FabSwingers.com forum: How to be Happy ?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The famous psychiatrist Carl Jung suggested five key elements to happiness:

Good physical and mental health.

Good personal and intimate relationships.

The abilty to perceive beauty in art and nature.

Reasonable standards of living and satisfactory work.

A philosophic or religious point of view capable of coping with life's challenges

Was he right, or would you add or remove anything on that list?

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Cake.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Acceptance that happiness is a human concept that will always remain fleeting at best and the only true way is that of contentment.

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By *ildmanYorksMan
over a year ago

Doncaster & Bembridge

"Cake. "

With a chocolate buttercream filling and chocolate icing!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The famous psychiatrist Carl Jung suggested five key elements to happiness:

Good physical and mental health.

Good personal and intimate relationships.

The abilty to perceive beauty in art and nature.

Reasonable standards of living and satisfactory work.

A philosophic or religious point of view capable of coping with life's challenges

Was he right, or would you add or remove anything on that list?

All sounds like a lot of hard work

No,I'm quite content being a grumpy bastard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The famous psychiatrist Carl Jung suggested five key elements to happiness:

Good physical and mental health.

Good personal and intimate relationships.

The abilty to perceive beauty in art and nature.

Reasonable standards of living and satisfactory work.

A philosophic or religious point of view capable of coping with life's challenges

Was he right, or would you add or remove anything on that list?

I like this list. I think these things make me contended in my life, I feel grateful I have them all actually.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Acceptance that happiness is a human concept that will always remain fleeting at best and the only true way is that of contentment. "

I strongly agree with that. No other species strives for happiness as we do.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Cake. "

Well Jung spent plenty of time in Vienna so I'm sure he was partial to a good coffee and kuchen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Avoid women with daddy issues.

That's why princess leia was in a stripper costume by the 3rd movie.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Was he right, or would you add or remove anything on that list?

I like this list. I think these things make me contended in my life, I feel grateful I have them all actually."

Thanks, and I'm glad you've found more contentment than your boxing namesake.

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By *issAphroditeWoman
over a year ago

Norwich

I would say learn to not suffer the burden of other people's expectations. In other words - give fewer fucks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cake. "

Just had some chocolate cake haha, makes everything better lol

C x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *rotic ma55age therapistMan
over a year ago

Beckenham

DON'T GET MARRIED.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Avocado

Hummus

Garlic

Chilli

Good Food in general

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get a cat (or a dog!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would add living in gratitude to that list. Every day, I write down three things in grateful for. Gives me a warm fuzzy feeling.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

"Acceptance that happiness is a human concept that will always remain fleeting at best and the only true way is that of contentment.

I strongly agree with that. No other species strives for happiness as we do."

How do we know? Have we asked the chimpanzees or orangutans or lions etc if they strive for happiness?!

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Chilli and chocolate

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"Cake.

With a chocolate buttercream filling and chocolate icing!

Try this on for size

https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/meets/1197863

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't grow up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The famous psychiatrist Carl Jung suggested five key elements to happiness:

Good physical and mental health.

Good personal and intimate relationships.

The abilty to perceive beauty in art and nature.

Reasonable standards of living and satisfactory work.

A philosophic or religious point of view capable of coping with life's challenges

Was he right, or would you add or remove anything on that list?

I've never aimed for happiness, it's fleeting and subjective.

Peace is better to aim for.

But if I must;

Cheese, cheese and a bit more cheese. With some garlic pickle.

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

"The famous psychiatrist Carl Jung suggested five key elements to happiness:

Good physical and mental health.

Good personal and intimate relationships.

The abilty to perceive beauty in art and nature.

Reasonable standards of living and satisfactory work.

A philosophic or religious point of view capable of coping with life's challenges

Was he right, or would you add or remove anything on that list?

I tend to agree, all I could add is that relationships also include our pets and other animals

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"The famous psychiatrist Carl Jung suggested five key elements to happiness:

Good physical and mental health.

