FabSwingers.com forum: Hotel stays.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have seen on profiles statements like....

Newbies pay for the hotel.

The hotel cost gets split.

What are your thoughts on this?

Why would newbies need to pay the hotel bill?

If someone can't accommodate, is it right or fair that they insist on hotel bills being split?

Any other thoughts? Genuinely curious on this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I pay the first one.

It's no bother the cost.

After that 50/50 I'm cool with but as I said it's no bother

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

I dint mind splitting Hotel costs, in fact the last hotel meet I had, I paid it all.

Making newbies pay outright seems a bit entitledvand a dick move in my opinion. You both want to fuck.

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

I guess the thinking is that if someone pays to reserve a room then they're less likely to flake out/ have better odds they are who they say they are.

Personally I'd be pretty pissed if someone suggested that though. I'd be happy to make a reservation but I think payment should be split in most cases.

LvM

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

I go half on any expenses.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have seen on profiles statements like....

Newbies pay for the hotel.

The hotel cost gets split.

What are your thoughts on this?

Why would newbies need to pay the hotel bill?

If someone can't accommodate, is it right or fair that they insist on hotel bills being split?

Any other thoughts? Genuinely curious on this. "

If I couldn’t host, then I would offer the pay.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I negotiate with the person I'm meeting, it's usually something around 50/50

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have seen on profiles statements like....

Newbies pay for the hotel.

The hotel cost gets split.

What are your thoughts on this?

Why would newbies need to pay the hotel bill?

If someone can't accommodate, is it right or fair that they insist on hotel bills being split?

Any other thoughts? Genuinely curious on this. "

I would always like to pay for the first hotel meet, I don’t see why newbies have to pay though surely it’s either a discussion or someone offers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've done all three options.. Paid full bill, gone 50:50 and been the 'guest'

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It generally is something to share. If someone has already got a room booked and is using it for their other enjoyment, then it's not typical to share costs.

Imposing this on to new users seems more like a scam and inappropriate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I request a meet I think I should pay x if a lady requests a meet chivalry tells me I should pay as well xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Done all 3 as well, 50/50 usually tho is what works best. X

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

If its a hotel meet then we are more likely to pay for the room, as we are likely going to be spending the night there.

If the person we were meeting insisted strongly in paying some or half of it we wouldn’t fight it, but we also wouldn't expect anything.

The last few hotel meets we have had, we paid for both rooms, as it was our idea to take her to a club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've done all three options.. Paid full bill, gone 50:50 and been the 'guest' "

Shall I pay, or we going 50/50 haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But true if it’s something I’m gonna use so the meet isn’t the primary thing happening. Then it’s only fair I don’t ask for anything x

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I’m not going to start arguing over a hotel bill…although more often than not we’ve played for a few hours and we’ve kept the room for the night.

When me and C met in hotels in the early days, I paid the hotel, she’d get food and drink…

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

I go 50/50. I’ve been with a couple who wouldn’t let me pay

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I pay my way, not beholden then, and neither are they.

If they are an old friend I will sometimes allow myself to be treated x

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

I've done all of them paying for, being paid for and splitting, depends on the person you're meeting. If I get any hesitation about of the person is genuine I'll suggest they book and I'll give them the money towards, soon whittles out the time wasters as they disappear

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely it depends on who invited who?

If I asked you then I would expect the bill. If you asked me I wouldn't, although I would offer to split.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What about if someone says they only meet on hotels or clubs. Would you expect them to pay or split?

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Which hotel chain is the best for fabbers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My hotel meets have generally been 50/50.

On occasion he has paid hotel so I get dinner & drinks..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What about if someone says they only meet on hotels or clubs. Would you expect them to pay or split? "

Depends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There must be a game that can be played to decide this ...

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

I’ve split the cost 50/50 and on occasion treated to an overnight with a really good fab friend

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"There must be a game that can be played to decide this ... "

sometimes you need to know where the nearest fire escape is

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

My view is 50/50 is fair most of the time/instances.

