FabSwingers.com forum: Soooo

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Someone I've been meeting outside of here has popped up on here, trying to chat unaware of who I am.

Things have cooled off for unknown reason irl, should I be honest with who I am or play along?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't play games

That's kinda shitty

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

I’d be honest

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By *pslad99Man
over a year ago

colchester

Play along

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By *elilah999Woman
over a year ago

Malton

"Someone I've been meeting outside of here has popped up on here, trying to chat unaware of who I am.

Things have cooled off for unknown reason irl, should I be honest with who I am or play along?

Be honest. If that was a guy people would be ripping him a new one.

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By *elilah999Woman
over a year ago

Malton

"Don't play games

That's kinda shitty "

This 100%

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

What’s the outcome if you do? What’s the outcome if you don’t? Which one is positive (do that) which one isn’t (don’t do that)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you 100% sure it's them?

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

Give them a clue! Play guess who!

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Does he like Pina coladas

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Someone I've been meeting outside of here has popped up on here, trying to chat unaware of who I am.

Things have cooled off for unknown reason irl, should I be honest with who I am or play along?

Play along with what? Only one playing would be you. I would be honest.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Are you 100% sure it's them?"

Yep it's defo him.

Surely we all faced this dilemma?

I'm not a nasty person but he's ignored me today but messaged me here

Not good on a ladies ego

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"Someone I've been meeting outside of here has popped up on here, trying to chat unaware of who I am.

Things have cooled off for unknown reason irl, should I be honest with who I am or play along?

Why would you want to mess someone around? What's the point?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What’s the outcome if you do? What’s the outcome if you don’t? Which one is positive (do that) which one isn’t (don’t do that) "

Don't expect a positive outcome either way tbh

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By *ornynorfolkguyMan
over a year ago

North Norfolk

Honesty is the best policy. I’d be telling him ASAP.

Just think if the boot was on the other foot and how you would feel?

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

"Are you 100% sure it's them?

Yep it's defo him.

Surely we all faced this dilemma?

I'm not a nasty person but he's ignored me today but messaged me here

Not good on a ladies ego "

If you are on here for your ego, you may need to rethink your choice of website.

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By *elshkinkyMan
over a year ago

south wales

"Are you 100% sure it's them?

Yep it's defo him.

Surely we all faced this dilemma?

I'm not a nasty person but he's ignored me today but messaged me here

Not good on a ladies ego "

I’d probably ask him a few questions etc… see if he is honest with you … then come clean

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Are you 100% sure it's them?

Yep it's defo him.

Surely we all faced this dilemma?

I'm not a nasty person but he's ignored me today but messaged me here

Not good on a ladies ego

If you are on here for your ego, you may need to rethink your choice of website. "

True

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has he gone cool in real life because he thinks he prefers the 'you' on here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell him that he didn't like you I'm rl so he won't here either

Then block on both

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Maybe ask him straight out if he's on any other hook up sites...then spill the beans that you are..and see what happens

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

"Are you 100% sure it's them?

Yep it's defo him.

Surely we all faced this dilemma?

I'm not a nasty person but he's ignored me today but messaged me here

Not good on a ladies ego "

But you said things had cooled off on real life? Maybe ask him outright, why he's no longer interested (not on here!). Then, judging by his answer, tell him the truth here.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Tell him that he didn't like you I'm rl so he won't here either

Then block on both "

Best answer so far

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Sounds like you should block him on both platforms and move on.

If he’s not messaging on one but finding time to chase, what he thinks is a new woman, then he’s moved on already.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Be honest op

You're on here too, so can't get annoyed he is.

If it's just casual, maybe he doesn't realise that you expect him not to be on sites like this.

Talking is the best way in my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If he's cooled off in real life and is using this site actively, I'm sorry to say it sounds like he's lost interest.

I would just end it with him (unless he's a boyfriend, then I would talk about things first) and block him on here too.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"Sounds like you should block him on both platforms and move on.

If he’s not messaging on one but finding time to chase, what he thinks is a new woman, then he’s moved on already.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Be honest op

You're on here too, so can't get annoyed he is.

If it's just casual, maybe he doesn't realise that you expect him not to be on sites like this.

Talking is the best way in my opinion. "

Yeah it was casual, no feelings.

