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By *rs Classy Slut OP   Couple
over a year ago

selby

My Mrs really likes to build up a connection with guys before meeting for hotel fun, so when she finds a good one she likes to meet him again.

Could this be a risk to the marriage? It hasn’t been so far

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By *rhugesMan
over a year ago

Cardiff

She looks amazing mate . What you have to ask yourself is what keeps your marriage together and what was the reason she decided to marry you?

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By *rs Classy Slut OP   Couple
over a year ago

selby

We’ve been together for over 20 years and are very strong, soul mates I would say and we both get turned on by her slutty adventures.

I am curious what other people’s experiences are

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By *uitednbooted2Man
over a year ago

Berkshire

I had a 6 year arrangement with a hot wife couple. I met her on my own and sent hubby pics and videos. When it ended it was all cool no drama because we didn’t get emotionally involved it was always about great sex and fun. I’m still good friends with them. It can be done OP but only she can answer your question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looking at your profile, it seems you have between you decided who you are looking for and what is going to happen. You appear to have a very strong relationship. Making sure a meet is with a nice guy isn't the same as building a close relationship

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By *nly4funMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


"We’ve been together for over 20 years and are very strong, soul mates I would say and we both get turned on by her slutty adventures.

I am curious what other people’s experiences are"

One of the things that contributed to the ending of my last Fab relationship was jealousy. Not from me. She was happy shagging whoever at whatever party we went to but she really didn’t like me getting close to anyone. A couple of times she tried to encourage me to have meaningless shag, but like your missus I like to get to know them cos getting that connection is part of the build up for me. Just not into recreational fucking I guess.

So, if you’re not jealous of the closeness cos you know it’s only on a superficial level and your relationship is very strong, then I say crack on without any worries.

Shame you’re not closer cos I agree with the previous poster and you are a very lucky man

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By *rs Classy Slut OP   Couple
over a year ago

selby

Ok thanks for the feedback.

Yes I’m lucky, shes very hot, far any age, but especially for her age.

Ok so onwards and upwards lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be real with you op there’s always risk off one catching “ feelings ” or jellos but the only person that can awnicer your questions is your wife her self sit down with her have a talk and set boundaries

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Yes it could be. That doesn't mean it will.

Why do you ask?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's only a risk if your on thin ground already. As long as your secure in your relationship and trust each other, there isn't a risk. If either was to catch any feelings, then at that point it needs to end. Your relationship comes first always

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d say only if you are on thin ice and she’s secretely unhappy in the marriage. But sounds like that’s not the case so!

The other scenario is if she falls madly in love for the other guy and is reciprocated. Super rare tho I’d say?

Have fun guys x

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By *ltrMan
over a year ago

sheffield


"My Mrs really likes to build up a connection with guys before meeting for hotel fun, so when she finds a good one she likes to meet him again.

Could this be a risk to the marriage? It hasn’t been so far"

My ex left me to be with our fxxk buddy not saying it will happen I let it go too far by letting them meet alone loads while I was at work ,they grew close and bobs your auntie they was living together ( not now tho he pissed of with a younger model serves her right not that I am bitter

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By *aneyyMan
over a year ago

london


"My Mrs really likes to build up a connection with guys before meeting for hotel fun, so when she finds a good one she likes to meet him again.

Could this be a risk to the marriage? It hasn’t been so far"

I doubt it, I’ve met couples regularly and the thought of hone wrecking never even crossed my mind. We were all just good friends that communicated well. That also has sex. Very healthy and fun so I would say no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My Mrs really likes to build up a connection with guys before meeting for hotel fun, so when she finds a good one she likes to meet him again.

Could this be a risk to the marriage? It hasn’t been so far

My ex left me to be with our fxxk buddy not saying it will happen I let it go too far by letting them meet alone loads while I was at work ,they grew close and bobs your auntie they was living together ( not now tho he pissed of with a younger model serves her right not that I am bitter "

What goes around comes around they say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say in all my time of meeting regular guys it has never threatened our marriage. As long as you keep communication open and honest and have a strong relationship you will be able to work through any issues. Choosing the right third party is also key. They need to completely be on the same page as you both. My hubby builds up good communication with the guys I meet too. This helps him feel more involved and relaxed about me seeing them. I can always tell when it's going well as hubby will be very encouraging. It's all about being sensitive to the others' feelings.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Anyone or anything could be a threat to a relationship when it isn't tackled with consideration, compassion, empathy and open and honest communication.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle


"My Mrs really likes to build up a connection with guys before meeting for hotel fun, so when she finds a good one she likes to meet him again.

