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By *olly_chromatic OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

Seeming to find myself tired all the time, just emotionally low. Falling asleep in the day, then keeping awake at night. Undoubtedly connected with the pandemic, haven't been more than 20 miles from home since it started, seen hardly any friends in the real, not got much enthusiasm for in the virtual. A few people that I exchange text messages with once in a while, but faded out of things like kik groups.

No sex of any sort obviously, and getting to feel that part of my life might be over. If this pandemic ever ends I'm going to be too old anyway - few people are interested in an aging trans woman.

The entire world just seems to be turning to crap and it's getting increasingly hard to imagine it turning around any time soon.

I imagine that I'm not the only one here feeling like this, it's been a crappy time for all of us. Maybe it's just bank holiday blues, August BH is the last gasp before the year heads towards trees dropping leaves, wind and rain, cold dark nights.

If you've got friends and loved ones, particularly any you've not heard from for a while, reach out and let them know. Could be that they're low at the moment and finding it difficult to reach out themselves.

I guess no real point to this thread, except maybe to say it would be good if people could be kinder to each other, try to add a bit more happiness to the world and cut down the amount of misery that is submerging all of us.

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By *yron69Man
over a year ago

Fareham

Mix with kids. They are full of wonder and optimism.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well thanks be for this thread!

Sometimes it feels like youre all alone in your head with the crap feelings and no matter who you talk to they don’t get it.

Then a thread like this pops up and really theres more people in the same boat than first realised.

No idea what the answer is tbh or what to say thats not cliche or already been said by some well meaning soul.

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By *ugRollersCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

I think if you tell yourself the world is ending … it’ll end in your head. Think positive thoughts and just take life by the horns and live it, it’s too short to not mingle and be with people, join groups, start socialising … it’s wonderful to see people out and about again… we’ve just had a week off work and it was brilliant, sun shining just getting out and about. Go for a walk and exercise it massively helps your mood x

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By *stellaWoman
over a year ago

London

Sending you love

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish


"Seeming to find myself tired all the time, just emotionally low. Falling asleep in the day, then keeping awake at night. Undoubtedly connected with the pandemic, haven't been more than 20 miles from home since it started, seen hardly any friends in the real, not got much enthusiasm for in the virtual. A few people that I exchange text messages with once in a while, but faded out of things like kik groups.

No sex of any sort obviously, and getting to feel that part of my life might be over. If this pandemic ever ends I'm going to be too old anyway - few people are interested in an aging trans woman.

The entire world just seems to be turning to crap and it's getting increasingly hard to imagine it turning around any time soon.

I imagine that I'm not the only one here feeling like this, it's been a crappy time for all of us. Maybe it's just bank holiday blues, August BH is the last gasp before the year heads towards trees dropping leaves, wind and rain, cold dark nights.

If you've got friends and loved ones, particularly any you've not heard from for a while, reach out and let them know. Could be that they're low at the moment and finding it difficult to reach out themselves.

I guess no real point to this thread, except maybe to say it would be good if people could be kinder to each other, try to add a bit more happiness to the world and cut down the amount of misery that is submerging all of us."

Hi OP, I wondered if you had a dog?. Dogs get you out in the fresh air and a great way to meet other dog owners and make new friends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

((Hugs)) it’s a horrible time for many

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Big hugs. I think we are at a weird place ATM. All the early efforts are starting to wane and being more open is great for some ... But not others.

I'm not sure if I have many suggestions but I do now try and have more small talk chats when out. Every little helps.

Also suggest just walking and saying hi to every cat and dog.

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Ah Chuck I’m sorry you’re feeling like this. It’s been such a crap time. If you ever need a brew and a change of scenery give me a shout x

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By *topthepressMan
over a year ago

MANCHESTER

Yea let's all wrap people up in cotton wool ....

Bless people need a kick up the arse and get on with it life is not a party

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester


"Yea let's all wrap people up in cotton wool ....

Bless people need a kick up the arse and get on with it life is not a party"

Is it troll night tonight?!?

