a bad relationship xx

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By *ave1963BarnsleyMan
over a year ago

Barnsley

No one wants a widow with two children "

Not true hunny. When I began dating my ex she had 4 young kids. Our relationship lasted 18 years and most of them were memorable for all the right reasons.

There will be someone out there for you. The difficult bit is finding them but I hope it happens for you xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who doesn’t want someone to love them back, but great to have fun whilst waiting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single by choice here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m single my choice in as much as I’d rather be single than date a dickhead. However I would like to meet someone and have a relationship but like a few I feel that I’m only wanted for fun or by attached guys.

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

Single as a result of circumstances, happy to stay that way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I listen to my mariried friends moaning about their husbands and having to check with them before they do anything or go anywhere and I think fuck that! I do what I want, when I want and with whoever I want and I answer only to myself! It’s liberating and I wouldn’t change a thing

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By *astesLikeMagicWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

By choice

That might change in the future but for the foreseeable that's how it's staying

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single by choice and I prefer it that way lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not by choice, would love a certain someone to share my home with. However working afternoons and having my children 3 weekends out of 4 from a Friday to a Monday takes me out of all the " regular " opportunities to meet someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not by choice, would love a certain someone to share my home with. However working afternoons and having my children 3 weekends out of 4 from a Friday to a Monday takes me out of all the " regular " opportunities to meet someone."

I know the feeling! I have my kids every weekend and every weekday too

Older though, so I can sneak out

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"By choice, it's going to take someone very special to change that as been hurt too many times

I know that feeling!

I'm far too lovely for most men. They walk all over me..

Couldn't be a hard nosed cow if I tried though - I haven't got it in me.

I still want to find a naughty partner though to eventually live with.. Then we can play together.

I've got a friend well.. Soon to be ex friend who has really hurt me. He has broken my heart previously & now it's just too much. Isn't it hard to step away tho... "

It is hard but it's often the case that doing the right thing for yourself is hard

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By *ettaManMan
over a year ago

Kerry and Dublin

I'm contentedly solo-poly.

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

No one wants a widow with two children

Not true hunny. When I began dating my ex she had 4 young kids. Our relationship lasted 18 years and most of them were memorable for all the right reasons.

There will be someone out there for you. The difficult bit is finding them but I hope it happens for you xxx"

After so many years have passed you sort of resign yourself to the fact it’s not gonna happen.

Hope is a dangerous thing, it just breaks my heart

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single by choice and planning on staying that way. Happy to find FB/FWB or afternoon boyfriend situations but I don't want anymore "relationships".

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By *rewersprojectMan
over a year ago

Leeds

"I’ve been single by choice for a long time. I don’t want the whole cohabitation shiz but I miss the someone to spend quiet time with. One day… "
I'd like this but I'm starting to think it's a pipe dream. Love the word shiz, makes me smile.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

Another one for the single by choice after a long and very bad relationship.

Would like to meet someone but not going to waste time on a loser again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm contentedly solo-poly."

Interested in how you define this for yourself?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not single by choice. Husband died.

I do like having fun with fwbs but I’ve been single ridiculously too long and I miss being with someone.

If someone comes along and sweeps me off my feet I won’t say no

I'm so sorry

Im ok thanks lovely. It was 8 and a half years ago, I’ve been single since.

I think I’m undateable tbh.

No one wants a widow with two children "

Dont Be silly anyone would be lucky to have You - xxx.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve had one date in that time.

Not for want of trying.

So you start to think you’re only good for a shag. It’s hard to tell your mind not to think that way.

Who knows maybe I’ll bump into my perfect man when I least expect "

thats normally when it happens xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only things I absolutely need a woman for is sex and sometimes female friendship and until the two come together I'm staying as I am.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not Totally true - out and about, anywhere is an opportunity! cinema, park.. anywhere there are people

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London

By choice/laziness.

I'm very independent I'm not one of those slobs who need a woman to look after him and I am secure and happy in my own company.

It would be nice though to find a good woman, relationship etc.. it's just the thought of using dating apps leaves me a bit cold.

Plus I still don't know how I'm gonna explain the "Fab Years" to any prospective partner!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m single very much By choice - I have found men can be obstinate arsehole‘s

and I’ve no time for that just now.

I want to focus on other things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m single very much By choice - I have found men can be obstinate arsehole‘s

and I’ve no time for that just now.

I want to focus on other things

This fact you speak of men is hardly “news”

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over a year ago

"By choice/laziness.

I'm very independent I'm not one of those slobs who need a woman to look after him and I am secure and happy in my own company.

It would be nice though to find a good woman, relationship etc.. it's just the thought of using dating apps leaves me a bit cold.

Plus I still don't know how I'm gonna explain the "Fab Years" to any prospective partner!"

Why would you need to explain !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"By choice/laziness.

I'm very independent I'm not one of those slobs who need a woman to look after him and I am secure and happy in my own company.

It would be nice though to find a good woman, relationship etc.. it's just the thought of using dating apps leaves me a bit cold.

Plus I still don't know how I'm gonna explain the "Fab Years" to any prospective partner!"
You know what and I'm sorry to have to say this but I think a lot of people get together with others that cover mutual weaknesses.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m single very much By choice - I have found men can be obstinate arsehole‘s

and I’ve no time for that just now.

I want to focus on other things

This fact you speak of men is hardly “news”

Good !! I was not declaring it as news

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London

"By choice/laziness.

I'm very independent I'm not one of those slobs who need a woman to look after him and I am secure and happy in my own company.

It would be nice though to find a good woman, relationship etc.. it's just the thought of using dating apps leaves me a bit cold.