Could this be a risk to the marriage? It hasn’t been so far"

My opinion I'm guessing you know each other very well and talk loads about everything, which is very important within a relationship and being in the swinging scene,when you have a special bond which many do nothing ever effects the relationship,the key is talking understanding each other and doing what both feel comfortable with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If she's unhappy in your relationship then yes, it's a bad idea. But if you trust her and she has enough control and knows when to walk away then you have nothing to worry about.

I'm in a similar situation, and it's something my partner worries about too. So I completely understand. But that connection is so important to me.

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By *ememberTheNameMan
over a year ago

barnsley


"My Mrs really likes to build up a connection with guys before meeting for hotel fun, so when she finds a good one she likes to meet him again.

Could this be a risk to the marriage? It hasn’t been so far"

Surely only you can answer that ?

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Regularly seeing someone at work would be a risk. Going on a night out and meeting someone and connecting would be a risk.

If it's gonna happen, it's gonna happen.

I know this is somewhat more intimate but if your relationship is strong and meant to be it will survive.

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By *hatHappensNextCouple
over a year ago

Essex, near basildon

I am looking for a regular boyfriend for casual fun and hubby is completely comfortable with it but he would want to meet the guy a few times initially to know that he feels comfortable

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"Regularly seeing someone at work would be a risk. Going on a night out and meeting someone and connecting would be a risk.

If it's gonna happen, it's gonna happen.

I know this is somewhat more intimate but if your relationship is strong and meant to be it will survive. "

Exactly. I know people away from the swinging scene who've left their spouses coz they've fallen for someone else.

I know people within the swinging scene who've left their spouses for someone they've met on the scene.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire


"My Mrs really likes to build up a connection with guys before meeting for hotel fun, so when she finds a good one she likes to meet him again.

Could this be a risk to the marriage? It hasn’t been so far"

Only if you let it come between you

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

You need to find someone who is not interested in finding his next girlfriend or wife.

HELLO!

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By *etwifeandhim69Couple
over a year ago

Darlington


"My Mrs really likes to build up a connection with guys before meeting for hotel fun, so when she finds a good one she likes to meet him again.

Could this be a risk to the marriage? It hasn’t been so far"

So we come at this the other way. Aside from being bi, my wife loves being a cuckqean (for lack of a better describing word though theres nothing derogatory or degrading about it). Let's just say she likes me being with other women, either with her present or not (just aa she meets ladies on her own as well). Fab hasn't been the best site to facilitate this but weve been enjoying this lifestyle for 23 years and together for 25.

In the past I've had regular " freinds with benefits" relationships with 3 ladies where we met regularly without my wife having any involvement (aside from.the first one as she set that up). Each lasted anything from 6 months to 4 years (along with all our other swinging activities).

Neither of us is big on one off meets be it meeting individually or meeting other couples as a couple. We preffer something regular.

Now for us personally it's never been an issue. In fact weve never even questioned it as a threat to our marriage. Theres never been any drama or problems. Weve always been open and honest with each other and put our marriage and family first. Anything swinging related is simply an extra to our lives and marriage, not the driving force behind it. I'd like to think our rule book is pretty simple as it's basically a case of always telling the other what is going on, with who, where and if one of us is not happy about a given situation the other can shut it down.

At the end of the day we realised years ago that swinging by it's very nature can easily break a relationship if there are any insecurities, doubts, hang ups or you develop feelings for someone you meet regularly. It happens and Weve seen it happen. Dosent mean it will happen, we just accept it can happen.

