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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have noticed some kind negative vibes to Vanilla. What's wrong with Vanilla?

I have tried different things and on my preference, vanilla still is the best. So I wonder why give it so much trash talk?

Also, I don't understand the relationship with Vanilla = Boring. Vanilla is amazing!

I don't know, simple things in life are amazing and losing the sensitivity about how amazing they are is mostly on person's fault.

Having a talk... seeing the sun rise... having a morning coffee... feelings your foot on the ground...

I don't know man, really don't get why not being positive about Vanilla. Vanilla is amazing

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By *B69Woman
over a year ago

Wiltshire

Nothing wrong with vanilla, everyone has different versions of it on here, even though we may have kinks it dosnt necessarily mean we like that all the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nothing wrong with vanilla, everyone has different versions of it on here, even though we may have kinks it dosnt necessarily mean we like that all the time."

I agree so much with that last part of your statement. It can be tough to say you're into something as others may think you will expect that from every meet. It's not a deal-breaker, but more a cherry on the top

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'losing the sensitivity'

Hahaha

not in BDSM darling!

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By *isspurplechesterWoman
over a year ago

Chester

No negativity towards vanilla here, it can be amazing!! I don’t always want mint choc chip, great to mix it up right! If you have too much mint choc chip, does it then make it the new vanilla??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve spent many a year enjoying - Vanilla!

its always been enough - And I cant knock what I have not tried ! somethings sounds - scary some exiting - I have no idea where I might end up?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wonder if people are scared by vanilla on some level as often you need some sort of intimate connection whereas non vanilla can often just be getting as wild as possible. Obviously not always the case.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I love vanilla, can't beat a bit of lazy Sunday morning sex or snuggling on a sofa that ends in fucking. But I also am kinky as. Whi says you can't like and appreciate both?

Though I would say even the kinkiest people I know love

"Having a talk... seeing the sun rise... having a morning coffee... feelings your foot on the ground"

These aren't the preserve of those who like vanilla

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t know why people trash talk vanilla, but I also don’t know why people trash talk the kinks they aren’t into.

You like what you like, and that’s ok.

You can enjoy a little, a lot, an all encompassing amount, you do you, and don’t let other people’s opinions affect you.

I’m very into my kinks, but I can enjoy vanilla too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never seen any kind of negative vibe towards vanilla on this site. It is pretty much just vanilla. Even 99% of opinions expressed on here are safe and predictable. Nice folk just wanting a bit of wife swapping and/or watching.

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Nothing wrong with it at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wonder if people are scared by vanilla on some level as often you need some sort of intimate connection whereas non vanilla can often just be getting as wild as possible. Obviously not always the case. "

I was thinking very similarly.

Vanilla is fantastic for those that like a real connection, in fact I'd say it's the best.

It doesn't though compete with the thrill that comes with swinging.

They simply do not compare.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

Know what you like, and own it.

Who cares what other people think.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"I wonder if people are scared by vanilla on some level as often you need some sort of intimate connection whereas non vanilla can often just be getting as wild as possible. Obviously not always the case. "

I've done both kinds of relationship. And for me there is more intimacy with the predominantly kink relationship. I can have vanilla sex (swing) with relatively unknown people, I can't do that with kink. Plus I think there are plenty of people who have vanilla one night stands. Neither is more intimate than the other it just depends on the couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wonder if people are scared by vanilla on some level as often you need some sort of intimate connection whereas non vanilla can often just be getting as wild as possible. Obviously not always the case.

I've done both kinds of relationship. And for me there is more intimacy with the predominantly kink relationship. I can have vanilla sex (swing) with relatively unknown people, I can't do that with kink. Plus I think there are plenty of people who have vanilla one night stands. Neither is more intimate than the other it just depends on the couple. "

I agree, I’ve never had intimacy like I have with my current kink, D/s one.

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By *ensualMan
over a year ago

Sutton

It is and has always been vanilla people complaining about kink. The fact that kink is becoming normalised I suspect scares certain vanilla people. Of course what scares kinky people is when vanilla people try to be kinky without understanding the ethos or culture of kink, such as consent, negotiation and respecting boundaries.

Also very few people are kinky 24/7. Even the most kinky people have to sleep, do the shopping and chores, look after family, do vanilla stuff and vanilla style intimacy such as cuddles is part of intimacy. Life is rarely "either/or" but on Fab "either/or" seems to be a theme. This is a shame, as I see life as a rainbow that incorporates many different aspects of life.

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

I wouldn’t shame anyone, we all like different things and just because you enjoy vanilla doesn’t mean you can’t/don’t enough kink or vice versa - everything comes down to the dynamic between you and another, chemistry is everything not the definition of the type of sex/play you are having- one can feel equally as good as the other when with the right person xx

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Good vanilla is great but i do like being adventurous at times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree. The humble vanilla milkshake is underrated. None of those fancy flavours for me.

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