FabSwingers.com forum: Shitty behaviour and moral compass

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Last weekend I binged the new Tv series “The white lotus” which I thought was brilliant, one thing that focused on particularly, in my opinion ..was the characters and it seemed a bit like following a reality tv show and see how people interacted with each other.

What popped in my mind tho, was how shitty every single character ended up being/behaving.

And everyone seemed to be quite unlikeable in the end.

And now I wonder, as humans beings… aren’t we all pretty much constantly doing shitty things and being unlikeable one way or another?

if they replicated a tv show about our lives, Would you be horrified to see some of your behaviour ?

I recently done a couple of questionable things that made me think..

Omg, am I really capable of being that shitty? Where is my moral compass gone??

Like we preach certain things but sometimes we don’t realise and we do the opposite of what we preach…

Am I alone in this mind fuck??

I don’t even know what I’m talking about, I’m

Just having a coffee , it’s Friday morning and I’m very pensive lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why, what did you do ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why, what did you do ? "

Nosey betchhhhh

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

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As human beings we have choices

To be kind

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By *esparate danMan
over a year ago

glasgow

Its good to reflect on these things.. more people should do it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nah, I’m not going to fuck people over, I try to live my life without leaving bad footprints on people, I might leave the toilet seat up and shit like that, but give it a flick with your knee and get on with your day, sorry about the wet towel on the floor, but I’ll help people out if they need things lifting, my neighbours know to give me a shout if they need a hand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why, what did you do ?

Nosey betchhhhh

Tell me in PM babe!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"As human beings we have choices

To be kind "

Isn’t it tho human nature sometimes to be shitty?

Even being selfish can be seen as shitty ..

(I ain’t talking evil btw)

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

I try to be humourous as opposed to shitty what goes around comes around

Even words

100%

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

It’s human nature to be as shitty as possible while not getting caught

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"As human beings we have choices

To be kind

Isn’t it tho human nature sometimes to be shitty?

Even being selfish can be seen as shitty ..

(I ain’t talking evil btw)

Reflective

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nah, I’m not going to fuck people over, I try to live my life without leaving bad footprints on people, I might leave the toilet seat up and shit like that, but give it a flick with your knee and get on with your day, sorry about the wet towel on the floor, but I’ll help people out if they need things lifting, my neighbours know to give me a shout if they need a hand. "

So you never done anything shitty ever?

I’d say I’m mostly good in nature but even I have done some shitty things if I think properly,

Maybe it was for a good purpose but maybe ended up back firing..

I don’t know it’s a mind Fuck.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

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"It’s human nature to be as shitty as possible while not getting caught "

That just sly

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I've done a couple of quite shitty things before - one in particular I'm not proud of and I selfishly put my lust first and hurt someone I care about.

That show is deliberately exaggerated to make it more watchable (kind of like It's Always Sunny in Philadelphia). No person is perfect - we've all done/said crappy things because we're flawed and complicated. For the most part we're actually not too bad and try our best to not harm others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s human nature to be as shitty as possible while not getting caught "

This is possibly one of the saddest things I’ve read on here.

No, it isn’t.

I’ve done things I’m not proud of, as I’m sure we all have, but I observe myself pretty much all the time, and try and be the best person I can be.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

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If you know your shitty

Or wear shitty draws

Change

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

Yes, I think we all do shitty things from time to time, but the difference between a shitty person and a decent one is that the decent ones reflect on their behaviour, feel bad about it (like it sounds like you have), learn from it and attempt to avoid it doing it again.

I may be being nieve here, but I like to believe that in general people are more nice than shitty.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"It’s human nature to be as shitty as possible while not getting caught

This is possibly one of the saddest things I’ve read on here.

No, it isn’t.

I’ve done things I’m not proud of, as I’m sure we all have, but I observe myself pretty much all the time, and try and be the best person I can be. "

Preach my darling xxxxx

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

"It’s human nature to be as shitty as possible while not getting caught

This is possibly one of the saddest things I’ve read on here.

No, it isn’t.