I would never insist on anyone paying if couldn't or wouldn't accommodate. Certainly wouldn't in a newbie either.

A first meet on neutral territory in a hotel makes sense and I guess you both figure out the cost side along the way. I would say that the one who's idea it was to book a hotel would assume they pay and the other then offers towards it or offers dinner and drinks.

Personally I've been treated to a hotel stay once.

I just find some statements like in my post utterly crazy.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

"There must be a game that can be played to decide this ...

sometimes you need to know where the nearest fire escape is"

* tea through nose ejaculation**

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What about if someone says they only meet on hotels or clubs. Would you expect them to pay or split?

Depends."

Depends on what?

I'm curious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i recommend using hotels as guide to the women you are meeting.

if shes one night only and you dont want mates to know - travelodge.

if she would look great bent over your car with a soapy sponge and could be a repeat - premier inn.

if she is smoking hot, gets near the top of the hot pics and does everything - 5 star plus dinner and champers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What about if someone says they only meet on hotels or clubs. Would you expect them to pay or split? "

I don't think it would be right to expect you to pay if they can't accommodate and won't travel. But I probably would still offer to pay half.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"What about if someone says they only meet on hotels or clubs. Would you expect them to pay or split? "

If we are taking/escorting them to the club and traveling together we will likely pay for their entrance unless they insist.

If we are meeting at a hotel, then as above we would pay as we would likely stay in the room over night, unless they have already booked the hotel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Which hotel chain is the best for fabbers

The T5 Travelodge at Heathrow used to be known as Swinging Towers.

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By *.R.MMan
over a year ago

Norfolk

Work pays

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"What about if someone says they only meet on hotels or clubs. Would you expect them to pay or split? "

Still split the hotel cost but they can pay their own club entry unless we go in as a couple and play there as a couple.

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

Pay half or if you know them maybe one pays hotel the other dinner etc

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By *sBlueWoman
over a year ago

Up North

"i recommend using hotels as guide to the women you are meeting.

if shes one night only and you dont want mates to know - travelodge.

if she would look great bent over your car with a soapy sponge and could be a repeat - premier inn.

if she is smoking hot, gets near the top of the hot pics and does everything - 5 star plus dinner and champers.

I want 5star treatment lol

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"i recommend using hotels as guide to the women you are meeting.

if shes one night only and you dont want mates to know - travelodge.

if she would look great bent over your car with a soapy sponge and could be a repeat - premier inn.

if she is smoking hot, gets near the top of the hot pics and does everything - 5 star plus dinner and champers.

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral

I would normally pay first time and hope to take turns! X

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By *.R.MMan
over a year ago

Norfolk

The hotel I’m in has elephants in the room above

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

I’ve either paid myself or split the cost if the guy wants to, I never ask for them to pay. I’m the one travelling, so my room my expense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who wants to go 50/50 with me then

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By *eah BabyCouple
over a year ago

Cheshire, Windermere ,Cumbria

We generally stay the night so we pay but in most cases if we met with a couple we have both stayed over so had a room each

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have no problem to pay the hotel bill.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cost of the room and food was split 50/50 when I went to a hotel

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By *layful HarlequinMan
over a year ago

iver heath

Erm I would always pay wouldn’t even think about it. Is this old fashioned

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I always go halves. Or when we meet regularly we’d take it on turns or one would get dinner and drinks etc. I don’t see why one person should pay for everything whatever the circumstances.

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By *ich_ChesterMan
over a year ago

Chester

Usually i have paid the hotel up front on booking but most occasions the woman has contributed 50%, only time they hav'nt is when they are a no show

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By *ilkmothMan
over a year ago

Cheshire

I either pay it all or go splits. More than happy whatever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm guessing for some especially those who have been let down this could be their way of seeing if the other party is genuine??

