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When need to talk, friend or family?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Appreciate it depends on how close you are to them, relationship wise and distance.

If you were suffering physically or mentally and needed to talk who would you talk to first, friends or family

For me it's friends as feel easier to talk to them and they are nearer

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

It entirely depends on the problem but my first port of call is always my partner.

The thing that most affects on my mental health currently is the situation with my parents so I can hardly talk to them about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

neither.

my family doesn't talk, and are 300 miles away.

and i don't have any friends.

i tend to just use unhealthy coping mechanisms and destructive behaviours, until im out of my funk.

not the best idea, but it's all ive got.

Px

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

Almost always friends, but mainly the ones who are empathetic in nature and will be brutally honest haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same here, neither.

Both are too close for comfort for something like that, it needs to be someone with no personal opinion of me.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Depending on the circumstances,but friends who I know i trust and this is both ways,but if not available I'd speak to a specialist doc, crisis,is support out their.

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick


"neither.

my family doesn't talk, and are 300 miles away.

and i don't have any friends.

i tend to just use unhealthy coping mechanisms and destructive behaviours, until im out of my funk.

not the best idea, but it's all ive got.

Px"

That sounds all too familiar.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Physically everyone knows about it .

My dad is a good bloke to talk to about stuff. He doesn't over react and he can often get to the root of a problem cutting away all the unnecessary crap. My mum just cries so makes you feel worse.

My friends will listen and either laugh at me, tell me I'm being daft or just support me.

Mr N just listens or gets paracetamol.

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By *ave1963BarnsleyMan
over a year ago

Barnsley


"neither.

my family doesn't talk, and are 300 miles away.

and i don't have any friends.

i tend to just use unhealthy coping mechanisms and destructive behaviours, until im out of my funk.

not the best idea, but it's all ive got.

Px"

Yep, that sounds like me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on what it is but my mum is generally my go to for most things aswell as my best friend and my partner. I also have some very good friends I can talk to about this stuff so it really depends on the problem.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

And distance is never an obstacle to need to talk with anyone hence the phone. This is creating an obstacle using distance as an excuse.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

I tend to just write it down to get it out of system, rarely I’ll reach out and share with a friend.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I tend to just write it down to get it out of system, rarely I’ll reach out and share with a friend. "

Writing it down is a really good way of getting it out of your head isn't it

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch


"I tend to just write it down to get it out of system, rarely I’ll reach out and share with a friend.

Writing it down is a really good way of getting it out of your head isn't it"

It is, it works for me. Then I don’t need to worry anyone else with it, then deal with their fallout, which doesn’t help when you don’t have the energy for yourself let alone someone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone i don't no who is willing to listen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m long way from home so generally speak to sych doctor first he would generally be a listener which is all I need

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"I tend to just write it down to get it out of system, rarely I’ll reach out and share with a friend.

Writing it down is a really good way of getting it out of your head isn't it

It is, it works for me. Then I don’t need to worry anyone else with it, then deal with their fallout, which doesn’t help when you don’t have the energy for yourself let alone someone else. "

Understood. This is why I've never gone to my mum with any problem. She tends to get upset when strength is what you need.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"And distance is never an obstacle to need to talk with anyone hence the phone. This is creating an obstacle using distance as an excuse."

Appreciate that phone means distance never obstacle but sometimes you need to see the other persons face or reaction to what you are saying. And if they are far away can cause them unnecessary worry when there is little practically they can do

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By *ilfCrumpet9Man
over a year ago

Wirral

Some total stranger in a similar situation. Only those who are going through what you are can understand

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"And distance is never an obstacle to need to talk with anyone hence the phone. This is creating an obstacle using distance as an excuse.

Appreciate that phone means distance never obstacle but sometimes you need to see the other persons face or reaction to what you are saying. And if they are far away can cause them unnecessary worry when there is little practically they can do "

I understand your point,but if for example you feel this way their is always the option to speak with a specialist, some times you can never find the answers you need and only a specialist would know what would be the best way forward to give an educated answer,if you feel like the burden others feeling worried from the phone call. As I've mentioned depending on circumstances.

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By *andsome HandMan
over a year ago

roundabout

Obviously it depends on the problem but my mum and aunt are my go to people. They know enough of me at this stage that I can be fairly honest.

My dad used to be my go to with problems.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

My mum every time.

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