I’ve done things I’m not proud of, as I’m sure we all have, but I observe myself pretty much all the time, and try and be the best person I can be. "

Exactly this

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes, I think we all do shitty things from time to time, but the difference between a shitty person and a decent one is that the decent ones reflect on their behaviour, feel bad about it (like it sounds like you have), learn from it and attempt to avoid it doing it again.

I may be being nieve here, but I like to believe that in general people are more nice than shitty."

Yeah I agree with your sentence! Also I think people who are actually evil are a small minority. And they never feel bad

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've done a couple of quite shitty things before - one in particular I'm not proud of and I selfishly put my lust first and hurt someone I care about.

Yeah I guess the show really put this huge lens on the characters and u ended up thinking. Omg how is everyone so shitty???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone is capable of it but we all have a choice every day on how we behave and treat others and I always try to make the right choice.

I think with shows like that they are exaggerated and they deliberately seek people out to appear on them that will play up to it

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Most of my shitty behaviour was carried out when younger, and if I could turn back time and change that, then I would. But I think I learnt from it. I never repeated it.

But I try not to be a shitty person. I’d be a bit taken aback if folk thought of me as a shitty person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm quite a hedonistic person so do lots of sinfully delicious things. The rest of my life is spent doing good things.

I don't shit on people as that's not my nature. Even if someone has done the dirty on me I just cut them out of my life rather than trying to get even. I am fully capable of being ruthless and showing no mercy but I choose to be caring and compassionate.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

"It’s human nature to be as shitty as possible while not getting caught

This is possibly one of the saddest things I’ve read on here.

No, it isn’t.

I’ve done things I’m not proud of, as I’m sure we all have, but I observe myself pretty much all the time, and try and be the best person I can be. "

It doesn’t mean you have to live like that

It’s just human nature

Our nature was built around living 10,000 years ago where life and death were very close.

If you could steal food or get ahead without getting caught, you had a better chance of survival

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By *hySoSerious85Man
over a year ago

Melbourne

"Last weekend I binged the new Tv series “The white lotus” which I thought was brilliant, one thing that focused on particularly, in my opinion ..was the characters and it seemed a bit like following a reality tv show and see how people interacted with each other.

What popped in my mind tho, was how shitty every single character ended up being/behaving.

And everyone seemed to be quite unlikeable in the end.

And now I wonder, as humans beings… aren’t we all pretty much constantly doing shitty things and being unlikeable one way or another?

if they replicated a tv show about our lives, Would you be horrified to see some of your behaviour ?

I recently done a couple of questionable things that made me think..

Omg, am I really capable of being that shitty? Where is my moral compass gone??

Like we preach certain things but sometimes we don’t realise and we do the opposite of what we preach…

Am I alone in this mind fuck??

I don’t even know what I’m talking about, I’m

Just having a coffee , it’s Friday morning and I’m very pensive lol "

Just finished the show.....wow...that's definetly food for thought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s human nature to be as shitty as possible while not getting caught "

It really isn’t and f you really think that, then that’s incredible sad.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What popped in my mind tho, was how shitty every single character ended up being/behaving.

And everyone seemed to be quite unlikeable in the end.

And now I wonder, as humans beings… aren’t we all pretty much constantly doing shitty things and being unlikeable one way or another?

if they replicated a tv show about our lives, Would you be horrified to see some of your behaviour ?

I recently done a couple of questionable things that made me think..

Omg, am I really capable of being that shitty? Where is my moral compass gone??

Like we preach certain things but sometimes we don’t realise and we do the opposite of what we preach…

Am I alone in this mind fuck??

I don’t even know what I’m talking about, I’m

Just having a coffee , it’s Friday morning and I’m very pensive lol

Just finished the show.....wow...that's definetly food for thought"

I mean, everyone. Also Paula who was trying to do good, and had the best intentions at heart. Probably done the SHITTIEST thing ever.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"It’s human nature to be as shitty as possible while not getting caught

This is possibly one of the saddest things I’ve read on here.

No, it isn’t.

I’ve done things I’m not proud of, as I’m sure we all have, but I observe myself pretty much all the time, and try and be the best person I can be.