So we decided to be open to a few things. Whilst not actively seeking a polyamorous relationship, we do accept that if it happens, it happens. Either one of us or both of us could meet someone or someone's and things could get awkward. No point pretending it cant happen. We will cross that bridge if it happens. But again, weve agreed to discuss anything like that as it happens with each other. Never has so far but again, honesty and communication are the foundations for our relationship.

And I think that's key. You have to be completely open and honest with each other all the time just as much as making time for each other all time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I definitely think if she's spending lots of time with other men and going out socialising with them as well as having sex there's potential for it to cause some issues

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By *ananas57Couple
over a year ago

lake ariel

I had a fwb but he got clingy so it’s once and done for me now

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By *hancer666Man
over a year ago

Redbourn

Been married is a risk to marriage. Its only a problem if she moves him in, you find yourself sleeping in spare bedroom and one day your front door keys don't work and joint account empty. Lawyer up just in case, or bring another woman in....only fair. If the above still happens and those 3 still in house become a 3some, get off fab join tinder . It'll go tits up for them eventually and you'll be with new bird by then....if conversation turns to swinging throw cold water on it, as it can ruin marriages

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By *rad670Man
over a year ago

South Lakes

I have a great relationship with a couple who you could say are regular occasional and some other friends off here but you have to have a sensible attitude from the off about separating emotional loving feelings from intense sex feelings, be mature about what you want and trust the people you play with that the arrangement is for for the extra thrill not a replacement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It possibly could be a risk to a marriage yes. A good friend of mine used to encourage his wife to meet other men... especially BBC, so she had a regular & guess what happened she left her hubby for him. Just upped & left one day & moved in with her BBC leaving hubby with their 4 kids & she's rarely in contact with the kids

I did tell it's his own fault...it was him who encouraged her to meet other men even though she didn't want to at first.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"It possibly could be a risk to a marriage yes. A good friend of mine used to encourage his wife to meet other men... especially BBC, so she had a regular & guess what happened she left her hubby for him. Just upped & left one day & moved in with her BBC leaving hubby with their 4 kids & she's rarely in contact with the kids

I did tell it's his own fault...it was him who encouraged her to meet other men even though she didn't want to at first."

While I don't agree that it's his fault I do think that if a person is constantly encouraged to seek sex with other people it can firmly plant the idea in their mind that their partner no longer wants or desires them. The consequences of that could be quite damaging.

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I do know someone that was “encouraged” by her husband to go out as a Hotwife. When she found someone her husband pushed and pushed for her to see the guy more.

Guess what, she got feelings for him. She was seeing him twice a week. It eventually caused no end of problems. She’s not with her husband any more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It possibly could be a risk to a marriage yes. A good friend of mine used to encourage his wife to meet other men... especially BBC, so she had a regular & guess what happened she left her hubby for him. Just upped & left one day & moved in with her BBC leaving hubby with their 4 kids & she's rarely in contact with the kids

I did tell it's his own fault...it was him who encouraged her to meet other men even though she didn't want to at first.

While I don't agree that it's his fault I do think that if a person is constantly encouraged to seek sex with other people it can firmly plant the idea in their mind that their partner no longer wants or desires them. The consequences of that could be quite damaging."

I think he is to blame. She would never ever have met other men only for he encouraged her to do so.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"It possibly could be a risk to a marriage yes. A good friend of mine used to encourage his wife to meet other men... especially BBC, so she had a regular & guess what happened she left her hubby for him. Just upped & left one day & moved in with her BBC leaving hubby with their 4 kids & she's rarely in contact with the kids

I did tell it's his own fault...it was him who encouraged her to meet other men even though she didn't want to at first.

While I don't agree that it's his fault I do think that if a person is constantly encouraged to seek sex with other people it can firmly plant the idea in their mind that their partner no longer wants or desires them. The consequences of that could be quite damaging.

I think he is to blame. She would never ever have met other men only for he encouraged her to do so."

