FabSwingers.com forum: Topical terminology

By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

When receiving a message, which word(s) are a turn off for you? Asking everybody, male and female.

I know some people like to refer to themselves as "sluts" etc but there is a difference between what you refer to yourself as and what somebody else gets to call you.

As a woman, as an example I do not particularly appreciate being referred to as a "whore in the bedroom". Am I overthinking this and too sensitive?

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By *ormorantMan
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Babe.

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"Babe."

You dont like being called babe?

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

If I received a message with any of those references it would be binned and blocked

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By *ormorantMan
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

"Babe.

You dont like being called babe?"

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"If I received a message with any of those references it would be binned and blocked

That is how I feel tbh - I know in the context of this site, normal standards may not necessarily apply but still, some words are off the menu really, aren't they?

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

It’s still okay for me to refer to Jezebels, wenches and harlots though right?

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"Babe.

You dont like being called babe?

No "

Understood - interestingly that one does not bother me as much but I guess it is different for a man.

Tbh I immediately associate the term "babe" with the movie about pigs.

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

….and brazen hussies?

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Usually any sentence with the words now and meet in them is an immediate turn off because they haven't read my profile.

Strangely another one is when they use my profile name at least one in each sentence. If it's an attempt at familiarity it has the opposite effect.

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"It’s still okay for me to refer to Jezebels, wenches and harlots though right?

Who would you like to address int his way and what is your risk appetite like today ?;-)

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

"Babe."

To be honest, this makes me cringe a little as well.

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By *harlotteBigBoobsWoman
over a year ago

Hull

Oh I love been called babe, can't stand baby now that's puts me off and my lady parts been referred to as a cunt, instant block x

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"Usually any sentence with the words now and meet in them is an immediate turn off because they haven't read my profile.

Strangely another one is when they use my profile name at least one in each sentence. If it's an attempt at familiarity it has the opposite effect. "

Understood

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"….and brazen hussies?"

Maybe not great....

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"Oh I love been called babe, can't stand baby now that's puts me off and my lady parts been referred to as a cunt, instant block x"
Can't stand the latter either... really cannot!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love being called babe to be fair x ha

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"I love being called babe to be fair x ha

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

"I love being called babe to be fair x ha

I guess if you’re an older guy like me, it just doesn’t seem right

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

When they feel the need to tell me they are a “good catch” or similar and list things like gorgeous, fit, intelligent….. I just read it as “awful personality’

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"When they feel the need to tell me they are a “good catch” or similar and list things like gorgeous, fit, intelligent….. I just read it as “awful personality’"

Hey, you really are a good catch, aren't you?

;-)

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By *assConductorMan
over a year ago

the wild

Hun.

Makes me think of people peddling MLM schemes on social media.

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"Hun.

Makes me think of people peddling MLM schemes on social media. "

Don't like "hun" either for different reasons to "whore"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any sort off pet names honny babe princess cringe

Also anything references slut whore slag or anything along those lines

Yes I like to be called names like that but only by people who I meet and are a regular playmate

Randoms or first message definitely a big no no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find "no" a bit of a turn off

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"Any sort off pet names honny babe princess cringe

Also anything references slut whore slag or anything along those lines

Yes I like to be called names like that but only by people who I meet and are a regular playmate

Randoms or first message definitely a big no no

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I thought I was on my own - good to know

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"I find "no" a bit of a turn off"

There is always the one ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find "no" a bit of a turn off

There is always the one ....

Sorry. Real pain in the ass day at work!!

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"I find "no" a bit of a turn off

There is always the one ....

Sorry. Real pain in the ass day at work!! "
Hey, no sweat - I thought it was a funny response. Made me chuckle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Any sort off pet names honny babe princess cringe

Also anything references slut whore slag or anything along those lines

Yes I like to be called names like that but only by people who I meet and are a regular playmate

Randoms or first message definitely a big no no

Over familiar strangers give me the creeps -

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"I find "no" a bit of a turn off

There is always the one ....

Sorry. Real pain in the ass day at work!! Hey, no sweat - I thought it was a funny response. Made me chuckle.

PS Hope your day gets better as it progresses.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Any sort off pet names honny babe princess cringe

Also anything references slut whore slag or anything along those lines

Yes I like to be called names like that but only by people who I meet and are a regular playmate

Randoms or first message definitely a big no no

I thought I was on my own - good to know

Definitely not on your own with that one

When I random or a one night stand calls me things like that kind off makes me feel degrading it’s a different story if it’s a regular playmate I don’t mind and love being called things like that kind off a odd one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not so much the words but how they are used when it shows a lack of intelligence or understanding of the context of words

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"Not so much the words but how they are used when it shows a lack of intelligence or understanding of the context of words"

And maybe sometimes it is about the (lack of) gender sensitivity to a particular word, like "babe" as said earlier for a man, "whore" for a woman?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Any sort off pet names honny babe princess cringe

Also anything references slut whore slag or anything along those lines

Yes I like to be called names like that but only by people who I meet and are a regular playmate

Randoms or first message definitely a big no no

Over familiar strangers give me the creeps -

Yes can do

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"Any sort off pet names honny babe princess cringe

Also anything references slut whore slag or anything along those lines

Yes I like to be called names like that but only by people who I meet and are a regular playmate

Randoms or first message definitely a big no no

Over familiar strangers give me the creeps -

Me, too - it feels a bit manipulative.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find "no" a bit of a turn off

There is always the one ....