It doesn’t mean you have to live like that

It’s just human nature

Our nature was built around living 10,000 years ago where life and death were very close.

If you could steal food or get ahead without getting caught, you had a better chance of survival "

Wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm guilty of shitty and selfish actions but I don't think I go around and leave a constant trail of shitty actions behind me that have an impact on people often.

I'm not perfect, nobody is. I think overall I bring more positive and happy vibes than bad and I try to surround myself with people who are the same. My partner for example, I can't think of anything he does often that I'd describe as shitty.

But yeah, as the others have said the show will focus on the negative parts more as it makes good telly. So you'll feel like it's constant but maybe if you met these people in real life when there's nobody around it would show a different side to them? But let's not deny the fact some people are just that type of person.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Most of my shitty behaviour was carried out when younger, and if I could turn back time and change that, then I would. But I think I learnt from it. I never repeated it.

But I try not to be a shitty person. I’d be a bit taken aback if folk thought of me as a shitty person.

Yeah I get it. I guess overall we are either good or bad. But everyone is capable of making shitty decisions

I think if I rewatched a film of my life I’d be proud but *some* behaviour or decisions I made, maybe I’d be horrified of that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s human nature to be as shitty as possible while not getting caught

It really isn’t and f you really think that, then that’s incredible sad."

Yup, very sad.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

We have all done crappy stuff would I do it again no

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

"It’s human nature to be as shitty as possible while not getting caught

This is possibly one of the saddest things I’ve read on here.

No, it isn’t.

I’ve done things I’m not proud of, as I’m sure we all have, but I observe myself pretty much all the time, and try and be the best person I can be.

It doesn’t mean you have to live like that

It’s just human nature

Our nature was built around living 10,000 years ago where life and death were very close.

If you could steal food or get ahead without getting caught, you had a better chance of survival

Wrong "

Is it?

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"It’s human nature to be as shitty as possible while not getting caught

This is possibly one of the saddest things I’ve read on here.

No, it isn’t.

I’ve done things I’m not proud of, as I’m sure we all have, but I observe myself pretty much all the time, and try and be the best person I can be.

It doesn’t mean you have to live like that

It’s just human nature

Our nature was built around living 10,000 years ago where life and death were very close.

If you could steal food or get ahead without getting caught, you had a better chance of survival

Wrong

Is it?"

Yes

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It’s human nature to be as shitty as possible while not getting caught

This is possibly one of the saddest things I’ve read on here.

No, it isn’t.

I’ve done things I’m not proud of, as I’m sure we all have, but I observe myself pretty much all the time, and try and be the best person I can be.

It doesn’t mean you have to live like that

It’s just human nature

Our nature was built around living 10,000 years ago where life and death were very close.

If you could steal food or get ahead without getting caught, you had a better chance of survival

Wrong

Is it?"

It just depends how itd make you feel afterwards. I’d feel shitty about it

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Shitty behaviours tend to be a reflection of how someone is feeling inside. If it's not channelled, it gets thrown back in abundance, so perpetuating the bad feeling.

As hard as it is sometimes, I try to touch the world with love and warmth - it's everybody's 'go to' need, and the world would be a better place if we shared more of that.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

"It’s human nature to be as shitty as possible while not getting caught

This is possibly one of the saddest things I’ve read on here.

No, it isn’t.

I’ve done things I’m not proud of, as I’m sure we all have, but I observe myself pretty much all the time, and try and be the best person I can be.

It doesn’t mean you have to live like that

It’s just human nature

Our nature was built around living 10,000 years ago where life and death were very close.

If you could steal food or get ahead without getting caught, you had a better chance of survival

Wrong

Is it?

It just depends how itd make you feel afterwards. I’d feel shitty about it "

You’d feel shitty now because you’ve been raised well in a good environment

Go back 10,000 years where your on the verge on starving and you’d probably feel pretty good if you could steal some extra food

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"just finished the show.....wow...that's definetly food for thought

I mean, everyone. Also Paula who was trying to do good, and had the best intentions at heart. Probably done the SHITTIEST thing ever.