Fair enough but I'm assuming she had the opportunity to refuse. Maybe as I said she just felt he no longer wanted her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Horses for courses

I can see why it would work for some

I am not really bothered how many guys my OH beds, but I do have an issue with him building bonds

Emotional infidelity is way more of a problem to me than sexual infidelity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It possibly could be a risk to a marriage yes. A good friend of mine used to encourage his wife to meet other men... especially BBC, so she had a regular & guess what happened she left her hubby for him. Just upped & left one day & moved in with her BBC leaving hubby with their 4 kids & she's rarely in contact with the kids

I did tell it's his own fault...it was him who encouraged her to meet other men even though she didn't want to at first.

While I don't agree that it's his fault I do think that if a person is constantly encouraged to seek sex with other people it can firmly plant the idea in their mind that their partner no longer wants or desires them. The consequences of that could be quite damaging.

I think he is to blame. She would never ever have met other men only for he encouraged her to do so."

I'm sorry but I don't get this. My husband has always encouraged me and there were times when I questioned it... but I've never once thought I'd ever leave him for someone I've met no matter how encouraging he is. Takes two to tango.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi I don't see how it could cause a problem. If you are both agreed with meetings alone etc then it shouldn't be a problem for you. I'd say be happy and go with things as 1 or 2 regulars are more fun then lots of single meets

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Horses for courses

I can see why it would work for some

I am not really bothered how many guys my OH beds, but I do have an issue with him building bonds

Emotional infidelity is way more of a problem to me than sexual infidelity "

Same.

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By *asha86Couple
over a year ago

walsall


"Horses for courses

I can see why it would work for some

I am not really bothered how many guys my OH beds, but I do have an issue with him building bonds

Emotional infidelity is way more of a problem to me than sexual infidelity "

This is how i feel about it too. The sex part no issue at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my experience repeated meets leads to a connection. I think it’s human nature to develop a bond when something as intimate as sex is involved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From the wife here who likes her husband to go off shagging other women.

Doughnut is good friends with one of his regular meets (before lockdown) and I get on very well with her, when he first met her for a coffee, he bought her back to our place to meet me, she was really worried about coming between me and him, which was absolutely lovely of her to worry about that but for us? I don't even think about him catching the feels for anyone, yes he is friends with most of his meets but that makes the chemistry in the bedroom that bit more, if that makes sense? When we had the hotel and they would meet there, I would very often take them coffee half way through.

I have never once thought that he doesn't love me any less, he still absolutely worships the ground I walk on and would walk to the ends of the earth for me, and so happens to get to shag other women because I get incredibly turned on by it lol.

Danish x

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By *ocoa89Man
over a year ago

Camberwell

Hmmm, I spent quite a bit of time studying with relational psychologists on the issues related to this kinda thing (open relationship, affairs, cuckolding, etc etc).

I think it's naive to say there isn't a risk. Typically the risk is part of the thrill.

The fact you're raising the question, seems like there is worthy self exploration for you. Is the current arrangement still truly working for you? Are you complying more for fear of losing what you have than actually getting what you want? Are you peecieving something in her or in yourself that has shifted? Etc etc.

Seems worthwhile to spend some time reflecting inwardly.

But short answer - there is always a risk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe, maybe not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It possibly could be a risk to a marriage yes. A good friend of mine used to encourage his wife to meet other men... especially BBC, so she had a regular & guess what happened she left her hubby for him. Just upped & left one day & moved in with her BBC leaving hubby with their 4 kids & she's rarely in contact with the kids

I did tell it's his own fault...it was him who encouraged her to meet other men even though she didn't want to at first.

While I don't agree that it's his fault I do think that if a person is constantly encouraged to seek sex with other people it can firmly plant the idea in their mind that their partner no longer wants or desires them. The consequences of that could be quite damaging.

I think he is to blame. She would never ever have met other men only for he encouraged her to do so.

I'm sorry but I don't get this. My husband has always encouraged me and there were times when I questioned it... but I've never once thought I'd ever leave him for someone I've met no matter how encouraging he is. Takes two to tango. "

Yup it took two, he pleading & encouraging her to have sex with other men so he could watch & she did it just to please him.She never wanted to do it initially.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's definitely a trust thing,

We've been swinging for a while now and now play separate,

She does have her regulars and I have no issues whatsoever,

In fact I enjoy it,

It works for us x

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By *ocoa89Man
over a year ago

Camberwell


"It possibly could be a risk to a marriage yes. A good friend of mine used to encourage his wife to meet other men... especially BBC, so she had a regular & guess what happened she left her hubby for him. Just upped & left one day & moved in with her BBC leaving hubby with their 4 kids & she's rarely in contact with the kids

I did tell it's his own fault...it was him who encouraged her to meet other men even though she didn't want to at first.