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By *liceinWonderland38Woman
over a year ago

Coventry

I have periods of feeling similar OP. To be honest I’m currently in a better place, hence why I’m back on here. When I’m feeling down I try to make the effort to reach out, to my brother, my friends and try and immerse myself in work. And sometimes I just lay on the sofa and watch Netflix, and that’s ok!!

Do you try and get out of your house every day, even for a 10 minute walk?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yea let's all wrap people up in cotton wool ....

Bless people need a kick up the arse and get on with it life is not a party

Is it troll night tonight?!? "
troll or trolls? Looks like the fella has two personas.

Very poor show to troll a thread when someone is suffering. I'm sure it helps them ejaculate tho.

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester


"Yea let's all wrap people up in cotton wool ....

Bless people need a kick up the arse and get on with it life is not a party

Is it troll night tonight?!? troll or trolls? Looks like the fella has two personas.

Very poor show to troll a thread when someone is suffering. I'm sure it helps them ejaculate tho. "

Exactly.. happens occasionally but it’s really out of order on some threads…

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"Yea let's all wrap people up in cotton wool ....

Bless people need a kick up the arse and get on with it life is not a party"

That is not helpful at all and tbh in the context of somebody clearly in distress, it feels cruel to post this. Do you feel good about posting this?

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"Seeming to find myself tired all the time, just emotionally low. Falling asleep in the day, then keeping awake at night. Undoubtedly connected with the pandemic, haven't been more than 20 miles from home since it started, seen hardly any friends in the real, not got much enthusiasm for in the virtual. A few people that I exchange text messages with once in a while, but faded out of things like kik groups.

No sex of any sort obviously, and getting to feel that part of my life might be over. If this pandemic ever ends I'm going to be too old anyway - few people are interested in an aging trans woman.

The entire world just seems to be turning to crap and it's getting increasingly hard to imagine it turning around any time soon.

I imagine that I'm not the only one here feeling like this, it's been a crappy time for all of us. Maybe it's just bank holiday blues, August BH is the last gasp before the year heads towards trees dropping leaves, wind and rain, cold dark nights.

If you've got friends and loved ones, particularly any you've not heard from for a while, reach out and let them know. Could be that they're low at the moment and finding it difficult to reach out themselves.

I guess no real point to this thread, except maybe to say it would be good if people could be kinder to each other, try to add a bit more happiness to the world and cut down the amount of misery that is submerging all of us."

You are expressing how you feel right now, and perhaps have been feeling for some time.

Can I ask you if you feel like this ALL the time? Or are the times when life seems a little easier?

If there are things that give you pleasure, what could you do more of to achieve this?

Sending you a big virtual hug xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seeming to find myself tired all the time, just emotionally low. Falling asleep in the day, then keeping awake at night. Undoubtedly connected with the pandemic, haven't been more than 20 miles from home since it started, seen hardly any friends in the real, not got much enthusiasm for in the virtual. A few people that I exchange text messages with once in a while, but faded out of things like kik groups.

No sex of any sort obviously, and getting to feel that part of my life might be over. If this pandemic ever ends I'm going to be too old anyway - few people are interested in an aging trans woman.

The entire world just seems to be turning to crap and it's getting increasingly hard to imagine it turning around any time soon.

I imagine that I'm not the only one here feeling like this, it's been a crappy time for all of us. Maybe it's just bank holiday blues, August BH is the last gasp before the year heads towards trees dropping leaves, wind and rain, cold dark nights.

If you've got friends and loved ones, particularly any you've not heard from for a while, reach out and let them know. Could be that they're low at the moment and finding it difficult to reach out themselves.

I guess no real point to this thread, except maybe to say it would be good if people could be kinder to each other, try to add a bit more happiness to the world and cut down the amount of misery that is submerging all of us."