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

It's my choice not to accommodate at my home so quite happy to pay the hotel bill x

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By *layful HarlequinMan
over a year ago

iver heath

"It's my choice not to accommodate at my home so quite happy to pay the hotel bill x"

Well if you insist

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"It's my choice not to accommodate at my home so quite happy to pay the hotel bill x

Well if you insist

Ready when you are lol

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By *layful HarlequinMan
over a year ago

iver heath

"It's my choice not to accommodate at my home so quite happy to pay the hotel bill x

Well if you insist

Ready when you are lol

Tease

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What about if someone says they only meet on hotels or clubs. Would you expect them to pay or split? "
Yes because If I have made it clear I will only meet in a hotel or club its that's person's choice to meet me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had all three situations but if someone was demanding I pay then I wouldn't want to meet them. I'll treat people I want to treat not treat others that expect it.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"What about if someone says they only meet on hotels or clubs. Would you expect them to pay or split? Yes because If I have made it clear I will only meet in a hotel or club its that's person's choice to meet me.

Definitely. I won’t accommodate. I won’t be paying fully for a hotel though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely. I won’t accommodate. I won’t be paying fully for a hotel though!"

Thats my thoughts. Are we agreeing!

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Definitely. I won’t accommodate. I won’t be paying fully for a hotel though!

Thats my thoughts. Are we agreeing!

Again?!!

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"It's my choice not to accommodate at my home so quite happy to pay the hotel bill x

Well if you insist

Ready when you are lol

Tease

Me....never

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By *man79Man
over a year ago

newry dundalk. warrenpoint

Always 50/50 or the one that pays doesn’t have to buy the breakfast

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By *ang bang bangity bangCouple
over a year ago

Sunderland

Seems pretty obvious to me. Who ever eats the little packets of biscuits that come with the tea and steals the teeny tiny bottles of shampoo has to pay

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By *layful HarlequinMan
over a year ago

iver heath

"It's my choice not to accommodate at my home so quite happy to pay the hotel bill x

Well if you insist

Ready when you are lol

Tease

Me....never

Nope not come through here Eva

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Seems pretty obvious to me. Who ever eats the little packets of biscuits that come with the tea and steals the teeny tiny bottles of shampoo has to pay"

Can we splitthe biscuits and shampoo as I definitely have no use for shampoo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In a hotel in Leicester now but no ones around

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By *reya73Woman
over a year ago

Whitley Bay

I don't really care who pays.. You, me or sharies. But I'm not really keen on any demands on profiles. I prefer a bit more of a chat and flow with arrangements.. I'm meeting humans not transactions or contracts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends if it’s a local meet whare staying not a thing then probably say 50/50

If it’s not a local meet ie down south Newcastle Manchester or London

Then I pay for my hotel room as I be staying there the night after the meet

So don’t think it’s fair to have them pay hafe

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By *layful HarlequinMan
over a year ago

iver heath

"I don't really care who pays.. You, me or sharies. But I'm not really keen on any demands on profiles. I prefer a bit more of a chat and flow with arrangements.. I'm meeting humans not transactions or contracts.

Well put if I do say so myself totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't expect a woman to pay

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

I'm not a fan of demands on profiles anyway, but it's perfectly acceptable for people to make them, after all, it gives people the choice to do that or not.

Personally, I'd either pay the bill or split the costs, depending on the situation, who has travelled, and a bunch of other things. I don't like to be paid for as it makes me feel beholden to the other person and I'm not looking to be bought. Saying that, I'm also not going to argue for long if they want to pay for a nicer place than I can afford.

It really does depend massively on so many factors for me. And I won't accommodate except in very very exceptional circumstances. Yet I don't feel like I should necessarily foot the bill entirely because of it.

Wow. That didnt really help at all. Sorry

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By *layful HarlequinMan
over a year ago

iver heath

"I'm not a fan of demands on profiles anyway, but it's perfectly acceptable for people to make them, after all, it gives people the choice to do that or not.

Wow. That didnt really help at all. Sorry

I don’t know where I stand now

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I'm not a fan of demands on profiles anyway, but it's perfectly acceptable for people to make them, after all, it gives people the choice to do that or not.

Wow. That didnt really help at all. Sorry

I don’t know where I stand now

I think what I was teying to say was it's a conversation that the people involved need to have and decide between them.