While I don't agree that it's his fault I do think that if a person is constantly encouraged to seek sex with other people it can firmly plant the idea in their mind that their partner no longer wants or desires them. The consequences of that could be quite damaging.

I think he is to blame. She would never ever have met other men only for he encouraged her to do so.

I'm sorry but I don't get this. My husband has always encouraged me and there were times when I questioned it... but I've never once thought I'd ever leave him for someone I've met no matter how encouraging he is. Takes two to tango.

Yup it took two, he pleading & encouraging her to have sex with other men so he could watch & she did it just to please him.She never wanted to do it initially. "

I agree, he pushed her in that direction for his own pleasure and it bit him in the ass hard.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Been married is a risk to marriage. Its only a problem if she moves him in, you find yourself sleeping in spare bedroom and one day your front door keys don't work and joint account empty. Lawyer up just in case, or bring another woman in....only fair. If the above still happens and those 3 still in house become a 3some, get off fab join tinder . It'll go tits up for them eventually and you'll be with new bird by then....if conversation turns to swinging throw cold water on it, as it can ruin marriages "

Whoa this was quite a roller coaster !! I was told of a similar situation from someone else who began as a fetish/joke thing as he used to get off on feeling jel, ended up they pushed him as the third wheel and segregated him to a spare room and eventually those two got into a relationship etc x

I just struggle with thinking how these dynamics can work …

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It possibly could be a risk to a marriage yes. A good friend of mine used to encourage his wife to meet other men... especially BBC, so she had a regular & guess what happened she left her hubby for him. Just upped & left one day & moved in with her BBC leaving hubby with their 4 kids & she's rarely in contact with the kids

I did tell it's his own fault...it was him who encouraged her to meet other men even though she didn't want to at first.

While I don't agree that it's his fault I do think that if a person is constantly encouraged to seek sex with other people it can firmly plant the idea in their mind that their partner no longer wants or desires them. The consequences of that could be quite damaging.

I think he is to blame. She would never ever have met other men only for he encouraged her to do so.

Fair enough but I'm assuming she had the opportunity to refuse. Maybe as I said she just felt he no longer wanted her."

Also I don’t know , I’m just saying but I think there’s people built in a certain way.

There are People who are very objective and can think/put those objective things first… example the marriage comes first along with kids etc. So there’s nothing that can shift that.

While others who might be more in tune with their hopeless romantic/emotional or feeling side.. when they tap into certain experiences with someone they connect with. Might go head over heel for them and they start thinking that actually that marriage doesn’t come first.

I know for a fact even if I used my head a lot, I’m also quite a feeling/gut person. So sometimes I just think with those without using my head (got me in no end of trouble fully knowing I’d get into a mess)

So yes it might start all as a fun and games but can certainly turn out to be a slippery slope and a nasty game. But usually the husband has to be conscious that it does happen even if the risk is low.

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By *ilfCrumpet9Man
over a year ago

Wirral

I meet up with a couple who I have known for many years now. We either have fun together or I meet with the wife on my own. There is total trust and no feelings other than sexually. My mate occasionally messages me when he is away to let me know when she is home alone and could use some company.

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By *asycouple1971Couple
over a year ago

midlands

My wife has a boyfriend that she meets alone and we all get on well.

Each to their own I guess.

There is and will always be a risk.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It possibly could be a risk to a marriage yes. A good friend of mine used to encourage his wife to meet other men... especially BBC, so she had a regular & guess what happened she left her hubby for him. Just upped & left one day & moved in with her BBC leaving hubby with their 4 kids & she's rarely in contact with the kids

I did tell it's his own fault...it was him who encouraged her to meet other men even though she didn't want to at first.