Oh Polly, that is a beautiful post and so sorry you have been feeling like this, life has been difficult for us all in one way and another, you're right we should be checking in with each other

There will be cake and coffee one day and we Will sit and chat shit xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would you like to come stay with me for a couple of days Polly? I’ll feed you lovely food and make you laugh x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry you are feeling low/empty...

Have you had your blood checked for iron, vit D, vit b12 and thyroid?? Worth checking... I had zero energy and discovered my vit d was dangerously low and my thyroid is on the cusp of needing intervention. Once i had vit D increased, i was back to my nornal energetic self xx

Feel free to inbox me if you want to chat xx

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

I know how you feel Polly, had recent personal issues and health problems. Luckily I got some good news today, that’s helped with my feelings, but believe me you’re not alone.

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By *olly_chromatic OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

Thank you everyone for the nice words (thank you even to the troll, I'm going to take it that you do care but you're just a bit shy about expressing your feelings ).

I do feel a bit of a fake moaning on here about my first world problems, when at this exact time there are thousands in Kabul whose entire lives are disintegrating. And I'm certain the same in so many other places in the world as well.

Really, we should all be very thankful that on balance we're mostly doing okay here. Somebody very wise once said "be excellent to each other", not sure if it was Bill or if it was Ted, but anyway I feel it is very true. Let's all be excellent to each other and help all of us get through life together. Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thank you everyone for the nice words (thank you even to the troll, I'm going to take it that you do care but you're just a bit shy about expressing your feelings ).

I do feel a bit of a fake moaning on here about my first world problems, when at this exact time there are thousands in Kabul whose entire lives are disintegrating. And I'm certain the same in so many other places in the world as well.

Really, we should all be very thankful that on balance we're mostly doing okay here. Somebody very wise once said "be excellent to each other", not sure if it was Bill or if it was Ted, but anyway I feel it is very true. Let's all be excellent to each other and help all of us get through life together. Xxx"

Just to let you know I’ve read all of the above & so, so many are feeling like this, this week. I’ve found that deleting social media for a few days is helping, and occasionally hiding fab, too!

Don’t feel guilty for having feelings & comparing yourself to anyone else is never good. I do think writing or typing things out helps to empty your head of the intrusive thoughts & I hope knowing that a few of us are feeling a bit meh at the moment makes you feel a bit better xx

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By *olly_chromatic OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport


"Thank you everyone for the nice words (thank you even to the troll, I'm going to take it that you do care but you're just a bit shy about expressing your feelings ).

I do feel a bit of a fake moaning on here about my first world problems, when at this exact time there are thousands in Kabul whose entire lives are disintegrating. And I'm certain the same in so many other places in the world as well.

Really, we should all be very thankful that on balance we're mostly doing okay here. Somebody very wise once said "be excellent to each other", not sure if it was Bill or if it was Ted, but anyway I feel it is very true. Let's all be excellent to each other and help all of us get through life together. Xxx

Just to let you know I’ve read all of the above & so, so many are feeling like this, this week. I’ve found that deleting social media for a few days is helping, and occasionally hiding fab, too!

Don’t feel guilty for having feelings & comparing yourself to anyone else is never good. I do think writing or typing things out helps to empty your head of the intrusive thoughts & I hope knowing that a few of us are feeling a bit meh at the moment makes you feel a bit better xx"

xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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I do feel a bit of a fake moaning on here about my first world problems, when at this exact time there are thousands in Kabul whose entire lives are disintegrating. And I'm certain the same in so many other places in the world as well.

Really, we should all be very thankful that on balance we're mostly doing okay here. "

But everything is relative as someone very wise once said to me... Your feelings are very valid and hopefully you'll start to fill your soul with joy again soon

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By *olly_chromatic OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport


"Seeming to find myself tired all the time, just emotionally low. Falling asleep in the day, then keeping awake at night. Undoubtedly connected with the pandemic, haven't been more than 20 miles from home since it started, seen hardly any friends in the real, not got much enthusiasm for in the virtual. A few people that I exchange text messages with once in a while, but faded out of things like kik groups.