Oh i need to watch it

I imagine if most of our lives were anonomised and laid bare for judgement, most of us would squirm... Some of us would likely condemn ourselves, not realising....

We justify our actions based on our perception of perceived wrongs +rights against us and view ourselves as more 'righteous' than others (not the right word)

Just stray into any cycling debate to see this in action...

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By *hySoSerious85Man
over a year ago

Melbourne

"just finished the show.....wow...that's definetly food for thought

I mean, everyone. Also Paula who was trying to do good, and had the best intentions at heart. Probably done the SHITTIEST thing ever.

Oh i need to watch it

I imagine if most of our lives were anonomised and laid bare for judgement, most of us would squirm... Some of us would likely condemn ourselves, not realising....

We justify our actions based on our perception of perceived wrongs +rights against us and view ourselves as more 'righteous' than others (not the right word)

Just stray into any cycling debate to see this in action... "

It's definetly worth a watch.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"just finished the show.....wow...that's definetly food for thought

I mean, everyone. Also Paula who was trying to do good, and had the best intentions at heart. Probably done the SHITTIEST thing ever.

Oh i need to watch it

I imagine if most of our lives were anonomised and laid bare for judgement, most of us would squirm... Some of us would likely condemn ourselves, not realising....

We justify our actions based on our perception of perceived wrongs +rights against us and view ourselves as more 'righteous' than others (not the right word)

Just stray into any cycling debate to see this in action... "

GET ON THE SHOW! So good

plus come back and let me know your thoughts

But yeah exactly my view. Like I was thinking if I was just convincing myself that I’m doing good overall but In fact it’s a perception I give myself because … I’ve done shitty things and I admit I have. Especially if we micro analyse everything!!

That show fucked me up

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It’s human nature to be as shitty as possible while not getting caught

This is possibly one of the saddest things I’ve read on here.

No, it isn’t.

I’ve done things I’m not proud of, as I’m sure we all have, but I observe myself pretty much all the time, and try and be the best person I can be.

It doesn’t mean you have to live like that

It’s just human nature

Our nature was built around living 10,000 years ago where life and death were very close.

If you could steal food or get ahead without getting caught, you had a better chance of survival

Wrong

Is it?

It just depends how itd make you feel afterwards. I’d feel shitty about it

You’d feel shitty now because you’ve been raised well in a good environment

Go back 10,000 years where your on the verge on starving and you’d probably feel pretty good if you could steal some extra food "

Yeah I can see your point totally!!!!

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

There are many instances where people are shitty to others, we are not perfect, we are flawed.

We are often shitty when cornered as a defensive mechanism - can lash-out.

Often we are shitty to others because it makes us feel better about ourselves, why all these TV shows are geared up to tap into this psychi. Even such shows are 4 in a bed , come dine with me.

There is the need for one-upmanship on sites like this and why people are so judgemental because makes them feel so much better about themselves.

Many don't practice what they preach it is our flawd human nature, sites like this just bring out what is already there.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

"It’s human nature to be as shitty as possible while not getting caught

This is possibly one of the saddest things I’ve read on here.

No, it isn’t.

I’ve done things I’m not proud of, as I’m sure we all have, but I observe myself pretty much all the time, and try and be the best person I can be.

It doesn’t mean you have to live like that

It’s just human nature

Our nature was built around living 10,000 years ago where life and death were very close.

If you could steal food or get ahead without getting caught, you had a better chance of survival

Wrong

Is it?

It just depends how itd make you feel afterwards. I’d feel shitty about it

You’d feel shitty now because you’ve been raised well in a good environment

Go back 10,000 years where your on the verge on starving and you’d probably feel pretty good if you could steal some extra food

Yeah I can see your point totally!!!! "

I just think, especially in this thread, try to play the moral high ground about how good a person they are.

My point isn’t how good of a person you are, because that’s based on how you were raised

My point is that we all have behaviours and instincts wired into our biology that lean towards us doing shitty things. We are all Inherently selfish at a primal level because that behaviour helps us pass on our genes. As long as you don’t get caught.