Still shitty though in my opinion.

Honesty it is

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By *acksLamentMan
over a year ago

Chester

"Someone I've been meeting outside of here has popped up on here, trying to chat unaware of who I am.

Things have cooled off for unknown reason irl, should I be honest with who I am or play along?

Maybe he does know it's you and he's already playing games??

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Someone I've been meeting outside of here has popped up on here, trying to chat unaware of who I am.

Things have cooled off for unknown reason irl, should I be honest with who I am or play along?

Maybe he does know it's you and he's already playing games?? "

Fair point...

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Someone I've been meeting outside of here has popped up on here, trying to chat unaware of who I am.

Things have cooled off for unknown reason irl, should I be honest with who I am or play along?

Maybe he does know it's you and he's already playing games?? "

This was my thoughts too

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By *acksLamentMan
over a year ago

Chester

"Someone I've been meeting outside of here has popped up on here, trying to chat unaware of who I am.

Things have cooled off for unknown reason irl, should I be honest with who I am or play along?

Maybe he does know it's you and he's already playing games??

This was my thoughts too"

Great minds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm calling bullshit on the entire premise. I hope I'm wrong. I'd like my cynicism to be proved wrong once in a while. Sadly it never is.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm calling bullshit on the entire premise. I hope I'm wrong. I'd like my cynicism to be proved wrong once in a while. Sadly it never is."

What do you mean?

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By *ormorantMan
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Have you disclosed your on here..?? I think not..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Someone I've been meeting outside of here has popped up on here, trying to chat unaware of who I am.

Things have cooled off for unknown reason irl, should I be honest with who I am or play along?

Life's too short for playing games. Tell him it's you, and block him here and I'm real life. It's obvious he is playing games , don't stoop to his level.

Oh and before you block him, update your status to "I'm not meeting" - that should get the message to him loud and clear LOL

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Be honest sweety x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Have you disclosed your on here..?? I think not.."

No, it was only Fwb

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Be honest sweety x"

Plan to. Thanks x

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

If message him to let him know who you are. But let him know that because he’s ignored you and cooled off irl that there’s no point continuing to chat on here. Then block.

If he’s a dick that treats you like shit then you don’t need to one him.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Be honest sweety x

Plan to. Thanks x"

Xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"If message him to let him know who you are. But let him know that because he’s ignored you and cooled off irl that there’s no point continuing to chat on here. Then block.

If he’s a dick that treats you like shit then you don’t need to one him. "

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By *ormorantMan
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

"Have you disclosed your on here..?? I think not..

No, it was only Fwb"
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Quid pro quo

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By *agneto.Man
over a year ago

Bham

Maybe you being on here and into swinging might add attraction to you that he might not have known about or was missing in real life.

It could make the real life relationship better so I'd be honest.

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By *B69Woman
over a year ago

Wiltshire

If he wasn’t interested in you away from here then I wouldn’t give him the time of day, block and don’t look back

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By *ormorantMan
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Am I missing something..??

It was a FWB relationship with both parties enjoying the benefits.

One party is on here seeking alternative benefits.

The second party is on here seeking alternative benefits.

Both hiding the fact from the other party..

Why is the male getting slaughtered for his behaviour which is identical in both instances..??

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

"Am I missing something..??

It was a FWB relationship with both parties enjoying the benefits.

One party is on here seeking alternative benefits.

The second party is on here seeking alternative benefits.

Both hiding the fact from the other party..

Why is the male getting slaughtered for his behaviour which is identical in both instances..??"

He's not being slaughtered at all.

Most replies are telling the OP to be honest & not play games.

I'd be giving the same advice whatever sex the OP was

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

"Am I missing something..??

It was a FWB relationship with both parties enjoying the benefits.

One party is on here seeking alternative benefits.

The second party is on here seeking alternative benefits.

Both hiding the fact from the other party..

Why is the male getting slaughtered for his behaviour which is identical in both instances..??"

Huh

People have said be honest to the OP

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By *ormorantMan
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Think a re read of some of the comments are required….

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I had a very similar experience when i first joined on here. He treated me very differently than he had when we met on The dating site. He quickly got completely blocked.

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

"Am I missing something..??

It was a FWB relationship with both parties enjoying the benefits.