While I don't agree that it's his fault I do think that if a person is constantly encouraged to seek sex with other people it can firmly plant the idea in their mind that their partner no longer wants or desires them. The consequences of that could be quite damaging.

I think he is to blame. She would never ever have met other men only for he encouraged her to do so.

I'm sorry but I don't get this. My husband has always encouraged me and there were times when I questioned it... but I've never once thought I'd ever leave him for someone I've met no matter how encouraging he is. Takes two to tango.

Yup it took two, he pleading & encouraging her to have sex with other men so he could watch & she did it just to please him.She never wanted to do it initially.

I agree, he pushed her in that direction for his own pleasure and it bit him in the ass hard. "

Yup...my point exactly...nice to see someone sees & understands my point of view

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I meet up with a couple who I have known for many years now. We either have fun together or I meet with the wife on my own. There is total trust and no feelings other than sexually. My mate occasionally messages me when he is away to let me know when she is home alone and could use some company. "

So there’s no actual private texting etc (those two messaging) and there are boundaries when it comes to “bonding”

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By *irty Fun GuyMan
over a year ago

Kidderminster

We love regular meets the wife has a couple guys she’s been seeing for a long time the connection is amazing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My Mrs really likes to build up a connection with guys before meeting for hotel fun, so when she finds a good one she likes to meet him again.

Could this be a risk to the marriage? It hasn’t been so far"

only you know the answer to that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My Mrs really likes to build up a connection with guys before meeting for hotel fun, so when she finds a good one she likes to meet him again.

Could this be a risk to the marriage? It hasn’t been so far

only you know the answer to that "

& Sometimes we have no control over who we `fall` for...

Once emotions don't get involved all will be ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have done it and mrs meets a guy semi regular . Depends on you’re relationship and how strong it is. And trust .

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Not if you find the right person, we are on just over 2 years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My Mrs really likes to build up a connection with guys before meeting for hotel fun, so when she finds a good one she likes to meet him again.

Could this be a risk to the marriage? It hasn’t been so far"

The fact that you are asking now makes me wonder if some insecurity is creeping in OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It possibly could be a risk to a marriage yes. A good friend of mine used to encourage his wife to meet other men... especially BBC, so she had a regular & guess what happened she left her hubby for him. Just upped & left one day & moved in with her BBC leaving hubby with their 4 kids & she's rarely in contact with the kids

I did tell it's his own fault...it was him who encouraged her to meet other men even though she didn't want to at first.

While I don't agree that it's his fault I do think that if a person is constantly encouraged to seek sex with other people it can firmly plant the idea in their mind that their partner no longer wants or desires them. The consequences of that could be quite damaging.

I think he is to blame. She would never ever have met other men only for he encouraged her to do so.

I'm sorry but I don't get this. My husband has always encouraged me and there were times when I questioned it... but I've never once thought I'd ever leave him for someone I've met no matter how encouraging he is. Takes two to tango.

Yup it took two, he pleading & encouraging her to have sex with other men so he could watch & she did it just to please him.She never wanted to do it initially. "

Then that was on her. She really shouldn't have let him push her into it if she didn't want to do it. That's where the relationship broke down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if there's trust there between you and your partner or between you and your wife then it shouldn't matter I can never imagine myself if I had a girlfriend and to allow her how to get physical with another man it would probably destroy me but that's just the way I am

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It possibly could be a risk to a marriage yes. A good friend of mine used to encourage his wife to meet other men... especially BBC, so she had a regular & guess what happened she left her hubby for him. Just upped & left one day & moved in with her BBC leaving hubby with their 4 kids & she's rarely in contact with the kids

I did tell it's his own fault...it was him who encouraged her to meet other men even though she didn't want to at first.

While I don't agree that it's his fault I do think that if a person is constantly encouraged to seek sex with other people it can firmly plant the idea in their mind that their partner no longer wants or desires them. The consequences of that could be quite damaging.

I think he is to blame. She would never ever have met other men only for he encouraged her to do so.

I'm sorry but I don't get this. My husband has always encouraged me and there were times when I questioned it... but I've never once thought I'd ever leave him for someone I've met no matter how encouraging he is. Takes two to tango.