Luckily we live in a society where we can be raised better. And we have the mental capacity to know right from wrong and to exercise that intelligence to make the world a better place.

It’s not sad to think this way, it’s reality, and if anything, it’s kinda nice to think that despite our primal urges and instincts we’ve managed to build a society where in general most people are good people. We’ve beaten the nature vs nurture

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It’s human nature to be as shitty as possible while not getting caught

This is possibly one of the saddest things I’ve read on here.

No, it isn’t.

I’ve done things I’m not proud of, as I’m sure we all have, but I observe myself pretty much all the time, and try and be the best person I can be.

It doesn’t mean you have to live like that

It’s just human nature

Our nature was built around living 10,000 years ago where life and death were very close.

If you could steal food or get ahead without getting caught, you had a better chance of survival

Wrong

Is it?

It just depends how itd make you feel afterwards. I’d feel shitty about it

You’d feel shitty now because you’ve been raised well in a good environment

Go back 10,000 years where your on the verge on starving and you’d probably feel pretty good if you could steal some extra food

Yeah I can see your point totally!!!!

I just think, especially in this thread, try to play the moral high ground about how good a person they are.

My point isn’t how good of a person you are, because that’s based on how you were raised

Luckily we live in a society where we can be raised better. And we have the mental capacity to know right from wrong and to exercise that intelligence to make the world a better place.

So do you think the moral compass is actually only a social construct instilled to us from young age (If brought up in a good environment) and then developed further in adult life because of the frontal part of the brain which commands The thought/self doubt etc etc

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

"It’s human nature to be as shitty as possible while not getting caught

This is possibly one of the saddest things I’ve read on here.

No, it isn’t.

I’ve done things I’m not proud of, as I’m sure we all have, but I observe myself pretty much all the time, and try and be the best person I can be.

It doesn’t mean you have to live like that

It’s just human nature

Our nature was built around living 10,000 years ago where life and death were very close.

If you could steal food or get ahead without getting caught, you had a better chance of survival

Wrong

Is it?

It just depends how itd make you feel afterwards. I’d feel shitty about it

You’d feel shitty now because you’ve been raised well in a good environment

Go back 10,000 years where your on the verge on starving and you’d probably feel pretty good if you could steal some extra food

Yeah I can see your point totally!!!!

I just think, especially in this thread, try to play the moral high ground about how good a person they are.

My point isn’t how good of a person you are, because that’s based on how you were raised

Luckily we live in a society where we can be raised better. And we have the mental capacity to know right from wrong and to exercise that intelligence to make the world a better place.

I think we definitely have a moral compass because we’re a pack animal, but I’d imagine it’s not from a “I want to help you because it’s the right thing to do”.

It’s probably more based around the idea of “I know there’s power in numbers and helping you helps me”. Which I guess is in some ways still from a selfish need.

That’s part of being a pack animal, you have an instinct to help your pack, because it helps you, but you will also take advantage of the pack if you can, because ultimately your survival goes above everything else

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

We all act shitty now and again, be it on purpose, insecurities or a myriad of other reasons. It's what makes us humans.

However, I hope if you realise you're behaviour is shitty and you are able to sort that behaviour out that you do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's very difficult to judge your own behaviour, I think. In my experience most of us are both too harsh and too easy on ourselves, and of course we almost all do shityy things sometimes. This is why social contact and honest friends are so important, to give a reflection of our actions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's very difficult to judge your own behaviour, I think. In my experience most of us are both too harsh and too easy on ourselves, and of course we almost all do shityy things sometimes. This is why social contact and honest friends are so important, to give a reflection of our actions. "

I would say blind to our own behaviour too!

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Even honest friends can see things in a misguided way, I've done things to further my career which my friends would say were shitty to them, purely because I put myself first instead of them in a time of (non desperate) need. What do you choose, help your family or help your friend when you cannot do both, we have societies morals to guide us but personal ones are definitely mixed shades of grey, great topic OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As people.. I think most of us are beautifully wrapped boxes of shit. We just like to hold our noses tight and pretend it's all Roses

Or maybe I'm too cynical these days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unless we cannot face our reflection

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Putting others first was my default position for 49 years so being shitty towards anyone would have had to be a conscious decision and would need work.