One party is on here seeking alternative benefits.

The second party is on here seeking alternative benefits.

Both hiding the fact from the other party..

Why is the male getting slaughtered for his behaviour which is identical in both instances..??"

My advice was based on that he had suddenly gone cool with her irl for no reason and had ignored get today when she tried to reach him, but messaged her on here not knowing who she was. So he’s not treating her well irl. It was nothing to do with him being on here, that doesn’t matter.

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By *tarflyLouWoman
over a year ago

Preston

Goodness, some of the replies on here!

Hope you’re ok OP, I’d have been put out by it too. Hope whatever you decide to do for works for you x

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

"If message him to let him know who you are. But let him know that because he’s ignored you and cooled off irl that there’s no point continuing to chat on here. Then block.

If he’s a dick that treats you like shit then you don’t need to one him. "

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By *inAndTonic21Couple
over a year ago

Merseyside

Just be honest and then move on, you will be happier for it especially if not committed anyway - good luck xx

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By *unloversCouple
over a year ago

rotherham

I’m sure you will sort it out one way or the other

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

Don't see what the issue is if things have cooled off. You're here for your own reasons as is he and your relationship irl may or may not be connected to those reasons but either way playing along isn't the answer.

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By *erfectman122Man
over a year ago

from somewhere nice

Be honest if you were a man op you’d be slatted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What’s the outcome if you do? What’s the outcome if you don’t? Which one is positive (do that) which one isn’t (don’t do that)

Don't expect a positive outcome either way tbh "

Then tell him who you are and that you’re not happy he’s been ignoring you and block him everywhere.

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By *melia DominaTV/TS
over a year ago

Edinburgh (She/Her)

Depends.

Do you want more from him?

Do you think it's s bit shady of him that he's cooled of only to go on FAB and flirt with babushka..?

Only you can decide and make the decision.

If you do decide to be honest are you mentally prepared for the next step.

He may block you or ghost you or you may have to block him.

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By *nimaginativeUsernameMan
over a year ago

Rochester, Kent

Sorry to be blunt, but I’m thinking ‘People in glass houses….’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you 100% sure it's them?

Yep it's defo him.

Surely we all faced this dilemma?

I'm not a nasty person but he's ignored me today but messaged me here

Not good on a ladies ego

If you are on here for your ego, you may need to rethink your choice of website.

True"

I think either way the connection is lost , probably best to just tell him who you are , it’s never going to end well sadly … I get why your pissed , but he’s going to feel like a right fit when he finds out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you 100% sure it's them?

Yep it's defo him.

Surely we all faced this dilemma?

I'm not a nasty person but he's ignored me today but messaged me here

Not good on a ladies ego

If you are on here for your ego, you may need to rethink your choice of website.

True

Tit ,bloody predictive lol

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Deffo play along see what he has to say! As he has been ignoring u x

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By *olden RatioWoman
over a year ago

Buckinghamshire

I'd be honest and not go along with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Game playing only ends in tears

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By *andsome HandMan
over a year ago

roundabout

"Does he like Pina coladas

This is an underrated comment. Kudos sir

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had someone unmatch with me on a dating site, and he then messaged me on here. I told him straight away, and said I wasn’t interested.

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By *ynecplCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

The point is he doesn't know it is you, I assume therefore when he eventually works it out he will most likely ghost you on here as well.

Either block him or be honest. If it is an ego thing for you then it is a selfish and shit thing to do.

A bloke would get ripped to shreds if he suggested playing gamed with them so why should you get away with it because you are female.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Someone I've been meeting outside of here has popped up on here, trying to chat unaware of who I am.

Things have cooled off for unknown reason irl, should I be honest with who I am or play along?

Block

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By *atricia ParnelWoman
over a year ago

In a town full of colours

Be honest. He may tell you why he is on here especially if he thinks you are vanilla and hopes you are not

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By *edsmudgeMan
over a year ago

oxford

"Does he like Pina coladas

I was going with babooshka (I am not sure about that spelling)

But yours is much better

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By *edsmudgeMan
over a year ago

oxford

Actually what I really want to know is .

“ irl” did you mention to him that you were on this site

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"Actually what I really want to know is .

“ irl” did you mention to him that you were on this site"

For over a year

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