Sorry. Real pain in the ass day at work!! Hey, no sweat - I thought it was a funny response. Made me chuckle.

PS Hope your day gets better as it progresses.

Thank you. Not long to go thankfully

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not so much the words but how they are used when it shows a lack of intelligence or understanding of the context of words

And maybe sometimes it is about the (lack of) gender sensitivity to a particular word, like "babe" as said earlier for a man, "whore" for a woman?"

Yes words can be degrading without the person ever realising because they how they 1) normally speak 2) they are playing into gender stereotypes/roles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Any sort off pet names honny babe princess cringe

Also anything references slut whore slag or anything along those lines

Yes I like to be called names like that but only by people who I meet and are a regular playmate

Randoms or first message definitely a big no no

Over familiar strangers give me the creeps -

What do you mean by over familiar? I normally chat quite easily

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By *andare63Man
over a year ago

oldham

To be honest referring to someone as a slut or whore doesn't sit well with me.

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"To be honest referring to someone as a slut or whore doesn't sit well with me. "

Really good to hear!

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By *andare63Man
over a year ago

oldham

"To be honest referring to someone as a slut or whore doesn't sit well with me.

Really good to hear!

Probably a bit too old fashioned for a site such as this

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

You're deffo not alone op, if I got slut /whore /slag in a message it would be delete and block.

Hate over familiar terms like hun/sexi/babe on first messages too.

I think people have to gage the individual they're messaging, if they refer to themselves as slut/whore, that's different to someone who makes no reference to it.

I also detest Wuu2 or wuin2?

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"You're deffo not alone op, if I got slut /whore /slag in a message it would be delete and block.

Hate over familiar terms like hun/sexi/babe on first messages too.

I think people have to gage the individual they're messaging, if they refer to themselves as slut/whore, that's different to someone who makes no reference to it.

I also detest Wuu2 or wuin2? "

Totally!

Out of interest... I am clearly behind the times, what does WUUU2 and WUIN2 actually mean?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For some reason, Hey Hows you? gets an instant block, how ARE you would be be fine though

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By *andsome HandMan
over a year ago

roundabout

Paddy unless it's another Paddy calling me Paddy

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"For some reason, Hey Hows you? gets an instant block, how ARE you would be be fine though"
I don't like butchered English either really.

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"Paddy unless it's another Paddy calling me Paddy"

That I do understand. It is an assumption that this is ok... but it is not really ok,is it?

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By *andsome HandMan
over a year ago

roundabout

"Paddy unless it's another Paddy calling me Paddy

That I do understand. It is an assumption that this is ok... but it is not really ok,is it? "

I've several friends of different nationalities that call me it but tbf I use similar terms for them. I've been called Paddy by people as a slur and it wasn't cool.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dad or Daddy or Sir

I prefer to take control in a sexual encounter, but I am not a Dom or an Alpha either

In fact, most terms that imply hyper-masculinity are a bit too cringe for me

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

"You're deffo not alone op, if I got slut /whore /slag in a message it would be delete and block.

Hate over familiar terms like hun/sexi/babe on first messages too.

I think people have to gage the individual they're messaging, if they refer to themselves as slut/whore, that's different to someone who makes no reference to it.

I also detest Wuu2 or wuin2?

Totally!

Out of interest... I am clearly behind the times, what does WUUU2 and WUIN2 actually mean?

What you in to and what you up to?. Took me a while

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"You're deffo not alone op, if I got slut /whore /slag in a message it would be delete and block.

Hate over familiar terms like hun/sexi/babe on first messages too.

I think people have to gage the individual they're messaging, if they refer to themselves as slut/whore, that's different to someone who makes no reference to it.

I also detest Wuu2 or wuin2?

Totally!

Out of interest... I am clearly behind the times, what does WUUU2 and WUIN2 actually mean?

What you in to and what you up to?. Took me a while

Ah - now I know where I have been going wrong ...

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By *phrodite OP Woman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"Dad or Daddy or Sir

I prefer to take control in a sexual encounter, but I am not a Dom or an Alpha either

In fact, most terms that imply hyper-masculinity are a bit too cringe for me"
Feels cringe even to me tbh.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Hun and hon but weirdly don't mind honey. I'm a contrary creature.

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