Plus I still don't know how I'm gonna explain the "Fab Years" to any prospective partner!

Why would you need to explain !

When the time comes to introduce her to your friends and the "so how did you meet" question comes up... or how to explain why one of them has a ball gag in their mouth

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London

"By choice/laziness.

I'm very independent I'm not one of those slobs who need a woman to look after him and I am secure and happy in my own company.

It would be nice though to find a good woman, relationship etc.. it's just the thought of using dating apps leaves me a bit cold.

Plus I still don't know how I'm gonna explain the "Fab Years" to any prospective partner! You know what and I'm sorry to have to say this but I think a lot of people get together with others that cover mutual weaknesses."

Yeah, I can agree with that. Its maybe why some relationships that start that way work and some don't?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single by choice, getting increasingly bored of it now though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"By choice/laziness.

I'm very independent I'm not one of those slobs who need a woman to look after him and I am secure and happy in my own company.

It would be nice though to find a good woman, relationship etc.. it's just the thought of using dating apps leaves me a bit cold.

Yeah, I can agree with that. Its maybe why some relationships that start that way work and some don't?"

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By *uietly_KinkyMan
over a year ago

High Wycombe

I'm single by choice.

It's not MY choice, but it's a choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"By choice/laziness.

I'm very independent I'm not one of those slobs who need a woman to look after him and I am secure and happy in my own company.

It would be nice though to find a good woman, relationship etc.. it's just the thought of using dating apps leaves me a bit cold.

Plus I still don't know how I'm gonna explain the "Fab Years" to any prospective partner!

Why would you need to explain !

When the time comes to introduce her to your friends and the "so how did you meet" question comes up... or how to explain why one of them has a ball gag in their mouth

Mm that could make for an awkward - conversation - but if you want something enough you will find away!

or you will always find an excuse why it will not work!

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By *quaman87Man
over a year ago

Colchester

By choice! After 12 years. Its not I prefer encounters either. I think you have to be 100% happy in yourself and in your own company before you can make someone else happy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"By choice! After 12 years. Its not I prefer encounters either. I think you have to be 100% happy in yourself and in your own company before you can make someone else happy. "

12 years sounds long enough to learn to love ya self?

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By *quaman87Man
over a year ago

Colchester

"By choice! After 12 years. Its not I prefer encounters either. I think you have to be 100% happy in yourself and in your own company before you can make someone else happy.

12 years sounds long enough to learn to love ya self?

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in a relationship for 12 years I ment sorry wasn't clear on that

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By *entlemenpipMan
over a year ago

not far

"We're curious to know. Are you single by choice and prefer casual sexual encounters? Or would you prefer a partner to live with full-time?"

I'm currently on a 1 year ban from being in a relationship

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By *oluptuous_Single_GirlWoman
over a year ago

South Birmingham

Was single by choice but after 5 years of singledom I would like to find someone to be with again. Since joining this site I think I'd only ever enter a relationship where swinging was involved though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"By choice! After 12 years. Its not I prefer encounters either. I think you have to be 100% happy in yourself and in your own company before you can make someone else happy.

12 years sounds long enough to learn to love ya self?

in a relationship for 12 years I ment sorry wasn't clear on that "

Phew - I was worried for you then -

sorry about the break up!

totally agree you need a blank canvass to start a new picture x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Was single by choice but after 5 years of singledom I would like to find someone to be with again. Since joining this site I think I'd only ever enter a relationship where swinging was involved though. "

This I am trying to find out - what kind of relationship I would like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Initially through choice (hers not mine!)

Now circumstances dictate that I’m single - and it’s been so long it scares me now

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By *quaman87Man
over a year ago

Colchester

"By choice! After 12 years. Its not I prefer encounters either. I think you have to be 100% happy in yourself and in your own company before you can make someone else happy.

12 years sounds long enough to learn to love ya self?

in a relationship for 12 years I ment sorry wasn't clear on that

Phew - I was worried for you then -

sorry about the break up!

totally agree you need a blank canvass to start a new picture x"
be something wrong if I wasn't happy after 12 years lol. 5 years single and in the happiest place

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over a year ago

Not Totally true - out and about, anywhere is an opportunity! cinema, park.. anywhere there are people "

It has been in my case, if I'm at a Park or cinema I'm with my kids, that's my time with them. Have had dates, but the fact that I work until midnight and have only 1 weekend out of 4 free is a big issue for any woman I have tried dating. I know this to be true as generally when they say " you don't have time for me " its pretty conclusive. So to reiterate, not single by choice but life dictates I am for the time being.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not Totally true - out and about, anywhere is an opportunity! cinema, park.. anywhere there are people

Yer can see the restrictions - but never say never sure you will find her !

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over a year ago

"By choice! After 12 years. Its not I prefer encounters either. I think you have to be 100% happy in yourself and in your own company before you can make someone else happy.

12 years sounds long enough to learn to love ya self?

in a relationship for 12 years I ment sorry wasn't clear on that

Phew - I was worried for you then -

sorry about the break up!

totally agree you need a blank canvass to start a new picture x be something wrong if I wasn't happy after 12 years lol. 5 years single and in the happiest place

Good to hear x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single profile,

Married and she knows,

We both play separate now,

And both really enjoying it x

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

Entirely by choice: previous FWB arrangements have ended when the guy wanted some form of relationship progression (monogamy, moving in together and in one case he desperately wanted kids).

The whole reason I signed up here was because I figured it would be easier to find the FWB arrangement I wanted without that drive towards a relationship I've no use for on here than it is on other sites.

Poor, naive fool that I was

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not sure if it's choice or circumstances. Don't meet many guys who want a LTR.

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