Good personal and intimate relationships.

The abilty to perceive beauty in art and nature.

Reasonable standards of living and satisfactory work.

A philosophic or religious point of view capable of coping with life's challenges

Was he right, or would you add or remove anything on that list?

He needed more Lego

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think he's pretty spot on...but I'd swap the word happy with content

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

No wonder I'm always so miserable.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Cake.

With a chocolate buttercream filling and chocolate icing!

Try this on for size

https://www.fabswingers.com/forum/meets/1197863"

Heh, no in-thread advertising!

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"The famous psychiatrist Carl Jung suggested five key elements to happiness:

Good physical and mental health.

Good personal and intimate relationships.

The abilty to perceive beauty in art and nature.

Reasonable standards of living and satisfactory work.

A philosophic or religious point of view capable of coping with life's challenges

Was he right, or would you add or remove anything on that list?

All sounds like a lot of hard work

No,I'm quite content being a grumpy bastard

So am I

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Get a cat (or a dog!)

Yes.

I'm sure daily, friendly contact with other animals improves our well being, whatever Essex Tom says.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Acceptance that happiness is a human concept that will always remain fleeting at best and the only true way is that of contentment.

I strongly agree with that. No other species strives for happiness as we do.

How do we know? Have we asked the chimpanzees or orangutans or lions etc if they strive for happiness?! "

Lacking a common language that would be difficult, but it's true that there's growing acknowledgement of conscious self awareness in other species.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I would add living in gratitude to that list. Every day, I write down three things in grateful for. Gives me a warm fuzzy feeling. "

Very good practical addition. I'm going to try this one.

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

Never act your age

Laughing so much your face hurts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would add living in gratitude to that list. Every day, I write down three things in grateful for. Gives me a warm fuzzy feeling. "

Aww that’s nice what was Sunday’s

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's Happy I'm confused

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Never act your age

Laughing so much your face hurts

So stay Jung at heart ? (groan)

And laughter really can be the best medicine, yes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What's Happy I'm confused

I'm sorry if it's elusive at the moment.

Inbox always open.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What's Happy I'm confused

I'm sorry if it's elusive at the moment.

Inbox always open."

Thank you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would add living in gratitude to that list. Every day, I write down three things in grateful for. Gives me a warm fuzzy feeling.

Aww that’s nice what was Sunday’s

Waterfalls, gorgeous countryside, my comfy bed.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Animals make me happy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Animals make me happy."

Like yourself, my well being is hugely enhanced by my dog.

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By *oubleswing2019Man
over a year ago

Colchester

Goals are deceptive. The un-aimed arrow never misses.

To be rich, desire less.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He was right

However Maslow’s triangle of building blocks

I find more realistic

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Agree with the OP but I’d add it’s about being content with what you have, how you deal with change along with acceptance of it and appreciating the simple things in life.

It’s rare there isn’t a day I find something to smile at or be grateful for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Follow your passion, stay true to yourself, never follow someone else’s path

...unless you’re in the woods, and you’re lost, and you see a path, then by all means you should follow that!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Goals are deceptive. The un-aimed arrow never misses.

To be rich, desire less.

Taoism?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"He was right

However Maslow’s triangle of building blocks

I find more realistic "

Thanks, I've never heard of those but will check it out.

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Appreciate the simple things in life.

Have a healthy sex life....that increases happiness levels

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Agree with the OP but I’d add it’s about being content with what you have, how you deal with change along with acceptance of it and appreciating the simple things in life.

It’s rare there isn’t a day I find something to smile at or be grateful for. "

Acceptance has very much been my life philosophy as I've got older if not wiser. Pleasure in simplicity, also.

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

Luck.

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

I’d add the ability to enjoy the moment. Too much is lost in looking for things that haven’t happened yet.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Follow your passion, stay true to yourself, never follow someone else’s path

...unless you’re in the woods, and you’re lost, and you see a path, then by all means you should follow that!"

I've always preferred the path less taken, which explains a lot !