No sex of any sort obviously, and getting to feel that part of my life might be over. If this pandemic ever ends I'm going to be too old anyway - few people are interested in an aging trans woman.

The entire world just seems to be turning to crap and it's getting increasingly hard to imagine it turning around any time soon.

I imagine that I'm not the only one here feeling like this, it's been a crappy time for all of us. Maybe it's just bank holiday blues, August BH is the last gasp before the year heads towards trees dropping leaves, wind and rain, cold dark nights.

If you've got friends and loved ones, particularly any you've not heard from for a while, reach out and let them know. Could be that they're low at the moment and finding it difficult to reach out themselves.

I guess no real point to this thread, except maybe to say it would be good if people could be kinder to each other, try to add a bit more happiness to the world and cut down the amount of misery that is submerging all of us.

You are expressing how you feel right now, and perhaps have been feeling for some time.

Can I ask you if you feel like this ALL the time? Or are the times when life seems a little easier?

If there are things that give you pleasure, what could you do more of to achieve this?

Sending you a big virtual hug xx"

Thank you xxx

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By *olly_chromatic OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport


"I have periods of feeling similar OP. To be honest I’m currently in a better place, hence why I’m back on here. When I’m feeling down I try to make the effort to reach out, to my brother, my friends and try and immerse myself in work. And sometimes I just lay on the sofa and watch Netflix, and that’s ok!!

Do you try and get out of your house every day, even for a 10 minute walk?"

Hi Alice, thank you for the kind words. Yes I do try to get get out for a short walk most days, I'm fortunate to live pretty near to a riverside and heathland nature area, which does give me a lift. Seeing the different types of plants and flowers coming out through the year, listening to the birdsong, even sometimes things like noticing the telltale stink from a fox marking the area...

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By *olly_chromatic OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport


"Ah Chuck I’m sorry you’re feeling like this. It’s been such a crap time. If you ever need a brew and a change of scenery give me a shout x"

Will do sometime. You might need to drop me a DM, your filters don't let me get through to you... Polly xxx

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By *olly_chromatic OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport


"Seeming to find myself tired all the time, just emotionally low. Falling asleep in the day, then keeping awake at night. Undoubtedly connected with the pandemic, haven't been more than 20 miles from home since it started, seen hardly any friends in the real, not got much enthusiasm for in the virtual. A few people that I exchange text messages with once in a while, but faded out of things like kik groups.

No sex of any sort obviously, and getting to feel that part of my life might be over. If this pandemic ever ends I'm going to be too old anyway - few people are interested in an aging trans woman.

The entire world just seems to be turning to crap and it's getting increasingly hard to imagine it turning around any time soon.

I imagine that I'm not the only one here feeling like this, it's been a crappy time for all of us. Maybe it's just bank holiday blues, August BH is the last gasp before the year heads towards trees dropping leaves, wind and rain, cold dark nights.

If you've got friends and loved ones, particularly any you've not heard from for a while, reach out and let them know. Could be that they're low at the moment and finding it difficult to reach out themselves.

I guess no real point to this thread, except maybe to say it would be good if people could be kinder to each other, try to add a bit more happiness to the world and cut down the amount of misery that is submerging all of us.

Hi OP, I wondered if you had a dog?. Dogs get you out in the fresh air and a great way to meet other dog owners and make new friends."

No dog I do have friends that have a dog, sadly someone else that I've not met up with since before covid - distance... Dogs are really good!

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

Sorry you’re feeling like this Polly. I’m feeling similar, I put it down to the after effects of having Covid. Maybe it’s just the after effects of the whole pandemic.

I think people are the only thing that help me. I had a couple of days spent with friends recently and I felt like a new woman, maybe seeing some faces would help?

I hope you find a way to perk up a bit. Feeling like you do us wretched, hope it shifts soon.

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By *olly_chromatic OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport


"Well thanks be for this thread!

Sometimes it feels like youre all alone in your head with the crap feelings and no matter who you talk to they don’t get it.

Then a thread like this pops up and really theres more people in the same boat than first realised.