In the last 6 or 7 years I've accepted that there is nothing wrong with having self esteem and puuting myself first every now and again.

It's possible to do that without walking over others.

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over a year ago

"As people.. I think most of us are beautifully wrapped boxes of shit. We just like to hold our noses tight and pretend it's all Roses

Or maybe I'm too cynical these days

Omg, I kinda agree! X

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over a year ago

"Putting others first was my default position for 49 years so being shitty towards anyone would have had to be a conscious decision and would need work.

In the last 6 or 7 years I've accepted that there is nothing wrong with having self esteem and puuting myself first every now and again.

It's possible to do that without walking over others. "

Sometimes I feel like I had a stampede run over me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Putting others first was my default position for 49 years so being shitty towards anyone would have had to be a conscious decision and would need work.

In the last 6 or 7 years I've accepted that there is nothing wrong with having self esteem and puuting myself first every now and again.

It's possible to do that without walking over others. "

I’m always very accommodating generally … and I used to feel guilty a lot to let people down.

I guess it’s in my nature but I think it’s okay to have boundaries for ourselves!!! So now I’m thinking I should focus about what I really want.

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over a year ago

What about when people are shitty towards you but only you can see it? Now that is shittiest of the shit behaviour

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over a year ago

I try to live the best possible way I can without making people feel shitty, I always was told manners don’t cost anything and being nice regardless of the situation is free of charge. Of course im certain situation it ain’t always gonna be cosy

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

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"What about when people are shitty towards you but only you can see it? Now that is shittiest of the shit behaviour"

I've had more experience of people being shitty towards someone and that someone being the only one who didn't see it. To them it was an everyday occurrence while everyone else around saw it for what it really was and had to convince the person being targeted that it wasn't and shouldn't be normal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why, what did you do ?

Nosey betchhhhh

Also would shitty behaviour be classed as someone not sending your my mate fancy you message, no names kylie

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Why, what did you do ?

Nosey betchhhhh

Also would shitty behaviour be classed as someone not sending your my mate fancy you message, no names kylie

What have I doneeeee

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What about when people are shitty towards you but only you can see it? Now that is shittiest of the shit behaviour"

Give me an example! X

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over a year ago

Unless we cannot face our reflection

Hang black lace over the mirrors and paint a big smile, Joker fashion

(and on reflection, it’s good to see you back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm quite a hedonistic person so do lots of sinfully delicious things. The rest of my life is spent doing good things.

This !!!

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over a year ago

"Why, what did you do ?

Nosey betchhhhh

Also would shitty behaviour be classed as someone not sending your my mate fancy you message, no names kylie

What have I doneeeee

It’s still sitting there minding it’s own business hahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all do shitty things, it's human nature. For me it's more about growth, if you learn from those shitty things decides on what kind of person you are. People are the judge on the things we do, so one person's acceptable is another's unnacceptable. We all fuck up but it depends on who's eyes are looking at us the extent of that fuck up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry but shitting with the toilet seat up is crossing a line for me and what is morally right. The thought of an arse on that thin porcelain rim just messes with my head.

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By *onb21Woman
over a year ago

Cardiff

It's because we are human and as such we are fallible.

I sometimes do shitty things but the reason why I know I have a heart is that the shame haunts me for life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unless we cannot face our reflection

Hang black lace over the mirrors and paint a big smile, Joker fashion

(and on reflection, it’s good to see you back

I didnt say I was back. Just some unfinished business

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of the things we say at work is that we are not perfect and accept that.

We aim to be better tomorrow than we are today.

In accepting our faults we can work on being a better person tomorrow

Sending hugs

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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

There are only 2 things that stand out for me as poor behaviour in my last few years and they remind me not to do such things again. No one is perfect and it put some situations into perspective that mistakes happen for everyone.

Otherwise, generally, I practice what I (don't) preach and try and be the best me.

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