FabSwingers.com forum: politely decline

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

i have tried this for a few days and sorry to say this but FUCK IT...

most of the messages i received and i declined in meeting was abusive or couldn't take "no and rejection as a answer"

some got abusive with whore slag etc etc

and some actually was polite

but sorry im going back to myway

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By *irtydanMan
over a year ago

Blackpool

frank sinatra ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i have tried this for a few days and sorry to say this but FUCK IT...

most of the messages i received and i declined in meeting was abusive or couldn't take "no and rejection as a answer"

some got abusive with whore slag etc etc

and some actually was polite

but sorry im going back to myway

"
Do what i have .. put on profile you cant mail back to all but thanks x .. it work x

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By *abloBackMan
over a year ago

London

My way? Or the highway!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep I know what you mean after reading aim the forums all about people saying all that want is a no thanks reply I started replying back to all

But twice yesterday I went from an opening message of oh wow you look amazing to why no as you must be a slut if your here etc

So like you I too am going back to my way

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

You should all do whats best for you. Not what is perceived by others to be the best - Fook em all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been here on fab a time now .. and only had one nasty mail ... and he lived up the road and could not take me not mailing as so close .lol

Why i have no one on my block list .. as never felt i had to block people . I know its not same for everyone here i would hate it too xx

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

There will always be some that can't take rejection and feel the need to be nasty.

Know we don't get the same amount of mails as single women but can honestly say we have only ever had the odd one or two abusive emails. Most of the time if we get a message back, it's just to say thank you for replying and best wishes. (or something along those lines)

Do what works best for you, not what pleases others!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I send polite messages to decline, (which depends on my mood, how much time I have and how many unread messages are in my mailbox), I get a lot of "why not?"s and attempts to change my mind, but few abusive responses.

I do just delete the rude approaches though, always, so maybe that has a bearing on it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You should all do whats best for you. Not what is perceived by others to be the best - Fook em all"

All of 'em? Egads! That would take a while.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You should all do whats best for you. Not what is perceived by others to be the best - Fook em all

All of 'em? Egads! That would take a while."

And your time starts..............now!

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

"You should all do whats best for you. Not what is perceived by others to be the best - Fook em all

All of 'em? Egads! That would take a while."

yes but think of the sense of achievement you would get

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

We never get abusive mails after sending a polite mail back. We have had people ask can we give them feedback of why not and we have told them and still have had no abuse.

Now when people get advise of why they are getting no meets on here they are told to change their tactics/ how they mail....maybe the advice could be the same here

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By *woBiTwoCouple
over a year ago

north manchester

"We never get abusive mails after sending a polite mail back. We have had people ask can we give them feedback of why not and we have told them and still have had no abuse.

Now when people get advise of why they are getting no meets on here they are told to change their tactics/ how they mail....maybe the advice could be the same here

.. pretty much our experience too. We always reply (unless the initial mail is offensive or crude) and give a polite 'no'. Normally get 'thanks' back and only very occasionally do we get abuse.

Smile and the world smiles with you.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

Surely you been here long enough to deal with idiots?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Considering I've never been swamped with messages on here I can only imagine it's like my email inbox where I regularly get bombarded with incoming mail. Unless something is really important or catches my eye then I'm not going to bother so i guess I can empathise with you. I never understood the abusing people thing, if we aren't each others cup of tea or someone's not interested in you keep it moving, there are plenty of others who probably will be.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We do try and politely reply no thanks, but then it often leads to why not, and we do also try to give constructive criticism as to why not.

Not had abusive messages back, more but if I do xyz will you change your mind.

Although a couple of days ago I'd had enough, so was a little more abrupt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just think its easier to block as I have told a guy that he is too far several times, got a snotty response back the last time but 3 days later he is back again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i have tried this for a few days and sorry to say this but FUCK IT...

most of the messages i received and i declined in meeting was abusive or couldn't take "no and rejection as a answer"

some got abusive with whore slag etc etc

and some actually was polite

but sorry im going back to myway

I can understand your frustration, we got fed up with abuse when nicely telling someone no.

Now we always send the same message to anyone that we wouldn't meet for no matter what reason.

Hiya,

Thanks for the message but not what we are seeking at the mo.

Have fun and good luck!

Shaz n Tony

"BLOCK"

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By *adgeeMan
over a year ago

Sw Scotland

"Surely you been here long enough to deal with idiots? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Delete and block, and if the message is nice, I may reply with a "no thanks" before deleting and blocking.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Surely you been here long enough to deal with idiots? "

i like idiots they are great for laughs

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