Yup it took two, he pleading & encouraging her to have sex with other men so he could watch & she did it just to please him.She never wanted to do it initially.

Then that was on her. She really shouldn't have let him push her into it if she didn't want to do it. That's where the relationship broke down. "

Yes I agree with she shouldn't have done it if she didn't want to. It's kinda ironic too cos she Seriously `fell` for one of the guys & he for her. We have no control over who we fall in love with. Anyway he lost his wife forever.

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By *rKinksMan
over a year ago

Alton


"It possibly could be a risk to a marriage yes. A good friend of mine used to encourage his wife to meet other men... especially BBC, so she had a regular & guess what happened she left her hubby for him. Just upped & left one day & moved in with her BBC leaving hubby with their 4 kids & she's rarely in contact with the kids

I did tell it's his own fault...it was him who encouraged her to meet other men even though she didn't want to at first.

While I don't agree that it's his fault I do think that if a person is constantly encouraged to seek sex with other people it can firmly plant the idea in their mind that their partner no longer wants or desires them. The consequences of that could be quite damaging.

I think he is to blame. She would never ever have met other men only for he encouraged her to do so.

I'm sorry but I don't get this. My husband has always encouraged me and there were times when I questioned it... but I've never once thought I'd ever leave him for someone I've met no matter how encouraging he is. Takes two to tango.

Yup it took two, he pleading & encouraging her to have sex with other men so he could watch & she did it just to please him.She never wanted to do it initially.

Then that was on her. She really shouldn't have let him push her into it if she didn't want to do it. That's where the relationship broke down.

Yes I agree with she shouldn't have done it if she didn't want to. It's kinda ironic too cos she Seriously `fell` for one of the guys & he for her. We have no control over who we fall in love with. Anyway he lost his wife forever. "

I dunno the fact she has left the kids and doesn't have much contact kinda highlights it wasn't just their sexualities relationship she wasn't unhappy with.

The is more to this story than their open relationship. She wasn't happy in that house hold full stop.

Can't blame ever of them without knowing the full picture

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By *rKinksMan
over a year ago

Alton

Back to OP point and not just bad examples. I think regular partner's are the way forward.

I used to meet a couple regularly before I moved. We were "exclusive" for some time too. So really allowed us to explore our kinks.

He said what helped with the lack of jealously was the age gap I was a 21yr old student they were 39 so a serious relationship was very unlikely

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield


"It possibly could be a risk to a marriage yes. A good friend of mine used to encourage his wife to meet other men... especially BBC, so she had a regular & guess what happened she left her hubby for him. Just upped & left one day & moved in with her BBC leaving hubby with their 4 kids & she's rarely in contact with the kids

I did tell it's his own fault...it was him who encouraged her to meet other men even though she didn't want to at first.

While I don't agree that it's his fault I do think that if a person is constantly encouraged to seek sex with other people it can firmly plant the idea in their mind that their partner no longer wants or desires them. The consequences of that could be quite damaging.

I think he is to blame. She would never ever have met other men only for he encouraged her to do so.

I'm sorry but I don't get this. My husband has always encouraged me and there were times when I questioned it... but I've never once thought I'd ever leave him for someone I've met no matter how encouraging he is. Takes two to tango.

Yup it took two, he pleading & encouraging her to have sex with other men so he could watch & she did it just to please him.She never wanted to do it initially.

Then that was on her. She really shouldn't have let him push her into it if she didn't want to do it. That's where the relationship broke down.

Yes I agree with she shouldn't have done it if she didn't want to. It's kinda ironic too cos she Seriously `fell` for one of the guys & he for her. We have no control over who we fall in love with. Anyway he lost his wife forever. "

This is what happened to my friend. She was pushed and pushed by her husband. She didn’t want to. She did develop feelings for the guy and visa versa.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a very fine line but we'd definitely love to have a local guy to be wife's regular/kinda boyfriend! Best of both worlds, loving husband/wife relationship and lover/boyfriend setup for great regular naughty fun x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dangerous territory in my view.

If there is a dual relationship going on who knows what can happen.

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