No idea what the answer is tbh or what to say thats not cliche or already been said by some well meaning soul. "

Thank you for what you have said. It really does help to know that I'm not the only one that sometimes feels like this. Hugs, Polly xxx

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By *olly_chromatic OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport


"Sorry you’re feeling like this Polly. I’m feeling similar, I put it down to the after effects of having Covid. Maybe it’s just the after effects of the whole pandemic.

I think people are the only thing that help me. I had a couple of days spent with friends recently and I felt like a new woman, maybe seeing some faces would help?

I hope you find a way to perk up a bit. Feeling like you do us wretched, hope it shifts soon. "

Thank you xxx

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I have a sense of "badness" at the moment, you're certainly not alone.

Work is incredibly busy, I'm tired. I know more people with covid right at this minute than all the others added up together from the start of the pandemic.

I'm due to see my son for the first time in over a year n half in a fortnight and had a full on panic attack at work on Thursday. Customers leaning over the bar ... dude, back up. I can almost feel your breath

I know I'm gonna catch covid. It's inevitable. But the thought of catching it within the next 2 weeks when I'm sooooo close to seeing my child, to holding my child for the first time in 19 months and having him hold me back is tipping me over the edge.

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By *dam1971Man
over a year ago

Bedford


"I have a sense of "badness" at the moment, you're certainly not alone.

Work is incredibly busy, I'm tired. I know more people with covid right at this minute than all the others added up together from the start of the pandemic.

I'm due to see my son for the first time in over a year n half in a fortnight and had a full on panic attack at work on Thursday. Customers leaning over the bar ... dude, back up. I can almost feel your breath

I know I'm gonna catch covid. It's inevitable. But the thought of catching it within the next 2 weeks when I'm sooooo close to seeing my child, to holding my child for the first time in 19 months and having him hold me back is tipping me over the edge."

Serious answer: hugs and do what you can to stay safe but even if you catch it, it will just mean a short delay. Don’t worry x

My normal answer: carry a water pistol for people who get too close

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By *iltopbearMan
over a year ago

Norfolk

It's just a feeling OP, it will go away, you will feel better x.

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

Ah, Polly. So sorry you're feeling like this. I hope you start to feel better knowing that you're loved & cared for by lovely people on here.

It may be a "first world problem", but that doesn't invalidate your feelings.

I'd love to meet up for tea & cake with you & put a smile on your face and remind you that you're not the only one going through this & that it will pass.

Feel free to inbox me xx

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I made the mistake of watching a documentary on 9/11 and that, along with recent world events has left me feeling a bit funny. Not vulnerable as such but ….I dunno. Hard to explain.

You have to (try) to remember (as do I!) that for every negative news item there is a positive not being reported.

For every act of hate there is an act of love. But that doesn’t sell newspapers.

Try to stay in the light Polly and not wander too far into the darkness. X

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By *olly_chromatic OP   TV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport


"Ah, Polly. So sorry you're feeling like this. I hope you start to feel better knowing that you're loved & cared for by lovely people on here.

It may be a "first world problem", but that doesn't invalidate your feelings.

I'd love to meet up for tea & cake with you & put a smile on your face and remind you that you're not the only one going through this & that it will pass.

Feel free to inbox me xx"

Love to have cake with you sometime as well Red. You'll have to inbox me before I can you though, apparently I'm too old for your filters (or maybe I'm too young ). Polly xxx

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.


"Ah, Polly. So sorry you're feeling like this. I hope you start to feel better knowing that you're loved & cared for by lovely people on here.

It may be a "first world problem", but that doesn't invalidate your feelings.

I'd love to meet up for tea & cake with you & put a smile on your face and remind you that you're not the only one going through this & that it will pass.

Feel free to inbox me xx

Love to have cake with you sometime as well Red. You'll have to inbox me before I can you though, apparently I'm too old for your filters (or maybe I'm too young ). Polly xxx"

I'll message you now, lovely. Yeah, filters set to 55. Sorry!! Xx

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