Does that help?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I’m not a fan of hotel meets. I can accommodate and would rather do that then a hotel room. It’s a personal experience and hotels can be noisy in the corridors at times which could distract you

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By *layful HarlequinMan
over a year ago

iver heath

"I'm not a fan of demands on profiles anyway, but it's perfectly acceptable for people to make them, after all, it gives people the choice to do that or not.

Wow. That didnt really help at all. Sorry

I don’t know where I stand now

I think what I was teying to say was it's a conversation that the people involved need to have and decide between them.

Does that help?

yes lol who’s going to start the conversation first??

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington

We cant accomodate more often than not so hotels are something we use. We wouldnt demand anything of anyone but we do find each situation can be different. Theres a point where it's all fair if we pay and a point where costs should be split. Just depends on the situation.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"I'm not a fan of demands on profiles anyway, but it's perfectly acceptable for people to make them, after all, it gives people the choice to do that or not.

Wow. That didnt really help at all. Sorry

I don’t know where I stand now

I think what I was teying to say was it's a conversation that the people involved need to have and decide between them.

Does that help?

yes lol who’s going to start the conversation first??

That's a whole different thread.....

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By *layful HarlequinMan
over a year ago

iver heath

"I'm not a fan of demands on profiles anyway, but it's perfectly acceptable for people to make them, after all, it gives people the choice to do that or not.

Wow. That didnt really help at all. Sorry

I don’t know where I stand now

I think what I was teying to say was it's a conversation that the people involved need to have and decide between them.

Does that help?

yes lol who’s going to start the conversation first??

That's a whole different thread.....

Ops sorry what’s it called and where can I find it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We love hotel meets. But, we always book our own room in a nice hotel, we are happy to share the room for fun, but we incorporate fun with a hotel break. Best of both worlds for us. If they want to stay the night they can book their own room

Claire

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id pay for room anyway...its a privilege to be asked to join in with a couple, so least i can do..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always pay half, it's fair. Cash though for discretion. Xx

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By *urulovesnylonMan
over a year ago

Harrow

I usually pay if I’m booking and hosting.

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By *illiamMeetsMan
over a year ago

sunnyside

Does seem rude to say "you pay".

Personally will book and welcome any offer to contribute. After a while just split the cost....and different hotels to enjoy location and facilities a bit

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By *layful HarlequinMan
over a year ago

iver heath

"I always pay half, it's fair. Cash though for discretion. Xx"

Of course

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"I always pay half, it's fair. Cash though for discretion. Xx"

Taxi to Suffork please.

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By *layful HarlequinMan
over a year ago

iver heath

"I always pay half, it's fair. Cash though for discretion. Xx

Taxi to Suffork please.

Anything for a freebie you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've done all three options.. Paid full bill, gone 50:50 and been the 'guest' "

So have we

In fact we are currently planning a meet with a couple and we have suggested a hotel as it suits our circumstances better and therefore wouldn't ask the couple to pay towards it.

NBVN x

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"I always pay half, it's fair. Cash though for discretion. Xx

Taxi to Suffork please.

Anything for a freebie you

No. Happy to go halves.

But I'll buy the cakes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm quite honest with who I'm meeting. At the moment I don't work so I always say I'll contribute half but so far I haven't had to as the guys have been very generous. I usually pick up drinks for us instead.

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

It has always very much depended on the individual circumstances...but generally worked out a more or less even split for all expenses (one travels a long way, the other pays for the hotel, one buys dinner, the other gets breakfast etc)

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By *illiamMeetsMan
over a year ago

sunnyside

"It has always very much depended on the individual circumstances...but generally worked out a more or less even split for all expenses (one travels a long way, the other pays for the hotel, one buys dinner, the other gets breakfast etc) "

Like that approach. Happy to travel and pay for one of either meal or hotel

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I won't meet anyone who's anal about this kinda thing. It's like going to a restaurant and working out how much your individual bill comes to.

Sometimes they pay, sometimes I do. I've never met anyone where we've agreed to pay halves, but it normally does work itself out to be mostly equal.

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