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

"Agree with the OP but I’d add it’s about being content with what you have, how you deal with change along with acceptance of it and appreciating the simple things in life.

It’s rare there isn’t a day I find something to smile at or be grateful for.

Acceptance has very much been my life philosophy as I've got older if not wiser. Pleasure in simplicity, also."

Acceptance I learnt but I’ve never looked back since.

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By *oubleswing2019Man
over a year ago

Colchester

"Goals are deceptive. The un-aimed arrow never misses.

To be rich, desire less.

Taoism? "

Hawaiian, but possibly pinched from The Tao.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"Acceptance that happiness is a human concept that will always remain fleeting at best and the only true way is that of contentment. "

I think as humans we keep pushing boundaries and pursuing higher and higher levels of impact and enlightenment as we solve all the basic needs of safety, food, health , relationships, spiritual development.

There’s a concept called flourishing I think Martin Seligman developed the research but it goes far beyond well being , contentment and happiness, this like flow, gratitude, shaping the future.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Appreciate the simple things in life.

Have a healthy sex life....that increases happiness levels

Like any good psychiatrist Jung thought a lot about sex so I'm sure he included a healthy sex life under his 'intimate' relationships.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

There’s a concept called flourishing I think Martin Seligman developed the research but it goes far beyond well being , contentment and happiness, this like flow, gratitude, shaping the future."

Another new concept to me, so more research which I'm sure will be productive.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I’d add the ability to enjoy the moment. Too much is lost in looking for things that haven’t happened yet. "

I think this ties in with CJ's idea of contentment rather than happiness as an ideal, and the embrace of acceptance which Spurs referred to.

Really thoughtful replies, thanks to all.

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By *tue555Man
over a year ago

Passed Beyond Reach

Happiness for most is just an illusion spoon fed to us by those who wish to exploit us.

True happiness comes from within, understanding, enlightenment, knowing what we want and not what others want us to want.

Oh and beer and cake

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By *luebassMan
over a year ago

Worthing

All the Jung suggestions are excellent Maslow type starters for sure.

For what it's worth I had an epiphany about 20 years ago after seeing a documentary about religion.

I had often had times, like most of high highs and low lows.

A guy on there, Richard Dawkins may have been on it I just remembered. A guy on there encapsulated what I have always known since.

I know it's obvious and somewhat clichéd but I know it, not believe.

Notwithstanding the personal essentials that Jung espoused.

The secret to happiness is the propensity to selflessly help others. It's irrelevant if you know them or they're strangers. In my humble opinion that, is the meaning of life.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Dance with bahuma

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The secret to happiness is the propensity to selflessly help others. It's irrelevant if you know them or they're strangers. In my humble opinion that, is the meaning of life."

That is a very inspiring thought.

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

"The famous psychiatrist Carl Jung suggested five key elements to happiness:

Good physical and mental health.

Good personal and intimate relationships.

The abilty to perceive beauty in art and nature.

Reasonable standards of living and satisfactory work.

A philosophic or religious point of view capable of coping with life's challenges

Was he right, or would you add or remove anything on that list?

Yep. I can tick all those boxes.

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

Be yourself, never change for the benefit of another, smile often, explore the world, dance, laugh and surround yourself with people who are good for your well-being!

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By *orny PTMan
over a year ago

Peterborough

"Be yourself, never change for the benefit of another, smile often, explore the world, dance, laugh and surround yourself with people who are good for your well-being!

Xx"

Being yourself is a dangerous mantra, when you have major mental health issuses.

Being insecure, depressed and extremely shy are not helpful, they can cripple someone's chance of ever finding happiness. Change is a must, as is changing your outlook.

Imagine being a natural pessimist in a room full of optimists...now ask if being your same self doubting self, needs to change.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happiness is the feeling you experience just before you want more.

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By *rs mischiefWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

Not caring what other people think of you. It's taken me a long time, but have learnt this recently. It has truly made me happier!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting thread

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